Sexual Communication Tips with Dr. Tara

Join us for the final episode of Season 4 while I take a break for a while and you have time to catch up on all the past episodes you may have missed. While you’re here a HUGE request to please leave us a rating and review on Apple – your reviews make such a difference to our visibility and viability to return with even more episodes. To remain ad free and bullshit free – your support REALLY matters

Now this episode’s guest...someone whose internet presence is as witty and acerbic as it is compassionate and insightful. Known online for his love of cats, Satan and horror films, Dr. Eric Sprankle ushers in the new wave of academia and sexology for a new generation.

Dr. Eric Sprankle is a Professor of Clinical Psychology at Minnesota State University, Mankato where he is also the co-founder and co-director of the Sexuality Studies program. Dr. Sprankle received his doctorate in clinical psychology from Xavier University and completed a postdoctoral fellowship at the University of Minnesota Medical School's Program in Human Sexuality. His current research focuses on the intersections of sexuality, stigma, and Satanism. His first book, DIY: The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation will be published late 2023.

In this interview we dive into the history of masturbation, (did you even know masturbation had a history??) and we'll talk about some of the ways masturbation is both lauded and misunderstood, and often blamed for the many ills of the world. Out of the closet and into the open, masturbation for many of us is our first erotic experience and certainly our longest term sexual partner, so, let’s talk about it like it matters.

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Today's guest is Kate Loree, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities and the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships. She cohosts her own sex-positive podcast, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron.

In this episode Kate and I dig into the work of intimate relationships and she offers insight into how we can show up better in our relationships. We look at how to manage triggers during communication, what to do when a situation feels dire and hopeless and how attachment injuries impact non-monogamy.

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This week is Cuckweek! Who knew? - not me until I recorded this interview with Dr. David Ley, someone whose work I have followed for many years and indeed the world's foremost expert into the world of cukolding, hot wife-ing and the impact of religonn on human sexuality.

Dr David Ley is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist and author, based in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He's the author of several books and research articles on sexuality, including his first book, Insatiable Wives, Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them, known as the “Bible of Cuckolding.” With Justin Lehmiller and columnist Dan Savage, Dr. Ley published the first empirical research on cuckolding. Dr. Ley is a frequent guest in media around the world, with appearances in sources such as the New York Times, CNN and Time Magazine, to Hustler and Playboy magazines.

In this interview we trace the origins of David's work in unpacking human sexuality, how he developed his signature brand of open minded inquiry and curiosity, and the errrors in judgement he made early in his clinical career. Then we pivot into his ground breaking exploration of the world of cuckolding or hot wives, and how the cuck world is become a movment of erotic awakening unto itsef.

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Today's guest is an absolute delight and I am thrilled to introduce you to Goody Howard. Goody is an award-winning sexologist, educator, and consultant. She provides pleasure development and professional development workshops worldwide. Her authentic and enthusiastic presentation style allows her audiences to connect quickly to the concepts and enjoy learning about sexual health, pleasure, and human variance equity. She makes pleasure-inclusive, comprehensive sex education accessible, intentional, and fun!

While Goody’s pleasure-focused offerings are her most popular classes, she also teaches relevant career development workshops for educators, social workers, and healthcare providers.

In this interview Goody and I talk about her evolution into the work of pleasure focused sex education, how her background has moved her along and within the obstacles she has faced to create pleasure focused inclusive trainings for adults around the world. We learn about how her transformational Rideology workshops are flipping the script on tired old "positions classes and we get real deep on taking a look at who pleasure is REALLY for in the Goody Gang. Enjoy todays discussion with Goody Howard.

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Ever wondered what makes a person kinky? How we define it or what does it mean you’re your partner is  into kink and perhaps you are not? Today’s guest is Dr Richard Sprott. received his Ph.D. in Developmental Psychology from UC Berkeley in 1994. He is currently directing research projects focused on identity development and health/well-being in people who express alternative sexualities and non-traditional relationships, with a special emphasis on kink/BDSM sexuality, and polyamory or consensual non-monogamy. He is the Past President of the Society for the Psychology of Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity (APA Division 44) for 2022-2023. He is also the co-author of Sexual Outsiders: Understanding BDSM Sexualities and Communities with my former erotic philosopher guest David Ortmann.

Along with Dr. Elisabeth Sheff, also a guest from this season episode one, he is co-editor of a new book series Diverse Sexualities, Genders, and Relationships from Rowman & Littlefield ( incidently also the publishers of my book) . Richard currently teaches courses in the Department of Human Development and Women's Studies at California State University, East Bay and graduate level courses at various universities in the Bay Area, including UC Berkeley and Holy Names University. Enjoy this discussion with Dr Richard Sprott.

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Today's guest is Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn a sex and relationship expert, tenured professor, relationship coach at Luvbites.co, and host of Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast with a bustling social media presence on TikTok.

From a shy immigrant from Thailand to a confident sexpert, her goal is to normalize talking about sex in a healthy and fun way.

In this episode we learn about Dr Tara's research into sexual communication and we explore what makes sex fulfilling no matter the stage of life yo'ure at or what you're into. Dr Tara asks me about my experiences with sexual midfulness and I share more about my own relationship with low libido, the inspiration behind writing my book.

A couple steps back from the gravitas of our more recent episodes, this light-hearted discussion with Dr Tara offers a little levity
Enjoy today's discussion with Dr Tara Suwinyattichaiporn

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In this episode we meet Dr. Holly Richmond - a Somatic Psychotherapist, Certified Sex Therapist, and Clinical Board Member for Dame Products. Her newly released book Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life (New Harbinger, Oct. 2021) is an innovative look at both somatic and psychological factors in survivors’ erotic recovery. In this interview we look at what it takes to recover from sexual assault, what SA even is, we bust some myths about who this affects and where  /how it happens and how to begin on the road to recovery. A powerful episode. Listen gently.

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In this episode we meet Lola Jean.  A Sex Educator, Fetish Wrestler, ProDomme, and World Record Holder for Volume Squirting (solo). She provides the 'No Frills Sex Education' we both need and deserve. Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex, sexuality, and kink to invite individuals through what they think they are capable of. In this episode Lola Jean talks to us about her signature squirting demos, but then we take an intimate turn into how LolaJean deals with performance pressure, sexual and emotional anxiety and why vulnerability is a normal part of life we all caln learn from. 

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Dr. Nan Wise is a certified sex therapist, relationship specialist, neuroscience researcher, and author of Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, and More Purpose-Filled Life. Her research has addressed gaps in the literature regarding the neural basis of human sexuality and garnered international attention.

Her clinical approach highlights the critical role our evolutionarily wired-in “core” emotions play in physical and mental well-being. Imbalances in these core emotions contribute to anxiety, depression, stress-related disorders, and sexual dysfunction, and anhedonia, or the inability to experience pleasure. This pleasure crisis is evidenced by soaring epidemics of mood disorders, stress-related illnesses, and a widespread sexual recession.

Dr. Nan has appeared on  The Today Show and contributed her expert opinion to many media outlets and she writes regularly for Psychology Today and Glamour.

In this episode Dr Nan & Cyndi Darnell dig into her research on pleasure and the brain and we explore the relationship between how complex feelings can hijack pleasure - and what we can do to create more pleasure in our lives.

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This week's guest Dr Roger Kuhn is a Poarch Creek Two-Spirit Indigequeer soma-cultural activist, artist, sex therapist, and sexuality educator.  Roger’s work explores the concepts of decolonizing and unsettling sexuality and focuses on the way culture impacts and informs our bodily experiences.  
In addition to his work as a licensed psychotherapist, Roger is a faculty lecturer of American Indian Studies at San Francisco State University.  He is a board member of the American Indian Cultural Center of San Francisco, a community organizer of the Bay Area American Indian Two-Spirit powwow, and a member of the LGBTQ+ Advisory Committee of the San Francisco Human Rights Commission.  
In 2022, Roger was featured in the Levi’s Pride campaign.  He is currently writing his first book, Soma-Cultural Liberation, which will be published by North Atlantic books in 2024.

In this episode we dig into the impact of the body and culture and it's impact ion how we process sensation, emotion and so much more. Roger unpacks some soma cultural narratives in North American life and  offers his knowledge on the impact of soma-cultural liberation in sex, therapy and relationships. Follow him on Instagram 

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