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    Navigating A Collision of Values | Tom & Lisa Bilyeu (Replay)

    enFebruary 09, 2024

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    • Setting Expectations and Following ThroughEffective communication, clear expectations, and following through on commitments are crucial for building a strong and fulfilling relationship. Apologize and make amends for mistakes, but also outline consequences for not following through on agreements.

      Effective communication and setting clear expectations are key to resolving relationship issues. Miranda Ritter's question about her boyfriend's inconsistency in keeping plans highlights the importance of establishing rules of engagement and following through on commitments. Tom Bilyeu emphasizes the importance of apologizing and making amends when mistakes are made, but also emphasizes the importance of outlining the consequences of not following through on agreements. This social contract approach ensures that both parties understand their roles and responsibilities, and can work towards building trust and strengthening their relationship. Additionally, being understanding and empathetic towards each other's challenges is essential in maintaining a healthy and fulfilling partnership. So, whether you're dealing with a busy partner or facing any other relationship challenge, remember that clear communication, setting expectations, and following through on commitments are essential steps towards building a strong and fulfilling relationship.

    • Effective communication and setting each other up for successBe considerate of each other's commitments, address conflicts head-on, and find solutions that work for both parties to strengthen relationships.

      Effective communication and setting each other up for success are crucial in any relationship. The speaker in this conversation emphasized the importance of being considerate and reminding each other of important commitments to avoid misunderstandings and hurt feelings. They also discussed the importance of addressing conflicts and value differences head-on to find a solution that works for both parties. In the context of the conversation, the speaker shared an example of forgetting a recurring appointment due to distractions and the impact it had on their relationship. By acknowledging the issue and finding a solution together, they were able to strengthen their bond and avoid repeating the same mistake. Ultimately, the conversation underscores the importance of open communication, mutual respect, and a willingness to work together to overcome challenges in a relationship.

    • The importance of respect and compromise in relationshipsEffective communication and compromise are crucial in any relationship, even over seemingly trivial matters. Recognize and respect each other's values, and find compromises to navigate differences.

      Effective communication and compromise are essential in any relationship, even when it comes to seemingly trivial matters. The speaker in this conversation emphasizes the importance of recognizing and respecting each other's values, despite disagreements. They discuss their long-standing issue regarding cleanliness and the impact it has on their relationship. The speaker values a tidy home, while their partner values efficiency and not wasting time. Through open communication and finding compromises, they have learned to navigate this difference and respect each other's wishes. The speaker also acknowledges the importance of understanding that everyone has unique priorities and emotional responses, and that these differences can lead to misunderstandings if not addressed. Overall, the conversation highlights the importance of respect, understanding, and compromise in maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

    • Communication and Compassion in RelationshipsEffective communication and compassion are vital for a successful relationship. Choose a partner who values negotiation, love, and balance. Establish social contracts and prioritize internal values over external pressures. Joint financial ownership and open communication are essential.

      The success of a relationship depends heavily on the individuals involved being willing to engage in open and compassionate communication. Selection of a partner who is unwilling to negotiate, engage with love, and focus on finding a balance that benefits both parties can lead to a lifetime of misery. Social contracts, where both individuals listen and pay attention to each other's needs, are essential for a healthy relationship. External pressures, such as parents wanting a prenup, should not dictate personal decisions if they do not align with one's internal values. In financial matters, it's crucial to establish joint ownership and open communication about financial responsibilities.

    • Balancing Financial Planning and Emotional BondingConsider both financial logic and emotional bonding when making financial decisions in a relationship. Utilize technology like Lumen for personal health guidance. Use advanced platforms like Shopify for business growth. Protect personal data with services like DeleteMe.

      When it comes to financial planning in a relationship, it's important to consider both the logical financial advice and the emotional bonding aspect. The speaker shared their experience of using savings for a joint purchase, like a house, while paying off student loans together. However, from a purely financial standpoint, it would have been more sensible to pay off the debt first. Yet, the speaker emphasized the importance of feeling comfortable and bonded in the relationship, which led them to their decision. On a different note, when it comes to personal health, utilizing technology, such as Lumen, can be an effective way to make informed decisions and improve overall well-being. Lumen is a handheld device that measures metabolism through breath and provides personalized guidance for better health outcomes. Lastly, in today's competitive business landscape, using advanced technology and platforms, like Shopify, can give entrepreneurs a leg up in growing their businesses efficiently and effectively. Shopify offers a range of features, including award-winning customer service and integrated AI tools, making it an all-in-one solution for businesses at any stage. Lastly, it's crucial to protect personal data in the digital age. Services like DeleteMe can help individuals take control of their information and prevent it from being sold online without consent.

    • Protecting Personal Data and Communication in Long-Distance RelationshipsEffectively manage personal data by eliminating it from data brokers and monitoring its presence online. Maintain open communication in long-distance relationships to prevent misunderstandings and emotional distress.

      Protecting your personal data and maintaining effective communication are crucial elements in securing your privacy and building successful relationships. Regarding data privacy, services like Delete Me can help eliminate and monitor your information on various data brokers and people search sites to keep it private. For relationships, particularly long-distance ones, communication is the foundation. However, it's essential that both parties are committed to expressing their emotions and feelings openly, as guessing what someone is thinking or feeling can lead to misunderstandings and emotional distress. In the context of long-distance relationships, recognizing signs of frustration or discomfort in your partner's tone or behavior can help facilitate open dialogue and address potential issues. Overall, taking control of your personal data and fostering open communication are essential for maintaining privacy and building strong relationships.

    • Effective communication in long-distance relationshipsApproach conversations with empathy, understanding, and respect. Avoid accusatory questions. Close the distance and avoid unhealthy obsession or distance.

      Communication is key in maintaining a healthy and thriving relationship, especially in a long-distance situation. However, the way we communicate can make a significant difference. Asking a seemingly innocent question like "are you okay?" or "what's wrong?" can come across as accusatory and wind up the other person. Instead, it's important to approach the conversation with empathy, understanding, and respect for each other's emotions. It's also crucial to work towards closing the distance and not let the absence create an unhealthy obsession or distance in the relationship. Ultimately, relationships require effort, respect, and keeping the passion alive through open communication and romantic gestures.

    • Respecting each other's values in a relationshipCommunicate openly and find compromises to respect each other's values and prevent unnecessary tension, allowing for a successful and fulfilling relationship.

      Respecting each other's values and finding a balance in a relationship is crucial for its success. Dominique Laundry's statement about people in long-distance relationships not wanting to be in a relationship may not hold true for everyone. Some individuals might prefer the flexibility and independence that comes with being single, while others might want a relationship but not the emotional depth and commitment that goes along with it. During discussions about creating rules of engagement, Lisa and Bunny shared an example of a collision of values. In their relationship, Lisa values keeping the living room tidy, while Bunny prioritizes efficiency and productivity. When these values clash, they can create unnecessary tension and frustration. To navigate these situations, it's essential to communicate openly and find a compromise that respects both individuals' values. In Lisa and Bunny's case, Lisa takes responsibility for moving the TV when it's an inconvenience for Bunny, and Bunny reminds Lisa to do it on Sundays when it's more convenient for both of them. These small compromises can help prevent unnecessary tension and frustration, allowing both individuals to focus on their goals and ambitions. Ultimately, respecting each other's values and finding a balance is essential for a successful and fulfilling relationship.

    • Understanding and respecting differences in relationshipsAcknowledge each other's unique backgrounds and experiences to find balance and harmony in relationships. Avoid judgment and focus on understanding, respect, and communication.

      In relationships, there will be differences in values and beliefs, leading to potential conflicts. It's essential to recognize that neither party's perspective is objectively correct but rather based on their individual value systems. Instead of trying to persuade our partners relentlessly, we should strive for understanding and communication. This means acknowledging each other's unique backgrounds and experiences, which shape our values. By recognizing and respecting these differences, we can find a balance and create a harmonious relationship. It's also important to avoid passing judgment or making our partners feel guilty or ashamed for their choices. Instead, we should focus on finding common ground and compromising where possible. Ultimately, the key to a successful relationship lies in understanding, respect, and communication.

    • Respect and communication in relationships and weight lossRespecting individual values and communicating openly leads to healthier relationships and better weight loss outcomes. Honesty, trust, and clear communication are essential.

      Understanding and respecting each other's values and communicating openly are key to maintaining healthy relationships. Contempt can arise when individuals believe there is an absolute right or wrong, and failure to recognize this can lead to misunderstandings and feelings of betrayal. In the context of weight loss, a personalized approach that accommodates individual needs and preferences, rather than imposing restrictions or shame, leads to better outcomes. In relationships, honesty and open communication are essential, and any deviation from this should be addressed directly. The discussion also touched upon the importance of trust and the potential consequences of withholding information or lying. Overall, the importance of empathy, respect, and clear communication in both personal and weight loss journeys was emphasized.

    • Building trust through openness and honestyHonesty builds trust, even in difficult conversations. Addressing discrepancies and working through challenges together strengthens relationships.

      Trust and communication are key elements in any relationship. Small lies or unintended discrepancies may not seem significant in the moment, but they can lead to bigger issues if not addressed honestly. Trust is built over time through consistent openness and honesty, even when it's difficult. If there's suspicion or feelings of deceit, it's important to have a conversation and get to the root of the issue. It's also important to remember that everyone makes mistakes and unintentional discrepancies can happen. The key is to approach situations with trust, communication, and a willingness to work through any challenges together. By consistently choosing the hard thing and being honest, even when it's uncomfortable, a relationship can grow stronger over time.

    • Recognizing and respecting unique perspectivesEffective communication requires acknowledging emotional and logical processing styles, balancing both in relationships, and respecting each other's ways of communicating.

      Effective communication and understanding in relationships require recognizing and respecting each other's unique perspectives and processing styles, whether they lean towards emotion or logic. In the example of a shirt situation, one partner may process emotions intensely while the other may approach situations logically. This dynamic can lead to frustration if not managed properly. It's essential to find a balance where each partner can leverage their strengths at the appropriate times, ensuring that both emotional and logical processing are given their due place in the relationship. Overall, respecting each other's ways of processing and communicating is crucial for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

    • Balancing Emotions and Logic in RelationshipsEffective communication requires understanding and respecting emotional and logical responses. Take breaks during heated conversations, and avoid holding onto resentment to maintain a healthy relationship.

      Effective communication in relationships involves understanding and respecting each other's emotional and logical responses. When emotions run high, it's essential to take a break and come back to the conversation when both parties are ready to listen and articulate their feelings. It's not about suppressing emotions or logic but finding a balance. In contrast, holding onto resentment and refusing to forgive is detrimental to relationships and should be avoided. Communication is key to understanding and resolving conflicts, and finding tactics to bridge the gap between emotional and logical responses can lead to a healthier and more fulfilling relationship.

    • Holding onto past hurts can harm mental health and relationshipsSeeking help and forgiveness with compassion is crucial for mental health and relationship growth

      Holding onto past hurts and inability to forgive can be detrimental to mental health and relationships. It's essential to let go and move forward. The inability to do so can be a sign of mental dysfunction. Seeking help is important. In a relationship, forgiveness and letting go should be a joint effort, not a burden. If you genuinely want to get over an issue, ask for help and approach it with compassion and understanding. Remember, reopening old wounds with the intention to hurt is not forgiveness, but rather a violation of trust. Instead, approach it as an opportunity to grow and heal together as a team.

    • Effective Communication in RelationshipsExpressing feelings honestly and discussing past issues can lead to growth and resolution in relationships.

      Effective communication is key in any relationship. The speaker acknowledges that holding onto petty grievances can be detrimental, but it's important to express those feelings to your partner rather than letting them fester. The speaker also emphasizes that discussing past issues can lead to growth and resolution, rather than becoming a repetitive pattern. The importance of honesty and open dialogue in relationships cannot be overstated. It's essential to remember that addressing issues together is a collaborative effort towards building a stronger bond. So, if you're feeling stuck or unable to move past a disagreement, take a cue from the speaker and have an open and honest conversation with your partner. Remember, communication is the foundation of any healthy and thriving relationship.

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    Welcome to another episode of Impact Theory, I’m Tom Bilyeu!  In today’s episode, I’m thrilled to be joined by Robert F. Kennedy Jr. as we tackle a wide range of critical issues facing America today. RFK is a politician from the Kennedy Family, he is a son of U.S. attorney general and senator Robert F. Kennedy, and nephew of U.S. president John F. Kennedy and senator Ted Kennedy. He is also an advocate for public health, border security, and political reform, and an independent candidate in the 2024 presidential election.  From the harrowing realities at the U.S. border, RFK underscores the urgent need for strong border security and a compassionate, streamlined immigration process. He also shares his bold ideas for cutting the military budget, focusing on economic power rather than military might, and advocating for sound fiscal policies to address national debt and inflation. We also discuss:  - Issues of chronic disease, addiction, and economic challenges - Printing money, inflation, and national debt as economic threats - Embracing blockchain & cryptocurrency to counter inflation - Integrating bitcoin to save the dollar & create wealth - Decline in American values & constitutional adherence - Compromised press & spread of government propaganda - Social media algorithms amplifying societal polarization This is just Part 1 of our conversation, so make sure you don’t miss Part 2 of this convo for even more with RFK. Follow Robert F. Kennedy Jr.: Website: https://www.kennedy24.com/ Twitter: https://x.com/RobertKennedyJr Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robertfkennedyjr/ Follow Me, Tom Bilyeu:  Website: https://impacttheoryuniversity.com/  X: https://twitter.com/TomBilyeu Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/ If you want to dive deeper into my content, search through every episode, find specific topics I've covered, and ask me questions. Go to my Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/tombilyeu Themes: Mindset, Finance, World Affairs, Health & Productivity, Future & Tech, Simulation Theory & Physics, Dating & Relationships SPONSORS: Explore the Range Rover Sport at https://www.Land RoverUSA.com.” Start your free online visit today at https://Hims.com/ IMPACT  Go to https://shopify.com/impact right now to grow your business no matter what stage you're in. Go to https:// AmericanFinancing.net/Impact to regain control of your finances Go to https://hellofresh.com/impactapps and you will get FREE appetizers for life! Get 5 free AG1 Travel Packs and a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D with your first purchase at https://drinkag1.com/impact. Secure your digital life with proactive protection for your assets, identity, family, and tech – Go to https://aura.com/IMPACT to start your free two-week trial. Take control of your gut health by going to https://tryviome.com/impact and use code IMPACT to get 20% off your first 3 months and free shipping. ***Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact?*** If you’re ready to find true fulfillment, strengthen your focus, and ignite your true potential, the Impact Theory subscription was created just for you.  *New episodes delivered ad-free, EXCLUSIVE access to hundreds of archived Impact Theory episodes, Tom AMAs, and so much more!* This is not for the faint of heart. This is for those who dare to learn obsessively, every day, day after day. *****Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3PCvJaz***** Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The 3 Steps to Financial Freedom! (Escape the Rat Race Now) | Wallstreet Trapper (Replay)

    The 3 Steps to Financial Freedom! (Escape the Rat Race Now) | Wallstreet Trapper (Replay)
    If you don’t understand how to manage your money then your chance of achieving financial success and freedom goes to zero. When you don’t know the rules to the game of money it's almost impossible to win. Wallstreet Trapper built the skills he needed to become a fundamental investor, a speaker, a stock market education, and an entrepreneur after doing over 8 years in prison, selling drugs and not having any advantages in life. One of the best things you can consider doing to improve your finances is to get into stocks, learn how to leverage real estate and build a business that generates value. Something you’ll want to consider from this episode: Have you learned the money game Are you prepared to exit the money matrix How can you become an investor What is keeping 99% of people broke [Original air date: 3-30-23]. QUOTES: “Wealthy people do three things. They stop trading time for money, they make their money work for them and they give as much value to people as they can.” “Just coming up in the streets you only see the game from the lowest level, and you look at everybody else in part admiration and part jealousy.” “Being at the bottom teaches you to envy people at the top.” “Once I broke the game down to a way I could understand it, it wasn’t about me being brilliant , it was like how do I make the game winnable for me” “Everybody won’t be able to build a million dollar business, but everybody can invest in one.” “If you’re bold enough to bet on the future and be patient enough to let it take place you will win and you will win big.” “A dollar that’s not moving is a dollar that’s losing.” Follow Wallstreet Trapper: Website: https://www.wallstreettrapper.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Wallstreet504 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCR6hXiWOlFWc46qMFMClKHA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wall_street_trapper/ SPONSORS: Head to https://netsuite.com/THEORY for Netsuite’s one-of-a-kind flexible financing program for a few more weeks!  For comprehensive financial news and analysis, visit https://yahoofinance.com Visit https://betterhelp.com/impacttheory to get 10% off your first month  Explore the Range Rover Sport at https://landroverusa.com Get 5 free AG1 Travel Packs and a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D with your first purchase at https://drinkag1.com/impact. Secure your digital life with proactive protection for your assets, identity, family, and tech – Go to https://aura.com/IMPACT to start your free two-week trial. Take control of your gut health by going to https://tryviome.com/impact and use code IMPACT to get 20% off your first 3 months and free shipping. ***Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact?*** If you’re ready to find true fulfillment, strengthen your focus, and ignite your true potential, the Impact Theory subscription was created just for you.  *New episodes delivered ad-free, EXCLUSIVE access to hundreds of archived Impact Theory episodes, Tom AMAs, and so much more!* This is not for the faint of heart. This is for those who dare to learn obsessively, every day, day after day. *****Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3PCvJaz***** Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The 5 Good Intentions That Lead to Failure (And How to Turn Them Around) | Jonathan Heidt (Replay)

    The 5 Good Intentions That Lead to Failure (And How to Turn Them Around) | Jonathan Heidt (Replay)
    Social psychologist Jonathan Haidt researches moral psychology to help us understand ourselves and our world better. He is an expert on how we create webs of meaning that allow us to speak a common language, build institutions, and create functioning societies. And right now we may need his voice more than ever, as our webs of meaning seem to be in conflict with each other or slowly disintegrating. On this episode of Conversations with Tom Bilyeu, Jonathan Haidt explains why we need to lead with empathy, how to persuade people who have staked out very different positions from yours, and how to invite disconfirming evidence into your life. [Original air date: 8-20-20]. SHOW NOTES: Why are we 90% chimps and 10% bees? [2:01] Jonathan suggests a definition of morality [4:14] Jonathan and Tom discuss religion and spiritual, mind-opening experiences [5:53] Jonathan explains the “hive switch”, the group experience of religion and morality [11:27] Jonathan and Tom discuss the power of connection and group interaction [16:34] Jonathan talks about the problems with social media and how they developed [20:18] What makes some webs of meaning so powerful that they spread so fast? [27:57] Jonathan and Tom ask to what extent political affiliation is genetic [33:29] Jonathan discusses the disturbing trend towards conformity in political thought [37:18] Jonathan and Tom discuss changing American attitudes towards race [ Jonathan talks about how hard it is to lead with empathy [46:52] Jonathan advocates trying many approaches to dealing with problems like racism [50:30] How do we constructively discuss difficult topics? [54:51] Why we have to get people to focus on similarities [59:02] Jonathan discusses his experience with psychedelics [1:03:52] How to invite disconfirming evidence into your life--How do you know you’re right? [1:10:44] We need to find a way to speak a common language in our post-Babel Age [1:16:27] FOLLOW JONATHAN: WEBSITE: jonathanhaidt.com/ FACEBOOK: facebook.com/jonathanhaidt/ TWITTER: twitter.com/JonHaidt SPONSORS: Head to https://netsuite.com/THEORY for Netsuite’s one-of-a-kind flexible financing program for a few more weeks!  For comprehensive financial news and analysis, visit https://yahoofinance.com Visit https://betterhelp.com/impacttheory to get 10% off your first month  Explore the Range Rover Sport at https://landroverusa.com Get 5 free AG1 Travel Packs and a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D with your first purchase at https://drinkag1.com/impact. Secure your digital life with proactive protection for your assets, identity, family, and tech – Go to https://aura.com/IMPACT to start your free two-week trial. Take control of your gut health by going to https://tryviome.com/impact and use code IMPACT to get 20% off your first 3 months and free shipping. ***Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact?*** If you’re ready to find true fulfillment, strengthen your focus, and ignite your true potential, the Impact Theory subscription was created just for you.  *New episodes delivered ad-free, EXCLUSIVE access to hundreds of archived Impact Theory episodes, Tom AMAs, and so much more!* This is not for the faint of heart. This is for those who dare to learn obsessively, every day, day after day. *****Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3PCvJaz***** Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    7 Key Moves to Build Wealth While Others Struggle in the Next 5 Years! | Peter Diamandis PT 2

    7 Key Moves to Build Wealth While Others Struggle in the Next 5 Years! | Peter Diamandis PT 2
    Welcome back to part two. Today, we are diving deep into a transformative discussion with the one and only Peter Diamandis—a pioneer in space exploration, innovation, and disruptive thinking. In this episode, Peter and Tom explore the groundbreaking policies and cultural shifts that have revolutionized companies like Amazon and Microsoft, ensuring they stay ahead in a rapidly changing world. We'll examine the immediate impacts of COVID on business models, the revolutionary advances of OpenAI, and the stunning prospects of AI in healthcare and longevity. From predicting AI reaching human-level intelligence by 2029 to the ethical dilemmas and societal shifts AI will bring, Peter and Tom leave no stone unturned. Have you ever wondered about living forever or what nanotechnology could mean for manufacturing and societal values? Or perhaps you’re curious about how AI could redefine personal and professional relationships, even to the point of creating deeply empathetic and tailored companions? We’ll cover that and more in today’s episode. Listen in as we discuss the future of education, entrepreneurship, and the potential for a post-capitalist society driven by abundant resources. From contemplating living in a simulation to the next big health revolution, Peter Diamandis reveals insights that challenge our current perceptions and inspire groundbreaking innovation. 02:04:29 Shift from random drug discovery to design. 02:09:04 Optimistic vision for personalized medicine and technology. 02:24:17 Ego impedes progress; focus on right answers. 02:40:38 Questioning reality, considering life as simulation. 02:54:31 AI and longevity key in global markets. 03:09:56 $101 million X Prize for FSHD research. 03:27:17 DMT journey: dissolution of ego, universe connection. 03:50:05 Proper OKRs expose talent, allow autonomy, unify. SPONSORS: Head to https://netsuite.com/THEORY for Netsuite’s one-of-a-kind flexible financing program for a few more weeks!  For comprehensive financial news and analysis, visit https://yahoofinance.com Visit https://betterhelp.com/impacttheory to get 10% off your first month  Explore the Range Rover Sport at https://landroverusa.com Get 5 free AG1 Travel Packs and a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D with your first purchase at https://drinkag1.com/impact. Secure your digital life with proactive protection for your assets, identity, family, and tech – Go to https://aura.com/IMPACT to start your free two-week trial. Take control of your gut health by going to https://tryviome.com/impact and use code IMPACT to get 20% off your first 3 months and free shipping. ***Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact?*** If you’re ready to find true fulfillment, strengthen your focus, and ignite your true potential, the Impact Theory subscription was created just for you.  *New episodes delivered ad-free, EXCLUSIVE access to hundreds of archived Impact Theory episodes, Tom AMAs, and so much more!* This is not for the faint of heart. This is for those who dare to learn obsessively, every day, day after day. *****Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3PCvJaz***** Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    7 Key Moves to Build Wealth While Others Struggle in the Next 5 Years! | Peter Diamandis PT 1

    7 Key Moves to Build Wealth While Others Struggle in the Next 5 Years! | Peter Diamandis PT 1
    Welcome to another thought-provoking episode of Impact Theory with your host Tom Bilyeu. Today, we are diving deep into a transformative discussion with the one and only Peter Diamandis—a pioneer in space exploration, innovation, and disruptive thinking. In this episode, Peter and Tom explore the groundbreaking policies and cultural shifts that have revolutionized companies like Amazon and Microsoft, ensuring they stay ahead in a rapidly changing world. We'll examine the immediate impacts of COVID on business models, the revolutionary advances of OpenAI, and the stunning prospects of AI in healthcare and longevity. From predicting AI reaching human-level intelligence by 2029 to the ethical dilemmas and societal shifts AI will bring, Peter and Tom leave no stone unturned. Have you ever wondered about living forever or what nanotechnology could mean for manufacturing and societal values? Or perhaps you’re curious about how AI could redefine personal and professional relationships, even to the point of creating deeply empathetic and tailored companions? We’ll cover that and more in today’s episode. Get ready to rethink what’s possible and glimpse into a future shaped by technology, science, and an unwavering commitment to human progress. Join us on Impact Theory for a journey into the extraordinary possibilities of tomorrow with Peter Diamandis. 00:00 Quantum computer, fusion energy, manifesting dreams. Future filmmaking. 29:36 AI's intimate knowledge will build extraordinary relationship. 46:18 Cells evolved into meta intelligence through technology. 58:06 Desire to freeze climate and evolution, merge with technology. 01:13:20 Future world: AI, sensors, data, fashion trends. 01:24:54 Life's growth, abundance leads to self-expression. 01:44:14 AI learning DNA language, predicting outcomes, epigenome importance. 02:04:29 Shift from random drug discovery to design. 02:09:04 Optimistic vision for personalized medicine and technology. 02:24:17 Ego impedes progress; focus on right answers. 02:40:38 Questioning reality, considering life as simulation. 02:54:31 AI and longevity key in global markets. 03:09:56 $101 million X Prize for FSHD research. 03:27:17 DMT journey: dissolution of ego, universe connection. 03:50:05 Proper OKRs expose talent, allow autonomy, unify. SPONSORS: Head to https://netsuite.com/THEORY for Netsuite’s one-of-a-kind flexible financing program for a few more weeks!  For comprehensive financial news and analysis, visit https://yahoofinance.com Visit https://betterhelp.com/impacttheory to get 10% off your first month  Explore the Range Rover Sport at https://landroverusa.com Get 5 free AG1 Travel Packs and a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D with your first purchase at https://drinkag1.com/impact. Secure your digital life with proactive protection for your assets, identity, family, and tech – Go to https://aura.com/IMPACT to start your free two-week trial. Take control of your gut health by going to https://tryviome.com/impact and use code IMPACT to get 20% off your first 3 months and free shipping. ***Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact?*** If you’re ready to find true fulfillment, strengthen your focus, and ignite your true potential, the Impact Theory subscription was created just for you.  *New episodes delivered ad-free, EXCLUSIVE access to hundreds of archived Impact Theory episodes, Tom AMAs, and so much more!* This is not for the faint of heart. This is for those who dare to learn obsessively, every day, day after day. *****Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3PCvJaz***** Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Kathleen found that teaching people to communicate intentionally in this way is often the key to saving relationships. Knowing the innate needs of others allows us to love them better. Her study was always motivated by her strong faith – specifically, all of her work on communication centers upon the directive passed down by Christ through Apostle Paul in Ephesians 4:29: “Do not let any unwholesome words come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up, according to their needs, so that it may benefit those who listen.” Because of her spiritual focus, she partnered with North Point Ministries to spread the message of healthy, temperament-based communication as widely as possible. She has written a workbook, recorded several free videos, and released a six-week bible study called “I Said This, You Heard That” aimed at developing communication skills by educating people about the four temperaments through the framework of Ephesians 4:29 (if you are curious, you can check out her work on her website at isaidyouheard.study). Kathleen regularly travels around the country speaking about and providing training on temperaments and empathetic communication – in total, her work has already impacted millions of relationships worldwide. Currently, Kathleen lives in Georgia with her husband Brad. The two live about an hour north of Atlanta, and enjoy spending time with friends and family, enjoying the lake or working on projects around the house. She has two children, Avery and Brice, who also live in Georgia. Avery, her daughter, graduated from the University of Georgia in 2019 and works as a graphic designer. Brice, her son, started a coding education company after receiving his degree from Georgia Tech in 2020. Kathleen published her second book in 2021 called “A Grown-Up’s Guide To Kids’ Wiring,” which teaches better communication skills to anyone in the life of a child or teenager: parents, grandparents, coaches, counselors, aunt, uncles, neighbors, etc! Kathleen continues to speak and teach across the country, as well as meet oe-on-one with people for personal coaching. The demand for Kathleen and her content has been so high that she has expanded her team to include a small group of women who speak and teach on her behalf, when needed. She has one thing that she’d like to say to every single person reading this: “The words you use are the words you choose; remember, kind words are cool!”