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    Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast

    The Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast is a series where we have unscripted kink-friendly intimacy coaching session with real people. We get to hear the emotional and interpersonal challenges they are experiencing and explore strategies they can use to overcome them or live with them with minimal suffering. visit AskEzra.info for more information about intimacy coaching or to sign up to be a guest.
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    It's Not Goodbye Forever Episode 60 for the Ask Ezra Podcast

    It's Not Goodbye Forever Episode 60 for the Ask Ezra Podcast

    Join Ezra as he shares a big announcement about the future of the Ask Ezra Podcast.  We are taking a break from posting new episodes for a little while.  Thank you to all the dedicated listeners.  Big thanks to all my guests and show supporters.  Keep up on developments and upcoming events by following socials Intsagram: @Ask_Ezra_ and Twitter: @HouseOfAlgos.  Check out the new book The Path Through with the link below or my first book Mindfucking Mindfully.

    The new book "The Path Through"

    The First Book "Mindfucking Mindfully"

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    Who is Coaching Who?  Ep. 59 where Briana McCallum Coaches Ezra!

    Who is Coaching Who?  Ep. 59 where Briana McCallum Coaches Ezra!

    Join Ezra and Briana in a very special episode in which Ezra “switches”, taking a turn in the hot seat where they get coaching from Briana.  Hear about Ezra’s current challenges with emotional availability, dating while kinky, dating while poly, and looking for a life partner while also not being on the old fashioned relationship escalator.  Find out how Ezra might be limiting themselves and what strategies they might employ to move past those barriers.

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    What Do I Really Need in Relationship? Episode 58 with guest Angie of the So You Are Ready to Date Podcast

    What Do I Really Need in Relationship? Episode 58 with guest Angie of the So You Are Ready to Date Podcast

    Join Ezra as he has a session with Angie of the So You Are Ready To Date Podcast about her experience processing shame and exploring interests.  Learn what limitations Angie is facing and how that could be holding her back from processing shame.  Additionally we talk about what has already worked for her in her journey to reduce the shame in her life.  Lastly, we talk about the importance of getting super clear on what her wants and needs are in a relationship and how to figure that out.

    Am I punishing myself? Episode 56 of the Ask Ezra Podcast with guest Briana McCallum

    Am I punishing myself? Episode 56 of the Ask Ezra Podcast with guest Briana McCallum

    Join Ezra as he chats with Briana McCallum, a fellow coach who specializes in neurodivergent life coaching. Briana shares about her work and about her experience as a survivor of childhood trauma.  Hear how her trauma has impacted her intimate relationships in the past, how she has grown, and what work is still left to be done.  We also talk about surviving vs. thriving, exploring sexual identity, moderating our internal voice, intellectualizing vs. processing in our body, managing fear, and choosing how to respond vs. react.

    LMHTea.org

    Tinyurl.com/startRSA

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    Learning To Let Go, Episode 55 of the Ask Ezra Podcast with Mike Brown of The Art Of Letting Go Podcast

    Learning To Let Go, Episode 55 of the Ask Ezra Podcast with Mike Brown of The Art Of Letting Go Podcast

    Hear from Mike Brown and how he found a way to grow in his ability to let go through his podcast.  Hear about his music and how he has come to have a greater sense of autonomy in relationships.  We learn about the skills Mike developed through trial and error that has led him to be an exceptional communicator and to take responsibility for his own feelings in relationships. He talks about his relationship to submission and how that has helped him learn to let go.

    https://intagram.com/theartoflettinggopodcast

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    Accountability and Integrity Episode 54 of the Ask Ezra Podcast

    Accountability and Integrity Episode 54 of the Ask Ezra Podcast

    On this episode of the Ask Ezra Podcast we break from the mold and do things a little differently. Master Joshua A.K.A Sister Joshua takes the interviewer seat and leads Ezra through a discussion of integrity and accountability. They discuss when Ezra has been out of accountability and what they are doing to address it. Other topics include the formation of an accountability pod, anonymous feedback form, rumors, and how to learn and grow moving forward.

     

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    Baby I’m a Drag Queen, Episode 53 of the Ask Ezra Podcast with Savannah Hauk

    Baby I’m a Drag Queen, Episode 53 of the Ask Ezra Podcast with Savannah Hauk

    Join us as Savannah Hauk returns to the Ask Ezra Podcast for a second session.  Savannah was a guest for episode 50 previously and we mostly spoke about her professional accomplishments.  In this episode we get more personal with Savannah and discuss the challenges she is experiencing in her current relationship and historically.  Learn about the challenges of coming out to your partner as dual-gender, of supporting a dual-gender partner, and what intimacy might look like even if the sex doesn’t change.  Lastly, what is the connection between being a Lionel Train enthusiast and someone who cross dresses?  Find out on episode 53 of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast.

    https://livingwithcrossdressing.com/

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    Pup Esquire, Leather Pup at Law Episode 52 of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast with Pup Gideon

    Pup Esquire, Leather Pup at Law Episode 52 of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast with Pup Gideon

    Join Ezra as he speaks with Pup Gideon, a family law attorney by day and a leather pup by night. We talk about the legality of BDSM, how sexuality and lifestyle choices play into divorce and custody and much more. Learn about how Pup Gideon feels like pup play helps him be himself, what is family law, legality of BDSM, what is deviance in the eyes of the court, and more. For the full video version of the episode visit https://www.patreon.com/AskEzra

    White Supremacy and Capitalism in relationships, Episode 51 of the Ask Ezra Podcast with Guest Christina Carlson

    White Supremacy and Capitalism in relationships, Episode 51 of the Ask Ezra Podcast with Guest Christina Carlson

    Join Christina Carlson as the latest guest of the Ask Ezra Podcast for episode 51!  We talk about deconstructing, white supremacy and capitalism in relationships, coming back into relationship with your body, building emotional resilience and emotional self efficacy, making space for human rest and needs, accepting love because you know you can survive the heartache, sometimes you just have to let it rain, redefining self relationship, doing vs being, , feeling still for the first time, compassion and inner child work, and ofcourse how to get a hold of her.

     

    https://www.christinamcarlson.com/

     

    Instagram: @christinacarlsonlifecoach

     

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    Living With Cross Dressing Episode 50 of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast

    Living With Cross Dressing Episode 50 of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast

    Join Ezra as he speaks with Savannah Hauk, author of Living With Cross Dressing - Defining A New Normal.  Listen as they discuss, the experience of the fear Savannah had showing up in public spaces while crossdressing, the impact that it has had on relationships, and why relying on external validation can be challenging.  We also discuss how having a TedX performance led to some hateful comments and how they handled that.  Lastly we talk about how to inspect fear and the 4 tiers of non-tolerance, tolerance, acceptance, and celebration.

    .Livingwithcrossdressing.com

    facebook.com/livingwithcrossdressing/

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    “Being all of me when I want to” Finn Deerhart Episode 49 of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast

    “Being all of me when I want to” Finn Deerhart Episode 49 of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast

    Join Ezra as he chats with Finn Deerhart LGBTQ+ Speaker, Writer, and AASECT Certified Sexuality Counselor.  We chat about people are always projecting.  What Finn’s coaching practice looks like.  What parts trust and time plays in a coaching practice, how he makes space for clients and how hard things can be productive.  We also talk about developing curiosity in challenging situations and how to invite your challenging emotions closer.  We hear what Finn means by “unfuck your sex life”.  We discuss his work with Himerose, and how Finn supports porn actors in holding boundaries and negotiating scenes. 

        We also dive into an intimacy coaching session and hear about his challenge to stop trying to change his dad’s mind and to recruit his partner in the personal development work.  Hear about Finn’s “magic treasure chest” and what he decided to do with it.

     

    https://www.finndeerhart.com/

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    "I Did The Research Study” Episode 48 of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast

    "I Did The Research Study” Episode 48 of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast

         Join Ezra as they talk with Azalea, who participated in the Radical Sexual Acceptance Research Study.  In this first of its kind episode of the Ask Ezra Podcast, we will hear from a research participant before participating in the research project in the first half, then we will hear from her again after participating in the study.  Learn about her thoughts on the project after having completed participation.

         In part 1 hear about why she's excited, dysmorphia and being 9-months on hormones, needing more foreplay after transition, her exploration around kink, safewording and changing activities, cultural shame around kink, what is challenging about BDSM, neurodivergence, her feral squirrel analogy, kink and hormone changes, selfishness in the bedroom, the power of saying no, and what they hope to get out of the research project.

         In part 2 hear about how she was able to “craft what she needed, a game analogy of MMO and self work, applying RSA to other challenges, group sessions and how they remind you that you’re not alone, her goal of looking cute and not broke, the quality of growing versus condition of growing, compassion and pacing, conditioning for compassion, and finally how to get the e-book, sign up for group session, weekend workshop, or the research study.

    Links for Weekly Group Sessions, Weekend Workshops, One-on-One Coaching, and no cost Weekly Webinars are here: https://www.askezra.info/archive

    Join the Radical Sexual Acceptance Research Study Here: Tinyurl.com/startrsa

     

    Second Wind: Revisiting Fart Fetishism, Ask Ezra Episode 47 with Raj

    Second Wind: Revisiting Fart Fetishism, Ask Ezra Episode 47 with Raj
    Join Ezra as he talks again with Raj of the Fart Fetish Podcast.  We talk about living with misconceptions from porn, cross over to all bathroom fetishes, humor to fetish pipeline, farts to reconnect with juvenility “ farting with friends”, humor from insecurity, helping people feel not alone, infrared goggles, cartoon facesitting, degradation and its connection to the fetish, woman farting and cooking YouTube show, and MLMF men who love men's farts.
     

    Error 404 Episode not found, Ask Ezra Episode 46

    Error 404 Episode not found, Ask Ezra Episode 46

         The 46th episode has been removed at the request of the guest for personal reasons.  It is my policy to honor the wishes of the guest when they feel uncomfortable with an episode even after it airs.  Instead of leaving a blank space or replacing it with another episode, I have decided to replace it with a brief explanation and a sneak peek at some upcoming projects.

    Pre-order the poetry and paintings book:

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    https://houseofalgos.gumroad.com/l/RSA

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    Dealing with Jealousy and Mono Vs. Poly, Episode 45, Ask Ezra Podcast with Lily Danger

    Dealing with Jealousy and Mono Vs. Poly, Episode 45, Ask Ezra Podcast with Lily Danger

    Listen as we meet Lily Danger, an audio porn actress, currently single and loving life.  Lily has adopted a “Yes and” attitude and is working through her views on monogamy and what a partnership could really look like.  We look as monogamy verses polyamory through a few analogies and also consider what role jealousy plays in her love life.  

     

    reddit.com/u/Lily-Danger

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    Stuck Performing in the Bedroom, Ask Ezra Ep. 44 with Mark and Lynetta, The Soulmate Coaches

    Stuck Performing in the Bedroom, Ask Ezra Ep. 44 with Mark and Lynetta, The Soulmate Coaches

         Join Ezra as he chats with Mark and Lynetta, the Soulmate Coaches.  In this episode we learn about what Mark and Lynetta are dealing with in their relationship AND what they offer as coaches.  We learn what soulmate coaches are and what is this soulmate? We learn about the  four steps to love.  Then Ezra asks: What’s getting in the way?  Turns out there are some challenges around menopause for Lynetta and lower libido for both partners.  Lynette is feeling stuck in performance mode while Mark just asks her to be present.  Lynetta took a sex sabbatical to help figure things out.  We hear how six year old Lynetta left feeling crushed by her mom and how Lynetta now shuts down due to criticism or even perceived criticism.  Mark owns being greedy for Lynetta.  And Lynetta says “all my doors are open for Mark”.

         Ezra discusses why he is hesitant to receive coaching on the show.  They talk about the value of self compassion, and rejection sensitive dysphoria.  Lynetta shows us her capacity for compassion for sharing her compassionate feelings for her mother who must never have gotten approval either.

         We explore a few strategies for Lynetta to use when she feels stuck in her head.  We also explore role play opportunities that can shift the focus away from performance for Lynetta.  Lynetta shares her concern with what a lack of erection or sustain erection “means”.

         Mark and Lynetta share an experience of almost miraculous intimate connection they call soul touching.

     

    https://www.markandlynetta.com/coaching-with-mark-and-lynetta

     

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    Sadomasochistic Goth Girl and Golden Retriever Boy, Episode 43 Ask Ezra Podcast

    Sadomasochistic Goth Girl and Golden Retriever Boy, Episode 43 Ask Ezra Podcast

    Join Ezra as they talk with Sox, a sadomasochistic Goth who works as a dungeon monitor and plays with blood.  Learn about Sox's relationships, sensual versus sadistic, Sox as a sub not bottom, blood play, hook suspension, needle play experience and cutting, what her relationships look like, how Sox meet her blood play partner, Sox‘s bottom, Vanilla Partner, goth girl and golden retriever boy, how sox manages trauma response, being upfront about faults, play style is not source of conflict for her, her job at Sanctuary, Sox and Ezra working together, how Sox become a Dungeon Monitor, and more.

    SanctuaryLAX.com

    FL: MissSox

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    Interview with Dr. Patti Britton, Ask Ezra Episode 42

    Interview with Dr. Patti Britton, Ask Ezra Episode 42
    This episode follows an interview format with Dr. Patti Britton.
    Dr. Patti Britton has led 55 SAR programs over the past ten years in seven countries to over 1,500 people. She is the author of the only SAR training manual (Routledge Press, 2017). Britton is a nationally board-certified Clinical Sexologist and world renown as the Pioneer of the profession of Sex Coaching. She’s the author of hundreds of articles, book chapters, forewords, and five major books in sexology; a popular speaker to consumers and a seasoned professional trainer for her peers. Dr. Patti has hosted over 40 DVD programs on sexual enhancement. Her media record speaks for itself—with appearances on over 200 television shows, as the featured guest on over 250 interviews for radio, podcasts and media, such as Cosmopolitan, Mens Health, Womens Health, celebrity podcasts and popular sexual health-related websites.
     
    Dr. Patti is the very top leadership globally and is a well respected pioneer in the field of sexology. Britton possesses a Ph.D. and Masters in Public Health, both in Human Sexuality. Dr. Patti is a Certified Sex Coach. Her stellar credentials include: Past President of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT); AASECT Sexuality Educator of the Year 2016; Clinical Fellow, American Academy of Clinical Sexologists; Diplomate, American Board of Sexology; AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator/Supervisor; Lifetime member and Advisory Council for the American College of Sexologists International; Member of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality; National Advisory Board Ambassador of the Woodhull Freedom Foundation; Elected member of the Advisory Committee for the World Association for Sexual Health.
    She is also a former Academic Dean and Associate Professor of Sexology for the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality; and former Adjunct Faculty at The Chicago School (TCS) of Professional Psychology, Saybrook and Pacifica Institutes. In her capacity as professor, she has chaired more than 30 doctoral dissertations in sexology studies.
    Dr. Patti has a private practice in Los Angeles area and online via zoom worldwide. Dr. Patti is the Co-Founder of Sex Coach U, the world’s premier training and credentialing organization for sex coaches.
     
    Each year, Dr. Patti conducts professional trainings, speaks at major events, participates in national magazine/news/website interviews, speaks on radio shows/podcasts, is a featured expert at various virtual summits, and appears on camera for documentaries, webinars, and DVD programs for couples’ sexual enhancement.
    Dr. Patti believes that women and men have a divine birthright to experience their full erotic and sexual potential.
     
     
     
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    Being Poly in a Monogamous Relationship Ask Ezra Podcast Episode 41 with David Chambers

    Being Poly in a Monogamous Relationship Ask Ezra Podcast Episode 41 with David Chambers

    Join Ezra as he chats with David Chambers of The Authentic Man Podcast about what it is like to go from polyamorous to monogamous and then open back up in the same relationship.  We also talk about the expectation of flawlessness, David’s favorite client, what is David’s journey, challenges around podcasts, how David supported his partner and the way she is supporting him now, planning for time together, work life balance as a coach, fear as a positive indicator, and more.  Learn about David’s coaching practice and podcast as well.

     

    https://www.theauthenticman.net/podcasts

     

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    The 8 Forms of Intimacy, Ep. 40 of the Aske Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast with guest Dr. Bathurst

    The 8 Forms of Intimacy, Ep. 40 of the Aske Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast with guest Dr. Bathurst

    Join Ezra as they speak with Dr. Bathurst, a therapist, sexologist, coach, and holistic healer on episode #40 of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast.  Learn about Dr. Bathurst’s approach, what motivates them and other topics including:

    Ezra’s activation energy analogy, how Dr. Bathurst navigates the conflicting boundaries and expectations of the various roles, what it looks like if it goes sideways, is mentorship part of Ezra’s practice, Dr. Bathurst loves the BDSM crowd, educating therapists, bias from service providers, what are the eight forms of intimacy, what surprises people, what you didn't get in childhood or your last relationship is often what you seek in the next relationship, Dr. Bathurst’s ideal client, how therapy is all the time and not just in session, more than 20% of all  relationships are ENM, serial monogamy, non-violent communication,  emotional freedom technique and more…

     

    Website: https://www.bathurstfamilytherapy.com/

     

    90 Day Flow™ Program: https://www.flowenergyformula.com/

     

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