Episode 28: 7 steps I would take if I were to start my coaching business today

If you're like me, I used to be very diligent about my business goals and I would attach them to a specific timeline. 10k months, 50k months, 3 private clients, 20 group clients… You know how that made me feel? Super excited on day 1. I LOVE setting delicious, expansive goals. That sense of possibility is thrilling and enlivening. 

But you know how I'd feel on day 20 of my goal? Stressed and under pressure. Especially if the goal was especially attached to a specific timeline.

The thing is, your business goals are not meant to feel stressful, daunting, or create pressure. 

If you ever noticed that you keep on setting the goals but they keep on staying in the land aspirational dreams and not feel reachable…There is one big thing going underneath:

The conflict between your mind setting the goal and your nervous system not feeling quite safe or ready to receive it. Your nervous system and your unconscious beliefs play a critical role in this equation.

Your nervous system acts as a gatekeeper, determining what's safe or not (aka neuroception).  So, instead of patching 

Through somatic practices, I help my clients address the underlying beliefs around feeling unsafe or unworthy of receiving what they most desire. 

Long-lasting transformation occurs when our goals are mapped out mentally AND also anchored. Then your business goals are not merely aspirational. They become inevitable.

This episode will be delightful stimulation for your mind and nourishment for your body 💋

HIGHLIGHTS

• What your business goals and your nervous system have in common
• From setting aspirational goals to actually achieving them
• Learn about neuroception, your nervous system's gatekeeper, and how it influences what you feel safe with in business
• Move beyond traditional goal-setting approaches 
• Growing your business through the unison of strategy and somatics

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Imagine a couple sleeping apart. Not touching. Not even talking! You'd imagine that they're fighting right? Well, that's what we do in our relationship two days per week. 

Igniting sexual desire in long-term partnership is one of the biggest mysteries for modern couples, especially when they're not only sharing a household together but also working from home. You know how easy it is to get lost in logistics, casual touch, just hanging out together, small talk etc.

One of our core values as a couple is to cultivate deep sexual chemistry, sacred sexuality being a core pillar of our relationship. Contrary to popular belief, sometimes desire needs not only more quality time together.. But also SPACE.

Silent days help us create that space which beautifully resets our relationship.

This means that we don’t engage in verbal communication for a couple of days and usually sleep apart that night too. If we need to arrange things, we’ll text each other or “talk” on the notes app. We will not touch each other either, but will make playful sounds, flirt and make "air kisses" ;)

One of the biggest lies we have been fed is that sexual chemistry is meant to wane away and it is the ill fate of all long-term couples to eventually end up as roommates. The truth is, sexual desire will decrease if you do not cultivate it intentionally. 

SEXUAL DESIRE IS A CHOICE. 

If you're devoted to increasing your libido and sexual polarity in your intimate life, this episode will give you lots of epic, creative ideas that go beyond your usual advice on "spending more quality time together". 

HIGHLIGHTS

• How intentional separation contributes to a deeper level of intimacy and passion in relationships.
• Physical closeness doesn't necessarily equate to intimacy.
• Through sounds, movement, and touch, we can discover new dimensions of connection
• How to navigate practical and logistical barriers to intimacy

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It took me many months to record this episode – I need to find the right angle to speak about what at the time seemed as my worst investment into business coaching.

In 2022, I joined a high ticket mastermind that ended up being completely misaligned with my values and who I am as a woman.

This mastermind experience was a bootcamp for me as a facilitator and a big kick in the ass to refine my integrity as a mentor by 100 levels. It was a huge test of my values. It showed me where I was outsourcing my power and authority onto others instead of unwaveringly trusting myself. 

My journey through and out of this mastermind became a clarion call for integrity and a holistic approach to business. 

This investment ended up being one of my biggest (and painful) blessings in disguise because it led me to finding the body-led business coaching paradigm. Here, we do sales ethically, we're trauma-informed and blend business strategy with nervous system support.

In this episode, I  discuss how I navigated the aftermath of this mastermind, and how  I emerged with a heightened standard for mentorship—both as a mentor and a mentee. 

I also share some tips to help you find the right mentor for you, ensuring that their values and teaching style resonate deeply with your own path. It's not just about their financial success but also about how they embody a path that feels authentically aligned with your own.

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When… Your ambition is gone. 

Today I share with you my personal journey of returning to Texas from Lithuania and confronting significant changes within myself, particularly regarding my perception of ambition, leadership, and receptivity.

This episode is a heartfelt exploration of surrendering to a deeper, more mature phase of how I desire to grow my business and deepen my Union.

In the sacred unfolding of my life, I've been cradled by the profound realisation that ambition, as I knew it, has dissolved into the ethers, leaving space for a deeper devotion to emerge.

For the first time since I began my professional life (way before I started my business), I have no urge to go bigger and faster or quadruple my income. My ego finds it quite uncomfortable yet my soul rejoices at this new level of peace.

This experience, though laced with frustration, illuminated my path further towards embracing every cycle of existence, much like the seasons—each holding its magic and purpose.

As women, we're cyclical beings. This means that your business will also have seasons. There's a toxic belief in the coaching industry that we need to be in a perpetual summer, chasing bigger and bigger months, all the time. At the very least, this is unrealistic.

Having slower seasons and embracing the FERTILE VOID in business is healthy and, in fact, necessary.

Your body will love this podcast episode. Send me a DM on Insta about how it landed for you. 

HIGHLIGHTS

• Sharing about my trip back to Lithuania
• A personal story about an incident with the big media 
• The ambition the way I know it is gone
• Your business is cyclical, just like your body 
• Your business needs you to embrace the fertile void 

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We all want more love, more money, more pleasure. All the good things have one thing in common: our Upper Limit, which defines how much of this goodness we feel to receive and hold.

In this episode, I share a story about how one weekend, when I received more in a weekend than I had in a month, I reached such a messy Upper Limit that I picked a few days long fight with my partner at the time and even my entire website crashed. Yes, for real 😜

So, what's an Upper Limit? Your Upper Limit is like a glass ceiling or gateway that determines how much love, joy, and money your nervous system can hold. 

Expanding our Upper Limit means expanding our nervous system capacity to hold more.

What most people do not prepare you for, however, is that expanding your Upper Limit will also mean stretching yourself to hold the duality of it all. Holding both pleasure AND pain, love AND the fear of losing it, money AND the fear of losing it. 

Also, it's one thing to receive something, such as money, and it's quite something else to hold it and sustain it. Such delicious work! Tune in and begin expanding your Upper Limit to receive and hold more love, joy, and money. 

HIGHLIGHTS

• Sharing the behind the scenes on getting a puppy and how she has changed everything in our home and relationship
• Your nervous system, not your mind, decides how much you get to receive
• Learning to hold both pleasure and pain
• Receiving money is not the same as holding it
• What happens when we reach our Upper Limit without realizing it?
• Mini practice to increase your Upper Limit through the body

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• Igniting Sexual Desire as a Couple while Living and Working from Home 
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Navigating the emotional rollercoaster of running a business is very real. There's not a single successful person I know who's not experienced the following scenario → pouring all of their energy and time into their business and not seeing the results they want. 

Taking lots of action, creating epic content, launching new offers and then being in the unknown before you see any evidence of this working is edgy and vulnerable. It can feel as intense as saying "I love you" for the first time and waiting for their response back! 

Today’s episode is a love note from me to you 🫶  It's the loving hug and the affirming word you desire to receive when things feel tough. 

Staying power is your capacity to hold the unknown before you see any results. It's your spiritual and emotional tenacity. When you have staying power, then you can hold the lows as well as the highs – you're no longer defined by them. 

And guess what 😉 Staying power is not cultivated through mindset work, journaling or affirmations. Staying power happens inside your body. It grows together with your nervous system and its capacity to hold more. 

I want you to remember this, beloved. You are not your business. Your worth has nothing to do with your business results or financial results. Your mission cannot be bound by any external metrics.

If how you hold your lows defines your success… Allow yourself to love the lows as much as the highs. 

HIGHLIGHTS

• Why I don't believe in failure 
• Honouring slower seasons as a nature part of life & cycles
• The way you hold your lows defines your success
• Inner work as creative fuel for your business
• Internal anchoring is your daily prayer as a CEO
• Cultivate staying power through body-based practices
• Here's how you become invincible

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It's time for the era where women are not only well-paid but also well-rested. 

Rest has not been easy for me. My parents could have won the Olympics for workaholism. I grew up being societally “trained” to value productivity above everything else and see rest as being idle. Things are very different now but it's taken me a LOT of discipline to make rest part of my life.

The truth is, many women have proved that they can build huge empires. But often… at the cost of their rest, aliveness, peace, intimate life. We've got it all upside down. What if conscious rest IS the place where we access more aligned productivity, reset our nervous system, and source limitless energy? 

In all of my business containers, before we do any business work, I always ask my clients : "where are you at with your body and your nervous system?". Because the success of any business strategy is directly related to your nervous system capacity to implement it and have staying power.

So, why is rest hard? Because many people don't actually feel safe or familiar with the state of being rested and relaxed. Just like in meditation, we have to face our restless monkey mind. All the addictive behaviours come up. And deep down, we unconsciously believe that our self-worth equals how much we get done and achieve. 

On the other hand, rest is what feeds your nervous system. A deeply relaxed body is resilient. Open to flowstates. it  can surrender to the subtle waves of pleasure and stay there. A deeply relaxed body has the spaciousness to receive love, wealth, and clients. 

Enjoy this episode to receive that paradigm shift that rest is productive and it is a vital fuel to receive all that you desire.

HIGHLIGHTS

• Prioritising rest is the key to productivity, nervous system health, creative flow states, and deep intimacy
• My complicated journey with rest
• Nervous system and business strategy go hand in hand
• Transitioning from goal-driven masculine energy to receptive feminine energy at the end of your work day
• Finding your daily practice to prioritise downtime

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Your energy sells. You may have heard this term thrown around before, because it is…the truth. Cultivating energetic alignment is a massively potent force for accelerated success in our business.

Last December, I was faced with a conflict between energy and strategy. I was about to launch a strategy heavy program that made sense for my product suite. However, my body was yearning for more slowness and nourishment – I could not find a full body yes for the strategically logical offer. I share how I resolved this and how following my intuition led to a huge flowstate, an offer channelled in one hour that led to multiple 5 figs in clients. This is the power of body-led business and creating coherence between energy, body, strategy, and action.

Just to be clear: energetic alignment isn't a metaphor or something conceptual. Personally, I feel energy as physical sensations in my body as I'm writing this text. 

Your energetic alignment encompasses thoughts, emotions, and beliefs. Together, they shape all that happens inside your businesses. 

And yes, you've guessed right!! If alignment is the result, somatic is how we get there: it is through the body that we release emotions and rewire deeper unconscious beliefs. When you lead your business from full coherence, you become unstoppable.

HIGHLIGHTS

• Business alignment and energetics - how it impacts success
• Prioritizing nourishment and energy alignment in content creation. 
• The importance of energetic coherence in content creation, by aligning thoughts, emotions, and beliefs.
• Aligning with your deeper purpose and vision for successful launches.
• Connecting with the "soul of your offer" and imagining a courtroom defense of one's business idea.
• Developing creative momentum by recording and listening to yourself, ensuring authenticity in content creation.

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Let me start being real honest here. One of the biggest mistakes that I did in the earlier stages of my business is posting what's alive for me, what I was going through. I was doing well in my business and I would get engagement along the lines of: "this is inspiring!". But "inspiring" is many miles away from "I like you, I trust you, I know. I want to work with you. Where do I pay?".

The biggest change happened when I began applying somatic work in my business (that's a conversation you're well aware of, my love!) AND when I intentionally began content for my people, about my people. 

Your messaging is more important than most realise. It has the power to attract your soulmate clients and filter out the non-aligned ones. It can ignite people's hearts to take the next step towards transformation as well as get lost in the ocean of seen-it-a-million-times vanilla content.  

Most importantly, when your messaging and content are strategic, they get to sell your offers for you. Let this sink in. 

Right now, I have had many people invest in my programs without having ever spoken to me. And I'm speaking about offers that cost thousands, not hundreds of dollars. Why? Because my content transformed their lives before they even paid me, hence making it easy for them to trust me and join my offers. 

Here's the thing: no matter where you’re at in your business, before you sell, you first want to have a community of people who know, like and trust you. Selling to a cold audience d o e s. n o t. w o r k. 

By using these 7 tips I mentioned in this podcast episode, you'll be able to offer deep, meaningful value to your people and create a hot audience ready to play full out. 

This episode will help you avoid the mistake I made of creating content for myself, about myself and instead learn to create content that MOVES and SELLS.

HIGHLIGHTS

• Intentional messaging that is real & vulnerable creates trust
• Shifting from self-focused to client-focused messaging
• Core elements to build trust with your audience and turn them into ride-or-die community
• How to be a mentor who is both a badass leader and also a relatable human
• 7 potent, precise tips to elevate your content & messaging
• Some sweet behind the scenes personal life updates 🫶

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New Year. New beginnings. Ever tried to come up with a new word and then… forgotten it by March? I totally have, every single year lol. Let's take this 1,001 times deeper and tap into your boldest vision, your DIVINE ASSIGNMENT,  that actually fuels lasting change.

Before we ask for success, we first want to redefine it. What does success mean to you? What's your "why"? So dear to you that it almost makes you wanna tear up? What truly drives you? Your divine assignment is bigger than you—it's the purpose handed to you. As a leader, your role is to steward it and let it initiate you.

Success, of course, means different things to different people and it is crucial to redefine it periodically. My upbringing in Lithuania shaped my understanding of success; it was once about financial stability but evolved into holistic success.

For me, holistic success transcends mere financial wealth. It includes as much money as we need to have our desired lifestyle but goes beyond it. It also involves impactful service, time freedom, love, vitality, orgasmic bliss, deep community connections, creative freedom, and joy in daily life. 

This is true, long lasting, meaningful wealth. I'm here to help you create a business that supports that. And yes, that may mean big, structural changes in your business so that it revolves around your lifestyle and values, not vice versa.

In this episode, I invite you to envision your highest timeline for 2024 with me. I share a beautiful practice for you to connect to your vision at a sensory level. Feel free to send me a DM and share your insights!

HIGHLIGHTS

• How to redefine success to avoid chasing external metrics and find true fulfilment.
• What is holistic success and how it can change everything in your business
• Crafting a business that supports your desired lifestyle and values
• Balancing masculine and feminine energies in business to achieve sustainable success.
• Envisioning your highest timeline for 2024
   

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