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    • Recognize and control your brain's behaviorLearn to manage your thoughts and emotions by recognizing they're products of your brain, not fixed facts, and consider joining a free coaching group for additional support.

      You have the power to control your brain, but many people don't realize or attempt to do so. Our brains can sometimes behave unpredictably, like an out-of-control hand, but if you noticed such behavior in any other part of your body, you would seek to understand and address the cause. Similarly, by recognizing that your thoughts and emotions are products of your brain, you can learn to manage them. Don't accept your brain's behavior as fixed; instead, strive to take control. To help you do so, consider signing up for Rob Dial's free five-day challenge coaching group at coachwithrob.com, starting June 4th, where he will provide lessons on mindset, motivation, money, and transformation. Subscribe to the MWF Motivation Podcast for more life-changing content.

    • Control your mind and bodyPracticing mindfulness and meditation helps increase awareness and control over thoughts and actions, improving overall quality of life.

      You have control over your body and mind, even if it doesn't always feel that way. Your brain, which is responsible for your thoughts and actions, is part of your body and under your control. However, much of what we do daily is on autopilot, controlled by our automatic brain. This is why practicing mindfulness and meditation can be beneficial, as they help us become more aware of our thoughts and take control of our mind. Your brain, which consumes a significant amount of energy, is crucial to your overall health and well-being. By focusing on controlling our mind and being present in the moment, we can improve our overall quality of life. Remember, you are in the driver's seat of your body and mind, even if it sometimes feels like you're on autopilot.

    • The Brain Goes on Autopilot After Intense Mental ActivityAfter long thinking sessions, the brain conserves energy by going on autopilot, creating unconscious patterns. Identify unwanted patterns and take conscious control to create new, desired ones.

      The brain is an energy-consuming organ, and conscious thinking requires a lot of energy. After long periods of intense mental activity, the brain goes on autopilot to conserve energy, creating unconscious patterns and reactions. While this is beneficial for energy conservation, it can also lead to unwanted habits and reactions. The good news is that these patterns are changeable. To begin, identify the patterns you want to change and take conscious control of your brain to create new, desired patterns. Remember, you have the power to shape your thoughts and actions.

    • Rewiring our patterns for positive changeYou can't control your first thought, but you can control your second thought, leading to more mindful and positive responses.

      Our brains are wired to operate on autopilot about half the time, and this can lead to unwanted reactions and behaviors. However, it's possible to rewire our patterns and create new habits by becoming aware of our thoughts and feelings, and consciously choosing alternative responses. This process takes time and practice, but it's worth it to avoid reacting in ways we don't want to. For example, when faced with stress, instead of reacting impulsively, we can pause and choose a calmer, more thoughtful response. The key phrase to remember is "you cannot always control your first thought, but you can control your second thought." By being mindful of our thoughts and feelings, and deliberately choosing our responses, we can break free from autopilot and create positive changes in our lives.

    • Train your brain like a dogThrough conscious effort and repetition, we can change our automatic thought patterns and develop new, healthier ways of thinking.

      Just like training a dog, you can't always control your initial thoughts, but you can train your brain to change its automatic response through conscious effort and repetition. The analogy of training a dog was used to illustrate this concept. When a puppy makes a mistake inside the house, it is taken outside to learn that certain behaviors are not acceptable there. Similarly, when we catch ourselves thinking or behaving in ways we don't want, we can use mental cues and repetition to retrain our brains to respond differently. Our initial thoughts may be instinctual or habitual, but with consistent effort, we can change our automatic patterns and develop new, healthier thought processes. This is a powerful tool for personal growth and self-improvement.

    • Recognizing and interrupting negative thought patternsTo live peacefully and fulfillingly, we can retrain our brains to interrupt negative thought patterns and replace them with positive or productive ones, even if it takes time and effort.

      Our thoughts and behaviors, even those that no longer serve us well, can become automatic over time. This can be seen in patterns of anger and control, for example, where we may have learned as children that getting angry gets us what we want. However, as we grow older, these patterns can hold us back. The good news is that we have the power to retrain our brains and change our thought patterns. This involves recognizing when we're about to go down a familiar path and interrupting the thought process to replace it with a more positive or productive one. It may take time and effort, but the payoff is a more peaceful and fulfilling way of living. As the speaker suggests, it's like training a dog to go outside instead of pooping inside - it may take many repetitions, but the end result is worth it. So next time you find yourself getting angry or stuck in a negative thought pattern, take a deep breath, interrupt the thought, and redirect it towards a more positive outcome. Your brain is a powerful tool, and with practice, you can learn to harness its potential for your own growth and happiness.

    • Habits shape 47% of our thoughts and actionsRecognize the power of habits to change limiting patterns and consciously work towards improvement

      Our thoughts and actions are largely influenced by habits, 47% of which are on autopilot. By recognizing this, we have the power to consciously work towards changing limiting thought patterns and habits. It won't be easy, but the effort put in now can lead to a significant improvement in the quality of the rest of your life. If you find this message valuable, please share it with someone who could benefit from it. Remember, making someone else's day better is a mission we can all embrace. For more resources and updates, follow us on Instagram and Facebook at mwfmotivation. Let's continue spreading positivity and motivation. Go forth and make your dreams a reality.

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    Sensual craving gives rise to fear. 

    For someone released from sensual craving There is no grief; 

    And from where would come fear? (215) 

     

    Craving gives rise to grief; 

    Craving gives rise to fear. 

    For someone released from craving 

    There is no grief; 

    And from where would come fear?

    —Buddha, The Dhammapada

     

    References

     

    Buddha. The Dhammapada, translated by Gil Fronsdale. (2011). Shambala, pp. 56-57