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    Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast

    The Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast is a series where we have unscripted kink-friendly intimacy coaching session with real people. We get to hear the emotional and interpersonal challenges they are experiencing and explore strategies they can use to overcome them or live with them with minimal suffering. visit AskEzra.info for more information about intimacy coaching or to sign up to be a guest.
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    Ask Ezra - Episode 18 David - Looking back on a year of coaching part 2

    Ask Ezra - Episode 18 David - Looking back on a year of coaching part 2

    Join me as we talk with David.  We had been coaching for almost a year together when this podcast was recorded.  We discuss such topics as, why did he pick me, wanting to avoid traumatizing people, practicing vulnerability, mentorship in the leather community, sex coaching is a limiting term, roleplay, conditional ask with explanation, Blade Runner question, seeing his own behavior, how do you feel about sex in general, the dance of assumptions, emphasis on consent, turnabout is not fair play, toxic independence, red flags are subjective.

    Ask Ezra - Episode 17 David - A look back on a year of coaching part 1

    Ask Ezra - Episode 17 David - A look back on a year of coaching part 1
    Join me as we talk with David.  We had been coaching for almost a year together when this podcast was recorded.  We discuss such topics as, why did he pick me, wanting to avoid traumatizing people, practicing vulnerability, mentorship in the leather community, sex coaching is a limiting term, roleplay, conditional ask with explanation, Blade Runner question, seeing his own behavior, how do you feel about sex in general, the dance of assumptions, emphasis on consent, turnabout is not fair play, toxic independence, red flags are subjective

    Ask Ezra - Episode 16 Sister Joshua Part 2 - Working as a Pro Dom and Life Realignment Counselor

    Ask Ezra - Episode 16 Sister Joshua Part 2 - Working as a Pro Dom and Life Realignment Counselor

    Join Ezra and Sister Joshua for part two of their session. They discuss things like holding on to anger, the power of acknowledging one's feelings, triggers as a way to feel safe, the temptation of conformity, hookup culture, as well as Sister Joshua's work as a professional dominant and as a life realignment counselor. They also discuss the value of doing the work and the dangers of not doing the work.

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    Ask Ezra - Episode 15 Sister Joshua - Exploring Gender and Shame

    Ask Ezra - Episode 15 Sister Joshua - Exploring Gender and Shame

    Join Ezra and Sister Joshua as they discuss gender exploration and challenges finding validation in a largely binary world. Learn about Joshua's experience with the shame of cross dressing, spirituality and zeroing out the currency of gender. Learn about Joshua's experience with authenticity, finding their diva, unpacking shame, learning how to feel safe in their exploration, and Bugs Bunny in high heels.

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    Ask Ezra - Episode 14 Shawn - Learning to say no and hold boundaries

    Ask Ezra - Episode 14 Shawn - Learning to say no and hold boundaries

    Join us as we speak with Shawn, a young woman who is new to the BDSM community and navigating meeting new people.  We discuss many topics such as, meeting people on fetlife, red flags, taking a break from finding a partner, finding community, the risk of connecting with a mentor with ulterior motives, taking classes, dominating without consent, setting boundaries but not holding them, how the community handles bad actors, BATNA, bringing a friend on a date and more.

    Ask Ezra - Episode 13 Shawn - Learning to say no and hold boundaries

    Ask Ezra - Episode 13 Shawn - Learning to say no and hold boundaries
    Join us as we speak with Shawn, a young woman who is new to the BDSM community and navigating meeting new people.  We discuss many topics such as, meeting people on fetlife, red flags, taking a break from finding a partner, finding community, the risk of connecting with a mentor with ulterior motives, taking classes, dominating without consent, setting boundaries but not holding them, how the community handles bad actors, BATNA, bringing a friend on a date and more.

    Ask Ezra - Episode 12 Charlie - Learning to say no and hold boundaries

    Ask Ezra - Episode 12 Charlie - Learning to say no and hold boundaries

    Join Ezra as he talks with Charlie. Charlie is in a Master / slave relationship and struggles to hold boundaries, say no and stay present in their own body.

     Other topics discussed include: Should is a dangerous word, Level of submission is disappointing for them, Trouble letting go, Getting stuck in your head, Getting back into your body, Getting distracted, Being present is like a muscle, Sexualize day-to-day activities, Master-slave relationship, Communication Issues, Holding back then blowing up later, Permission to offload, Not sharing your feelings as a kindness, Role play sharing aggravation and saying no, Boundary setting, Start with low stakes, The I feel game, Empathy vs. sympathy

    Ask Ezra - Episode 11 Naami part 2- teaching from the bottom

    Ask Ezra - Episode 11 Naami part 2- teaching from the bottom

    Join Ezra as he speaks with Naami (part 2) about teaching her Dom from the bottom, compartmentalizing and shadow work.

    The full list of topics include inexperienced partner issue, teaching her dom from the bottom, topping book and seeking guidance, you are not alone in teaching your dom,  education through role play, 14 years friends with partner, slap in the face, being open to switching is an educational resource, dom/sub vs top/bottom, relationship vs partnership, dealing with distractions, switching headspaces and anchoring with senses, find a different teacher, old ways of mentorship and coaches, gumroad classes, patreon, checklist, be tactful, ways to discuss results, West Texas challenge, I had to broaden his perspective of it, virtual munches, shame is a boner killer, bdsm and Trauma, trauma as a source of Kink, cut kin podcast reference, abrasive elbow rubbing in the value of community, Nami broaden her Horizons online, build your community and reduce shame, dom vs. sub personas, “no one asked me to be me”, the vulnerability of playing with lovers, unpacking after scene - LARP, integrated / compartmentalize 2 personalities, Bdsm allows us to be part of ourselves and all of ourselves, Shadow work with therapist, informed consent with Shadow work, remove aftercare disagreement, monogamous, supportive play Partners, get demo from old play partners

    Ask Ezra - Episode 10 Naami - teaching from the bottom

    Ask Ezra - Episode 10 Naami - teaching from the bottom
    Join Ezra as he speaks with Naami about teaching her Dom from the bottom, compartmentalizing and shadow work.

    The full list of topics include inexperienced partner issue, teaching her dom from the bottom, topping book and seeking guidance, you are not alone in teaching your dom,  education through role play, 14 years friends with partner, slap in the face, being open to switching is an educational resource, dom/sub vs top/bottom, relationship vs partnership, dealing with distractions, switching headspaces and anchoring with senses, find a different teacher, old ways of mentorship and coaches, gumroad classes, patreon, checklist, be tactful, ways to discuss results, West Texas challenge, I had to broaden his perspective of it, virtual munches, shame is a boner killer, bdsm and Trauma, trauma as a source of Kink, cut kin podcast reference, abrasive elbow rubbing in the value of community, Nami broaden her Horizons online, build your community and reduce shame, dom vs. sub personas, “no one asked me to be me”, the vulnerability of playing with lovers, unpacking after scene - LARP, integrated / compartmentalize 2 personalities, Bdsm allows us to be part of ourselves and all of ourselves, Shadow work with therapist, informed consent with Shadow work, remove aftercare disagreement, monogamous, supportive play Partners, get demo from old play partners

    Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast episode 9, Raj part 2

    Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast episode 9, Raj part 2

    In episode 9 of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast we talked with Raj (part 2) who is an asexual fart fetishist. We discuss with him how shame impacts attractiveness and how negative self-talk can prevent us from experiences. Other topics we discuss are: Asexuality, labels for communication, demi-sexual, sex of verse, a wider definition of sex to include BDSM, celebrating a sexuality, the power play of sex, sex as a service, acceptance as a resource for sexiness, how concealment or non-acceptance makes people suspicious, negative self talk, Beliefs and values, combating negative inner voices with contradictions, I'm hot s*** and people want me, submissive polyamorist masochist, fetish, fart, foot, face it in, Femme Dom, public masturbation, Junior High School, breath-play, dealing with prejudice at the dungeon, fetish Community, fart sniffers Anonymous Los Angeles shame dies in empathy, shame dies in community, recounting shameful memories as a way to minimize shames impact, pay for play, developing an intimate relationship with a pro, developing wants and needs list, anal without warming up, crossing your own boundaries, agency, powerless men, submissive men, content creation, roleplay, degradation, loss of agency, polyamory.

    Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast Episode 7: Meg Part 2

    Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast Episode 7: Meg Part 2

    Join Ezra as he speaks with Meg, a single mom exploring her exhibitionistic side. Meg also explores how being socialized as a woman can make it harder to share one’s feelings and needs. Other topics include: kink fetish explanation, recovering Catholic, roleplay, lesbian confessional, dominant third person, be the third person, shape the fantasy, simulated multiple people, risk-mitigation, risk attraction and risk mitigation, Park in Denmark where you can fuck, how can you add that element in a way that is low risk, porn and erotica as a discovery tool, tied up and blindfolded, sub and slave training description, mentorship and BDSM, my first Mentor was abusive, finding a rope community, homework as BDSM survey, pathologize fetishes, DSM and S&M pathology, what kind of masochist, stinging vs. thuddy, triggering items, make limits list, hard versus soft limits, entitled to The Fetish but not entitled to fulfillment, women are programmed to compromise, I need to know my Subs wants and needs, people pleasing at the expense of ones own needs, roleplay being used, without undermining your agency in the world, being a good sub - self-knowledge - communication, self-knowledge and communication more succinctly put, negotiation, practice negotiation in role-play intro, anal play, wishy-washy boundary, what do you like about it, what do I like about it, what does it look like sound like when you're having fun, what does it look like sound like when you're having a bad time, if I'm having bad time, Meg asks how to help me, getting out of outcome fixation, bondage and control – good Q&A, hard limits, bop bop bop, medical and mental health, mental health question rephrased, hopefully we have opened some doors, invitation to develop BDSM survey, cuddle parties after the Spanish Flu

    Ask Ezra Episode 8 with Raj. Asexuality and Fart Fetishism

    Ask Ezra Episode 8 with Raj. Asexuality and Fart Fetishism

    In episode 8 of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast we talked with Raj who is an asexual fart fetishist. We discuss with him how shame impacts attractiveness and how negative self-talk can prevent us from experiences. Other topics we discuss are: Asexuality, labels for communication, demi-sexual, sex of verse, a wider definition of sex to include BDSM, celebrating a sexuality, the power play of sex, sex as a service, acceptance as a resource for sexiness, how concealment or non-acceptance makes people suspicious, negative self talk, Beliefs and values, combating negative inner voices with contradictions, I'm hot s*** and people want me, submissive polyamorist masochist, fetish, fart, foot, face it in, femdom, public masturbation, Junior High School, breathplay, dealing with prejudice at the dungeon, fetish Community, fart sniffer is Anonymous Los Angeles shame dies in empathy, shame dies in community, recounting shameful memories as a way to minimize shames impact.

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    Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast Episode 6: Meg part 1

    Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast Episode 6: Meg part 1

    Join Ezra as he speaks with Meg, a single mom exploring her exhibitionistic side.  Meg also explores how being socialized as a woman can make it harder to share one’s feelings and needs.  Other topics include: kink fetish explanation, recovering Catholic, roleplay, lesbian confessional, dominant third person, be the third person, shape the fantasy, simulated multiple people, risk-mitigation, risk attraction and risk mitigation, Park in Denmark where you can fuck, how can you add that element in a way that is low risk, porn and erotica as a discovery tool, tied up and blindfolded, sub and slave training description, mentorship and BDSM, my first Mentor was abusive, finding a rope community, homework as BDSM survey, pathologize fetishes, DSM and S&M pathology, what kind of masochist, stinging vs. thuddy, triggering items, make limits list, hard versus soft limits, entitled to The Fetish but not entitled to fulfillment, women are programmed to compromise, I need to know my Subs wants and needs, people pleasing at the expense of ones own needs, roleplay being used, without undermining your agency in the world, being a good sub - self-knowledge - communication, self-knowledge and communication more succinctly put, negotiation, practice negotiation in role-play intro, anal play, wishy-washy boundary, what do you like about it, what do I like about it, what does it look like sound like when you're having fun, what does it look like sound like when you're having a bad time, if I'm having bad time, Meg asks how to help me, getting out of outcome fixation, bondage and control – good Q&A, hard limits, bop bop bop, medical and mental health, mental health question rephrased, hopefully we have opened some doors, invitation to develop BDSM survey, cuddle parties after the Spanish Flu

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    Ask Ezra - Episode 1 with Nik and Melissa part 1

    Ask Ezra - Episode 1 with Nik and Melissa part 1

    Join us for the first episode of Ask Ezra Podcast.  Our first guests, Nick and Melissa are both switches that want to get kinky more often then they have been.  both want to learn how to dominate without being domineering and learn how to better initiate the kinky fun time.  be sure to watch episode two for the second half of this first session.

    Ask Ezra - Episode 2 with Nik and Melissa - part 2

    Ask Ezra - Episode 2 with Nik and Melissa - part 2

    Join us for the second episode of the Aske Ezra Podcast.  with our guests Nick and Melissa, we will finish up the first session with this second part. We talk about erotic humiliation vs erotic degradation,  developing your dominant voice, and how important it is to share your wants and needs with your partner.


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