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So what can we do? How can we identify a relationship that is filled with emotional abuse? Is there a way to see it and get out before more damage is done and heal more compassionately and efficiently once it's over? What can we do to help ourselves in the future, to enforce healthy boundaries and not let someone take over our very existence?

Liz Goddard returns on this episode of the podcast to dive deeper into healing from an emotionally abusive relationship. Elizabeth is an Author, Spiritual Life Coach, Soul Transformation Therapist, Soul Plan Reader, and Reiki Master Teacher; training with the Holistic Healing College in London. She works with women to help them understand why they attract abusive relationships and helps them heal the ORIGINAL wound. She believes that by healing the original wound you can feel whole, something you may never have experienced and allow you to take charge of your life.

During our chat, Liz shares about her upcoming new book, "The A to Z of Emotional Abuse", and how the key to healing lies in understanding. In her new book, she takes the approach of education and learning about what emotional abuse is, in order to not only identify it but also to heal.

• How cognitive dissonance and gaslighting can go hand in hand in an abusive relationship, and consequently literally damage our brain from the emotional trauma.
• Understanding who exactly is to blame for the emotional abuse, and working through the urge to self-shame.
• What role did you play in the relationship, and what you can you learn from it without interpreting the events in a way that causes you to take on all of the blame?
• What is a manufactured soulmate and how can that mindset keep us stuck in the emotionally abusive relationship? For that matter, the importance of understanding that the toxic relationship itself is a manufactured relationship in the first place?
• How to recognize if you are in an emotionally abusive relationship; the key to understanding what's happening.
• Idealization and Devaluation phases of a relationship, and how the toxic partner will use your ideals against you to manipulate you.

Learn more about Elizabeth Goddard, her ROAR program to Help Heal from Emotional Abuse, her Free Meditations available, her upcoming book, and more, over on her website ReviveYourSoul.co.uk

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So what does that hope actually look like, what does it feel like? Well, I'm glad you asked because our guest on this episode of the podcast is Monique Koven, Trauma-Informed Recovery & Resilience Coach.

I have worked for over 25 years as a social worker where I worked with older adults, many of whom were Holocaust survivors. As a survivor of ongoing, repetitive childhood trauma, I know what it's like to believe that things will never change. I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and chronic PTSD. I was always trying to find the right therapy to provide some relief and finally "fix" me. Over the years, I tried well over 15 therapeutic modalities, but nothing ever helped. I lived with chronic anxiety, fear, and distressing daily PTSD symptoms such as flashbacks, disassociation, and triggering. Waking up with feelings of dread at the thought of a new day and then living it in constant anxiety. Every. Single. Day. I was told that trauma and anxiety were going to be with me for the long haul and that I would have to learn coping strategies to manage my symptoms. I believed it. Until... everything changed.

I have found complete freedom and am living my life fully without anything holding me back. I drive wherever I want, I take risks and step into things I never dreamed possible, and I feel at ease in my own body and mind. No more waking up in dread at the thought of another day. And the best part was that I didn’t need any tools or techniques.

I can help you step back into your innate power and peace of mind. There is hope. Change is possible.

During our chat with Monique, we talk about:

• Monique shares some of her past and the struggles she felt growing up in an abusive home.
  • How she managed to try and feel safe in an environment full of chaos and violence.
• As she grew up, the challenges of seemingly having a perfect life but feeling pulled back into her past.
• Is it actually possible to fully heal from CPTSD and PTSD; and if so, what does that look like?
• Finding balance during your healing and what it means to go to both ends of the spectrum during healing work.
• Why is it important to have someone witness and validate your story.

If you're interested in learning more about Monique's coaching programs, be sure and check out MoniqueKovenCoaching.com,  Facebook & Instagram.

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Your survivor story, the way you live it every day, and the way you tell it to others, evolves throughout the various stages of healing. Each version is your truth, as you experienced it in the past and how you live in the present. Each stage of healing represents how you've grown and how much you learn about yourself; and so naturally the details, the way you live each day, and the way you tell it, changes and evolves with you.

On this episode of the podcast, we're talking about this very thing; learning how to tell your survivor story, as well as forming relationships with others after your trauma. Rachel Grant, Sexual Abuse Survivor Coach, is a regular on Beyond Your Past Radio, and I'm honored to have her join me today as I share a chat we had recently.

Rachel Grant is a Sexual Abuse Survivor Coach, with an M.A. in Counseling Psychology. Her website, RachelGrantCoaching.com features not only her individual and group work with survivors, but also her book “Beyond Surviving”, Facebook Group, Master Class, and free and low-cost Audible Downloads covering topics such as Shame, Boundaries, Abandonment, and much more.

It's always a privilege to talk with Rachel on the show; her message of healing is always encouraging and filled with hope for how we can move forward from the trauma and abuse, and be more than a survivor. We can Thrive!

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Joanne and I share some thoughts on self-doubt during this episode of the podcast. Her new book, "Ditch Your Doubt" gives you practical insight into how self-doubt is manifested in your life and ways you can overcome it.

How is self-doubt presenting in your life? Are there strategies you’ve tried that just don’t work? There’s a reason for that; every event in life is a learning experience for your brain. What we teach ourselves, what we’ve been taught (consciously or otherwise), the people we interact with in daily life, it’s all connected and can all foster this mindset of perpetuating self-doubt and feeling stuck.

There is hope, there are ways to work through this and retrain your brain to default to new pathways, new mindsets, and a more positive, authentic outlook on not only who you are, but what your capable of, and the way you see others.

Read more on this on the blog post over on BeyondYourPastRadio

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June is self-worth month here on the podcast. We started off talking with the UK's leading confidence coach and transformational mentor, Amy Rushworth, as she shared some of her story and talked about how finding your voice is in direct relation to self-confidence and developing your self-worth. After that, we shared some thoughts on how you are the one that gets to define who you are, and what you're about; your worth is not dependent on anyone or anything. So if you haven’t checked out those two episodes you’ll want to go back after this one and give em a listen.

Continuing on with the self-worth theme, we’re talking with returning guest and friend, Brian Cardoza. Brian is an author, artist, and national speaker, using his platform to help share the message of his survivor story and encourage both men and women to take that first step of seeking help to work through a traumatic past.

Brian’s message of hope, presented in such an authentic, genuine, and down-to-earth way, is inspiring because he’s able to relate to the unique struggles that survivors go through, including the silence and shame that keeps them stuck and feeling unable to reach out for help.

We talk with Brian about his survivor story and get into a deep discussion about the struggles of survivors who are trying to find their voice and reach out for help. Throughout our chat, with Brian, you’ll notice how we use some well-timed, and improvisational humor to help illustrate that while this work is deep, powerful, difficult, and necessary, there is hope in healing and all of that work hard pays off.

Plus, near the end of the podcast, in true Brian Cardoza form, he drops a nugget of wisdom that will result in a future episode on the topic of bringing awareness to "coercive rape" and the pressure that both men and women feel when it comes to intimacy. Believe me, friend, this one will definitely cause you to pause and ponder his take on this delicate subject. 

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In keeping with the theme of Self-Worth, that we have going right now for June 2019, I wanted to share my thoughts what exactly our self-worth is tied too. It's an interesting question to ponder if you pause and think about it for a minute. What things in your life are you maybe tieing your worth to as a human being?

• Your Job or Career
• Getting a promotion
• Achieving a particular goal
• Being a parent
• A spouse
• A hobby
• Your house, Your Car, Your Possessions...

Insert whatever you want... but consider taking stock of how much of your well being, your personality, your existence, your purpose, you put into those things..and how is that serving you? How does that make you feel, how does that inspire you?

How temporary, or volatile are those things...are you always striving to live up to a standard of someone else, and if so, how's that working out for you?

I share some thoughts on the importance of tying your self-worth, your reason for being on this planet, to only you. Not allowing anyone or anything to dictate who you are, how you should act, where you focus your time, efforts, and resources. Understanding that relationships, hobbies, friendships, careers, possessions, and the like...are all well and good, there's nothing wrong with any of those things, as long as you always know that you are amazing, worthy, capable, and important just for being you.

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During my chat with Amy Rushworth on this episode of the podcast, we are talking about how self-confidence is born, developed, and honed throughout your life experiences. It's those experiences that help you find your voice, which is discovered by developing your self-confidence; and your self-confidence is born out of everything you've been through in your past, and continues to develop as you live your life.

Amy Rushworth is the UK's leading Confidence Coach & Transformational Mentor. She helps her clients and those who take her programs, to ignite their confidence, fire up their self-worth, and get their sparkle back.

During our chat with Amy, you'll hear how she came to a pivotal point in her life of realizing she needed more out of her life than what she originally thought. She was checking off the boxes; a wonderful relationship, apartment on the beach, glamorous fashion career, and so on but there was something missing, and her body was beginning to show her this in ways she never expected.

• Through some difficult medical circumstances, she was left with plenty of time to reflect, and knew it was time to make a change.
• She shares how being in a place of true acceptance and self-love, helps her be in tune with what her body and mind are telling her. 
• We discuss how gratitude opens your heart and rewires your brain, and that rewiring is essential in developing confidence and self-worth. She shares helpful strategies for starting your own gratitude journal and making it a part of your life, every day.
• We talk about the importance of getting to the root of limiting beliefs to help change the maladaptive coping skills that hold you back and keep you stuck. 

There's so much more during our chat with Amy, so be sure and check out the podcast by scrolling up and clicking that play button, or on your favorite podcast app. You can learn more about Amy's programs at AmyRushworth.com, and follow her on Instagram, and Facebook.

It's funny how things work out in life, and I don't mean funny haha, but more like funny strange, or funny interesting. 

In this episode of Mobile Musings, sponsored by Beyond Your Past Radio, I look back at an episode I recorded 3 years ago, and wouldn't you know it..it's as relevant today as it was then. 

The struggles unfolding all around us in government, world violence, a divided nation and really divided world on so many fronts, can take its toll on your emotional health. These volatile times, the same as back then, can very easily steal your joy and bring down your outlook on humanity overall as well as the potential in your own life.  

For that matter, not even just 3 years ago, but these struggles have been around in various forms for decades, and one can make a case for these things being around since pretty much, forever. Times change, technology changes, and we just don't seem to learn from our past in some areas.  You know how that old saying goes, right?

So I hope you'll enjoy this look back at my thoughts on embracing the good the people around you, sharing a smile, and finding ways to rid yourself of the negativity in your life so can embrace everything wonderful about you and those around you. 

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Problems falling asleep, staying asleep, getting enough sleep, feeling sleepy during the day...any of these ring a bell as something you struggle with? If you're one of the 50-70 million people in the U.S. alone that suffer from a sleep disorder, you can definitely relate. Even if you aren't diagnosed with a specific sleep disorder, problems falling asleep and getting enough sleep can still be an issue.*

Dr. Mendelson joined us back in episode 104, where we talked about Antidepressants, PTSD, and Taking an Active Role in Your Treatment. After that chat, we talked about his work in the area of sleep, and I thought it would be a great idea to bring him back again to talk about this important topic.

Dr. Wallace Mendelson is currently in the clinical practice of psychiatry. He was formerly Professor of Psychiatry and Clinical Pharmacology at the University of Chicago. At that time, he was also Director of the Sleep Research Laboratory there. Dr. Mendelson earned an MD degree from Washington University School of Medicine in St. Louis and completed a residency in psychiatry at the same institution.  He has held professorships at Ohio State University and the State University of New York at Stony Brook, was Chief of the Section on Sleep Studies at the National Institute of Mental Health in Bethesda, MD, and Director of the Sleep Disorders Center at the Cleveland Clinic. 

Among his honors is the William C. Dement Academic Achievement Award from the American Sleep Disorders Association as well as the Special Award in Sleep and Psychiatry from the National Sleep Foundation, and he is a distinguished fellow of the American Psychiatric Association. In 1997, he was President of the Sleep Research Society. Dr. Mendelson has authored or co-authored three books, and co-edited another,  and published over 190 peer-reviewed papers on various aspects of sleep research. 

During our chat, Dr. Mendelson shares his insight about sleep, including some of his research and information contained in his latest books, The Science of Sleep and Understanding Sleeping Pills.

• When you sleep, it's a very active time both for your body and your mind, as it goes through many stages while you are asleep.
• Processing, cataloging, and storing memories, and how emotional healing can also take place during sleep.
• Can you actually make up for lost sleep by trying to sleep in longer or going to bed earlier?
• Needing more sleep as you get older, and the difficulty in functioning without proper sleep each night.
• Types of sleep disorders: including disorders that affect falling asleep, staying asleep, excessive sleep, and abnormal behaviors while sleeping.
• Therapy modalities available to help with insomnia and other sleep disorders, including CBTI (cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia).
• How phones and tablets can have a dramatic impact on falling asleep and the quality of sleep we get.

Thank you to Dr. Wallace Mendelson for coming back as a guest on this episode of the podcast. B

Motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. This relates to the law of averages, which is the theory that the result of any given situation will be the average of all outcomes. When it comes to relationships, we are greatly influenced — whether we like it or not — by those closest to us. It affects our way of thinking, our self-esteem, and our decisions. Of course, everyone is their own person, but research has shown that we're more affected by our environment than we think.

Not only in relationships, but that train of thought can apply to virtually any aspect of your personal or professional life. So the challenge then becomes, not only keeping your individuality (which is a podcast for another time) but also if you are influenced by others to any degree, being selective about the people you hang out with becomes paramount.

That is the topic of this Mobile Musing episode, where I reflect back to our chat with Tiffany Toombs, on the power of reframing your limiting beliefs to change your life. During that chat, we talk not only about reframing, and what that is, but also about the importance of surrounding yourself with the right people. We discuss the importance of enforcing healthy boundaries and being selective about those who are not only in your inner circle but also in acquaintances and other relationship levels.

You may not be able to choose your colleagues, for example, but you can choose how much you own and internalize their comments and how much you allow them to influence your mindsets. If they are a negative influence, if they don't help you feel encouraged and empowered, then perhaps limiting exposure to them outside of the necessary meetings and such, may be something to consider.

The same goes with friends and family members, of all levels:

• Do the people you spend time with make you feel good about yourself?
• Do they help encourage you in a genuine way? Are their comments uplifting?
• Are they there to listen and validate your struggles, without having to "fix" you or always give advice?
• Do you truly feel better about yourself when you're in their company?

These types of questions are at the heart of ensuring that you not only feel inspired and encouraged but safe and supported. Of course, not everyone can live up those standards, and not everyone has the ability to relate to every aspect of your life, so it's important to have a diverse group that can be there to meet specific needs at any given time. And, in turn, you can be the very best support person for those in your life.

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So how exactly do we even figure out what this whole "reframing" thing is? How do you figure out who the safe people are and make changes to surround ourselves with them? How do we change all these negative core beliefs that we've been rooted in for so long, so we can build new pathways in our brain and develop a new outlook on who we are and what we're capable of?

I'm glad you asked...our guest, Tiffany Toombs is here to help shed some light on this subject and address those struggles and more.

Tiffany is a Mindset Coach, and Master Practitioner of Matrix Therapies and NLP. She is the founder of blue lotus mind, a program she developed to help inspire men, women, and children to reconnect and love themselves, unconditionally, from the inside out. Her goal is to create a self-love revolution, where everyone feels empowered to redefine what happiness and love look and feel like, to them.

I have experienced first hand what it is like to feel stuck and lost in life. This experience allows me to coach from a deeply personal place, from a place of being broken wide open and diving in to sort out the pieces...and so I want to start a self-love revolution. I want everyone I come into contact with to feel empowered to re-define what happiness and love look and feel like for them. 

During our chat on the podcast we cover:

• Self-Love; why do we resist it?
• Why it's so important to heal negative emotions & experiences from the past.
• The importance of doing what's best for us, even when others judge and call you selfish.
• Understand that every behavior has a belief system, and focusing on the behavior alone won't accomplish the goal of healing.
• Learning not to settle in your career, relationships, or any aspect of life.
• Taking time to connect with your highest intentions each day to help yourself continually grow and not regress back into old patterns you worked so hard to change.
• Life is full of ebbs and flows, ups and downs, and not getting too attached to either.

We unpack all of this and more during our chat with Tiffany Toombs, so be sure and check out the podcast right here on the Beyond Your Past Radio, or search your favorite podcast app for "Beyond Your Past".

Thank you to Tiffany for sharing her incredible insight and wisdom on the power of using Reframing to change your limiting beliefs.

You can learn more about Tiffany Toombs, including her coaching programs and online resources, over on BlueLotusMind.com - Be sure and follow her on social media as well:

Twitter: @TiffanyNToombs - Facebook: @BlueLotusMind - Instagram: @TiffanyToombs

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Continuing on with our new Mobile Musings podcast series every Thursday here on Beyond Your Past Radio, I'm sharing some thoughts around the topic of Interrupting Anxious Thoughts. 

How do we actually interrupt an anxious thought in the first place; and why is it important to develop this skill? On that note, it is indeed something that needs to be practiced and fostered over time since we are actually retraining our minds to stop using those old, negative, programmed, default responses that no longer serve us. 

What about reframing emotional responses? How does anxiety try and use your emotions against you? One reason is that it loves to live in an emotional mind, making it much easier to gain and keep a hold of us, which ultimately perpetuates the very actions, reactions, and mindsets we are trying to change. 

I talk about a current example in my own life, and how anxiety could very easily take a medical challenge I'm facing, and turn it into a worry-fest. An opportunity for me to stay up all night, overthinking, researching, and worrying myself over things I have no control over. 

There's a lot more in store in this episode of our new Mobile Musings series, so be sure and check it out and see what you think. If you'd like to send us a message and tell us what you think, we'd love to hear from you. 

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Recently, Joanne had the opportunity to chat with Andrea Evans, about her first endeavor into the world of being an executive producer and the message she wants everyone to take away when you see her documentary, "Rocking the Couch".

Andrea Evans has been a Hollywood icon for decades, staring in television shows including The Bold and the Beautiful, Passions, One Life to Live, The Bay, and more.  Now she's teamed up with longtime friend and director, Minh Collins, to create a documentary in the wake of the scandal involving Harvey Weinstein, Bill Cosby, and others, to help bring awareness to sexual assault victims and what can happen on the casting couch.

Andrea talks with Joanne about how the idea for, 'Rocking the Couch', came to be and why she, Minh, and her team decided it was so important to make this documentary. She shares some of the processes in talking to women who would be willing to speak out and share their story, and the struggle of so many who simply couldn't share their experience due to shame, fear, their career, or family and friends who don't know they've experienced this type of trauma.

Ms. Evans shares how especially vulnerable and susceptible aspiring actors are to what can happen on the casting couch. Since there is no clear cut path on how to make it in the entertainment industry, newcomers to the scene have to find their way and are often left to their own devices, which means they simply aren't aware of what can go on during the process of trying to make it in the industry.

Andrea shares with us the message that she hopes everyone will take from this movie, that more people will be aware of what can happen in this situation and hopefully this can be a step in the direction of raising awareness and empowering survivors of sexual assault to reach out for help, share their story, and hopefully be a catalyst for helping to prevent this trauma.

Rocking the Couch is currently available on Amazon Prime, Hollywood titans, Harvey Weinstein & Bill Cosby, have been brought to their knees by the #MeToo movement. The term casting couch has existed for decades in Hollywood, but in 1992, a case against talent agent, Wallace Kaye, was brought to court by 12 unknown actresses, who braved the loss of their careers, privacy & Hollywood dreams. Against all odds, they won, and no one listened, until now. 

"Our documentary explores the case and asks, "Why didn't we hear about this?" More importantly, why didn't Hollywood learn from this case? For, if they had, maybe the Cosbys and the Weinsteins would have learned as well, and these sexual exploitations could have been prevented". - Rotten Tomatoes

We appreciate Andrea Evans taking some time out of her busy schedule to talk with us on Beyond Your Past Radio. We encourage you to consider checking out her film, and get a glimpse into a world that so many of us have never experienced but is none the less as real as it gets.

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Welcome to the next installment in the Mobile Musings series here on Beyond Your Past Radio. Each episode is recorded while out walking or driving, with nothing more than a mobile phone. You'll hear my thoughts on life, mental health, making a difference in the world and in the lives of others.

So how can we potentially see ourselves, and the world, in a different way? Do we even need to, and if so, why?

What kind of difference can it make in our daily life; personal, professional, relationships, everywhere?

In this episode, I'm out doing some walking, did ya notice the walking intro too? :) Thinking about how much of a difference it can make if we decide that maybe, just maybe, we can choose to approach our day, or a specific situation, in a new way?

Think about how you wake up each day, what is your mindset as you get ready to head out to work? What's going through your mind as you approach that lunch date with a friend? How much do you dread calling back that person you've been avoiding because you're afraid of what they'll say or ask you to do?

What if you could take a chance, a calculated risk, and ask youself what it might be like to see that situation differently?

How might that look to you?

Give this episode a listen as I talk about it on the podcast!

Please do let us know your thoughts on this raw, simple format which will begin being released every Thursday.  Hit us up anytime at https://beyondyourpastradio.com/contact-us

-Matt

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May is GBS-CIDP awareness month, and what better way for us to help do our part here on the podcast than to talk with a fellow survivor of this rare disease, and get his take on his experiences during diagnosis, treatment, and how life has changed for him since.

Jeremy Oster reached out to me a couple of months back, when he was looking for connections to other survivors of GBS, and came across the podcasts I recorded about my experience. We chatted through email and on the phone, swapping stories, struggles, things we've learned along the way of our healing; and I thought it would be cool to bring him on the podcast to continue our chat during GBS-CIDP awareness month.

Jeremy was like so many before the onset of GBS; married, children, successful career in both technology and sales, and while he had his share of struggles personally and professionally, he was primarily living life the way so many of us do each day. Then out of the blue, everything changed, and ever since his life has taken on a new normal in a way he could have never imagined.

During our chat:

• Jeremy breaks down what exactly GBS is, and what it feels like to live with it each day both physically and emotionally.
• He shares what his life was like on a daily basis, an what happened just before Guillain Barre set in.
• The importance of moving past "how did I get GBS" and focusing on "what am I going to do about it".
• The toll this disease can take on a spouse and family, during treatment, recovery, and life afterward.
• Finding your new normal, and approaching life with the right mindset so you can be proactive in your healing, rather than just resigning yourself to what you think will never change.

If you'd like more information on this rare disease, related conditions and variants, treatment options, and how you can help support research, please head over to GBS-CIDP.org, the official foundation website to see how you can get involved.

To check out my other podcasts on this topic, check out "The Diagnosis that Changed My World", and my "One Year Later Update Episode" .

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Welcome to the return of Mobile Musings! A short weekly podcast sponsored by Beyond Your Past Radio and Beyond Your Past.

Each episode is recorded while out walking or driving, with nothing more than a mobile phone. You'll hear my thoughts on life, mental health, making a difference in the world and in the lives of others.

This was a segment that originally started a couple of years ago but we ended up getting away from it for no other reason than, well we just did. I really enjoyed recording these and now seems like a great time to bring them back.

So welcome back to Mobile Musings, the Reactivation..or the Return..or well, you get the idea.

In this episode, I share alittle bit about the back story and also the reason why I decided to bring this format back to be a companion to our full-length episodes which get released every Monday.

I share about the importance of knowing your limits, being able to pivot and adjust, and not trying your self-worth to the outcome of a project, or strategy change. I also share why burnout in any area of life is real, and why these episodes will help alleviate that concern.

Plus, there's nothing wrong with having a little fun with a podcast right? You'll see what I mean when you listen, and if you enjoy them you'll notice other cool quirks and fun stuff each time that hopefully will bring a smile to your face.

Please do let us know your thoughts on this raw, simple format which will begin being released every Thursday.  Hit us up anytime at https://beyondyourpastradio.com/contact-us

-Matt

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Bipolar Barbie, a mental health advocate who shares her life on social media, joins me on this episode of the podcast to talk about this very subject and to share some of her life's story.

If you follow B on social media, you know that she is very active on live streams, documenting her life as she continues to learn who she is and along the way inspiring followers from across the globe who resonate with her vulnerable, honest, message. A message of, "be unapologetically you", regardless of what others think.

It's ok to struggle, to have bad days, and not have all the answers. It's ok to wake up and have no idea what the day is going to bring and how you'll feel; to be completely unsure of how you're going to manage from one hour to the next. Living with Bipolar, Depression, Anxiety, or anything else doesn't mean you are broken, hopeless, and destined to be something less than that you want to be. It just means, the way you get through each day, and accomplish your goals is going to look different than you originally thought, and that's totally fine. All that matters is that you keep going, keep fighting, and never give up.

During our chat, B. shares why she calls herself, Bipolar Barbie, and how she began this life of being a mental health advocate and sharing her story on a global scale.

We also discuss:

•  The importance of being able to communicate effectively with a doctor or mental health professional about your diagnosis and the challenges you face every.
• Educating yourself on your diagnosis so you can take an active role in your treatment, and to help ensure you get the best treatment for you.
• Why her message resonates with so many people around the world, and why sharing her life so vulnerably and in an unscripted way, allows her to connect on a deep level with her followers.
  • In addition how she also continues to learn about herself and further her own healing by sharing her life.
• How labeling someone and throwing around words like "mentally ill" in a negative context, only perpetuates the shame and encourages silence rather than seeking help.
• The importance of just being there for someone who's struggling, without needing to give advice or answers; just listen without judgment.

Thanks again to B. for coming on the podcast, especially with the large time-zone difference between our locations. There's a lot more that we didn't get too, and to be honest, what we originally planned to cover wasn't what we actually talked about. That's the beauty of chatting with someone and just letting the conversation flow naturally. Don't worry though, she'll be joining us again later this year as a returning guest.

You can follow Bipolar Barbie all across social media:

YouTube - Twitter - Instagram - Facebook

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Our guest on this episode of the podcast has dedicated her life to helping women in particular, and survivors as a whole, to find their voice. To begin to realize that they too have the ability to reach out for help, work through their past moving from victim to survivor, and ultimately from survivor to warrior.

Lisa Cybaniak is a Motivational Speaker, Success Coach, NLP Practitioner, and survivor of 10 years of child abuse. Over the last 3 years, her work has been featured on radio programs, podcasts, in magazines, and other media outlets. Her first book, Survivor to Warrior is due out in June of 2019.  She outlines on her website, I've developed three healing streams to empower you to build a life of purpose after abuse, wherever you may be on your path to recovery: Reaching Out, Victim to Survivor, and Survivor to Warrior.

If you've not had an abusive background, but still suffer from low self-esteem or confidence, impostor syndrome or a lack of fulfillment in your life, you will find many options here for you too. Remember, if you keep doing the same thing, you can expect the same result. If you're ready for a different result, then you're in the right place!

During our chat with Lisa, Joanne and I talk with her about her survivor journey and her work with clients:

• Lisa shares about the multiple types of abuse she suffered at the hands of her stepfather, and how she found the courage to tell someone what was happening.
• The incredible story of how her mother came to her rescue, validating everything Lisa said was happening and immediately made plans to get her away from the abuse.
• The challenges of relationships and being able to tell her story to others; only a handful of people knew what happened during her teenage and young adult years.
• We discuss the importance of tying the validity of your abuse, and survivor story, to the outcome of a court case when filing charges against your abuser.
• The struggles of using detachment as a coping skill, and how that lead to suicidal thoughts and closing off from nearly everyone in her life.
• How she is using her life experiences now to work with clients, speak internationally, and continue her own ongoing journey of healing.

If you'd like to learn more about working with Lisa, her programs, upcoming new book, and her speaking engagements, just head over to LifeLikeYouMeanIt.com...and be sure and tell her, "Beyond Your Past, sent you".  ;)

You can follow her on Twitter: @LisaCybaniak , Facebook.com/lifelikeyoumeanit, and Instagram: @Life_Like_You_Mean_It

-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP & Joanne Cipressi, CHt, CNLP

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Joanne recently had the opportunity to spend a few minutes chatting with Abby Johnson; Author, Speaker, founder of "And Then There Were None", and former Clinical Director of Planned Parenthood. Abby has been using her voice in support of the Pro-Life movement since leaving her career in the industry in 2009. Her story has been featured on Fox News, ABC, and many other high profile media outlets as she uses her voice to help encourage women to consider a stance of what she refers to as "pro-love".

As outlined on Abby's website: ...We see that every life, from the child in the womb, to the elderly - and in between, including the abortion clinic worker's life, has incredible value, and worth. We believe that abortion strips women of their dignity. We believe that motherhood is empowering. We believe that not conforming and giving into societal pressures when it comes to femininity is empowering.

We believe that justice applies to every single human being on this earth. We believe in redefining the pro-life movement to include everyone, every age, race, gender, religion, and every job.

During Joanne's chat with Abby, they discuss the movie now in theaters, "Unplanned", which is based on Abby's life experiences in working with Planned Parenthood and the events which transpired that ultimately changed her life; turning in an entirely new direction. Abby shares what the reaction to her movie has been, how important her support system has been to her, and what it's been like in her own life since releasing the movie. We encourage you to consider checking out the movie, regardless of where you stand on this issue.

-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP & Joanne Cipressi, CHt, CNLP 

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Have you ever said to yourself, "if I only knew then what I know now?" It's quite likely you are nodding your head in agreement, as that old saying is timeless. For better or worse, it's one of those things that gets passed down from generation to generation. It comes in especially handy when you're giving advice to a child about what you've experienced and what they can learn from your mistakes. Of course, we all know we've heard that and didn't listen right?..but I digress.

Anyway, we wanted to share some of the things that we've learned along the way during times of deep healing in therapy, wisdom shared with us from therapists, friends, and others, or just revelations that come to us in the middle of the night. Don't you just love it when those happen?

So what have we learned?

• Reaching out for help is hard, but necessary.
  • For that matter, it doesn't make you weak when you reach out for support.
• Gaining a greater awareness of yourself, and knowing your limits.
  • Knowing when to go all in with healing and when to take a break; listening to your body.
• Focusing on your strengths, rather than "what's wrong with you".
  • How you talk to yourself
• Self-Care as a preemptive strategy to help with burnout in trauma recovery.
• A few more important ones that you'll have to listen to find out. :)

- Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP & Joanne Cipressi, CHt, CNLP

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