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    Jealousy: Glennon & Abby Share It All

    enMay 28, 2024

    Podcast Summary

    • Jealousy and Trust in RelationshipsCommunication, self-trust, and creating a safe community are essential in navigating jealousy and other emotions in relationships. Trusted brands like Pampers and socially responsible brands like Bombas can help in maintaining comfort and confidence in oneself and in relationships.

      It's important to refresh and upgrade your wardrobe with comfortable and socially responsible brands like Bombas, while ensuring the delicate care of your baby with trusted brands like Pampers. Jealousy, a complex emotion, was explored in depth during the podcast episode, revealing the importance of trust, both in relationships and in oneself. The hosts shared their personal experiences and the impact of their past relationships on their feelings of jealousy. They emphasized the significance of communication, self-trust, and the creation of a safe and real community, like the Pod Squad, in navigating jealousy and other emotions. For those seeking advice on handling friendships and relationships as a queer couple, the hosts encouraged open communication, trust, and self-awareness.

    • Past experiencesPast experiences and insecurities can influence behavior in new relationships, but trying to protect oneself through constant searching for evidence of infidelity can cause more harm than good. Transparency, understanding, and open communication are key to building trust and creating a secure environment.

      People carry past experiences and insecurities into new relationships, which can influence their behavior and interactions. The speaker in this conversation shared her experience of entering a relationship with a heightened sense of vulnerability and fear of being cheated on again. She tried to protect herself by searching for evidence of infidelity, but this approach ultimately caused more harm than good. The conversation also touched upon the complexities of jealousy and attraction, and how they can be shaped by past experiences and societal expectations. The importance of transparency, understanding, and open communication in relationships was emphasized as a way to build trust and create a safe and secure environment for both partners.

    • Beauty StandardsBeauty is a deeply personal experience and should not be a cultural expectation or reinforced in front of children. Embrace the unique beauty within each individual and recognize the challenges of dealing with societal pressures and jealousy in relationships.

      Our perceptions of beauty and the impact of societal standards on it can be deeply personal and complex. During a conversation, the speaker shared her discomfort with reinforcing beauty standards in front of children. She believes that beauty should be a deeply personal and idiosyncratic experience, not a cultural expectation. This discussion touched on the internal struggle many people have with their own appearance and the external pressures to conform to certain standards. The speaker also shared her own experiences with anorexia and the way societal beauty standards affected her self-perception. Ultimately, she emphasized the importance of recognizing and embracing the unique beauty within each individual. Additionally, the speakers discussed the challenges of dealing with jealousy in relationships and the importance of trust and vulnerability. They shared their experiences of overcoming past insecurities and learning to truly trust and support each other.

    • Jealousy and trustRecognize and address personal insecurities and past traumas instead of controlling others' thoughts or behaviors, communicate openly and honestly, and build a safe space for healing and growth.

      Trust and jealousy are complex emotions that require self-reflection and understanding in relationships. The speakers in this conversation acknowledge that jealousy can stem from personal insecurities and past traumas, and it's essential to recognize and address these underlying issues instead of trying to control others' thoughts or behaviors. They also emphasize the importance of trusting oneself and being able to communicate openly and honestly with one's partner when feelings of jealousy arise. The goal is to create a safe space where both partners can heal and grow together, rather than using jealousy as a means of power control or denying each other's humanity. Trust is an ongoing process, and it's crucial to be patient and compassionate with oneself and one's partner as they work through their emotions and build a strong, healthy relationship.

    • Self-Trust and JealousySelf-trust is vital for building trust with others. Jealousy arises from personal experiences and traumas, and effective communication and prioritizing comfort are essential in addressing it. Everyone forms connections differently, and acknowledging the complexity of jealousy is crucial.

      Trusting oneself is a crucial foundation for trusting others. Jealousy and the complexities surrounding it stem from deep-rooted personal experiences and traumas. Communication and prioritizing each other's comfort are essential in building trust. People may have different ways of forming connections, and it's important to remember that everyone's experiences are unique. Jealousy encompasses various aspects of our lives, including trust, self-worth, love, and communication. It's essential to acknowledge the complexity of jealousy and approach it with empathy and understanding.

    • Trauma validationValidating someone's trauma is essential for trust and healthy relationships. Offering support and understanding instead of judgment can help heal and deepen connections. Addressing jealousy and being seen as an individual are also crucial in fostering strong bonds.

      Understanding and validating someone's trauma is crucial in building trust and fostering healthy relationships. The speaker expressed how people's assumptions and expectations can hinder the healing process. She shared an experience where her partner, instead of judging her, offered support and understanding, which helped her trust him more deeply. The speaker also acknowledged the existence of jealousy and the importance of addressing it in relationships. Furthermore, the conversation touched on the importance of being seen and acknowledged as an individual in a relationship, rather than being overlooked or overshadowed. The discussion emphasized the significance of empathy, patience, and continuous effort in overcoming trust issues and strengthening bonds.

    • Parental impact on child's confidenceParents' presence and trust in their children's intuition significantly impact their confidence. Responses to children's efforts and mistakes can either encourage or discourage them.

      Our actions and presence can have a profound impact on our children, shaping their confidence and self-discovery in unexpected ways. Abby's story of her father's silent support during her hockey game serves as a powerful metaphor for the importance of parents being present and trusting their children's intuition. Similarly, the way we respond to our children's efforts and mistakes can either encourage them to keep trying or discourage them from taking risks. The conversation also highlights the significance of energy and emotions in sports and parenting. Ultimately, it's essential to create an environment that allows children to learn, grow, and develop their unique identities.

    • Kintsugi healingOur struggles and traumas, when embraced and supported, can transform into something beautiful through the power of community and self-reflection.

      Our struggles and traumas, when loved and supported, can become more beautiful than if they had never occurred. This concept, known as Kintsugi in Japanese art, involves accentuating cracks with gold filling instead of hiding them. The hosts encourage listeners to view their own experiences in this light and to trust in the healing power of community. They also ask for listeners' thoughts on jealousy and invite them to call in with their perspectives. The podcast, "We Can Do Hard Things," is produced by a team including Glennon Doyle, Abby Wambach, Amanda Doyle, Jenna Wise Berman, and a team of producers. The hosts express their appreciation for their listeners and invite them to follow, rate, and share the podcast. The episode concludes with the hosts sharing their own personal growth and resilience through challenging experiences.

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