This is not a compliment for a griever. When a griever loses a loved one they are in survival mode. They were not given the choice to prevent their loss from occurring, yet they still have to perform the activities of daily living. In general, grievers are on auto-pilot when they experience a loss, when they are told how strong they are it is not because they want to be it's because they have to function.
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It is not uncommon for families to fight during a grieving experience. Grief is unique and individual to the griever and every griever is struggling with the individual relationship they had with the loved one that has passed away. Everyone should be given the space to grieve the way that they need to and should not be told how to grieve. Emotions show up for everyone in a different way.
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Every griever has the experience when they lose a loved one or even a less than loved one that their brain automatically starts reviewing the relationship. We spend time looking at everything we wish we would've done different, better or more. The griever automatically identifies the feeling the are having as guilt for all the things left unsaid and the the things left undone. It's not guilt, but regret the griever is left with and this can add another layer to the grief and the pain in our hearts.
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The Sisters discuss how inappropriate it is for people to compare their losses to another person's loss. When grievers have unresolved grief they will put their pain on a new griever by saying "I know exactly how you feel." This is one of the most disrespectful things you can say to a new griever. It's time to normalize the concept that grief is unique and individual an no one will ever know exactly how you feel.
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This is an extremely sensitive topic for some grievers when they find themselves in the situation of not having someone to list as their emergency contact. The void of not having someone who will show up for you increases the grieving experience tenfold. It is up to the griever to do the necessary work to find healing so that they can find someone to show up for them.
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The sisters define and discuss what a grief funk really is and how it affects grievers. There are times when we make a certain amount of progress and then something like an anniversary or holiday drags us back down into a grief funk. When this happens it can make the griever feel like they are not getting better and it often discourages them from continuing on their healing journey.
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The Sisters discuss how important it is to give voice to the negative emotions you are carrying in your heart. Grief carries such negative emotions but because we as a society are not trained how to properly talk about grief we try to push it all down and avoid the feelings. Not being able to communicate how you are feeling will delay your ability to heal.
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Erica gets an opportunity to interview her youngest son Jordan. Jordan explained in his own words what it has been like to lose two brothers at such a young age. He also shares what he has learned form his grieving experience and how he tries to help others when they are grieving.
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With a new year upon us the Sisters deliver a very important message about the griever taking accountability for their own grief. Like a lot of things in life there is no manual that tells us how to grieve and everyone's grief is different. Sharon and Erica share that they made a lot of mistakes on their grief journey. It is from their personal experiences with their own grief that they deliver this message to you.
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The Sisters discuss the challenges that continue to plague mothers after their child passes away. This can also happen when their child moves away. There is definitely no comparison, but the emptiness and the isolation still occurs. We are gifted with these beautiful beings and we pour all of ourselves into raising them to become successful members of society. Mother's are never prepared for the day when they can no longer give their children all of their love.
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Sharon and Erica share their experience handling the news that their mother is getting remarried. Their father has been deceased since 2013 so this was quite the unexpected turn of events for their family. However, they truly want to see their mother happy and embrace her decision. This is not often the case in families when one parent decides to pursue a new relationship after losing a spouse.
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Grief is a part our human experience here on earth. No one will leave this world without a grieving experience. And sadly some of us will have back to back grieving experiences which we compare to being struck by lightning twice. It's devastatingly painful to experience one grieving event let alone two or more.
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The Sisters discuss how much more challenging grief can be when you are surrounded by people who make insensitive comments. As a society, we are not taught how to talk about grief which is so sad because grief happens every single day and yet it's uncomfortable to talk about. This often leads to the griever feeling unseen and alone.
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The Sisters discuss how it's so common for people to avoid calling grievers for the special days and anniversaries that honor their loved ones and the most common response they get is "I didn't want to make you feel bad." But what's so widely misunderstood is that grievers feel bad every minute of every day without their loved one. What grievers want most is to be able to talk about their loved ones without all of the unsolicited advice given to them by others.
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The Sisters have committed their lives to normalize people talking about grief. In addition to that we need to normalize talking about our own funerals. Funeral planning is such a devastating experience and if we had not talked to our loved one ahead time to know what they wanted it can be a nightmare. Emotions are running high and because grief is unique and individual everyone wants something different based on their relationship with the deceased family member.
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The Sisters discuss how most people are not aware that there are layers to our grief. It is not uncommon for people to have to grieve every single layer of our relationships. Erica shares how although she grieved Donovan as her son, but then she had to grieve the loss of the friendship that she shared with him. Also true when you lose someone who was never there for you. You will still grieve the layers of that relationship once they are gone.
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