Using Feelings As Fuel | Ep #28

While we all want to be in relationships that are trusting and loving, at the root of it all what we really want is to feel deeply chosen.

In this episode, I’ll share different examples (both personal and from clients) where the strong desire to know you are being chosen drives forward courageous action.

I will also share how in order to feel deeply chosen, we have to strongly desire ourselves first. This pushes our growth as we develop into people who know what we what, and will hold a high standard to make sure we have those things.

Don’t miss this one! There is something for everyone.

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After having conversations with hundreds of people from all over the world in my five years of being an infidelity coach, there are some patterns, trends and truths I have learned.

In this episode, I share those 5 truths and how they have changed some of my views around infidelity. This is one you do not want to miss as it may change some of your views, too.

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In a world that celebrates independence, it can seem like “weakness” to build relationships that require vulnerability. With “cancel culture” being rampant, it goes against the messages of the day, especially after infidelity, to fully lean in to building something that will last the test of time.

In this episode I go over two common ways we relate with each other in relationships, and one that is less practiced but will get you far more traction.

You will be able to identity where you are in your own relationship, and hear some tips on things that will push you in a healthy way.

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In the 2nd of this 2 part series, Sara Fisk and Andrea go deeper into people-pleasing.

They go into more detail about how people-pleasing tendencies can put relationships at risk, and how stopping people-pleasing can help relationships heal.

You will learn:

• How we are all deeply wired to people-please
• How it is likely affecting you post-infidelity to people-please
• How taking responsibility for our own growth (and letting go of people-pleasing) is crucial to healing

Sara Bybee Fisk is a Master Certified Coach and Instructor who teaches women how to tame the rampant people-pleasing, perfectionism and codependency that is causing them so much frustration and resentment. She is an anxious optimist and born again feminist who listens to more books than she actually sits down to read. She loves a good hike, good dark chocolate and good conversations. Her big dreams include learning to sail and to sing and dance like JLo and helping thousands of women create the big, juicy lives they want to be living. She is a wife and mom of 5 and she enjoys those roles most of the time.

To learn more from Andrea, be sure to join her email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/

To learn more about working with Andrea, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

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© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

Do you struggle with people-pleasing? Is it getting in the way of making clear decisions for yourself in the after-math of infidelity?

In this 2-part series, Andrea and Sara Fisk talk all things people-pleasing. You will learn:

• How we are all deeply wired to people-please
• How it is likely affecting you post-infidelity to people-please
• How taking responsibility for our own growth (and letting go of people-pleasing) is crucial to healing

Sara Bybee Fisk is a Master Certified Coach and Instructor who teaches women how to tame the rampant people-pleasing, perfectionism and codependency that is causing them so much frustration and resentment. She is an anxious optimist and born again feminist who listens to more books than she actually sits down to read. She loves a good hike, good dark chocolate and good conversations. Her big dreams include learning to sail and to sing and dance like JLo and helping thousands of women create the big, juicy lives they want to be living. She is a wife and mom of 5 and she enjoys those roles most of the time.

To learn more from Andrea, be sure to join her email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/

To learn more about working with Andrea, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

Follow Andrea on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I interview a former client, Lauren. Be prepared for an episode you will go back to again and again as there were so many gems and truths in her words.

Lauren not only shares in depth her personal story with her spouse's infidelity, but she shares her journey of coming back to herself after years of feeling like she wasn’t enough.

I guarantee you will relate to many of the things she shares, and feel inspired by how she has taken charge of her own life to make it something beautiful.

To learn more from me, be sure to join email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/

To learn more about working with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you!

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© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

How do you define healing?

If you think it means never hurting again, you can be setting yourself up for even more pain in the future.

In this episode, I cover various ways we can sabotage our own healing, and clearly define what it actually means.

You will also learn how to evaluate how far you have come, and what to be focusing on next.

When we learn to change our expectations, everything feels less urgent, there is less pressure, and we grow our capacity to hold space for ourselves.

To learn more from me, be sure to join email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/

To learn more about working with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

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Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you!

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© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

After infidelity, it is easy to fall into the trap of trying to take control of the healing and recovery of your partner.

In this episode, you will learn why this is not a healthy, long-term solution and what to try instead.

We will cover:

• Differences between men and women and why our healing looks different
• Why learning to create more internal safety will get you the best results
• Why trying to control our spouse often back-fires

If you want help navigating the aftermath of infidelity, don’t miss this one!

To learn more from me, be sure to join email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/

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© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

Sometimes we can use popular opinion against ourselves. We can listen to the opinions of others, rather than deeply searching our own hearts for what is true.

In this episode, I use a powerful analogy to teach you how to do your own “investigating” into what is true, beyond what outside sources may tell you.

You will learn how to see the full scope of your situation, rather than focusing only on the things that feel the biggest or scariest.

When we learn to get a broader view, we make more informed decisions that become easier to back up over time.

To learn more from me, be sure to join email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/

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Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you!

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© 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

Romantic infidelity and financial infidelity often go hand in hand. Money is frequently spent on the affair partner, and in high-control relationships, spouses can feel like they have no say about where the money goes.

In this episode, guest Tracy Coenen and I discuss:

• Hidden money
• Financial rights for stay-at-home moms
• Divorce settlements
• Financial options, even if you are staying married

Tracy has been investigating fraud for more than 25 years, but she didn’t always want to be a forensic accountant. With a dream of one day being a prison warden, Tracy went to Marquette University in Milwaukee, WI to get a criminology degree. A class on financial crime investigations reminded her how much she loved Encyclopedia Brown books as a kid. She continued her criminology degree but added accounting and economics courses so she could become a CPA ... and here Tracy is, finding money in cases of corporate fraud, high net worth divorce, and other financial shenanigans.

Learn more from Tracy at: https://www.fraudcoach.com/infidelity

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