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    • Explore and Enhance Sexual Experiences with Promescent and the Magic WandPromescent's line of sex enhancement products, including their legendary delay spray and warming arousal gel, can help men and women last longer and add extra layers of pleasure. The Magic Wand, a popular sex toy, is also mentioned as a game-changer for solo or partnered pleasure.

      Summer is the season of passion and pleasure, and Promescent's line of sex enhancement products can help enhance the experience. Their legendary delay spray allows men to last longer, while their warming arousal gel for women adds an extra layer of pleasure. The Magic Wand, a cult-favorite sex toy, is also mentioned as a game-changer for solo or partnered pleasure. Overall, these products aim to help individuals explore their sexuality and enhance their experiences in a safe and effective way. Promescent's offerings and the Magic Wand's iconic status are backed by positive reviews and accolades, making them trusted choices for those seeking to elevate their sex lives.

    • Reuniting with Friends and Celebrating LifeThe speaker had a memorable birthday weekend filled with reunions, social gatherings, and personal milestones, emphasizing the importance of cherishing relationships and embracing new experiences.

      The speaker had an enjoyable and eventful birthday weekend filled with various celebrations, social gatherings, and personal milestones. At a sponsored event called "Good Vibration" at a gallery in the city, she reunited with friends, old and new, and felt great being surrounded by positive energy. The following day, she had a picnic in the park with loved ones, and later attended a special dinner. The speaker expressed her excitement for the year ahead and shared that she would be talking about the importance of testicular health on the show. Additionally, she mentioned her upcoming reunion with her dog after a two-week separation. Despite missing her birthday party two years ago, she put aside past grievances and focused on the present, expressing gratitude for the people in her life. Overall, the speaker's weekend was filled with joy, connection, and personal growth.

    • Magnus's Unforgettable Experience at a Music FestivalMagnus had a memorable time engaging with the crowd at a friend's DJ set and is looking forward to sharing his dating expertise on Bravo TV's 'Misadvised' starting June 18th.

      Magnus had an incredible experience hyping up the crowd at a friend's DJ set at a music festival, which was one of the best experiences he's ever had. He got to engage with the audience and connect with them on a deeper level. Additionally, Magnus is excited about his upcoming television show, "Misadvised," premiering on Bravo TV on June 18th, where he and two other dating experts will share their experiences and expertise in the dating scene. The show promises to be entertaining and insightful, with Magnus critiquing some of the men he went out with. The experience at the music festival and the upcoming television show highlight Magnus's ability to connect with people and share his experiences with a wider audience.

    • Speaker's Brother Makes TV Debut, Motorcycle Rider Sues BMW for Persistent ErectionThe speaker was thrilled about her brother's first appearance on a sex-themed TV show and admired his intelligence. A man filed a lawsuit against BMW due to a prolonged erection from a motorcycle ride, while a Japanese chef made news for serving human genitalia in a legal practice.

      The discussion revolved around the excitement surrounding a new episode of a sex-themed TV show featuring the speaker and her brother. The episode marked the first time her brother appeared on the show, and he analyzed her on air. The speaker expressed her admiration for her brother's intelligence and eloquence. Additionally, a man sued BMW after a motorcycle ride resulted in a persistent erection for two years, and a Japanese chef made headlines for serving his genitalia to diners in a legal practice in Japan. The speaker showed surprise and disgust at the latter story. The episode with her brother and the upcoming viewing party were the main focuses of the conversation.

    • Stories of extreme behavior under the influenceBeing under the influence can lead to dangerous and unpredictable actions, potentially harming oneself or others. Stay aware and responsible.

      The news cycle often focuses on shocking and disturbing stories, such as a model who allegedly killed, had sex with, and then ate his boyfriend, or a woman who masturbated on a highway and exposed herself to officers. These stories can be disturbing and may seem unrelated, but they often capture the public's attention. Another story involved a woman who, while under the influence of drugs, left her baby on the roof of her car and drove away. However, upon further investigation, it was revealed that she was reacting to her boyfriend's DUI earlier in the night. These stories serve as a reminder of the importance of being aware of one's actions and the potential consequences, especially when under the influence of drugs or alcohol. It's essential to remember that these stories are exceptions rather than the rule, and most people lead normal, responsible lives.

    • Exploring Sexuality: Dogging in Australia and '50 Shades of Grey'Communication, experimentation, and open-mindedness are essential in exploring sexuality. Inspired by '50 Shades of Grey', listeners shared their curiosity about BDSM and vaginal balls, as well as their personal experiences and challenges. Dogging, a public sexual activity, was also discussed, emphasizing the importance of consent and safety.

      The discussion touched upon various topics including a unique sexual trend called "dogging" in Australia, the popularity of the erotic book "50 Shades of Grey," and the listeners' personal experiences and preferences. Dogging is a public sexual activity involving having sex with strangers in parks or other public spaces, often with the use of online platforms like Dogging Australia. The participants shared their curiosity and excitement about trying new things, such as BDSM and vaginal balls, inspired by "50 Shades of Grey." Listeners also shared their own experiences and challenges, such as finding the right lubricant and dealing with societal stigma. The conversation highlighted the importance of communication, experimentation, and open-mindedness in exploring sexuality. Additionally, the hosts expressed their desire to visit Australia due to its beautiful landscapes and thriving tech industry.

    • Exploring Sexuality with Sex Toys: Enhance Intimacy and PleasureCommunicate openly with your partner, explore new sex toys like kegel balls, massage oils, and lubes, and focus on each other's responses to enhance intimacy and pleasure in your relationship.

      Exploring sexuality and using sex toys can enhance intimacy and pleasure in a relationship. During a conversation, it was mentioned that Good Vibes sells various sex toys inspired by the Fifty Shades of Grey series, including kegel balls, massage oils, and lubes. The Teneo Silicone Kegel Balls and Jeju Kegel Balls were specifically recommended for their benefits. For massage oils, Touch Me Massage Oil and Jimmy Jane Afterglow Massage Candle were suggested. Alacadabra lube and Sliquid lube were recommended for lubrication. For those who may feel insecure or nervous about their sexual experiences, it's important to communicate openly with your partner and ask what they like. Insecurities and anxiety can hinder the experience, so it's crucial to focus on your partner's responses and adjust accordingly. Remember, every person is unique, and there's no one-size-fits-all approach to sexual pleasure. So, don't be afraid to ask questions and explore new things together.

    • Confidence is crucial in sexual experiences and social interactionsFocus on practicing confidence in both sexual experiences and social interactions, learn from rejection, and maintain self-confidence for a fulfilling and enjoyable life.

      Confidence is key in both sexual experiences and social interactions. No one starts out perfect, and everyone has room for improvement. Young men should focus on practicing and not worry too much about their performance. It's important to be confident and positive about oneself, even if it requires self-affirmation. Being confident and authentic can lead to positive experiences and even attract desirable partners. Confidence is also important in social situations, such as approaching women or interacting with attractive people. Rejection is a natural part of life, and it's important to learn how to bounce back and maintain self-confidence. Overall, confidence is a crucial aspect of living a fulfilling and enjoyable life.

    • Exploring Ball Play: A Sensitive and Pleasurable Experience for Many MenCommunicate preferences, experiment with techniques, and approach ball play with sensitivity and respect for comfort levels.

      While some men may not enjoy having their balls touched, many do and find it a highly sensitive and pleasurable area during sexual activities like oral sex. Communication is key to understanding a partner's preferences. Men can hint at their enjoyment of ball play by guiding their partner's hand or verbally expressing their desire. The perineum, the nerve-packed skin between the scrotum and anus, can also be a source of intense pleasure for men. Experimenting with different techniques such as light kisses or tickles, cupping, massages, and sucking can enhance the experience for both partners. It's essential to approach ball play with care and sensitivity, considering that the testicles are a delicate area. Communication, experimentation, and respect for each other's comfort levels are crucial in exploring this aspect of sexual intimacy.

    • Effective grooming below the beltMax For Men Total Body Shave Cream and Balls and All Moisture Control Balm keep intimate areas groomed, rash-free, and confident with their paraben and sulfate-free formulas, skin-softening agents, and masculine fragrances.

      Effective grooming for men, particularly below the belt, is essential for maintaining both personal comfort and intimacy. During a discussion, it was shared that a popular product for this purpose is Max For Men Total Body Shave Cream from Classic Erotica. This paraben and sulfate-free shave cream is enriched with skin-softening agents, jojoba seed oil, and pro vitamins B5 and keratin, ensuring a smooth and rash-free shave while preventing razor burn and ingrown hairs. The product also has a masculine fragrance with added pheromones. Another recommended product is Max for Men Balls and All Moisture Control Balm, which converts into a powdery moisture once applied, protecting the skin from razor burn and excess moisture. These products, available at Classic Erotica, offer men effective solutions to keep their intimate areas well-groomed and confident.

    • Exploring ball play during intercourseWomen can add new levels of pleasure by gently handling their partner's balls during intercourse using various positions. Communication and gentle touch are key to a satisfying experience.

      Exploring ball play during intercourse can add new levels of pleasure for both partners. Women can play a role in this by gently handling their partner's balls using positions like reverse cowgirl reach down, cowgirl reach back, missionary reach down, and doggy style reach back. These positions require varying degrees of skill and reach, but they all offer opportunities for ball stimulation. The first experience with ball play can be intimidating, but with gentle touch and communication, it can lead to a satisfying and enjoyable experience for both parties. Ball play is just another way to open up and try new things in the bedroom.

    • Exploring ball play in a sexual context: communication and comfort are keyCommunicate partner's preferences, use tools for comfort, try new moves like Stevie Wonder, prioritize comfort and consent.

      Communication and comfort are key when exploring ball play in a sexual context. Emily emphasized the importance of being open with your partner about their preferences and being gentle in your approach. She also suggested using tools like scissors, clippers, or electric razors with built-in trimmers to manage the area, and encouraged listeners to try new things like the Stevie Wonder move for added pleasure. Remember, always prioritize comfort and consent, and don't hesitate to ask questions or seek advice from resources like Sex With Emily or Crazy Girl Products.

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    Sex Gets Real 207: Sobriety, changing a partner, & fetishizing male virgins

    Sex Gets Real 207: Sobriety, changing a partner, & fetishizing male virgins

    Are you joining us for the 3rd annual Explore More Summit? It kicks off April 23, 2018 and it's free and online. Grab your spot now at exploremoresummit.com.

    We did it. We did a live recording of the show with about a dozen of you joining in the fun. So, this is your chance to not only hear me fielding questions live, on the spot, but you'll also hear other people's thoughts and perspectives, too.

    I had a blast and I hope we do it again soon.

    So what did we chat about?

    DL has found that pleasure, sex, and embodiment aren't really talked about in the context of sobriety. How do they regain sensation? Why isn't anyone talking about this? On the call, I offered a few resources for DL, but afterwards, I reached out to my networks and asked for more. Head to sexgetsreal.com/ep207 for the full list of recommendations.

    Emily has trouble with her body and specifically her belly. How can she heal that relationship because it's impacting how she experiences sex with her boyfriend.

    Another participant asked how we can grapple with the fact that as our definition of sex expands, so much our definition for sexual assault. How do we reconcile these things and hold space for them?

    One listener needs help with communication. She is constantly walking on eggshells with her partner to avoid another fight or blow-up. How can they get better at communicating about the tough stuff?

    And finally, someone wrote in asking about having a fantasy about teaching a bunch of male virgins how to be expert lovers. They think it's a fetish, and they're worried it's a problematic one. We roll around in this and it's pure delight.

    Patreon supporters - this week's bonus is a world exclusive. It's an extended sneak peek of my Explore More Summit chat with therapist Quinn Gee. The clip talks about being a better parent and then the ways that Quinn has fun, which includes the funniest story of this year's conference. It's about a strap-on. Trust me - you want to hear it.

    Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram.

    About Dawn Serra

    What if everything you've been taught about relationships, about your body, about sex is wrong? My name is Dawn Serra and I dare to ask scary questions that might lead us all towards a deeper, more connected experience of our lives.

    In addition to being the host of the weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real, the creator of the online conference Explore More, and of the new weekly stream Pop Culture Undressed, I also work one-on-one with clients who are feeling stuck, confused, or disappointed with the ways they experience desire, love, and confidence.

    It's not all work, though. In my spare time, you can find me adventuring with my husband, cuddling my cats as I read a YA novel, or obsessing over MasterChef Australia.

    Sex Gets Real 196: Luna Matatas on seducing the anus, strap-ons, & sex clubs

    Sex Gets Real 196: Luna Matatas on seducing the anus, strap-ons, & sex clubs

    What do butt play, pegging the patriarchy, non-sexual Dominance & submission, strap-ons, and sex clubs have in common? Why, Luna Matatas, of course.

    She is joining me this week to talk about all the delicious, yumminess that is kink and pleasure. As a fellow O.School Pleasure Professional (check out her Fuck Like a Goddess weekly live stream), she loves talking about sex club etiquette, anal and how to seduce the anus, pee play, and strap-ons.

    We go all the places, plus we field a few listeners questions while we're at it.

    Plus, we have a yummy bonus chat all about piss play exclusively for Patreon supporters. Not yet a supporter of the show? Head to patreon.com/sgrpodcast to join the fun.

    If you want to grab my latest workshop on ethical porn and how to use porn in your relationship or any of my other online courses and workshops, you can check that out at dawnserra.com/courses.

    Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram.

    About Luna Matatas:

    Luna Matatas is a sex and pleasure educator, crafting goddess and burlesque performer wannabe. She celebrates femininity, sex and body-positivity and all things that glitter. Luna packs over 10 years of experience internationally and locally in health and sexuality education. She takes a playful, realistic and open-minded approach to adult education. As a self-identified pleasure pusher, Luna facilitates accessible, judgement-free and safe spaces for people to be curious about their bodies, desires and relationships with themselves and others. Her workshops are refreshingly funny, warm and inviting. She loves hugs and is terrified of spiders and eggplant.

    Stay in touch with Luna on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter @lunamatatas, and on Fetlife where she is somethingshiny.

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