Podcast Summary
Bumble's new features and Ollie's cognitive help supplements: Bumble enhances compatibility, starts conversations, and ensures safety with new features. Ollie offers supplements to help families manage mental load and improve focus.
Bumble is introducing new features to enhance compatibility, start conversations, and ensure safety on their dating app. Meanwhile, Ollie offers cognitive help supplements for families to manage mental load and improve focus. Perfectionism can be a curse, but understanding its roots can help turn it into a blessing. Perfectionism comes in two forms: personal standard perfectionism and external concern perfectionism. While the former drives self-improvement, the latter, rooted in others' expectations, can be damaging. HG coaching is designed to help individuals discover their life goals, overcome procrastination, and find motivation. It's an investment in a better life. Understanding the difference between these two types of perfectionism is crucial in managing it effectively.
Growing up with unrealistic expectations can impact brain development: Perfectionistic tendencies from unrealistic expectations can redirect attention away from mistakes, causing individuals to avoid opportunities for growth.
Growing up with unrealistic expectations from parents or siblings can lead to perfectionistic tendencies, which can negatively impact the brain. Perfectionistic tendencies can stem from personal standards (internal) or external pressures (parents or siblings). The part of the brain responsible for external concerns, the medial frontal gyrus, redirects attention away from mistakes, causing individuals to avoid situations where they might fail. This can stem from past experiences of never being able to meet unrealistic expectations, leading to a mindset of "breaking even" or "losing." Research shows that high external concern perfectionists activate the medial frontal gyrus when making mistakes, causing them to mentally retreat or distract themselves instead of addressing the error. This pattern can perpetuate a cycle of avoidance and missed opportunities for growth.
Understanding Different Types of Perfectionism and Their Brain Impact: Perfectionism affects the brain differently based on its source. External concerns lead to handicapped learning and avoidance, while personal standards trigger focus and improvement.
Perfectionism, whether it stems from external pressures or personal standards, can significantly impact the way our brains process and learn from mistakes. For those with external concern perfectionism (ECP), the medial frontal gyrus becomes handicapped when faced with mistakes, leading to numbness and avoidance rather than repair. On the other hand, individuals with personal standard perfectionism (PSP) activate a different part of the brain, the anterior or medial cingulate cortex, which allows them to slow down and focus on the problem at hand, ultimately leading to improvement. Unfortunately, common advice for dealing with perfectionism doesn't always apply to everyone, as the underlying causes and brain responses can vary greatly. To truly address this issue, it's essential to understand the unique ways our brains process perfectionism and develop tailored strategies for overcoming its challenges.
The role of external and personal standards in performance: High personal standards and consideration for others' opinions lead to optimal performance.
Our concern for both external and personal standards plays a significant role in how we perform and approach life. The discussion highlights that individuals can exhibit high or low levels of external concern (EC) and personal standard (PS). Those with high EC and low PS may prioritize perfection for others but have low expectations for themselves, leading to suboptimal outcomes. Conversely, those with high PS and low EC may disregard others' opinions and live according to their rules, performing better than those with no concern for others. However, changing the wiring of our concern for others is challenging. Instead, it's easier to harness personal standard perfectionism by setting a standard for ourselves while also considering others' opinions. When making mistakes, it's crucial to slow down and reflect rather than getting distracted. By focusing on improving our personal standards, we can outperform those who disregard others' opinions.
Slow down and develop personal standards: Focus on personal satisfaction and external expectations for high performance, not just perfection or pleasing others.
Instead of trying to distract yourself or fix mistakes immediately when faced with a task, it's important to slow down and develop personal standards for yourself. Perfectionism can be a double-edged sword, leading to disappointment and stress, but it can also drive us to achieve our best. To harness the power of high ECP (Executive Control Process) and high PSP (Personal Standards Process), focus on what would make you happy, rather than trying to please others or strive for perfection. By holding both personal satisfaction and external expectations in mind, you can outperform those who only prioritize one or the other. Remember, it's not about fixing or changing for others, but rather adding personal resilience, self-respect, and expectations to your pursuit of excellence.
