Notes to your younger self: With Guest Bernard Holcomb

In this episode, TJ and Bernard Holcomb discuss the importance of self-worth and acceptance. Bernard shares his journey of realizing that he is enough just as he is, and how this realization has transformed his life. They also explore the role of pain and self-discovery in finding self-acceptance. Bernard emphasizes the importance of therapy, medication, meditation, and finding a supportive community in his journey. They discuss the intersection of spirituality and self-acceptance, and how to navigate the challenges that may arise. The conversation concludes with insights on dealing with rejection and finding inner peace.

Takeaways

• Self-worth and acceptance are intertwined and essential for personal growth.
• Realizing that you are enough just as you are is a powerful and transformative lesson.
• Pain and self-discovery can lead to self-acceptance and a better understanding of oneself.
• Therapy, medication, meditation, and finding a supportive community are valuable tools in the journey of self-acceptance.

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In the vibrant tapestry of content creation, carving out a niche becomes a journey unto itself, one that Justin and I have both embraced with fervor. I open up about my foray into producing original content, driven by a desire to wield the reins over my creative and financial destiny, inspired by the likes of KevOnStage and Tabitha Brown. We exchange thoughts on the liberating platforms like TikTok that have turned the tide for storytellers and creators, empowering economic self-reliance and a reshaping of our narratives. There's a special moment where we touch on the aspiration to see our work heal and uplift, especially within the black community, and the celebration of a multifaceted career that defies the traditional.

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As I sat with my good friend Morgan McGhee, sipping on caramel delight oolong tea, we unraveled stories of artistic growth and mindful living. Morgan, a vibrant force from Baton Rouge to New York and now Chicago, joins me, in a rich discussion that meanders through our shared stage memories, to the intricate dance of mindfulness in our lives. 

This talk is a journey—a reflection on the post-pandemic social renaissance where the thirst for connection meets a world still learning to be present. We openly critique the superficiality of performative self-care and emphasize authentic, intentional living. Our conversation isn't afraid to pose the hard questions, like how does one maintain a sense of purpose amidst the noise? Morgan and I don't just ask; we share our personal anecdotes of grounding morning routines, from crafting the perfect breakfast sandwich to the solace of dark, music-filled showers. So, pour yourself a cup of your favorite tea and join us in this heartfelt exploration.

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Join us on this journey where authenticity is not just a buzzword, but a pilgrimage into the heart of who we are. My conversation with the indomitable Justin G. Nelson peels back the layers on finding your true self and the power of embracing every facet of your talents. Together, we tackle the tough decisions—like establishing boundaries and knowing when to walk away from relationships that no longer serve our growth. This episode isn't just talk; it's about taking the solitary steps toward shedding the weights that hold us back and celebrating the unique individuals we are destined to be. 

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Imagine spending just a few minutes each day to transform your outlook on life. That's what I discovered when I embarked on my personal journey with gratitude journaling, a simple yet profound practice that has become a beacon of positivity in my life. As we share a cup of tea, I recount my experiences and reveal how writing down things I'm grateful for in the last 24 hours not only helped me appreciate the small moments in life but also shifted my focus to the positive aspects. 

But the magic doesn't stop at journaling. As we delve deeper into the topic of gratitude, you'll learn that it’s much more than just a feel-good emotion. It's a potent tool that can pivot our lives in extraordinary ways. I share how gratitude has deepened my friendships and brought about feelings of joy, love, and happiness that were often overlooked. So, grab your notebook and your favourite cup of tea, and join me on this enlightening journey. Let's harness the power of gratitude and make life truly amazing and rewarding.

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Join me, as we navigate this intricate labyrinth, shedding light on the staple elements of a robust bond – trust, communication, respect and a sense of safety. This journey isn't just about maintaining a healthy relationship with others; it's about striking a balance between meeting your partner's needs and preserving your individuality. We'll explore the often neglected concept of outgrowing someone and how embracing this reality can pave the way for profound growth.

These changes may not always align with our expectations, and that's perfectly fine! Instead of holding onto what's familiar, we'll discuss how stepping outside of our comfort zones can lead to an even more fulfilling relationship experience. We'll also touch upon setting boundaries, managing expectations, and aligning relationships with our personal goals. So, are you ready to embark on this enlightening journey with me? Because I assure you, it's going to be a riveting ride.

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Ever chastised yourself for making a tiny mistake or not meeting your high expectations? If so, you're not alone. I, have spent years in the grips of self-criticism, but through the practice of positive self-talk, I managed to shift my perspective and bolster my self-confidence. I invite you to join me over a cup of chai tea on this episode of "Tea with TJ" as I share my personal journey from self-criticism to self-love. We'll explore the transformative power of affirmations and the importance of embracing our strengths rather than focusing on our flaws.

As we delve into the subtleties of positive self-talk, we'll debunk some common misconceptions – it's not about ignoring our flaws, but rather acknowledging them and focusing on our strengths. I'll share how I replaced self-criticism with self-encouragement and how this change led me to the destination of self-love. I will also challenge you to consider what you're genuinely great at, and how focusing on these strengths can propel you forward. By the end of this episode, you'll understand the importance of encouraging yourself, loving yourself, and never doubting who you are. Remember, we are all works in progress striving to become better each day, so let’s embrace our journey, one cup of tea at a time.

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Struggling with holding all the ends of life? From working hard, nurturing relationships, pushing for personal growth, to taking time for self-care, it sometimes feels like an impossible task to create a balance. I promise you that achieving balance isn't as overwhelming as it seems. In this episode of Tea with TJ, you'll hear all about my journey in trimming the excess from life, setting boundaries, and prioritizing what truly mattered to me. Listen in as I share how a simple act of calling my mom every day acted as a stepping stone to achieve the balance I craved.

The road to balance undoubtedly involves self-care - it's not a luxury, but a necessity. I'll be sharing my personal approach to self-care and the small but significant activities that keep me grounded. Hear about how daily walks, adequate sleep, and small acts of rejuvenation play a pivotal role in maintaining the overall balance. If you're searching for ways to regain balance and ensure self-care isn't left on the back burner, this episode will provide you with insights and practical steps to get there. So, sit back, pour yourself a cup of tea, and get ready for a heart-to-heart with TJ.

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Huddled with a soothing cup of chamomile tea, I found myself reminiscing about the authenticity of face-to-face connections and yearning for human touch that the pandemic deprived us of. As I mused over the warmth and fuzziness that a simple cup of tea can bring, I found parallels with the delicate yet profound joy of spontaneous human connections that are often missed in our bustling lives.

In this episode of Tea with TJ, we delve into the magical realm of human connections and the power of personal interactions. Is the digital world pushing us apart? Are we losing that precious physical connection to one another? Join me as we explore this pressing issue, sharing personal experiences of unexpected friendships and the nourishment they offer to our souls. Let's cherish every interaction and embrace the potential for deeper connections with the people around us. Because who knows? The next stranger you bump into at a coffee shop might just become your best friend. Let's remember: the world can be a much more rewarding place if we're open to the love and friendship that is always around us.

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