Pilot Episode

In episode 20 of @thecoachingconfidentialpodcast, we host a conversation with a well known coach & coach educator for the Co-Active Training Institute, Shannon Kelly.

Shannon discusses the essence of coaching, which is not about problem-solving but rather about unlearning and opening up to curiosity. She emphasizes the importance of deep listening and creating a space for clients to hear themselves. While problems may be discussed in coaching sessions, the focus is on the person and their inner resources. Shannon also highlights the role of the coach in managing their own problem-solving tendencies and staying present in the moment. Coaching is a transformative process that empowers individuals to tap into their best selves and live a fulfilling life.

Key Takeaways:

1. Coaching is about unlearning problem-solving and opening up to curiosity.
2. Deep listening allows clients to relax and hear themselves.
3. The coach's role is to point the listening towards the best parts of the client.
4. Coaching is an improvisational process that unfolds in the present moment.
5. The coach helps clients tap into their naturally creative, resourceful, and whole selves.

Quotes:

• "Coaching is about unlearning problem-solving and opening up to wild curiosity." - Shannon
• "Deep listening allows the person to relax and actually hear themselves." - Shannon
• "Coaching is rerouting people and reintroducing the best parts of themselves." - Shannon
• "The coach's role is to point the listening towards the best parts of the client." - Shannon
• "Coaching is an improvisational unfolding of two people who are present." - Shannon

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Decision making isn't always easy even when we think it's supposed to be. In this engaging session, Vimla coaches Emilie, a dynamic entrepreneur and yoga instructor at Seasonal Intentions.  Emilie is looking to get clarity that will help her make a decision  impacting her career, family and finances.

From a place of uncertainty, Emilie emerges clear, reconnecting with important elements of herself that are her surest guides toward 'the right' decision.

If you've ever struggled to make a decision you're likely to get a lot from this episode.
 
Our client Emilie Reid is an entrepreneur and the founder of Seasonal Intentions, an online business that focuses on Ayurvedic-inspired yoga and seasonal living. She is also a part-time teacher at Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health in Massachusetts.

Key Takeaways:

1. Starting Point and Desired Outcome: The session began with Emily's question about when to invest in continuing education. Her desired outcome was to gain clarity, rather than making an immediate decision.
2. Defining Clarity: Vimla skillfully helped Emily identify how she would know when she was clear about her decision. This involved connecting with the feeling in her body as an indicator of clarity.
3. Reflective Exploration: The conversation revolved around walking metaphorically through a labyrinth, circling the topic of continuing education, and exploring different energies and perspectives.
4. Empowered Decision-Making: The session focused on the process of decision-making and choosing the energy from which decisions are made.
5. Outcome: Clarity and Process: The primary outcome was not a definitive decision but rather the process of gaining clarity through self-awareness and exploration.

Quotes:

• "I want time to integrate. I want time to actually feel the effects, I want time to experience." - Emilie
• "I feel like I'm coming around again, kind of like in my previous life... I'm a little bit like, why do I need this certification?" - Emilie
• "I want less scattered, more integration, more wholeness." - Emilie

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In episode 18 our client Ammarah arrives to her first-ever coaching session completely open to whatever the process might uncover for her and no defined topic. 

In this episode you'll hear this deeply thoughtful, fast paced, dynamic tech professional begin the session with nothing clear in mind and leave the session with an actual drawing of a BIG, audacious goal. A goal that is a deeply resonant portrait of a 'pie in the sky' dream she holds AND some concrete steps to walk toward it.

This session investigates what really matters to Ammarah. It happens  fluidly. Like a playful invitation to resonance, energy and vitality. She dives into the impact she wants to have in her work and life; the social causes and communities, and what she wants for herself. 

If you feel like there is something inside you that you don't have the language for but an energy is calling you - you may be inspired by the way this session brings language and the client's own images to life via the coaching process.

#dreambig #lifegoals #values #coaching #newtocoaching

Get to know Ammarah Ahmed on LinkedIn or Growth Mentor  

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In episode 17 of the Coaching Confidential Podcast we present a session with Jan Taylor of Get Lively Health and Fitness.  Jan is a successful business owner who has built her brand on her vitality. In this session Jan brings a desire to shift the relationship she has with her energy. In this powerful session you'll hear Jan bring a deep level of self awareness, lots of curiosity, and a heap of courage to this session where coach and client spiral down the path of 'relationship with...' and land on judgment.

So many of us are plagued by our own judgment and lose a lot of energy to this. What if we could take this energy back and use it for something that really matters to us?

In this episode you'll also hear Jan come up with some ideas that will support shifting her relationship with judgment - which will in turn support a shift in her relationship with her energy.

If you struggle with judgment this episode may be one you want to hear.

#innercritic #judgment #roadblocks #curiosity #courage #energy #relationshipwithself #coachingconfidentialpodcast 

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In this episode, Vimla coaches Zarrina. The session starts out one place but through the skillful, gentle invitation to get into action *on the spot*, lands in another place.

This session explores parenting, desire to be different, experimentation in the moment, and ends with a realization on the clients behalf that the coach isn't actually privy to.

We will explore the skills Vimla as the coach embodied including; self management, inviting action as experimentation, deep presence & connection,  and evoking awareness.

• If you are a parent, you may want to hear to hear this.
• If you are a coach, you may be inspired by this.
• If you are curious about coaching, you will learn how little time and information a coach needs to bring a client where they want to be by the end of a session.

Zarrina Allieva is co-active coach & podcaster. Her podcast is called Beyond One Lens. You can follow this podcast on instagram.

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In a departure from our live, unscripted coaching format we are continuing our "Conversations with Coaches" series exploring how life changes when one goes through coach training and begins are career as a professional coach. You might be thinking, is this such a big shift - becoming a coach? Well, most coaches we know have indicated significant life shifts and we decided to talk to coaches about the relational shifts.

In this episode we chat with Howard Stanten of Vanguard Coaching. Howard is married to Erin McGuire, also of Vanguard Coaching. This is an insightful conversation outlining the shifts in the relationship between a married couple as they somewhat simultaneously move through coach training and start a business coaching other couples.

You'll hear questions & nuggets such as:

• What's it like as a coach to be married to another coach?
• "How do you BE curious vs. DO curious?"
• "How do we use these new tools to help each other in ways we know we want to be helped?"
• "We were learning new ways to be...and there were a lot of blurry lines."
• "Being committed to each other's growth is the stake of our relationship."
• "...it would stir up defensiveness...we still needed permission to be 'coach-like' in the early days."
• "We don't often have the conversation about the conversation and it's so important to relationships."
• "With friends and family we can have agendas...and we can get triggered when they are not showing up aligned with those agendas."
• "Let it go and bring curiosity...or a sense of wonder to the conversation."

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In this episode of Coaching Confidential we begin a series of conversations with professional coaches on the topic of what is different in their life since they've chosen coaching as a profession.

Our first conversation is with Terry Barkman of Sailboat Coaching International. Terry and Lisa chat about one aspect of how personal relationships are impacted by coach-like behaviors. Terry will tell us about one relationship that faced a dead end and how he thinks about the idea that "the conversation between two people IS actually the relationship between two people." Finally, we explore how some skills learned in coaching school are actually valuable relationship resources in human relationship. And how these are sometimes confused for coaching. A topic we'll dive into more deeply in future episodes.

Also, check out Terry on Tedx. His recent talk is  here.

Editors note: The statement: "The conversation IS the relationship" was so powerful for me (Lisa) that I wrote this piece about it. A great coaching indoor utilizing #perspective and #curiosity to get #clarity on some of your relationship #values.

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In episode 12 we share a looking back (or retrospective) session with our client Kate. Recently reaching a significant career goal, we walk along with Kate as she recalls some of the key milestones of her journey to a new, significant promotion in her work. But we don't only accompany Kate, we help her pause, reflect, and dig a bit deeper.

In a retrospective coaching session we focus on slowing the client down in the replay of how they met their goal. We invite them to linger in key moments long enough to fully embrace the ingredients (or gifts)  they brought to bare that were instrumental to their success in reaching the goal. We invite the client to name and claim these raw materials. And create some inquiry around how these materials are useful in other pursuits in their life.

In our fast paced culture we are often moving from one accomplishment to the next without stopping to celebrate, acknowledge or even take inventory of the raw materials we possess. This type of session is powerful.

This episode is an actual , real life, unscripted coaching session. Unlike episode 11, where we also looked back, but in a coach-like conversation, not an actual session.

Our invitations to you as you listen include:

-What do you notice in your thoughts and your body sensations?
-What are some of your natural resources?
-How do you call them up when needed?
-What could you gain from looking back at a goal recently accomplished? (

Episode credits:

Kate.
Vimla.
Lisa.

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This episode is all about the magic and pure value of the reflective process. Have you ever reached a goal and moved immediately from the worlds shortest 'congrats' straight to forming the next goal? Do you usually skip 'celebrating' meeting a goal?  Culturally (in America) it's fair to say we don't place a lot of value on stopping to celebrate even the smallest successes.

As a coach with your clients, or as a human having met a goal, if you don't spend much time celebrating OR looking back on the moments that got you to the finish line, this episode is for you. There is so much to be learned from taking a pause and reflecting on the moments along the way.  What is observed in this pause often becomes the key to our future successes.

In this episode we do just that with your hosts Vimla & Lisa. @JohnPoelstra.com (Episode 3) returns to help us celebrate, reflect, and get curious, but not actually coach us after meeting our goals of creating 10 episodes of our podcast Coaching Confidential just for play. 

In this episode you'll hear a "coach-like" conversation not an ACTUAL coaching session. Can you spot the difference?


THEMES:
#goals #celebrating #lookingback #postgame #appreciation #notcoaching #coach-like #laughter #relationshipcoaching #systemcoaching #mywhy #boundaries #noflyzone 

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