They Talk Herpes (w/ Elle Stanger)

Morgan Jay is a musician and comedian originally from Mahwah, New Jersey where he was taught that women would derail and distract him!

In this episode we talk about:

• 04:11 Creating a Sexy and Fun Show
• 05:46 Transitioning from Stand-up to Music
• 07:33 The Evolution of Comedy Clubs
• 12:02 Understanding Different Sexual Preferences
• 16:20 The Importance of Consent and Aftercare
• 20:02 Exploring Sexual Wellness and Pleasure Products
• 25:23 The Accessibility and Variety of Pornography
• 31:05 The Impact of Abstinence-Only Sex Education
• 36:55 The Influence of Cultural and Religious Upbringing
• 41:44 Exploring New Sexual Experiences
• 46:09 The Importance of Playfulness and Curiosity
• 48:18 Sexual Connection in Intimate Relationships
• 49:10 The Consequences of Ignoring Sexual Compatibility
• 51:42 Having Complex Conversations about Sexual Desires
• 53:47 Normalizing Sexual Pleasure for All
• 56:52 Exploring Unique Sexual Fantasies
• 59:04 Creating Pleasurable and Intimate Experiences

You can find Morgan on Instagram at @morganjay and his website www.morganjay.com

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HEY LOS ANGELES!  Come to the Hollywood Burlesque Festival at Frogtown Brewery on March 9th where we’ll be interviewing performers all day! Get 20% off your festival tickets with offer code: BIRDS&BEES 

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Sarah Tomchesson is a sex educator, fed-up feminist, queer mom and co-host of the Fck Yeah! Podcast originally from a little all over but who had her first sex ed class in Los Angeles where they were interrupted by an earthquake!

In this episode we talk about:

• 02:02 SIECUS and Sex Education Advocacy
• 05:21 The Importance of Policy Change
• 10:17 The Fear of Talking About Sex
• 11:15 Unpacking Shame and Ego
• 15:07 Sarah’s Experiences with Sex Education
• 19:46 Supporting Parents in Sex Education
• 22:07 The Lack of Education on Menopause
• 24:59 The Lack of Sex Education in Medical Training
• 32:34 Sarah's Journey into Sex Education
• 40:55 The Importance of Normalizing Pleasure
• 41:08 Upcoming Program with Anne Hodder-Shipp
• 43:14 Understanding Your Relationship to and Expanding the Definition of Pleasure
• 49:31 Prioritizing Pleasure in Daily Life
• 52:09 Navigating Censorship and Playing the Game
• 53:49 Knowing and Trusting Yourself

You can find Sarah on Instagram at @pleasureguides and their website https://www.s3xplus.com/ and of course you can join her program with Anne Hodder-Shipp that begins on March 14th at https://www.eventbrite.com/e/pleasure-attitudes-building-an-embodied-self-care-practice-that-works-tickets-773968630007

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Tyomi Morgan is a Sexologist, Intimacy Coordinator and creator of The Cowgirl Workout originally from Chicago where they went on a class trip to learn about sex!

In this episode we talk about:

• 03:04 Intimacy Coordinating, obviously!
• 14:43 The one thing you MUST know as an Intimacy Coordinator
• 23:00 When Sex Ed is a class trip…
• 29:29 Impact of Sex Education on Personal Exploration
• 38:08 Virginity is a hoax
• 45:03 The importance of authenticity and Communication in Relationships
• 46:28 The art of Letting Go and Embracing Change
• 47:23 Fluidity and Exploration in Sexuality
• 50:13 Recognizing Patterns and Trauma
• 51:57 Taking Action and Doing the Work
• 54:20 The Lifelong Journey of Self-Reflection
• 57:18 The Importance of Self-Care and Boundaries
• 59:08 The DM slide all sex educators get
• 01:01:21 Embracing Autonomy and Choice

You can find Tyomi on Instagram at @realglamazontyomi and on X (Twitter) at @glamazontyomi get The Cowgirl Workout at https://members.thecowgirlworkout.com/ see her in person at Exxxotica Expo https://www.exxxoticaexpo.com/ or catch her classes at https://www.thepleasureacademy.com/

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Allison Goldberg is a comedian and creator known for her dating show, Love Isn’t Blind originally from Baltimore where they scribbled some stuff on an overhead projector and called it a day!

In this episode we talk about:

• 01:25 Allison actually knows about the birds and bees!
• 02:07 Love Isn't Blind - The Dating Show where men aren’t allowed to talk!
• 04:47 Pole Dancing and Rock Climbing
• 06:29 Intimacy Coordination and Other Jobs
• 09:41 Creating a Community
• 13:21 Being Organized and Having Tools
• 16:47 Lack of Sexual Education
• 21:04 Consent and Desexualization
• 24:44 New Zealand sex clubs
• 31:57 Time to figure out the Clitoris
• 34:32 Dating and Activities
• 37:10 Understanding the Clitoris and Vulva
• 41:09 Exploring the Labia and Outer Lips
• 42:30 Stimulating the Entire Vulva
• 45:08 Pleasuring the Penis and Balls
• 52:54 Orbiting and Communication
• 55:00 Allison’s got a podcast launching TODAY!

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You can find Allison on all social media at @alli_goldi and on her website https://www.allisongoldberg.com/

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Christina Calph is an actress, comedian and creator of Comedy Pole Show and The Last Improv Show originally from a small town outside of Buffalo, NY where they were taught demons were going to take over their bodies! Yay!

In this episode we talk about:

• 01:09 Talking about Rain in LA, because it’s law
• 02:24 Growing Up in New York
• 03:37 Comedy Pole Show and the best comedians and pole dancers in LA
• 15:18 Sex Education in Catholic School
• 32:26 What even is virginity?!
• 43:09 Discovering the Power of Female friendships
• 45:25 Learning About Relationships and Sexuality at Hooters
• 49:17 Different Perspectives on Sexuality in Different Communities
• 50:17 Exploring Sexuality and Masturbation
• 51:46 Navigating Toxic Relationships
• 01:03 Pole Dance as a Sport and Art Form
• 01:05 The Perineum!
• 01:09 How to get your free Yes No Maybe List for Better Communication

You can find Christina on Instagram at @christinacalph and her two shows @comedypoleshow and @lastimprovshow

Get tickets to both shows by checking out https://www.dynastytypewriter.com/events-calendar

WE’VE GOT MERCH! Plus a free Yes / No / Maybe list all over at https://www.birdsandbeesdontfck.com

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Jean Franzblau is an Intimacy Coordinator, Writer, Performer and Creator of the Cuddle Sanctuary originally from Hollywood Florida where her mother didn’t know she was kinky!

In this episode we talk about:

• 01:11 Different Roles in the Sex Industry
• 03:03 The Physiology of Orgasm
• 04:00 The Impact of Shame on Pleasure
• 05:23 Creating Authentic Intimacy in Film
• 08:13 The Complexity of Faking Orgasms
• 10:32 The Fascinating Anatomy of the Clitoris
• 12:51 The Grit and Strength of Pole Dancing
• 15:22 The Diverse Backgrounds of Intimacy Coordinators
• 23:46 The Potential Benefits of Sex Dolls
• 25:29 The Importance of Touch and Cuddling
• 27:22 The Complexity and joy of Kink and BDSM
• 35:33 The Impact of Shame and Ignoring Red Flags
• 43:22 The Slow Process of Change in the film Industry
• 45:33 The Importance of Safety and Pleasure in Creation
• 48:30 Agents' Involvement in Addressing Behavioral Issues with cast (aka their clients)
• 53:33 Transition into Intimacy Coordinating
• 55:50 Experience on Set and Sense of Belonging
• 01:01:00 The Embarrassing Part of the Job
• 01:04:43 The importance of Consent and Boundaries

You can find Jean on Instagram at @jeanfranzblau and her website https://hollywoodintimacycoordinator.com/

You can catch Jean's sex positive one woman show, "My Mother Doesn't Know I'm Kinky" on March 3, 2024 in Los Angeles. Find all of her performances here: https://mymotherdoesntknow.com/

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LOS ANGELES: Join Arielle and Nadége as we celebrate the release of Rena Martine’s new book “The Sex You Want” on Feb 7th at The Ripped Bodice. Tickets here: https://www.therippedbodicela.com/events-and-tickets

Demi Wilde is an author, educator and content creator originally from Visalia, California where he had to GTFO as fas as he could!

In this episode we talk about:

• 02:57 The Commodification of Connection
• 10:23 Demi’s journey into Sex Education
• 17:02 Growing Up Religious
• 21:13 Those First Wet Dreams
• 25:33 Poetry as Therapy
• 31:35 Demi Dishes the Dirt on Sh*tty Dating Trends
• 38:04 A Hookup Horror Story (obviously)
• 45:13 Reflections of a Bad Date
• 46:37 The Gift of Rejection
• 48:03 Finding Love on Grindr
• 49:29 The Importance of Timing and Emotional Availability
• 50:57 Being Present and Transparent
• 51:55 Burnout and Miscommunication in Dating
• 54:15 Communication and Presence

You can find Demi on Instagram at @demitriwylde_, his website www.demitriwylde.com and you can get his podcast “Hookup Horror Stories” on YouTube and wherever you get your podcasts.

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Jil Chrissie is a comedian, writer and host originally from Denver Colorado where she was not quite sure if she should be looking at a lady’s vagina with a baby’s head in it in the third grade (sound familiar?).

In this episode we talk about:

• 00:50 Pretty Privilege is a thing
• 02:08 The Misconceptions Around Virginity and Hymens
• 06:01 The Trauma of Early Sex Education
• 07:44 The Terrifying Reality of Childbirth
• 15:05 The Importance of Women's Sexual Pleasure
• 16:27 The Need for Sexual Exploration and Communication
• 20:38 The Stigma and Shame Around Masturbation
• 26:44 The Hypocrisy of Men's Sexual Preferences
• 29:08 Different Types of Orgasms and Sexual Scripts
• 30:30 The Importance of Clitoral Stimulation
• 32:10 The Benefits of Sex Toys and Masturbation
• 37:16 The Impact of Sexual Satisfaction on Relationships
• 41:22 The Impact of Aging on Sexual Function
• 45:26 Animal Behavior and Sexual Interactions
• 47:10 Symptoms and Treatment of Gonorrhea
• 51:00 Overcoming Stigma and Fear of STIs
• 52:49 Creating an Audio Book and One-Woman Show
• 54:34 Promoting Sexual Liberation and Expression
• 56:24 Persistence and Pursuing Dreams in the Entertainment Industry

You can find Jil on Instagram at @jilchrissie and on YouTube at @MsJilChrissie 

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Anne Holder-Shipp is an award winning Sex & Relationships Educator and Author of ’18 Modern Love Languages’ originally from Wolfurrow, New Hampshire where they learned more about sex exploring the library’s card catalog then they ever did in a classroom!

In this episode we talk about:

• 01:34 Pandemic Era Transition to Online Teaching
• 11:11 The Balance Of Fair Compensation and Accessibility For In-Person Classes
• 14:11 Marketing and Censorship Challenges
• 18:22 The Reality of Sex Education Work
• 20:02 Growing Up in a Conservative Town
• 26:28 Limited Sex Education in School
• 34:23 Neutral Perspective on Sex Leading To Expansive Values
• 38:06 Unique Background and Entry into Sex Education
• 38:26 How They Became a Sex Educator
• 41:10 Working in Treatment Centers
• 43:07 Harm Reduction and Abstinence-Only Education
• 46:09 The Challenges of Sex Education in Treatment Centers
• 52:11 Understanding Desire and Collaboration in Relationships
• 55:58 Anne's Epic Responses to Trolls on TikTok

You can find Anne on Instagram and TikTok at @TheAnneHodder and their website https://www.annehoddershipp.com/ and of course if you too are interested in becoming a Sex Educator or simply learning more, visit https://everyonedeservessexed.com/

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Ify Nwadiwe is a Comedian, Actor, Writer and Thot Dad originally from Los Angeles, CA where his Catholic School taught him religion instead of health and his public School made him sign up for sex ed as an elective as if learning about your body was the same thing as learning photography or Roman history.

In this episode we talk about:

• 04:31 LA vs. New York
• 14:42 Sex Education in School
• 18:05 ADHD and Mental Health
• 21:38 Therapy and Sexuality
• 28:54 Successful Non-Monogamy
• 45:13 Trampling Over Boundaries
• 47:06 Problematic Relationship Coaches
• 50:22 Co-Creation and Personal Boundaries in relationships
• 51:48 Understanding Kitchen Table Polyamory
• 56:38 Monogamous Reactions to Non-Monogamy
• 57:27 First Reactions vs. Real Reactions
• 58:23 Excuses and Alternative Lifestyles
• 01:00:37 Ify’s upcoming Comedy Show!

You can find Ify on Instagram at @ifynwadiwe and his website www.ifycomedy.com.

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