The "Pen Pal Guy" (& What To Do About Him)

“40 is the new 30!”
“You can freeze your eggs!” 
“Your 20s is the time to focus on your education and your career." 
"You can always have children later, but these professional opportunities will only be open to you for a short while.”

Sound familiar? It’s the message that’s been preached to women for years by society at large, and often by their own (well-meaning) friends and family. Far too many women today are deluded into denying their biological reality, and as a result, many of them end up facing a lot of heartache because they believed this narrative. In today’s controversial episode, Dominique breaks down the biological realities women face in dating, including the truth about female fertility, the innate female desire for motherhood, children, and family, and the ways that women need to date differently if they wish to get married and raise a family of their own. It’s not politically correct in the slightest, but it’s an important episode for any woman in the dating world to hear.

Mentioned in today’s episode: 

Interview and Discussion on “Unchosen Childlessness” 

Pod: Episode #43 How Netflix’s Jewish Matchmaking Can Improve Your Love Life

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If you haven’t seen Netflix’s “Jewish Matchmaking,” you’re missing out! In this new reality dating show, matchmaker Aleeza Ben Shalom helps Jewish singles who are looking for their match. Her approach to matchmaking is thoughtful and thorough, and there are some great lessons to be learned for anyone who is dating - even if you are your own matchmaker! In today’s episode, Dominique breaks down three keys to Aleeza’s matchmaking that you can apply to your own dating life to improve your chances of finding the right match for you.

Mentioned in today’s episode:
Netflix’s “Indian Matchmaking”: Episode #24 Reality Dating Shows Worth Watching (& What You Can Learn From Them)
Creating Intimacy Too Early: Episode #42 Is False Intimacy Sabotaging Your Dating Life? 

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Most people know that physical intimacy takes a relationship to a new level - that’s why jumping into bed with a guy on the first date is a terrible idea. But it’s easy to forget that emotional intimacy deepens a relationship, too. Far too many women are unknowingly sabotaging their relationships by getting “emotionally naked” with the men they date - often even BEFORE the first date! In this episode, you’ll learn about the different ways women allow a false sense of intimacy to build into their relationships, how doing so wrecks a woman’s dating life, and what you can do to avoid these mistakes and set yourself up for healthy relationships by cultivating real intimacy. 

Mentioned in this episode:

Pod: Episode #26 The Dunning Kruger Effect in Dating

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Conflict is something many people dread, especially if it comes up early in a dating relationship. In reality, conflict is inevitable, and it’s also neutral - it’s HOW you handle it (and the root cause behind it) that can make conflict a bad thing. But you can handle it in a way that is constructive and improves your relationship and your bond. This is especially important early in a relationship, when you are setting the tone for your future and establishing how you communicate as a couple. In today’s episode, Dominique shares 3 key strategies that will empower any woman to handle conflict in dating and relationships in a constructive way.

Mentioned in this episode:
Body scan
Deep breathing
Grounding techniques

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How do you evaluate your dates? Oh, you don’t? Well, you ought to! First dates can bring up a lot of different feelings, and the emotional haze that follows a date can make it difficult to think clearly about things. Taking time to deliberately reflect on your date can be very illuminating, and it likely will reveal more than you think about the guy you went out with and your potential budding relationship. In turn, this clarity helps you to make better decisions in dating and move forward in a relationship with more confidence.  In today’s episode, Dominique walks you through five simple questions to ask yourself after a first date to help you improve your dating life by sifting through the bad dates and douchebags more quickly, and identifying good guys and promising relationships more effectively.

Mentioned in this episode:
Pod: Episode #5 Deal-Breakers & Deal-Makers

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Today we have another episode in the “Frog Breakdown” series. If you want to date better and meet the kind of man you truly want to be with, the first step is to quit kissing frogs…and that starts with being able to identify those “frogs” when you encounter them in dating. This series explores the different “frogs” that many women fall for and what it is about these guys that makes women spend so much of their time and emotional energy on them. Today, Dominique discusses The Guy Who Just Wants To Be In A Relationship - what makes this guy a frog, and why would a woman end up so invested in a guy who is so wrong for her? And, just as important, what should you be looking for instead?

If you didn’t catch the previous Frog Breakdown episodes, be sure to check them out!

Pod: Episode #33 Frog Breakdown: The “Nice Guy” Who Never Makes a Move

Pod: Episode # 35 Frog Breakdown: The Guy Who’s Not Actually Into You

Pod: Episode #37 Frog Breakdown: The Guy Who Wants to “Keep It Casual”

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Narcissism is a psychological buzzword that has become much more widely discussed and recognized in recent years. Unfortunately, there’s a lot of misinformation out there, too, leading a lot of folks to misunderstand what narcissism is and struggle to recognize a true narcissist when they encounter one. Today Dominique is breaking down the narcissism myths that pop-psychology has perpetuated and explaining how to deal with narcissistic behavior. This episode will help you understand better what a narcissist is, how to spot one (along with other problematic behaviors), and how to protect yourself in dating.

Mentioned in this episode:
Pod: Episode #27 How to Set and Enforce Healthy Boundaries in Dating
Pod: Episode #5 Deal-Breakers & Deal-Makers

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Today’s episode is the third in the “Frog Breakdown” series. If you want to date better and meet the kind of man you truly want to be with, the first step is to quit kissing frogs…and that starts with being able to identify those “frogs” when you encounter them in dating. This series explores the different “frogs” that many women fall for and what it is about these guys that makes women spend so much of their time and emotional energy on them. Today, Dominique discusses The Guy Who Wants To “Keep It Casual” - what makes this guy a frog, and why would a woman end up so invested in a guy who is so wrong for her? And, just as important, what should you be looking for instead?

If you didn’t catch the previous Frog Breakdown episodes, be sure to check them out!

Pod: Episode #33 Frog Breakdown: The “Nice Guy” Who Never Makes a Move

Pod: Episode # 35 Frog Breakdown: The Guy Who’s Not Actually Into You

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Many people struggle with depression for a variety of reasons. And being depressed can make dating pretty difficult. The important question is - should you be dating at all if you’re depressed? The answer is nuanced, so in today’s episode, Dominique discusses the potential benefits as well as drawbacks of dating when y ou’re feeling depressed. This episode also goes over several questions to ask yourself if you’re feeling depressed to help assess whether dating is a good idea for you.
 
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Referenced in this episode
Pod: Episode 28 "How To Build Confidence & Improve Your Dating Life"

Mental Health Resources
For help finding mental health support, you can contact SAMHSA's National Helpline at 1-800-662-HELP (1-800-662-4357).  SAMHSA offers help 24/7 and can assist with finding appropriate treatment resources for you (English and Spanish). 

If you are in crisis, there are resources available to help you - please reach out. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available 24/7 at 800-273-8255. You can also text "HOME" to the Crisis Text Line at 741741. 

Today’s episode is the second in the “Frog Breakdown” series. If you want to date better and meet the kind of man you truly want to be with, the first step is to quit kissing frogs…and that starts with being able to identify those “frogs” when you encounter them in dating. This series explores the different frogs that many women fall for and what it is about these guys that makes women spend so much of their time and emotional energy on them. Today, Dominique discusses The Guy Who’s Not Actually Into You - what makes this guy a frog, and why would a woman end up so invested in a guy who is so wrong for her? And, just as important, what should you be looking for instead?

If you didn’t catch the previous Frog Breakdown episode, be sure to check it out! Episode #33: Frog Breakdown: The “Nice Guy” Who Never Makes a Move

For more information, head over to QuitKissingFrogs.com

To submit a question for a future Q&A episode, please use this form: https://quitkissingfrogs.com/got-a-question-for-the-pod