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    Pt 3: How to Have Good Sex | Kate Moyle

    enJuly 03, 2024
    How does mental health influence sexual well-being?
    What factors can affect our ability to enjoy sex?
    Why is self-compassion important in sexual experiences?
    How can a healthy sex life benefit mental health?
    What should we recognize about the nature of relationships?

    Podcast Summary

    • Mental health and sexMental health significantly impacts sexual well-being and vice versa, with stress, anxiety, self-esteem, and self-confidence being common factors. A healthy sex life can also positively influence mental health.

      Mental health and sex are deeply interconnected. Sex is not a static entity, but rather, it's influenced by both physical and mental factors. Our mental health can significantly impact our sexual well-being, and vice versa. For instance, stress, anxiety, self-esteem, and self-confidence can all affect our ability to engage in and enjoy sex. Additionally, experiences such as trying to conceive, pregnancy loss, or work-related stress can make sex a source of anxiety and stress, further impacting sexual arousal. On the other hand, a healthy sex life can also positively influence mental health by boosting self-esteem, reducing stress, and improving overall well-being. Ultimately, it's essential to recognize the interconnectedness of mental health and sex and prioritize both aspects of health for optimal well-being.

    • Mental health and sexual health connectionMental health impacts sexual health, leading to lower or higher drives, distractions, or avoidance. Self-compassion, understanding, patience, and joy can help reduce anxiety and build stronger connections.

      Mental health and sexual health are deeply interconnected. The constant pressure of modern life, from work to personal issues, can negatively impact our sexual experiences. This can manifest in various ways, such as lower or higher sexual drives, distractions during intimacy, or even avoiding sexual activity altogether. It's essential to be kinder to ourselves and challenge the negative self-talk that often goes unchecked. Remember, would you say those critical words to a friend or partner? By focusing on the basics and finding joy in sexual experiences that benefit us, we can reduce anxiety and build stronger connections with ourselves and others. It's important to remember that everyone's sexual journey is unique, and there's no one-size-fits-all approach. Instead, we should strive for understanding, patience, and self-compassion.

    • Anxiety and sexAnxiety can lead to avoidance of sexual situations, decreasing opportunities for intimacy and increasing misunderstandings. Focusing on non-sexual touch and understanding the logic behind anxiety can help rebuild a healthy sexual relationship and promote relaxation.

      When anxiety and stress make sex a problem, people often avoid situations that could potentially lead to it out of fear of failure or disappointment. This avoidance can lead to a decrease in opportunities for intimacy and increase misunderstandings and assumptions within relationships. By understanding the logic behind this behavior and focusing on the importance of non-sexual touch and intimacy, couples can help rebuild a healthy sexual relationship and reduce anxiety. This approach can lead to moments of rewarding intimacy and activate the parasympathetic nervous system, promoting relaxation and positivity for both partners.

    • Normalizing non-traditional sex viewsNormalizing non-traditional views of sex and reducing shame and judgment towards those with different preferences is crucial for promoting healthy, consensual, and fulfilling sexual experiences.

      Creating a psychosocial therapist show on ITV is an excellent idea to help people learn to enjoy sex without pressure and negative thoughts. The best sexual experiences often occur when we're fully present and focused on the physical and emotional aspects, rather than being self-conscious and preoccupied with our thoughts. It's essential to normalize non-traditional views of sex and sexuality and reduce shame and judgment towards those who have different preferences. Ultimately, it's about respecting each other's choices and ensuring that all sexual activities are consensual, legal, and fulfilling for all parties involved. As the speaker suggested, "don't yuck someone else's yum," and instead, focus on what works best for each individual.

    • Relationship evolutionPeople's needs and desires change over time, making it essential to embrace the evolving nature of relationships and friendships, rather than adhering to rigid societal expectations.

      Relationships, like people, evolve and change over time. The idea of having one partner for a lifetime might not be realistic or desirable for everyone. People's needs and desires can shift throughout their lives, and what works for them in their 20s might not work for them in their 30s, 40s, or beyond. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to relationships, and what matters most is that individuals find fulfillment and happiness in their own unique way. Moreover, it's essential to challenge societal norms and expectations that dictate the length and success of relationships. Just because a relationship ends doesn't mean it was a failure. Relationships can have different chapters, each with its own lessons and experiences. We should adopt a more accepting view of relationships, recognizing that they can take many forms and that it's okay for them to evolve and change over time. Furthermore, we can draw parallels between relationships and friendships. While we may cherish childhood friendships, it's normal for friendships to end or change as we grow older. We shouldn't view the end of a friendship as a failure but rather as a natural part of life's journey. In conclusion, relationships are complex and multifaceted, and it's essential to embrace their evolving nature rather than adhering to rigid societal expectations. We should strive to find fulfillment and happiness in our relationships, regardless of their length or form.

    • Friendship growthFriendships are about the journey and moments shared, not the length of the connection. Communication is crucial for enhancing relationships and expressing needs.

      Friendships and relationships, much like sexual intimacy, are about the journey and the happiness experienced along the way, rather than the length of the connection. Friends may come and go, but the importance lies in the moments shared and the growth that comes from those experiences. Communication is key in enhancing relationships, as none of us can read each other's minds. It's essential to find a way to express our needs and desires, and be open to doing things differently when necessary. According to research, popular days for expressing intimacy include Valentine's Day and birthdays, possibly due to societal expectations or the desire to celebrate special occasions. Ultimately, it's essential to make informed choices and prioritize open communication in all aspects of life.

    • Sexual Wellness PodcastsNormalizing conversations around sex through expert-led discussions on various topics in podcasts like 'The Sexual Wellness Sessions' can potentially reduce the need for therapy sessions.

      The podcast "The Sexual Wellness Sessions" aims to reduce the need for therapy sessions by normalizing conversations around sex through expert-led discussions on various topics. Hosted by a therapist, each episode delves deep into a specific area of sexual wellness, from desire and infertility to stress and grief. Listeners are encouraged to check out the podcast and follow for access to exclusive content and early episode releases. The podcast's mission is to make these conversations more accessible and less stigmatized, potentially reducing the number of people seeking therapy for sexual issues.

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