Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast

Join Ezra as he speaks with Professor and researcher Dr. Eli Sheff about topics including: polyamory family study, 70s research into non-monogamy, internet lead to an evolution in poly, kids of polyamorous families were born on third base with special advantages, this includes parents romantic freedom, expansion of childhood and lifespan leads to different partnering dynamics, old folks being sexual much more than in previous history, the impracticality of monogamy in the modern age, Darwin is getting no pussy, sex workers give good data, how children feel about their polyamorous families, “high communication families”, what is the bonding project and what she is hoping to learn from the bonding project, frequency of bonding styles, solo is most popular, have the washing machine and the dishwasher have ruined traditional marriage? Back to traditional family values movement is an enemy of feminism, poly in the absence of religion can create “beloved community”, brother husbands vs sister wives, one penis policy vs one vagina policy, hierarchical polyamory, “Its manipulative and shallow to claim no hierarchy and live hierarchy”, power exchange in poly, hierarchy of non-heirarchy being better and more…

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Join Ezra for the 38th episode of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast as he talks with Curtis.  Learn about power exchange, Daddy Dom / little girl dynamics, polyamory, and having multiple concurrent partners.  We also hear from Curtis and his experience with jealousy and possessiveness in relationships.  Listen as we talk through what good boundaries look like and what is healthy and what might be less healthy.

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Join Ezra for episode 37 where he talks with Jesse James Sweed and how he came to be  teaching English in South Korea and Spain.  We learn about his experience as a language coach, his separation and divorce and his romantic ambitions.  We hear about his experience with a transition in libido and the paradigm shift that comes as we get older.  We hear about how to gamified dating, get rejected with purpose, practice self love, and balance work and life.

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Join Ezra as he speaks with Tim of the Sex Ed With Tim Podcast.  They chat about emotional self regulation, observing your emotions like a bird watcher and not push them away or hold them close.  They also talk about setting boundaries like saying no and establishing reasonable expectations of our partners.  Lastly, they talk about practicing self compassion, listening to our intuition, and distracting ourselves or using toxic positivity to hide from emotions.

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Join Ezra as he speaks with Kitten Michelle who finds herself playing the caretaker role in her romantic and family relationships.  Learn what can happen when boundary setting feels like a crime and caring for yourself feels like wasted time.  We also practice setting and re-setting boundaries as well as envisioning a different kind of relationship.

In this episode we learn about power dynamics including top/bottom versus Dom/sub, and topping from the bottom as well as dynamics in three ways. We also learn about how we can use fantasy as a tool to explore possible power exchange dynamics, while minimizing the risk of hurt feelings . We also learned how one can tiptoe into the BDSM community to get what they need and see if it’s right for them.

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Husband Is Kinky But Doesn’t Know It Episode 32 or the Ask Ezra Podcast with Dominique

Join Ezra as he chats with Dominique who is also a sex coach.  First we have a discussion about sex/intimacy coaching and then we have an intimacy coaching session.  They discuss who is their ideal, their favorite and least favorite part about sex coaching, how Ezra evaluates prospective sub partners.  Then in our intimacy coaching session we talk about Dominique's experience with their partner and how “he doesn't know what his kinks are.”  We work on tools to process her frustration with his pace, communicate with him and facilitate his exploration from a place of curiosity and patience and build acceptance.

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Join Ezra as they speak with Karma the “Sex Slave”.  Karma goes into detail about what is valuable and challenging about the relationship she has built with her Master.  Learn how surrendering power consensually and with agency can be an empowering experience.  Also, hear about her book “Surviving Master Joshua” where she recounts her experience in exploring and ultimately diving head first into the lifestyle.

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Join Ezra as he chats with DirtyLittleGirl who is interested in power exchange relationships such as Master/slave and owner/pet and consensual non-consent or force fantasy play.  We talk about the fries acronym for consent, safe words, planning a kidnapping, what they learned from the book Mindfucking Mindfully, beliefs and Bombastic antithesis, communicating needs in a master slave relationship, imagined fear, perfectionism, being good at being a beginner, gratitude meditation tips, vetting, mental health challenges, importance of honesty, what kind of poly, jealousy as a secondary emotion, veto power, relationship anarchy and much more.

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In this episode we take a departure from our typical format of end to end intimacy coaching and instead Ezra talks with a fellow Intimacy Coach, Nora DeGrasse.  Together, Ezra and Nora talk about their most and least favorite parts of coaching, what they work on with their clients and more.  Towards the end of the episode Nora volunteers to practice a somatic body mapping exercise where Nora finds where she holds her tension and strategies for improving body literacy.

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Join us as we talked about how to navigate the swinger community as a couple, feeling confident in your own skin, strategies for using clothing to feel sexy, and much more…

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Join Ezra as he speaks with Tim of the Sex Ed With Tim Podcast. We discuss why its easier to just be hooking up, hookup culture, how relationships tend to go according to where you met, having the “what are you looking for?” conversation, determining what you are needs are versus your wants, emotional codependency, ghosting, the fear of too much intimacy, people pleasing, Role-playing boundary setting, Learning about attachment Style, dissociating as a defense mechanism, the silent treatment, the more you know yourself the more you can love yourself, and more … AskEzra.Info sexedwithtim.com

Join us as we talk with Daniel a polyamorous BDSM player with a lot going on.  With his main relationship and a number of play partners, Daniel has a lot of balls up in the air.  We learn about holding boundaries and setting expectations.  We also learn about some of the different models of polyamory.  Daniel talks about his experiences in previous relationships where he would feel burned out and the dangers of people pleasing in relationships.  We rollplay to practice some of those boundary setting skills.

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Lexi explains that she has relatively little experience in the BDSM world. She asks “how can I push this along better?”. We discussed a wide variety of topics, such as toxic masculinity, role playing abusive situations, punishment versus "funishment", behavioral modification, power exchange, agency, holding a container for power exchange, safe words, what a Munch is, self collaring, FetLife, how to avoid creeps on FetLife, what a BDSM party looks like, understanding risk, we roll played negotiation, Daddy Dom / little girl, her wanting to get in trouble, service topping and service bottoming, the Upper Floor, play polyamory, deroll end epilogue and more.

Lexi explains that she has relatively little experience in the BDSM world. She asks “how can I push this along better?”. We discussed a wide variety of topics, such as toxic masculinity, role playing abusive situations, punishment versus "funishment", behavioral modification, power exchange, agency, holding a container for power exchange, safe words, what a Munch is, self collaring, FetLife, how to avoid creeps on FetLife, what a BDSM party looks like, understanding risk, we roll played negotiation, Daddy Dom / little girl, her wanting to get in trouble, service topping and service bottoming, the Upper Floor, play polyamory, deroll end epilogue and more.

Join stress he speaks with Caroline. Ezra and Caroline met while both doing the Somatica Intimacy coaching training. Learn about attachment styles as Caroline shares her experience with the disorganized attachment style.  Caroline also shares about her challenges when dating other fem women.  There is a challenge she experiences around initiating or making in advance, they use role-play to practice the skill.  Ezra gets distracted by talking about sloshing randomly.--

 Join Ezra as he speaks with Joshua Neili, A fellow student in the Somatica Intimacy coaching program. Hear how they both found the experience of the Intimacy coaching program. Ezra also talks about his experience coming out as gender queer and non-binary. Joshua also discusses how intimacy coaching measures with his activism in ethical porn on the local scene in Amsterdam, “shmut cinema”.  Joshua discusses his personal journey of discovery‘s experience with clean pain versus dirty pain.

     Joshua also gets Ezra to open up about his own personal journey and his own vision of what his coaching practice might look like in the future. Ezra shares about his “inner 16 year old” and how it holds his adult self hostage.  Ezra talks about the fear that can accompany growth and how it’s showing up for him around letting go of the inner 16 year old.

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Join Ezra as he talks with Tay, an SW and POC exploring BDSM and her own sexuality.  Tay discusses her journey and how societal pressure led her to think she was both straight and submissive.  After much exploration and self discovery she now knows that she is more of a switch and identifies as a lesbian.

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Join Ezra as he has a conversation with Caroline.  She gives him the third degree with a whole host of questions about his expereince and his intimacy coaching practice.  Ezra discusses their gender exploration, the fear of rejection, advice for entering the BDSM community, other educators I like and much more.

Fun fact: this was the first podcast episode recorded and it includes Ezra with shorter hair that is thick and wavy.  Caroline also later becomes the introduction voice of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast!

Join Ezra as he speaks with Rob Rocket, a gay BDSM lifestyle player and professional living with PTSD.  We talk about a wide range of topics including covid as an additional challenge, SSC vs. RACK or PRICK, mental health challenges as a subjective red flag, getting a trigger list for pro-clients, coping skills for daily anxiety, power exchange dynamics, sex work, ABDL, Daddy Dom, imposter Syndrome, race play, scat play, transphobia in the old guard leather community, negotiating out of the dungeon, stimming, strategies for getting out of your own head, EMDR and embodiment in animal role play.

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