S1 E8 Unlock Black Men’s Healing Power in Safe Community Spaces | Dr. Obari Cartman | Balin A. Durr, MD

Healing can be challenging, but it’s oh so necessary to live a happy, fulfilled life. My special guest, Portia Carney, MBA, entrepreneur, and veteran appears on the reoccurring segment, Unapologetically Real for a down-to-earth, candid, fun conversation about taking responsibility to do her healing work so that no trigger prospers, unfolding versus becoming, discovering self-love and self-acceptance, and improving her relationships with compassion and deep listening.

“When you heal your mind, all things are possible!” ~ Balin A, Durr, MD 

https://www.facebook.com/thanku12

Website: balinadurrmd.com 

#healingjourney #mentalhealth #empowerment #DDLSS #KnowThySelf #courage #extraordinary #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mentalwealth #transformation #healing #children #DarkParts #selfcare #selflove #veteran #Goddess #success #successmindset #inspiration #motivation #growth #mindset #mindbodymedicine #mindbodyspirit #selfhelp #mentalwellness #relationships #compassion #selfworth #selfempowerment #deeplistening #health #psychiatry #spiritualhealing #straighttalk #realtalk #personaldevelopment #personalgrowth #personalresponsibility #God #godly #peace #abundance #entrepreneur #achieve #potential #nowyouknow #fixmylife #truthlessons #help #helpvideo #psychology #blackdoctor #blackgirlmagic #motherlywisdom #blackwisdom

Racism has a profound negative impact upon our mental and physical health. It affects children and adults, leading to illnesses like diabetes, high blood pressure, and an increased the risk of cancer. 

With my special guest, LaMarr Darnell Shields, PhD, the Founder and Senior Director of Education and Innovation at the Cambio Group, and former professor at the Johns Hopkins School of Education, we discuss:
> racism’s harmful impact upon children’s development and mental health, 
> how racism alters our genes and causes illness in adults and children, 
> how mindfulness decreases implicit bias and overeating, 
> how meditation and mindfulness connect you to your deeper sacred self and the sacred in everything, enabling you to counteract the life-threatening health effects of racism. 

5-Minute Meditation to Counteract Stress's Harmful Health Effects: https://youtu.be/ER-x3anugSM
Meditation and mindfulness can literally save your life!   

#meditation #mindfulness #mentalhealth #awareness #brainhealth #selfcare #blackchildren #education #BlackHistoryMonth #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthawareness #DDLSS #DrDurrLivingInTheSweetSpot #DEI #epigenetics #blackwomen #blackmen #stress #stressrelief #inflammation #cortisol #microaggression #adversechildhoodexperiences #teachingstrategies #BlackLivesMatter #mentalwealth #empowerment #racialequality #discrimination #mindbodyspirit #socialjustice #racismandmentalhealth #bethechange #resilience #personaldevelopment 

Typically, men don’t want help for mental health problems due to stigma; and for those who want help, it can take months to get in to be seen by someone. So, what are they supposed to do in the meantime? 

With my special guest, Dr. Obari Cartman, PhD, a psychologist and author, we discuss:

• taking therapy to black men where they are in the community
• transforming their familiar, safe spaces to healing spaces that engage them more deeply, facilitate their healing, and connect them with others
• utilizing the familiar in order to remember their Infinite potential, regain pride in their racial and cultural identities, recover their power, and demonstrate their innate brilliance. 

#blackmen #blackmentalhealth #mentalhealth #safespace #blackmentalhealthmatters #blackhistorymonth #empowerment #DDLSS #blackhealth #blackhealthmatters #blackman #man #therapy #wellness #blackwellness #blackpower #power #blackmenshealth #africanamerican #blacklivesmatter #blackexcellence #emotionalwellness #black #melanin #blackpeople #blackboyjoy #blackculture #blackisbeautiful #blackhealing #blackpride #blm #explorepage #Healingjourney #explore #deeplistening #mentalwealth #PersonalGrowth #Inspiration #blackdoctors #psychology 

The divorce rate in the U.S. is still greater than 50% for first marriages and greater than 70% for third marriages. While divorce is painful and may bring up feelings of loss and grief for some, it’s a train wreck for others!

My special guest, Cherice N. Carter, CDC aka the Divorce Coach, discusses approaches and tools to navigate this oftentimes difficult process in a way that leaves everyone feeling as safe and whole as possible. So, while you might not get through divorce unscathed, divorce doesn’t have to suck!

#divorce #divorced #mentalhealth #DDLSS #DrDurrsLivingInTheSweetSpot #divorcesupport #divorceadvice #divorcecommunity #divorcehelp #divorcelife #divorcetips #divorcecoach #loveafterloss #secondchanceatlove #liveafterdivorce #divorcerecovery #movingon #movingforward #loss #grief #parenting #parentingtips #communication #commitment #relationship #relationships #relationshipadvice #forgiveness #empowerment #resilience #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #accountability #love #blacklove #therapy 

It’s tough to win the game when you don’t know what the game is or what the rules are. You can succeed despite barriers and setbacks when you know the rules and have the right mindset and tools. 

My special guest, Frank Goss III, an entrepreneur, executive producer of the Bronzeville Neighborhood Jazz Festival, award-winning documentary director, and former international banker discusses evolving expressions of your Infinite Potential, refusing to give up even in the face of adversity and failure, redefining your failures to fuel your success, and the importance of relationship management to access opportunities and achieve personal and financial success. Also, discover how you are always successful! 

#success #mindset #entrepreneur #business #entrepreneurship #entrepreneurmindset #DDLSS #DrDurrsLivingInTheSweetSpot #successmindset #mindsetmatters #mindsetiseverything #motivation #NextLevelMindset #NextLevel #mentalhealth #mentalwealth #brainhealth #healthy #inspiration #empowerment #motivation #BronzevilleNeighborhoodJazzFestival #personaldevelopment #businessowner #network #networking #relationships #growthmindset #successfulmindset #listening #Believe #inspirational #life #motivations #positivity #positivevibes #positive #motivationalspeaker #thoughts #inspire

The history of African-Americans is complex, nuanced, rich and full—one of courage, strength, and resilience side by side an ugly, painful history of a proud, diverse people’s unyielding struggle for liberation against the yoke of inhumanity. Our resistance and refusal to submit to oppression beckon us to embrace black history as a journey of power over pain.

Dr. Obari Cartman, a psychologist and author, discusses the importance of which black history narrative we tell, the perspective from which we tell it, and the intention to share the power of blackness in our chosen stories that empowers listeners. Expand your mental perspective, and celebrate the power, strength, resilience, and achievements of the African-American community found in an empowered black history narrative. 

#blackhistorymonth #PainOverPower #empowerment #mentalhealth #DDLSS #blackhistory #freedom #resilience #blackpower #power #resistance #narrative #redemption #africanamerican #blacklivesmatter #blackexcellence #emotionalwellness #black #OvercomingAdversity #blackpeople #blackgirlmagic #blackculture #blackmen #blackisbeautiful #explorepage #blackpride #blm #Healingjourney #explore #history #mentalwealth #PersonalGrowth #StrengthInStruggle #SelfEmpowerment #Inspiration #SocialJustice #RacialEquality 

Loss is a part of the human condition, and grief can occur around any kind of loss, not just the loss of a loved one. So, why do we have so much difficulty accepting death, even when we know it’s expected from an existing illness, even though we know everyone dies. Why are so many stuck in grief? 

Lyn Prashant, PhD is CEO and Founder of Integrative Grief Therapy. In the Art of Degriefing Part 2, Dr. Prashant and I discuss non-death losses and approaches to transform your grief and get unstuck. Again, according to Dr. Prashant, "Love is not the reason we grieve... IT'S ATTACHMENT."

Learn: 
• What are non-death losses? How are children and adolescents affected differently than the elderly?
• Your heart knows in addition to feeling. What are embodied losses? How are they experienced in the body? 
• Why Life’s temporary existence makes it a constant “catch-and-release” of what was in order to embrace what is. 
• Everyone dies. So, why do we go into shock about expected deaths?
• Grief about divorce is really grieving the loss of the fantasy of the marriage
• How do we learn self-care in a world full of loss? 
• Solastalgia – How global grief exacerbates personal loss/grief?
• How the energy of chronic, negative thoughts and feelings including grief becomes physical illness?
• A variety of approaches to transform your grief including: integrative mind-body therapies, self-skillful questioning, self-compassion, and self-care. 
• Elisabeth Kubler Ross’ 5 Stages of grief is for people confronting their own mortality, not loved one’s mortality 


#DDLSS #DrDurrsLivingInTheSweetSpot #Degriefing #LynPrashant #grief #mourning #mentalhealth #mindbodyconnection #mindbodyspirit #attachment #acceptance #mind #mindfulness #healing #healingjourney #love #MedEd #thanatology #thanatologypsychology #integrativetherapies #divorce #selfcare #selfcompassion #consciousdying #relationships #empowerment #personaldevelopment #spirituality #COVID19socialisolation #activelistening #metacommunication #solistalgia #EMDR #integrativetherapies

There is a spiraling crisis of African-American male teachers and students in this country. African-American boys and young men are suspended and expelled at much higher rates than their peers of other races, and up to 50% of children expelled from preschool are African-American boys, even though they’re only 20% of the students. 

My special guest, Lamarr Darnell Shields, PhD, the Founder and Senior Director of Education and Innovation at the Cambio Group, and former professor at the Johns Hopkins School of Education discusses this shocking trend, causes, and solutions that help African-American boys and young men express their brilliance, including the necessity of recruiting and retaining African-American male teachers.

Learn: 

•How the game is designed for black and brown people to lose
•About the devastating impact upon African-American boys’ future when they don’t learn to read by the end of 2nd grade
•How educational approaches are designed for girls’ learning styles, causing boys to be treated as defective girls
•Boys don’t need fixing! Move away from fixing boys to fostering resiliency
•Effective communication for boys involves helping them develop an emotional vocabulary and giving them simple, straight-forward bullet point instructions, not complex, layered instructions
•What is turning boys off and tuning them out? 
•10 Successful Strategies for teachers and parents to engage black and brown boys before psychological, spiritual, and physical suicide. 
•About the necessity of African-American male teachers as role models because boys can’t become what they don’t identify with and because of the significant improvement in African-American boys’ success 
•How chronic stress including from racism and discrimination causes illness

#blackboys #education #BlackHistoryMonth #mentalhealth #DDLSS #DrDurrLivingInTheSweetSpot #DrJawanzaKunjufu #saveoursons #blackchildren #blackmaleteachers #teachingstrategies #BlackLivesMatter #mentalwealth #empowerment #psychology #confidence #humanity #racialequality #mindbodyspirt #trashtalking #racismandmentalhealth #stressrelief #success #rolemodels #resilience #personaldevelopment #rosesandthorns #mindfulness #meditation 

So many of us have suffered all kinds of loss (i.e. loved ones, relationships, jobs, money, homes, innocence) throughout our lives, some of which knocked us on our butts! 

Lyn Prashant, PhD is CEO and Founder of Integrative Grief Therapy. In the Art of Degriefing Part 1, Dr. Prashant and I discuss grief and reframing it to aid your healing. According to Dr. Prashant, "Love is not the reason we grieve... IT'S ATTACHMENT. We don’t get over loss. We change our relationship to it."

Learn: 
• How grief is the most available, yet most untapped emotional resource for personal transformational
• Why Life’s temporary existence makes it a constant “catch-and-release” of what was in order to embrace what is.
• How we can use the mind to help heal our heart through the mind-body connections
• The importance of curiosity and asking questions in your healing
• What are the causes of our struggle with grief?
• What’s the difference between primary and secondary loss? 
• Why the body is the barometer of our truth?
• Why heartbreak has to do with attachment?
• How COVID-19 pandemic isolation created new age losses? 
• What is conscious dying? 
• How culture mis-applies Elisabeth Kubler Ross’ 5 Stages of grief? 

#DDLSS #DrDurrsLivingInTheSweetSpot #Degriefing #LynPrashant #grief #mourning #mentalhealth #mindbodyconnection #mindbodyspirit #attachment #acceptance #mind #mindfulness #healing #healingjourney #love #MedEd #thanatology #thanatologypsychology #change #selfcare #consciousdying #relationships #chakras #yogicprinciples #empaths #stressrelief #wisdom #empowerment #personaldevelopment

Each and every one of us want to matter! We want to be seen for who we truly are, and we want to be heard. When we feel invisible, it’s painful! We tell our stories in an effort to be understood, to be valued, to know that we matter. We tell the story of our loved ones and the society for the same reasons and to leave a legacy of our values, standards, accomplishments, hope, and resiliency for the inevitable hard times and losses. Storytelling enables us to see ourselves in each other. Through this bridge of connection and understanding, we can overcome differences, transcend indifference, and see our shared humanity. 

My special guest, John W. Fountain, an award-winning columnist, journalist, professor of journalism, a 2021-22 Fulbright Scholar, and publisher of five books, the latest, “One in a Million: Diary of a Freed Black Journalist” discusses:

·         The Black church’s influence on his development as a storyteller

·         The significant impact of our stories upon those who hear them and its generational legacy 

·         His motivation to write stemmed in part from the false perceptions and narratives about African-American men

·         The importance of speaking your authentic truth and maintaining your perspective

·         Storytelling is one of the most effective ways to make visible the humanity of the marginalized or “those who linger in the shadows” 

·         The need to tell our stories when mainstream media remains silent

·         Writing tips for beginners including accepting your writing imperfections 

“Write your story. Tell your story because no one is more qualified to tell your story than you are. Tell your story.” ~ John W. Fountain 

#DDLSS #DrDurrLivingInTheSweetSpot #storytelling #YouMatter #YourStoryMatters #writingtips #sharedhumanity #humanity #journalism #blackjournalist #blackjournalism #God #BlackChurch #COGIC #spirituality #mentalhealth #mentalwealth #mindbodyspirit #socialjustice ##racialequity #legacy #wellnessexpert #transformation #personaldevelopment #humanpotential #motivation #empowerment #growthmindset