Happiness is Overrated. How You Can Move From Anxiety to Alignment #211

Know the most common symptoms of People-pleasing behavior?

1. Difficulty Saying No
2. Constant Need for Approval
3. Avoiding Conflict at All Costs
4. Overcommitment
5. Neglecting Personal Needs

We get into how to move past compromising what’s important to you and still respecting others with guest expert, Mikki Gardner.

Stop being the peacekeeper and start parenting peacefully even when your ex doesn’t reciprocate.  Find out how with Mikki’s bestseller, The People Pleasers Guide to Co-Parenting Well. 

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Be strong, and let your heart be courageous, all you who put your hope in the Lord.
Psalm 31:24

Have you ever experienced what we call the bait and switch? You expect one thing and end up receiving another?

That's what we'll touch on in today's brief episode. Let's go!

If you're longing for clarity, confidence and boundaries that work in your blend, be sure to take our free training so you can gain all of those as you practice powerful implementation of biblical strategies that work for you. Head on over to buildbetterboundaries.com

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Step 4: Top 10 tips to Regain Your Power & Prevent Burnout Free Download!
Step 5: Peaceful Co-Parenting Strategies that Work-Mini Workshop $97

Be strong, and let your heart be courageous, all you who put your hope in the Lord.
Psalm 31:24

By the end of this episode, you’ll walk away with more clarity on what motivates you.  If you’re like me, motivations and goals are mostly synonymous. Here’s a slight distinction between the two:  goals are your compass and motivations are the energy to achieve the goal. This is why we go into the middle of our messes to learn what got us there to begin with.  Ready to dive in?

💥My mission is to help you conquer second-wife syndrome for good.....So you can stop wrestling and start investing you time, money and energy into your dreams.

Each week, I’ll share biblical principles so you can grow in intimacy in your marriage.  Together, we’ll drill down and uncover how “habits and self-awareness” is the savvy woman’s path to create the change they crave.  

Most importantly, we’ll honor exactly where you are, right now.  The most exciting thing about where you are?  You’re here! In a nurturing space where you’re ready to learn, tactically, how you can more fully embrace the anointing God has placed on your life. 

Let's go!🚀

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Step 2: BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES! Powerful Free Handbook + Bonuses!
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Step 4: Top 10 tips to Regain Your Power & Prevent Burnout Free Download!
Step 5: Peaceful Co-Parenting Strategies that Work-Mini Workshop $97

Be strong, and let your heart be courageous, all you who put your hope in the Lord.
Psalm 31:24

PART 2: How would you rate your financial literacy? How about your blended finances -- what rating would you give to you as a couple? PART 1 HERE.

Sometimes, it's really tough to have conversations about the money. That ends today, with this episode! It's time to get unstuck and move forward in your finances, together!
 
Too often, couples fight about the money.  There's imprinting, habits, and stresses that are the ammo for the fight.  In this episode, you'll learn how healthy conversations start regarding finances so you can begin to experience real change, together.
 
 >>>Register for VIP NIGHT inside the Academy! $17
https://www.coachjenrogers.com/VIPNightAcademy 
It's time to build on all those habit loops we've been sharing on the podcast and bring financial habits into the loop!  

To do this well, please join me in welcoming our special guest, Terry Peña. Terry is a Financial Planner and Founder of One Tenth Consulting. She and her husband created a financial plan to move to one income so Terry could stay home with their children when they were younger. That was the spark that kindled Terry’s 🔥passion🔥 for teaching financial literacy to Christian couples.

Terry outlines three simple points: the healing, the communication, and the planning for sound financial management that glorifies God (and removes a whole bunch of stress for you, too).

15 Minute Classic Convo Formula from #151   When x happens _______, I feel ______.  Will you meet with me for 15 minutes in the next two days so we can talk about this?
 
 Learn more about Terry in all these spaces:
 Terry Pena - Financial Planner | Christian | Wife | Mom | Entrepreneur
Instagram   One Tenth Consulting, LLC   LinkedIn
📥FREE Download 10 Strategies for Dealing With Financial Crisis from Terry.

P.S. I’ve tinkered and updated this episode originally broadcast in April, 2022 when my hunka-hunka Bill and I interviewed guests.  Our past does sow seeds into our future. What seeds of wealth are you planting as you grow in financial health and spiritual wellness?

Take Your Power Back & Reclaim Your Joy, FAST! www.stepfamilypodcast.com/WorkWithJen
📞Get Featured on the show! Ask Jen Anything
Next steps:
Step 1: Join the Empowered Community bit.ly/joyfulwithjen
Step 2: BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES! Powerful Free Handbook + Bonuses!
Step 3: De-Stress Planning - Celebrations Guide! bit.ly/CelebrateWithJen
Step 4: Top 10 tips to Regain Your Power & Prevent Burnout Free Download!
Step 5: Peaceful Co-Parenting Strategies that Work-Mini Workshop $97

Be strong, and let your heart be courageous, all you who put your hope in the Lord.
Psalm 31:24

How would you rate your financial literacy? How about your blended finances -- what rating would you give to you as a couple?
 
Sometimes, it's really tough to have conversations about the money. That ends today, with this episode! It's time to get unstuck and move forward in your finances, together!
 
Too often, couples fight about the money.  There's imprinting, habits, and stresses that are the ammo for the fight.  In this episode, you'll learn how healthy conversations start regarding finances so you can begin to experience real change, together.
 
 >>>Register for VIP NIGHT inside the Academy! $17
https://www.coachjenrogers.com/VIPNightAcademy 
It's time to build on all those habit loops we've been sharing on the podcast and bring financial habits into the loop!  

To do this well, please join me in welcoming our special guest, Terry Peña. Terry is a Financial Planner and Founder of One Tenth Consulting. She and her husband created a financial plan to move to one income so Terry could stay home with their children when they were younger. That was the spark that kindled Terry’s 🔥passion🔥 for teaching financial literacy to Christian couples.

Terry outlines three simple points: the healing, the communication, and the planning for sound financial management that glorifies God (and removes a whole bunch of stress for you, too).

PART 2 HERE

15 Minute Classic Convo Formula from #151   When x happens _______, I feel ______.  Will you meet with me for 15 minutes in the next two days so we can talk about this?
 
 Learn more about Terry in all these spaces:
 Terry Pena - Financial Planner | Christian | Wife | Mom | Entrepreneur
Instagram   One Tenth Consulting, LLC   LinkedIn
📥FREE Download 10 Strategies for Dealing With Financial Crisis from Terry.

P.S. I’ve tinkered and updated this episode originally broadcast in April, 2022 when my hunka-hunka Bill and I interviewed guests.  Our past does sow seeds into our future. What seeds of wealth are you planting as you grow in financial health and spiritual wellness?

Take Your Power Back & Reclaim Your Joy, FAST! www.stepfamilypodcast.com/WorkWithJen
📞Get Featured on the show! Ask Jen Anything
Next steps:
Step 1: Join the Empowered Community bit.ly/joyfulwithjen
Step 2: BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES! Powerful Free Handbook + Bonuses!
Step 3: De-Stress Planning - Celebrations Guide! bit.ly/CelebrateWithJen
Step 4: Top 10 tips to Regain Your Power & Prevent Burnout Free Download!
Step 5: Peaceful Co-Parenting Strategies that Work-Mini Workshop $97

Be strong, and let your heart be courageous, all you who put your hope in the Lord.
Psalm 31:24

What's one thing that you just 🛑stopped🛑 doing?

You know - you reached a breaking point and you said, "No More!"

When you stopped, did you do it cold turkey? Or did you create a game plan first? In Habit Loop Lingo, that'd be noting the cue and the routine to get the reward you want. 

Listen, overcoming perfection is not easy...but it is doable.  When we place our focus in the right space, we experience true freedom! 

Join me in welcoming Vivian Cumins, a military wife (retired), stepmom to two adult kids, Glammy to five grandkids, a career professional, and a Jesus follower since childhood. We've got a great episode in store for you.  Like sugar?  We got some!

Take Your Power Back & Reclaim Your Joy, FAST! www.stepfamilypodcast.com/WorkWithJen
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Next steps:
Step 1: Join the Empowered Community bit.ly/joyfulwithjen
Step 2: BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES! Powerful Free Handbook + Bonuses!
Step 3: De-Stress Planning - Celebrations Guide! bit.ly/CelebrateWithJen
Step 4: Top 10 tips to Regain Your Power & Prevent Burnout Free Download!
Step 5: Peaceful Co-Parenting Strategies that Work-Mini Workshop $97

Be strong, and let your heart be courageous, all you who put your hope in the Lord.
Psalm 31:24

Is it even possible to disrupt negative habit loops?  Want to learn how to do a bit of rewiring to get the outcomes you really want in your family? Whether you're challenged by the stepteens, or wanting to integrate a new workout plan that won't fizzle after just a few weeks, this episode is for you.

We'll break down cues, routines, and rewards with a heightened level of self-awareness that will have you celebrating your successes and kicking self-doubt to the curb!

🚀Ready?  Let's Go!

15 Minute Classic Convo Formula from #151
When x happens _______, I feel ______.  Will you meet with me for 15 minutes in the next two days so we can talk about this?

Last week's chit chat #210 - More habit loop excellence + practice!

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Next steps:
Step 1: Join the Empowered Community bit.ly/joyfulwithjen
Step 2: BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES! Powerful Free Handbook + Bonuses!
Step 3: De-Stress Planning - Celebrations Guide! bit.ly/CelebrateWithJen
Step 4: Top 10 tips to Regain Your Power & Prevent Burnout Free Download!
Step 5: Peaceful Co-Parenting Strategies that Work-Mini Workshop $97

Be strong, and let your heart be courageous, all you who put your hope in the Lord.
Psalm 31:24

You know when God gives you a mission within a mission? Of course you do!   What on earth does that have to do with Habit Loops? Cues? Routines? Rewards? EVERYTHING!

Buckle up, buttercup! Today's episode is a MUST LISTEN to move forward to peace, joy, and contentment in your relationships, businesses, and homes!

0:00 Power & Fear
0:49 Powerful Questions about the Power of Habit
3:21 The power of Repetition
6:09 The HEART of the Habit Loop
9:21 Boundaries - A Necessary Part of Habit Loops
12:09 The Work of God in Habit Transformation
14:10 5 Prayers to pray to get your Heart right
17:52 Thank you Dana! 5 Star Reviews!

New to the show? Want to start at the beginning of habit loops?  Start with #206!

Take Your Power Back & Reclaim Your Joy, FAST! www.stepfamilypodcast.com/WorkWithJen
📞Get Featured on the show! Ask Jen Anything
Next steps:
Step 1: Join the Empowered Community bit.ly/joyfulwithjen
Step 2: BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES! Powerful Free Handbook + Bonuses!
Step 3: De-Stress Planning - Celebrations Guide! bit.ly/CelebrateWithJen
Step 4: Top 10 tips to Regain Your Power & Prevent Burnout Free Download!
Step 5: Peaceful Co-Parenting Strategies that Work-Mini Workshop $97

Be strong, and let your heart be courageous, all you who put your hope in the Lord.
Psalm 31:24

What is Emotional Intelligence?
Can you be emotionally savvy?
Can you grow your Emotional Quotient (EQ)?

It's time to uplevel your growing expertise with habit loops!Tune in to God's victorious best for you as we add this powerful layer of intel to our study of life-changing habits.

P.S. If you're catching this before 5ish PM Central on January 18, there are a few open spots I'm saving for you to join us for a special VIP GUEST Mini-Seminar inside The Empowered Stepmom Academy.  It's so exciting!! We'll be answering client questions about how to navigate toxic people, situations, landmines, and other common stressors that create conflict inside blended families.

Register at https://www.coachjenrogers.com/VIPguest.
The page will be available as long as I have a seat available.  Don't miss it!

Are You Normalizing Toxic Behavior, Stepmom? | Featuring Expert Lawyer Samantha Drum Genius episodes with Samantha #184, #185

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📞Get Featured on the show! Ask Jen Anything
Next steps:
Step 1: Join the Empowered Community bit.ly/joyfulwithjen
Step 2: BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES! Powerful Free Handbook + Bonuses!
Step 3: De-Stress Planning - Celebrations Guide! bit.ly/CelebrateWithJen
Step 4: Top 10 tips to Regain Your Power & Prevent Burnout Free Download!
Step 5: Peaceful Co-Parenting Strategies that Work-Mini Workshop $97

Be strong, and let your heart be courageous, all you who put your hope in the Lord.
Psalm 31:24

Let's tackle a typical morning's 'snooze' dilemma and the inadvertent 'sorry' that slips into our dialogues, shall we?

By re-engineering our routines, from where we place our alarm clocks to how we express ourselves, we can experience the satisfaction that comes from moving forward, one small step at a time.

Turn it up as we tackle the habit loop from a different perspective this week!  It's a win/win! We'll continue to grow in faith and edify our stepfamily relationships.

Ready for the FAST TRACK?  Let's see if we're a good fit! Head on over to stepfamilypodcast.com/WorkWithJen to take your first, habit forming, powerful step to live the life you want now!

Need to catch up? Listen to #207 in your playlist!

Better Sleep/Consistent Wakeup Link

Take Your Power Back & Reclaim Your Joy, FAST! www.stepfamilypodcast.com/WorkWithJen
📞Get Featured on the show! Ask Jen Anything
Next steps:
Step 1: Join the Empowered Community bit.ly/joyfulwithjen
Step 2: BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES! Powerful Free Handbook + Bonuses!
Step 3: De-Stress Planning - Celebrations Guide! bit.ly/CelebrateWithJen
Step 4: Top 10 tips to Regain Your Power & Prevent Burnout Free Download!
Step 5: Peaceful Co-Parenting Strategies that Work-Mini Workshop $97

Be strong, and let your heart be courageous, all you who put your hope in the Lord.
Psalm 31:24