Race, Class, and Sisterhood: Minding your mental health while advocating for social justice with Ashley Oken

The Courage To BE….

Who AM I?  

Am I Brave?

Am I Beautiful?

Am I Enough?

Am I ever going to lose those last 10lbs? 

 

As women, we continuously question our I AM and often find it challenging to embrace our BEING. We often put our trauma and pain on the shelf and abandon our mental wellness for the sake of the misguided programming of our youth that taught us that honoring our strength made us boastful and sacred self-care was selfish. 

 

When we are very young, each of us is programmed with beliefs about our worth, potential, and identity. These beliefs form our self-image.

 

Our self-image is simply the image we hold of ourselves. If we view ourselves highly and healthily, we're more likely to believe we can be, do, and have more in our lives.

 

And consequently, those beliefs translate into our actions. And our results.

 

In other words, people who have a healthy self-image end up being, doing, and having more in their lives.

 

On the other hand, if we have a low view of ourselves, we might think of ourselves as simply victims of our circumstances.

 

So, here we are, looking outside of ourselves for the answers that are found within.

 

So, here we are, looking for the Courage to BE, the best version of ourselves. 

 

So here we are, wondering HOW to make the SHIFT … Let's Talk.

“There is no perfection, only beautiful versions of brokenness.” ― Shannon L. Alder

Perfection is a matter of perspective. In this episode I share how one comment "you show up to perfect" sent me on a deeper self-discovery on my perception of who I AM not based on what others see but rooted in what I know. 

What myth's about perfection do you currently hold?

 

This season of Walking Through Glass is all about quieting the inner critic “heffa” that stops you from living your best life. If you want to quiet those negative voices and remove your limited beliefs you have to have some tough conversations with yourself. Those conversations are going to take courage and confidence. Don’t worry, I got your back. This season is all about building confidence, maintaining courage even in tough situations, and owning your I AM story.

Download my free eBook Imposter Syndrome: What It is and How to Overcome It

You cannot rise above the image you have for yourself.  Your image is controlled by a mental blueprint we have inside our subconscious mind, and it dictates WHERE we think we belong. I call my subconscious voice “Heffa”, do you have a name for yours?

The Heffa has saved me from making a few horrible decision, like not going on a 2nd date with the creep who wanted to date my breast not me. But she has also interfered with me pursuing my dreams; She whispers things like “ WHO do you think you are?” “ARE you sure you can do that by yourself?” oh, the best one yet is “Remember the last time you tried that and failed.” She doesn’t stop. She is always talking to me so I had learned to TALK BACK to HER. What I did was make the unconscious conscious and fight HEFFA on my territory; the conscious now.

Have I always done things right  — NO — will I spend the rest of my life ruminating about things I cannot change - NO - Can I script a new narrative aligned to WHO I AM NOW — absolutely!

Owning your I AM story is the key to creating a positive self- image.

We are all on the same journey although we may take different paths. I have some questions  Where are you now? Think about what is working for you and what isn’t .. what is pleasing, what is frustrating .. different areas of your life .. where can you grow .. where are you doing well .. are you doing your best .. what’s your biggest challenge right now .. what’s your biggest asset right now?

Think about all the reasons for your successes and failures. Where are you stuck .. why are you stuck? Where did you win .. why did you win? Where are you stagnating .. why are you stagnating? Where you happy .. why are you happy? Where are you hurting .. why are you hurting? Where do you have hope .. why do you have hope? Where do you feel hopeless .. why do you feel hopeless?

This season of Walking Through Glass is all about quieting the inner critic “heffa” that stops you from living your best life. If you want to quiet those negative voices and remove your limited beliefs you have to have some tough conversations with yourself. Those conversations are going to take courage and confidence. Don’t worry, I got your back. This season is all about building confidence, maintaining courage even in tough situations, and owning your I AM story.

I would like to leave you with a golden nugget to help you finish 2020 strong. Spend some time learning WHO YOU REALLY ARE and unlearn who “they” told you to be or what your circumstances and situations made you believe about yourself. Make the unconscious conscious by having a real conversation with your fears, question your emotions, and interview your feelings. Find time to get quiet this week and love on yourself. Write down ONE thing today that you love about YOU … the real you. I believe in you and challenge you to HOLD YOUR IMAGE.

Download my free ebook Imposter Syndrome: What it Is and How to Overcome it at https://bit.ly/ImposterSyndromeeBook2020

 

Walking Through Glass: The Podcast is your gateway to authentic conversations, systems, and strategic tools to build confidence, control negative self-talk, and lead authentically.

This podcast is a little bit storytelling and a lotta bit get your ‘ish together to lead like the BOSS DIVA you are. New episodes will post every Monday to help get your week started off to an EMPOWERING start.

You will be challenged to stop focusing on things that you are not and OWN your I AM story.

You will be expected to stop fussing over perceived flaws.

You will be celebrated for removing all imposed and unbelievable expectations on yourself.

You will learn to celebrate yourself more and focus on ALL that you are by owning your AWESOME.

You will know that you are more than ENOUGH and everything that you need to be the best version of you is already inside of you.

You will be INSPIRED to live your best life TODAY.

P.S.  If you have a story to share or a topic you would like covered please reach out by sending an email to admin@leadhershiftmovement.com.

"When I think of walking through glass is not necessarily like busting through glass. It's really walking with who you are, to the core of your being, it's when I think of walking through glass it's almost like walking with yourself in that mirror sense so the glass for me is a mirror, and it can change daily really when you're walking through glass when you're walking next to glass but really when it comes down to it for me is I envision dirty dusty glass that you've cleaned off, and when I really get that glass clean even if it is just in one spot of an area and I take a step back and I look at it I could see my reflection. So it's really standing with that reflection of myself and seeing what is on the other side of that glass, and knowing that that's where I want to get to. And while that glass may seem like a barrier. It's something that I need to learn to walk with to get through to the other side of who I really am." Marisa Bailey

 

Welcome to Walking Through Glass: The Podcast.

 

You are invited to ear-hustle in an intimate conversation where we discuss our journey, joys, and diva "hacks" that help us “walk through glass”.

Unscripted and Real.

 

We share our stories and give you our best strategies to navigate fear, anxiety, depression, limited beliefs, negative self-talk, and shut up the imposter bully beating up our self-confidence.

 

Walking Through Glass: The Podcast is about the struggle we face as women on our journey which I’ve coined "walking through glass".

 

This podcast is all about telling our stories and LEARNING to live our authentic TRUTH.

 

Please join me in welcoming special guest Marisa Bailey.

Marisa is the CEO and Founder of Marisa Bailey Coaching. She is a certified Authentic Leadership Coaching, trained and certified in Emotional Intelligence and has an extensive professional experience building and leading teams, business development and process optimization. She is personally fascinated and continues to educate herself on the science of the brain, psychology, and the science of well-being.  Marisa works with coaches in consultants to help them confidently build and scale a business based on the foundation of their core values.

 

Her approach includes value identification, vision embodiment, and aligned strategy. She believes when all 3 fundamentals are centered, we all have the ability to create a life and business full of abundance, fulfillment, and integrity.

 

She is here to help you unravel your limiting beliefs through mindset coaching and create an unshakable business foundation through aligned strategy. Simply said, she is the person you hire when you are tired of wishing and waiting and ready to start being all you are meant to be.

 

Please LIKE, TELL A FRIEND, and REVIEW Walking Through Glass: The Podcast on Apple Podcast. Thanks in advance.

 

Link Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/walking-through-glass-the-podcast/id1454527119 

 

Guest Inquiries: waywithwordmedia@gmail.com

Social Media Instagram/Twitter: @drdeenaspeaks

"try your best to find find three sources, find three sources to get your news and I know that's difficult to do it every single day but I would try and I would try to find a source that is one opinion a source that has another opinion and a source that's just straight down the middle ... I think, a great way to become aware about social issues like racial injustice is that you become more aware." 

Welcome to Walking Through Glass: The Podcast.

WE had a powerful conversation about Race, Class, and Sisterhood. You are invited to ear-hustle in an intimate conversation where we discuss our journey, joys, and diva "hacks" that help us “walk through glass”.

Unscripted and Real.

We share our stories and give you our best strategies to navigate fear, anxiety, depression, limited beliefs, negative self-talk, and shut up the imposter bully beating up our self-confidence.

Walking Through Glass: The Podcast is about the struggle we face as women on our journey which I’ve coined "walking through glass".

This podcast is all about telling our stories and LEARNING to live our authentic TRUTH.

Please join me in welcoming special guest Natalie Newport.

Meet Natalie

I’m Natalie Newport, and I’m a 29-year-old white woman who still needs to figure my sh!t out. I don’t just mean doing my taxes without the assistance of TurboTax – I mean holding myself and others accountable to learning more about our white/straight/cis/thin privilege and being an intersectional feminist. I grew up in Tulsa, Oklahoma, so you can’t convince me that our country hasn’t been ignoring racial inequality for generations. Currently, I live in Pittsburgh and I moved for my career at the time - working in news. I started in local news Tulsa and moved to national news. I’ve been in the middle of protests before and after Trump was elected. If I can help give voices those who are marginalized/disenfranchised, then I should. Period. That’s my goal in life. 

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Extend the Conversation: Join us for our monthly Racial Literacy for Leaders Roundtable the first Tuesday of the month to engage in authentic conversations and learn strategies for leading a diverse and inclusive environment. Register here https://bit.ly/racialliteracyforleaders

Next session August 4, 2020

"I know I can get in my own way, with doubting the work that God called me to do you know doubting that he called me to do it, doubting that I am capable of doing those things and really standing firm on that word that says, you know, those that are called. Also, equipped. And you know it's a lot easier said than done, but I feel that sometimes, I can be my own glass, and that I'm second guessing you know myself second guessing my abilities, and also procrastinating, you know, that's me myself being the glass procrastinating not prioritizing and putting forth the putting time constraints or time restraints around those different things that I'm assigned to or the different obligations that I have. So I would say that more so than anything else. I can be my own glass and I'm probably my piece of glass." Te'retta Hall.

Welcome to Walking Through Glass: The Podcast.

You are invited to ear-hustle in an intimate conversation where we discuss our journey, joys, and diva "hacks" that help us “walk through glass”.

Unscripted and Real.

We share our stories and give you our best strategies to navigate fear, anxiety, depression, limited beliefs, negative self-talk, and shut up the imposter bully beating up our self-confidence.

Walking Through Glass: The Podcast is about the struggle we face as women on our journey which I’ve coined "walking through glass".

This podcast is all about telling our stories and LEARNING to live our authentic TRUTH.

Please join me in welcoming special guest Te'retta Hall.

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"What do I want the listeners to know about me. I am a person contending for a better world. And I'm passionate about justice, about humanity, about important conversations and how we engage them better, because I think that there is definitely. There's, there's something missing there in in a lot of conversations today. So yeah, I'm a writer a podcaster a mother I homeschool children I have a child with complex medical needs. Yeah, I'm just kind of a little bit of everything." Jen Kinney 

Welcome to Walking Through Glass: The Podcast.

You are invited to ear-hustle in an intimate conversation where we discuss our journey, joys, and diva "hacks" that help us “walk through glass”.

Unscripted and Real.

We share our stories and give you our best strategies to navigate fear, anxiety, depression, limited beliefs, negative self-talk, and shut up the imposter bully beating up our self-confidence.

Walking Through Glass: The Podcast is about the struggle we face as women on our journey which I’ve coined "walking through glass".

This podcast is all about telling our stories and LEARNING to live our authentic TRUTH.

Please join me in welcoming special guest Jen Kinney.

Meet Jen Kinney

Jen Kinney is a writer, podcaster, and speaker.  After living abroad in Shanghai, China with her husband and children for years, she returned to a country that felt more divided than ever. Since then she has become a passionate advocate for building bridges through brave and difficult conversations, and an advocate for the every day person’s power to create change in the world. She is the co-host of Speaking of Racism Podcast and the founder of Food For Thought Dinner Parties.

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"It's just, it's a matter of steering people to the right things, like you said, it's about doing what you feel like you can do without overextending yourself like I feel a lot of people have been getting into this space where people, they're so focused on educating people which is great, but you have to take care of herself, too. And I think a lot of us are forgetting about that. I certainly have, in the midst of all this." Ashley Oken

Welcome to Walking Through Glass: The Podcast.

You are invited to ear-hustle in an intimate conversation where we discuss our journey, joys, and diva "hacks" that help us “walk through glass”.

Unscripted and Real.

We share our stories and give you our best strategies to navigate fear, anxiety, depression, limited beliefs, negative self-talk, and shut up the imposter bully beating up our self-confidence.

Walking Through Glass: The Podcast is about the struggle we face as women on our journey which I’ve coined "walking through glass".

This podcast is all about telling our stories and LEARNING to live our authentic TRUTH.

Please join me in welcoming special guest Ashley Oken.

Ashley describes herself as journalist with big hair and a kind heart forever wanting the Mets to win a World Series and thinking MGK won the feud with Eminem.

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Open Invitation for Race, Class, and Sisterhood Series

Book Here 👉🏽https://DrDeenaBrown.as.me/raceclassandsisterhood

"finding that courage and self love to be able to get myself out of the relationship. And it almost felt like me detaching from a whole identity. And so I felt like pulling away from this individual that I was so connected to for years. It felt like there was so many pieces of me that was so intertwined with that person's identity that I didn't know what was him, or what was me, and I had to redefine who I was. That took some time, I had to hit rock bottom which is not a bad thing I was talking to a few people and I tell them all the time, hitting rock bottom is the best thing because there's only one way up, and that is up." Malika Pegues 

Welcome to Walking Through Glass: The Podcast.

You are invited to ear-hustle in on an intimate conversation where we discuss our journey, joys, and diva "hacks" that help us “walk through glass”.

Unscripted and Real.

We share our stories and give you our best strategies to navigate fear, anxiety, depression, limited beliefs, negative self-talk, and shut up the imposter bully beating up our self-confidence.

Walking Through Glass: The Podcast is about the struggle we face as women on our journey which I’ve coined "walking through glass".

This podcast is all about telling our stories and LEARNING to live our authentic TRUTH.

Please join me in welcoming special guest Malika Pegues.

Malika Pegues, also known as “The Unstoppable Mom” is a United States Air Force Veteran, Mother, Student, and an upcoming motivational speaker that focuses on the challenges of motherhood by primarily campaigning Mental Health Awareness . While raising three daughters as a single mother, Malika advocates Domestic Violence Prevention and Woman Empowerment. Originally from New York City, Malika earned her associates degree at The City University of New York Queensborough Community College primarily concentrating on the study of Psychology and is currently in pursuit of her Bachelors degree at CUNY Queens College studying Neuroscience and Therapeutic Recreation.

Please LIKE, TELL A FRIEND, and REVIEW Walking Through Glass: The Podcast on Apple Podcast. Thanks in advance.

Link Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/walking-through-glass-the-podcast/id1454527119

Guest Inquiries: waywithwordmedia@gmail.com

Social Media Instagram/Twitter: @drdeenaspeaks

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