Relating to Self - Ayah

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 26 November 2023, the wonderful Suvarchala (S02E15) comes back to ask me questions about how I relate to myself.

Topics mentioned in the episode:

• The story of who I was 10 years ago and my first identity dissolution
• When I achieve my goals and I am not happy, what's next?
• The questions that drive me today
• The experiences that have defined me
• How these stories changed my relationship to myself and my romantic relationships
• Talking to my inner parts, what does that look like?
• The influence of parts work on the rest of my life
• The layer cake of "me" and the importance of compassion
• Attuning to aliveness and surrendering
• Healing the wounds of my lineage
• The healing modalities I have used or discovered
• My thoughts on love and romantic relationships (don't miss this!)
• The kind of lover I want to call in right now
• Being seen, poetry, love, compassion
• My process of relating and coming to truthfulness
• Healthy boundaries and consent (don't miss this either!)
• And a lot more...

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In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 25 September 2023, the amazing Bryan Kam (S03:E03) comes back to ask me questions about how I relate to myself.

Topics mentioned in the episode:

• How I relate to myself now, as opposed to a year ago
• The power of collective practices
• The shift from the mind to the body when it comes to the question "what am I?"
• Doing relating to self work in held spaces for other practices
• Being a fully empowered being with agency
• Sex-positive events - consent culture - not judging my own desires
• What "spirituality" means to me
• Letting go of what doesn't serve me
• Relating to Self with others
• My intention of offering retreats - accepting that I am a guide and teacher
• "Becoming who I am"
• The mind as a hall of mirrors - letting the body do its thing
• The role of other living things in my neighborhood - meta-consciousness
• Resistance coming from the mind, not the body
• The need for new stories - mythmaking - how to speak about what I want to do
• Relating to Self - singing polyphony - entrepreneurship
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In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 27 April 2023, I have a conversation with Nathan Vanderpool, a father, a seeker, an artist. Someone who's striving to grow. who suffers. who gets petty. who feels overwhelmed. who relaxes. who opens. who connects.

Topics mentioned in the episode:

• Embracing Despair: Finding Meaning in Difficult Emotions
• Internal Family Systems: Releasing Tensions in the Body
• The Impact of Meditation on Wellbeing
• Refraining from Labeling Experiences as Good or Bad
• Building Different Aspects of Oneself
• Surrender and Acceptance
• The Importance of Flexibility in Response
• Understanding Life through Experience
• The Practice of Self-Improvement
• The Self as a Collection of Parts
• Loneliness and Its Relation to Self
• Cultivating Range in Response to Situations

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In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 24 April 2023, I have a conversation with Richard, a consultant, Sandboxer, and improvisation-enthusiast. 

Topics mentioned in the episode:

• The Impact of Language on Perception
• Consistency of Social Interactions during COVID Lockdown
• Introspective Relationship with Oneself Influenced by Interactions with Others
• Altering Internal Dialogue to Promote Positivity
• Advocating for Precise Language to Enhance Emotional Experiences
• Transmitting Personal Meanings When Words Are Interpreted Differently
• Accepting Impermanence and Cherishing the Present
• Embracing Different Versions of Oneself Daily
• Using Improv as a Mirror for Self-Discovery
• Stepping Out of Default Behaviors
• Shifting Towards Appreciating One’s Current Situation
• Living a Resilient and Sustainable Life Through Self-Acceptance and Behavioral Change

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In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 23 April 2023, I have a conversation with Anne-Lorraine, who really likes to thoroughly enjoy food to the last corner of possible experience. And who is increasingly less shy to call herself a poet.

She is also the creator of Touchcards, a wonderful game to explore touch.

You can follow her on Twitter/X.

Topics mentioned in the episode:

• The evolving nature of the self
• The impact of depression on self-perception
• Choosing the right posture for each moment
• Coping mechanisms for overwhelming emotions
• Intergenerational trauma
• Embracing intuition
• Surrendering into a different reality
• Experiencing the body through the senses
• Therapeutic modalities
• Balancing being and doing
• Skepticism about energy work
• Allowing creativity to arise naturally

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In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 17 April 2023, I have a conversation with Jessica, whose mission is to empower women as a purpose coach.

You can find Jessica on Instagram.

Topics mentioned in the episode:

• Embracing the Self as a Community of Parts
• The Healing Power of Writing One’s Life Story
• Transformative Journeys Through Writing
• Inspiring Others Through Our Personal Story
• Commitment Despite Challenges
• Rewards of the Writing Process
• Self-Compassion and Personal Development
• The Cathartic Experience of Writing
• The Significance of Embracing Various Aspects of Self
• The Impact of Self-Compassion on Personal Growth
• Exploring the Concept of Internal Supportive Parts

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In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 17 April 2023, I have a conversation with Dave, a minimalist nomad who has built a journaling business.

You can find Dave on Instagram.

Topics mentioned in the episode:

• vulnerability and following initial impulses
• learned behaviors, shame, and jealousy
• cravings and desires in life
• the connection between repressed aspects of oneself and shame
• gut bacteria and cravings
• internal family systems
• journaling as a reflective practice
• revisiting thoughts over time
• setting personal goals
• daily affirmations
• celebrating personal successes
• impact of AI advancements on understanding consciousness and impulses

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In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on April 12, 2023, I have a conversation with Steven Emery. Steven is an intuitive artist and product manager.

You can find Steven's website here, and you can follow him on X/Twitter.

Topics mentioned in the episode:

• The self as a group of individuals
• Journaling for self-discovery
• Art as a reflection of identity
• Music’s tension and release mirroring self-acceptance
• Anxiety’s impact on creativity
• Embracing anxiety as a motivator
• Silence and nonverbal communication in art
• Establishing personal boundaries in relationships
• Responsibility for one’s experiences
• Meditative journaling for managing anxiety
• The journey to inner peace and its ongoing nature

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In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Will Curran. Will wears many hats and seems to have grown up with a healthy sense of self. How will that translate to how he relates to himself?

You can find Will's website here.

Topics mentioned in the episode:

• Embracing self-love and awareness
• The role of music as a personal sanctuary
• Childhood influences on appreciation for silence
• Church as a structure for meditation habits
• Spiritual practices shaped by inspirational figures
• Learning from the experience of school expulsion
• The impact of positive self-talk on mindset
• The power of vocalizing thoughts for change
• The art of being present in conversations
• Transitioning from introversion to extroversion
• Navigating the blend of personal and professional selves
• Adapting to remote work and self-reinvention

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In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 8 April 2023, I have a conversation with Imma, a sommelier who is inviting people to live in conversations.

You can connect with Imma through her linktree.

Topics mentioned in the episode:

• Self as a Construct: Imma views the self as a construct defined through relationships with others and the environment.
• Sensory Experiences: the role of touch and other senses as essential for understanding and interacting with the world.
• Influence of Microorganisms: how gut bacteria and other organisms may influence our decisions and sense of self.
• Consciousness in Winemaking: yeast and its potential inherent intelligence in the winemaking process.
• Non-Human Intelligence: challenges in recognizing the consciousness and intelligence of plants and fungi.
• Childhood Curiosity: Imma’s early fascination with nature shaped her view of humans as part of an ecosystem.
• The Role of Attention: how attention shapes the relationship with the self and the perception of the environment.
• Children’s Perspectives: the value of the unfiltered perspectives children have on their sensory experiences.
• Importance of Place: Imma’s experience of living in one place for 13 years and how it formed her understanding of self.
• Subjective Labeling of Experiences: how the mind categorizes experiences as good or bad, including personal likes and dislikes.

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