Podcast Summary
Overcoming feelings of being stuck and comparing yourself to others: Ask critical questions, examine your own life, and remember everyone's journey is unique to find ways to move forward.
Feeling stuck in life and comparing yourself to others can be debilitating, but with the right mindset and tools, you can identify and overcome these feelings. Mel Robbins, a life coach and motivational speaker, shares her insights on this topic in today's episode of Call Her Daddy. She encourages listeners to ask themselves critical questions and examine their own lives to find ways to move forward. It's important to remember that everyone's journey is unique, and it's okay to take things at your own pace. Additionally, the episode is brought to you by David's Bridal, Garnier Fructis, and NARS cosmetics. David's Bridal offers perfectly fitting bridal gowns, bridesmaids dresses, and prom dresses. Garnier Fructis' new hair filler systems can reverse damage to your hair and improve its strength and elasticity. NARS cosmetics offers a two-step routine of makeup and skincare that enhances natural luminosity and provides long-lasting wear.
Navigating the challenges of adulthood: Despite feeling uncertain and overwhelmed, trust in your ability to learn and adapt to new situations to figure out your life's direction.
Feeling uncertain and lost in your 20s and 30s is a common experience after the structure and guidance of childhood and college ends. You may feel overwhelmed by the lack of direction and the responsibilities of adulthood, such as rent, student loans, and balancing a checkbook. But don't worry, you've already proven you can learn and adapt to new situations, like getting into college or getting a job. The good news is that you have the power to figure out your life, even if it seems daunting at first. And, unfortunately, there's no class in college to teach you how to navigate these challenges, but you're capable of learning and growing through experience.
From passenger to driver in life's journey: Embrace self-discovery, seek personal growth, and choose your direction in life's continuous learning experience.
Life is a continuous learning experience, and it's essential to define what we want to measure for ourselves as we grow and face new challenges. The speaker shares a personal story about the importance of self-discovery and the transition from being a passenger in life to becoming the driver. This shift can occur during major life changes, and it's a good sign that we're seeking more meaning and growth. The speaker encourages the next generation to question the purpose of college and consider it as an opportunity for personal development, rather than just a means to an end. Ultimately, the goal is to understand that life is a long journey, and we're all at different mile markers, but we have the power to choose our direction and make the most of each moment.
Recognizing when something isn't working and making a change: Self-awareness is crucial for personal growth, allowing us to make decisions that align with our goals and values. It's okay to make mistakes and change direction when needed.
Building self-awareness and gaining new skills through experiences, relationships, and failure are essential for personal growth. It's important to recognize when something is not working for you and make a change, rather than continuing to follow a path that doesn't align with your goals or values. Self-awareness allows us to take control of our lives and make decisions that serve our best interests. It's okay not to have everything figured out, and it's important to remember that change is a constant in life. As the speaker shared, they have made many mistakes in their own life, but by developing self-awareness and taking risks, they were able to turn their life in a new direction. We all have the power to do the same.
Learning from Past Regrets: Regret is a natural emotion, but instead of dwelling on past mistakes, use them as opportunities for growth and self-discovery.
Every experience in life, good or bad, is a learning opportunity. The speaker shares her personal story of feeling lost after graduation, making decisions out of fear and insecurity, and eventually discovering her path in law. She emphasizes that even the most difficult moments can lead to self-discovery and growth. Regret is a common emotion, but it can serve a purpose if we learn from our mistakes instead of dwelling on them. The speaker also shares her past regret of ending relationships in destructive ways, but encourages moving forward and using these experiences as lessons for personal growth. Dan Pink's research on regret further supports this idea that regret is a natural part of life and can ultimately lead to growth and self-improvement.
Transform social media from a source of negativity to a tool for personal growth: Use social media intentionally to follow and learn from individuals who align with your goals, rather than wasting time on it out of regret or guilt.
Productive regret and guilt can be harnessed as powerful motivators for personal growth. However, the way we use social media significantly impacts how we internalize ideas about success and failure. Instead of mindlessly consuming content that makes us feel bad, we should intentionally curate our feeds to uplift and inspire us. Social media is a tool, and we have the power to use it to enhance our lives rather than letting it consume us. It's important to remember that we live in a unique time with access to an abundance of information and resources. Instead of wasting time on social media out of a sense of revenge procrastination, we should focus on following and learning from individuals who align with our goals. By taking control of our social media use and using it intentionally, we can transform it from a source of negativity to a powerful tool for personal growth.
Stepping out of comfort zones leads to growth: Anxiety is normal, but managing it and identifying its causes can lead to personal and business growth. ShipStation can help manage shipping tasks for businesses, and anxiety can be triggered by various factors including medications and past experiences. Indulging in moments of wildness and using hair filler are personal solutions.
Pushing boundaries and stepping out of comfort zones, whether in business or personal life, can lead to growth and achievement. ShipStation, a business partner, can help manage and automate shipping tasks to make this process smoother. Anxiety is a normal response to uncertainty or threats, and it's essential to differentiate between feeling anxious and having anxiety as part of your identity. Anxiety can be triggered in the morning due to high cortisol levels and low dopamine, or as a symptom of a hangover. Additionally, some medications, like Zoloft, can cause blackouts when combined with alcohol. At the end of the day, anxiety may stem from past childhood experiences. Indulging in moments of wildness with Pepsi Wild Cherry and using Garnier Fructease hair filler to reverse hair damage are additional takeaways from this discussion.
Understanding Anxiety's Role in Trauma and Productive Regret: Recognize anxiety as a response to stress or uncertainty, but for trauma survivors, it can be a traumatic response. Learn to manage it with professional help, trigger identification, and thought pattern interruption. Productive regret can lead to positive changes by reflecting on past mistakes and making behavioral adjustments.
Anxiety is a natural response to uncertainty or stress, and it serves as an alarm system in our bodies. However, for those who grew up in chaotic or abusive environments, anxiety can be a traumatic response to past experiences. Recognizing this can help individuals take steps to manage their anxiety, such as working with a professional, identifying triggers, and interrupting negative thought patterns. Productive regret, on the other hand, can be a valuable tool for learning from past mistakes and making positive changes in our lives. It's important to pause and reflect on negative emotions, rather than dwelling on them, and consider what behaviors we can change to avoid putting ourselves in similar situations in the future.
Identify what brings you joy and compare it to what makes you unhappy to find areas for improvement: Focus on what you can change and take action towards positive growth by comparing sources of unhappiness to sources of joy
When facing difficult situations or feeling stuck in negative patterns, it's essential to focus on what you can change and learn from the experience instead of dwelling on things you cannot control. Write down the behaviors or situations that make you feel unhappy, and then list the things that bring you joy and happiness. Comparing the two can help you identify areas for improvement and create a map for positive change. Additionally, it's important to recognize that thinking about making a change is not the same as taking action. To truly transform your life, you must work towards your goals and take steps forward. As Mel emphasized, wishing, wanting, or worrying won't help you; only working will. By grounding yourself in the present moment and focusing on the actions you can take, you can rescue yourself from the subconscious and move towards a happier, more fulfilling life.
Navigating challenging times and finding silver linings: Even during difficult experiences, valuable lessons and growth opportunities can be found.
Even during the lowest points and moments of regret in our lives, there are valuable lessons to be learned and experiences that shape us for the better. It's important to remember that these challenging times are setting us up for the next phase of our journey. For example, moving to a new city and facing feelings of isolation and loneliness may lead us to unexpected connections and growth. So, while it's natural to question our decisions and feel discouraged, we can look back and appreciate the silver linings. Tune in to the next episode of Call Her Daddy for more insights on navigating friendship in your 20s and dealing with feelings of isolation. And don't forget to check out this Wednesday's main episode featuring a guest who's sure to be a fan favorite, especially for fans of Euphoria. Plus, use code "daddy" for 15% off all purchases at David's Bridal during the month of March.
