Logo

    Here Lies Andi Oliver

    enJanuary 03, 2023
    What are Paint Care's three simple rules for reducing paint waste?
    How does the speaker plan to engage with loved ones after death?
    Why does the speaker emphasize making a will?
    What childhood memories does the speaker reflect on regarding his brother?
    How does the speaker want to be remembered at his funeral?

    Podcast Summary

    • 3 Simple Rules for Reducing Paint WasteConsider the environment and minimize waste by buying only what you need, using up existing paint, and recycling leftovers. Find resources at paintcare.org

      Reducing paint waste is important and can be achieved through simple rules. Paint Care, a company dedicated to making recycling leftover paint easy, encourages buying only what you need, using up what you already have, and recycling the rest. While the tone of the podcast may seem lighthearted and unrelated, the message remains consistent. It's essential to consider the impact of our actions on the environment and make conscious choices to minimize waste. For more information and to find a paint drop-off site near you, visit paintcare.org/3-simple-rules.

    • Dangers and Passion in the KitchenChefs like Andy Oliver face risks in the kitchen but their dedication and unique style create a devoted fanbase, leaving a significant impact when they're gone.

      Life in the kitchen or any high-pressure environment can be unpredictable and dangerous, with potential accidents ranging from minor burns to near-death experiences. Despite these risks, some people, like chef Andy Oliver, are so passionate and dedicated to their work that they push through the pain and continue cooking, even when injured. This dedication and love for their craft have created a devoted fanbase who appreciate their unique style and personality. However, the unexpected nature of life in the kitchen also means that the loss of a beloved figure like Andy Oliver would be deeply felt by both his professional and personal communities.

    • Embracing joyful experiences and relationshipsThe speaker cherishes experiences and relationships that bring happiness and is selective about her engagements to prioritize mental health and enjoy life's pleasures, such as good company, delicious food, and memberships like Uber One and Better Help Therapy.

      The speaker values experiences and relationships that bring joy and are worth her time and energy. She recalls fond memories of the past, including parties and shared resources, and emphasizes the importance of enjoying life's pleasures, whether that be through good company, delicious food, or enjoyable experiences. The speaker also shares her selectiveness when it comes to engaging with others and her willingness to prioritize her mental health. Additionally, the conversation touches on the benefits of various memberships, such as Uber One and Better Help Therapy, which offer savings and additional perks that can enhance daily life.

    • Investing in mental health with online therapy services like BetterHelpBetterHelp offers access to mental health professionals with over 1000 therapists in the UK, and our listeners can get 10% off their first month by visiting betterhelp.com/wake. Meanwhile, in food news, we discussed the evolution of The Great British Menu and the presenter's preference for a fabulous drag queen as a potential replacement.

      Investing in mental health is important and convenient with the help of online therapy services like BetterHelp. With over 1000 therapists in the UK, BetterHelp offers access to mental health professionals with a wide range of expertise. Our listeners can get 10% off their first month by visiting betterhelp.com/wake. Meanwhile, in a lighter note, we also discussed the evolution of The Great British Menu and the protective relationship the presenter has with the chefs. If the presenter were to be replaced, they'd prefer a fabulous drag queen to maintain the show's flair. The presenter shared their strategy for handling the large amounts of food during finals week and the impressive feats of some chefs, like Connie Hupp, who managed to eat everything despite her small stature.

    • The Power of KindnessStrive to make the world nicer by being kind, remember being remembered as a kind person, and find belonging through self-acceptance and like-minded communities.

      Kindness is a powerful and meaningful way to live one's life, as discussed by the speaker and her guest during their conversation. The speaker emphasized the importance of trying not to be a "cunt," as she puts it, and striving to make the world a nicer place. She also shared her preference for being remembered as a kind person and expressed a desire to be remembered in a prestigious publication, such as the Observer of the Guardian. The conversation also touched on the importance of representation and finding a sense of belonging, as the speaker shared how she felt excluded from magazines and other media growing up. Punk music and punk culture served as a source of belonging and inspiration for her. Overall, the conversation highlighted the significance of kindness, self-acceptance, and finding one's tribe.

    • Our experiences shape who we areEmbrace your unique identity, even from past struggles, as they teach valuable lessons and make you who you are today.

      Our experiences and connections shape us, giving us a sense of identity and belonging. The speaker reflects on her past, sharing how she never felt like she fit in, from her encounters with dismissive teachers to her attraction to punk music. She describes how these experiences made her feel seen and understood, and how they influenced her decisions, leading her away from conventional paths and towards her passions. Looking back, she acknowledges that even the difficult experiences were valuable, as they taught her resilience and humility. Ultimately, the speaker embraces her unique identity and the lessons she's gained along the way.

    • Reflections on the impact of childhood experiences and lossThe speaker shares stories of childhood memories and the loss of his brother, expressing the desire for a reunion in the afterlife and finding joy in the experiences despite the hardships.

      Life's journey includes ups and downs, joy and sorrow, and the memories of our past shape who we are today. The speaker reflects on the loss of his brother at a young age and the impact it had on him. He shares stories of childhood mischief and the bond between siblings, expressing a desire for a reunion in the afterlife. He imagines his own funeral with a New Orleans marching band and a glass carriage, wanting to bring joy and excitement to those left behind. Despite the hardships, the speaker finds beauty in the experiences and cherishes the memories of his brother.

    • The speaker's preferences for their remains and fond memoriesThe speaker values cremation, prefers their ashes scattered in the Caribbean Sea or a babbling brook, and holds fond memories of Britain and a documentary about the Atlantic and Caribbean Sea.

      The speaker has strong feelings about how they want their remains handled after they pass away. They prefer cremation and having their ashes scattered in the Caribbean Sea or a babbling brook. They also have a fondness for horses and have seen a beautiful documentary about the Atlantic and Caribbean Sea meeting. The speaker has had negative experiences with certain groups of people and doesn't want them at their funeral. They have a deep love for Britain and the communities they grew up in. The speaker also mentioned their admiration for a television presenter named Makeda. Additionally, the speaker shared an experience of driving across Asia for a car rally, which was uncomfortable due to swelling feet and having to wear unflattering sandals. The speaker also mentioned their fondness for the documentary "Snagajob," which is a platform for hiring hourly workers.

    • A Passionate Speech About Cultural Contributions and the Importance of HonestyThe speaker values honesty above all else, is skeptical of overly sentimental tributes, and deeply passionate about their country's unique cultural contributions, particularly the punk scene, despite attempts to suppress it and the emergence of xenophobic attitudes.

      The speaker is deeply passionate about the unique cultural contributions that have come from their country, particularly the punk scene. They are dismayed by the attempts to suppress these elements and the emergence of xenophobic attitudes. The speaker has strong feelings about how they want to be remembered and is skeptical of overly sentimental tributes. They believe the dead do not know more than the living and value honesty above all else. The speaker also reflects on the tendency for people to idealize the deceased and shares their own experiences with this phenomenon.

    • Childhood experiences shaped her beliefs about interconnectedness and the afterlifeHer childhood experiences instilled a strong will and belief in the continuity of loved ones' energy after death, as well as a desire to bring joy to others even in death.

      The speaker's experiences with men telling her what to do in her childhood and the feeling of being belittled led her to develop a strong will and a belief in the interconnectedness of all things, including the energy of loved ones continuing to exist after death. She also expressed a desire to continue making those around her laugh even in death. The speaker's discussion also touched on her feelings of frustration towards men, her belief in the spiritual nature of existence, and her thoughts on the afterlife. Additionally, she mentioned her plans to discuss real-life stories of death and funerals in bonus episodes.

    • After-Death Engagement Plans and Importance of Making a WillMake a will to ensure your belongings are distributed according to your wishes, and consider creative ways to engage with loved ones after death.

      The speaker has unique plans for how she would continue to engage with her loved ones after her death, including haunting them and leaving them her possessions. She also emphasizes the importance of making a will to ensure one's belongings are distributed according to one's wishes. The conversation also touches on the speaker's collection of art and her amusement at the title of one particular piece. Additionally, the speaker shares her skepticism towards older people being invited for tea by their neighbors and her concern that they might be trying to gather information. The conversation ends with a promotion for Paint Care, a company focused on reducing paint waste through recycling.

    Recent Episodes from Where There's A Will, There's A Wake

    FREE 6 FEET UNDER CONTENT!

    FREE 6 FEET UNDER CONTENT!
    Kathy's in Death Valley - but she's not been too busy to leave her deathlings a voicenote... She's got more dead good content for you from the bonus 6 Feet Under episodes and all FOR F**CKING FREE! Hurrah!  Don't forget to subscribe on Apple podcasts or head on over to wheretheresawilltheresawake.com for more details. See you on the other side! Want the episodes ad free AND extra content from Kathy? 6 Feet Under steps away from fantasy and rifles through your real funeral tales. If you've got a story for us, send it over to kathy@deathpodcast.com. A Sony Music Entertainment production.   Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts  To bring your brand to life in this podcast, email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    DYING FOR MORE BONUS CONTENT?

    DYING FOR MORE BONUS CONTENT?
    Kathy's still holidaying in Hell - apparently the hot springs are to die for. But worry not, in Mother Burke's absence, the goddesses are blessing you with the creme de la creme from our bonus 6 Feet Under episodes, all for diddly-squat (bloody Nora, we don't half spoil you rotten). So deathlings, if you like what you hear, then don't forget to subscribe on Apple podcasts or head on over to wheretheresawilltheresawake.com for more details. See you on the other side! Want the episodes ad free AND extra content from Kathy? 6 Feet Under steps away from fantasy and rifles through your real funeral tales. If you've got a story for us, send it over to kathy@deathpodcast.com. A Sony Music Entertainment production.   Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts  To bring your brand to life in this podcast, email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    FREE BONUS EPISODE with Rob Beckett

    FREE BONUS EPISODE with Rob Beckett
    Kathy's off on holiday getting burnt by the fires of hell. So we are bringing you one of our best 6 Feet Under bonus episodes FOR FREE, hurrah! The fabulously funny Rob Beckett, Kathy Burke and Goddess Charlie talk sexy abreviations, favourite saints and so much more. This is the kind of extra laughs our clever subscribers are getting every week. So if you like this makesure to hit subscribe on Apple podcasts or head to wheretheresawilltheresawake.com for the full experience. Enjoy!  Want the episodes ad free AND extra content from Kathy? 6 Feet Under steps away from fantasy and rifles through your real funeral tales. If you've got a story for us, send it over to kathy@deathpodcast.com. A Sony Music Entertainment production.   Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts  To bring your brand to life in this podcast, email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Here Lies Sophie Willan

    Here Lies Sophie Willan
    The wiggle, drag queens, and a super rare pink moon.   She's a boss ass b*tch! It's Sophie Willan.   Kathy is joined by actress, writer and comedian, Sophie Willan.   Want the episodes ad free AND extra content from Kathy? 6 Feet Under steps away from fantasy and rifles through your real funeral tales. Head to wheretheresawilltheresawake.com to subscribe. AND If you've got a story for us, send it over to kathy@deathpodcast.com.   A Sony Music Entertainment production.    Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts   To bring your brand to life in this podcast, email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Here Lies Shaun Keaveny

    Here Lies Shaun Keaveny
    Brown paper, a burnt clown and NO flaming zambucas.   Can I get back to you next week? It's Shaun Keaveny!   This week Kathy talks to one of the nations favourite broadcasters, Shaun Keaveny.    And you can listen to Shaun Keaveny's Daily Grind podcast, on all good streaming platforms.   Want the episodes ad free AND extra content from Kathy? 6 Feet Under steps away from fantasy and rifles through your real funeral tales. Head to wheretheresawilltheresawake.com to subscribe. AND If you've got a story for us, send it over to kathy@deathpodcast.com.   A Sony Music Entertainment production.    Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts   To bring your brand to life in this podcast, email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Here Lies Michelle De Swarte

    Here Lies Michelle De Swarte
    A loose tampon, spread bum cheeks, and an unexpected tit massage. We've lost an icon... It's Michelle De Swarte. Joining Kathy this week is a triple threat! Actress, model and comedian, Michelle De Swarte. Want the episodes ad free AND extra content from Kathy? 6 Feet Under steps away from fantasy and rifles through your real funeral tales. Head to wheretheresawilltheresawake.com to subscribe. AND If you've got a story for us, send it over to kathy@deathpodcast.com. A Sony Music Entertainment production.   Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts  To bring your brand to life in this podcast, email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Here Lies Antony Cotton

    Here Lies Antony Cotton
    Picky bits, get your freak on and Disney's Aquamation. Eee it's like shoving a matress through a letterbox! It's Antony Cotton! This week Kathy is joined by actor, comedian and Coronation Street's Sean Tully, Antony Cotton!  Want the episodes ad free AND extra content from Kathy? 6 Feet Under steps away from fantasy and rifles through your real funeral tales. Head to wheretheresawilltheresawake.com to subscribe. AND If you've got a story for us, send it over to kathy@deathpodcast.com. A Sony Music Entertainment production.   Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts  To bring your brand to life in this podcast, email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Here Lies Shappi Khorsandi

    Here Lies Shappi Khorsandi
    Crunch and croak, a backflipping cousin and a love life update. The d**os were a gift! It's Shappi Khorsandi! This week Kathy is joined by stand up comedian and author Shappi Khorsandi.  Want the episodes ad free AND extra content from Kathy? 6 Feet Under steps away from fantasy and rifles through your real funeral tales. Head to wheretheresawilltheresawake.com to subscribe. AND If you've got a story for us, send it over to kathy@deathpodcast.com. A Sony Music Entertainment production.   Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts  To bring your brand to life in this podcast, email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Here Lies Mark Steel

    Here Lies Mark Steel
    Paprika! Nigella Lawson and a reservation at KFC. Oh for f**k sake, it's Mark Steel! This week Kathy is joined by stand up comedian and author, Mark Steel.  To get the best discount off your NordVPN plan - go to nordvpn.com/wheretheresawill Want the episodes ad free AND extra content from Kathy? 6 Feet Under steps away from fantasy and rifles through your real funeral tales. Head to wheretheresawilltheresawake.com to subscribe. AND If you've got a story for us, send it over to kathy@deathpodcast.com. A Sony Music Entertainment production.   Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts  To bring your brand to life in this podcast, email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Here Lies Munya Chuwawa

    Here Lies Munya Chuwawa
    Raw dogging bananas, a druggy inhaler and a toastie machine. His heart won't beat again, it's Munya Chawawa! This week Kathy is joined by political satirist, comedian and host of Radio 4's 'Election Doomscroll', Munya Chawawa. To get the best discount off your NordVPN plan - go to nordvpn.com/ wheretheresawill Want the episodes ad free AND extra content from Kathy? 6 Feet Under steps away from fantasy and rifles through your real funeral tales. Head to wheretheresawilltheresawake.com to subscribe. AND If you've got a story for us, send it over to kathy@deathpodcast.com. A Sony Music Entertainment production.   Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts  To bring your brand to life in this podcast, email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Related Episodes

    S2 Ep 1. Identity, connection and belonging Why social and emotional learning must take priority in the future of learning.

    S2 Ep 1. Identity, connection and belonging Why social and emotional learning must take priority in the future of learning.
    In a world that now understands the urgency of addressing mental health, and makes space for conscious conversations, why are so many young people, and adults, still slipping through the cracks?    In this conversation, Michael Ellis (AKA Mikey), Head of People and Culture at Riparide, shares his own journey, alongside insights and practical strategies that can help you support your own healing and growth, and better develop social and emotional skills, positive identities and healthy relationships in your children.   

    For links to tips and tools discussed, and your free copy of our youth fun sheets to take into your learning spaces visit https://www.theposifygroup.com.au/podcast/michael-ellis/

    Chef Iliana Regan Is A Boss: Thoughts On Sobriety, Literary Acclaim & Foraging

    Chef Iliana Regan Is A Boss: Thoughts On Sobriety, Literary Acclaim & Foraging
    Meet Iliana Regan. A self-taught chef and author, Iliana has faced and overcome a litany of obstacles from substance abuse to sexual discrimination, ultimately prevailing to experience a special moment right now -- celebrated for both her culinary and literary accomplishments. At 15 Iliana landed her first restaurant gig washing dishes and never looked back. Leaning on the rustic experiences of her Midwestern upbringing (she was making mushroom tea long before Four Sigmatic was a thing), Iliana pioneered a unique locavore style of cooking dubbed 'new gatherer', plied daily at her Chicago restaurant Elizabeth -- notable for its homestead aesthetic, emphasis on foraged foods and deep connection to the natural surroundings. It's an approach that landed her a coveted Michelin star six years in a row. Jeff Gordinier, food and drinks editor for Esquire magazine (and former podcast guest), included Elizabeth on his recent list of the last decade’s 40 most important restaurants. Noma's René Redzepi, arguably the world's greatest chef, counts himself a fan. And David Chang dubs Iliana one of the best chefs he has ever known. This past summer Iliana published Burn The Place. A singular, powerfully expressive debut memoir, her story is raw like that first bite of wild onion, alive with startling imagery, and told with uncommon emotional power. The New York Times describes the book as, “perhaps the definitive Midwestern drunken-lesbian food memoir.” The New Yorker echoes this sentiment, calling it "brutal and luminous"; and “a thrilling, disquieting memoir of addiction and coming of age.” Oh yeah, it's also the first food book to be long-listed for the National Book Award since Julia Child in 1980. Now 10 years sober, Iliana’s passion has made an unlikely turn. Focused not in the predictable direction of building a culinary empire, her sights are instead set on a remote corner of Michigan’s Upper Peninsula. Deep in the Hiawatha National Forest, Iliana, alongside her wife Anna and three dogs, has converted a cabin on 150 acres into Milkweed Inn -- a bed and breakfast where she serves up her trademark 'new gatherer' cuisine to small groups of just 10 people over weekends between May and October. Today Iliana shares her story. It's a deeply personal conversation about her love of food, foraging and the great outdoors. It’s about identity and sexual politics. How a little girl who longed to be a boy navigated childhood growing up gay in an intolerant community. It’s about alcoholism and what comes with it. The usual stuff. Like running away from cops in handcuffs. Having sex in bar bathrooms. And using car keys to bump cocaine. And it's about sobriety. How Iliana ultimately transformed into a phenom of knife and pen. Celebrated for both her literary and culinary talents. And a woman who has made an indelible mark as a pioneer of ‘new gatherer’ cuisine in an industry dominated by men. Final note of gratitude to Jeff Gordinier for introducing me to Iliana. Love you my friend. The visually inclined can watch it all go down on YouTube. And as always, the audio version streams wild and free on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. May you be as delighted by this exchange as I am. Peace + Plants, Rich

    E136: SEASON 10 FINALE: Your Grief Belongs + A Big Announcement!

    E136: SEASON 10 FINALE: Your Grief Belongs + A Big Announcement!
    Your grief is normal, and your grief has ALWAYS, ALWAYS belonged. Plus, a BIG announcement!
     
    Order my new book, Your Grief, Your Way here:
     
    Find 90-minute Zoom workshops here:
     
    Get grief support for just $3/month! Support Coming Back on Patreon and receive weekly grief guidance prompts, LIVE grief support calls with me, and fun podcast swag:
     
    Apply for one-on-one grief guidance with me:
    Subscribe to Coming Back:
    To ask a question or leave a comment for a future show, email shelby@shelbyforsythia.com.
     
    Because even through grief, we are growing. http://www.shelbyforsythia.com/

    Ep 57 Help! Why Has My Kid Suddenly Changed?

    Ep 57 Help! Why Has My Kid Suddenly Changed?

    Help! What happened to my kid?!

     

    Out of nowhere, it seems your child has been replaced. Your sweet, agreeable little one is now challenging you. They’re moody and sensitive. If they are in Grade 6 or older, they’re experiencing the adolescent “angst” that makes this season of life so difficult for our kids. 

    Let’s help our kids as they journey towards acceptance and belonging. 

     

    Click here to go to the podcast page of Families Matter Most for some great discussion questions along with an activity you can do with your adolescent to develop self-acceptance. 


    Did You Like This Podcast Check Out these similar podcasts:

    Teaching Littles Self Control

    Three Things to Never Say to Your Kids

    Teaching Kids Chores (Part 1)

    Raising Teens (Part 1)

    Raising Teens (Part 2)