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    Your dog has separation anxiety. Whines, and cries every time you pick up your keys. Your new cat is fighting with your older cat, and one of them is not using the litter box. Your horse is shying at the mounting block when she used to stand like a statue. Living with animals enriches our lives in so many ways, yet when they are confused or unwell, their behaviors become our concern. The truth is, in order to make themselves known, our animals express themselves through quirky, and sometimes undesired behaviors. When their communications fail to reach us they have to resort to demonstrative behaviors. When our animals “speak” to us we are given a choice: we can dismiss them as silly and goofy or we can choose to stop… and listen. By knowing how to listen to your pet, you will solve problems and be shown a world that is nothing short of miraculous. In this podcast, "Let's have a Chat," you will discover the secret to communicating with animals successfully. If your animal is your soul-mate, then listen in as Nicole Birkholzer, animal communication expert, author, and storyteller provides you with ideas to have a mindful and meaningful chat with your own animal to resolve quirky and undesired behaviors. Connect with Nicole at mindful-connections.com
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    #96 When should I be concerned about diarrhea?

    #96 When should I be concerned about diarrhea?

    As pet owners, we face various challenges and questions about our furry friends. Some of these questions may include when to take our dogs to the vet for diarrhea, what causes watery poop in horses, and how to deal with the bellies of anxious or sensitive animals. We all have seen the headlines on social media: 
    :: Diarrhea can be particularly dangerous for puppies, elderly dogs, and immunocompromised animals. 
    :: Diarrhea can result in the loss of electrolytes and dehydration. 
    With so many questions and uncertainties, it can be overwhelming to know what to do and when to do it. In this episode, I will guide you through a simple approach to finding answers and solutions to these and other animal-related issues.

    Show notes available here:
    https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/96-when-should-i-be-concerned-about-diarrhea

    # 95 When We Know Better, We Do Better!

    # 95 When We Know Better, We Do Better!

    Do you deeply care about your animal and their well-being? Do you constantly check the weather, scour for life-saving supplements, research the perfect blanket, or only plan vacations when the right house sitter is available? I understand where you're coming from. Been there, done it. However, there is another side to this story. We must accept that we are not always in control of other beings' journeys, which can help us find peace and understanding. In this episode, we'll delve into this topic further and explore how to learn to let go and trust the natural course of things.

    Show notes available here:
    https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/95-when-we-know-better-we-do-better

    #94 Resolving Workplace Conflict

    #94 Resolving Workplace Conflict

    How do you facilitate a workplace conflict when the clients are equines? Two herd members, Dutch and Tango, were unhappy about the donkey's presence in their program. They considered him a distraction from their real work. However, Pedro, the donkey, felt he could serve as a greeter, easing people into the program. When I suggested assigning Pedro as a purposeful herd member to greet people and create a bridge into deeper work, neither horse was excited about that option.
    Listen in to see how to resolve workplace conflict.

    Show notes available here:
    https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/94-resolving-workplace-conflict

    #93 How Animals Curb Our Internal Chatter

    #93 How Animals Curb Our Internal Chatter

    I wondered why I was so tight. I could feel every muscle in my body pulling in one direction or another. When I walked, my Achilles felt tight; when I sat, my hip flexors felt tight; when I turned my head, my neck felt tight. Was this what it meant to get old?
    Then I felt Scout's wet nose touching my hand. Scout, our dog, had been lying on the other end of the sofa but had now crept along to engage me in some petting. I reached up to his neck and started to massage it. He licked my arm in response. Then I got sidetracked watching the show, and moments later, Scout nudged me, reminding me that I needed to be more focused. I took a deep breath, grounded myself, became aware of the tension in my body again, and wondered and wandered off in my mind again, thinking I needed to take a muscle relaxer or do some stretches.

    I wondered why my body felt so tight. Every muscle was pulling in different directions. Walking made my Achilles feel tight, sitting made my hip flexors tight, and even turning my head made my neck tight. Was this what getting old felt like? Suddenly, I felt something wet on my hand and realized it was Scout's nose. Scout, our dog, had been lying on the other end of the sofa but had now crept over to get some petting. I began to massage his neck, and he responded by licking my arm. However, I soon got distracted and began to watch TV. It wasn't until Scout nudged me that I became aware of my body's tension again. I took a deep breath, I needed to either take a muscle relaxer or do some stretches to alleviate it.

    As my mind took off again, Scout nudged me again. This time, I closed my eyes and took three deep breaths. I could feel my mind getting quiet, tuning out the rest of the world. Reaching around Scout's neck to the withers, I suddenly became aware of a word … Vitamins.

    Show notes available here:
    https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/animals-curb-our-internal-chatter

    #92 Mind-Full vs. Mindful

    #92 Mind-Full vs. Mindful

     

    See the visual I used as the icon for this podcast episode? Take a look at it. You see a woman taking a walk with her animals. While they are all on the same path, seeing the same things, the woman is distracted by her thoughts instead of being in the moment, experiencing nature and the company of the animals. The woman is physically there but not present. 

    It is an excellent reminder that you might be standing, sitting, or walking next to your animal in physical proximity; a leash or lead rope might physically connect you, yet you might not be present and in the moment at all.  

    There is no question that it is hard for humans to stay present for long periods. That's just not how we are designed. Our mind takes up most of our time, but being present and tuned in to our senses and body makes life much richer. The cool part about animals is how often your animal helps you and invites you to be present. Tune in to explore how animals pull us into the now.

    Show notes available with all links mentioned here:
    https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/92-mind-full-vs-mindful

    #91 Pendulum - Your Path To Animal Communication

    #91 Pendulum - Your Path To Animal Communication

    My pendulum is an extension of me. It is my direct line to the Universal knowledge available to me. By using my pendulum, I can get quick yes and no answers from an animal. 
    Do you want a pet sitter? Yes? No?
    Stay at the kennel? Yes? No? 
    Are you anxious because of the new puppy? Yes? No?
    Do you want a flower essence to help your anxiety? Yes? No?
    See what I mean? 
    Just for all those reasons it is worth learning how to dowse. 
    But let’s not forget that you can also learn how to communicate with your animals to solve problems and challenges when you use the pendulum. 
    Check out my new 1:1 mini intensive: “Your Pendulum Your Path To Animal Communication.”
    You’ll get my personal attention. Can ask a million questions. And will communicate with your animals in a mindful and meaningful way.

    Show notes available here:
    https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/91-your-pendulum-your-path-to-animal-communication

    #90 A Tibetan Dog On Death + Dying

    #90 A Tibetan Dog On Death + Dying

    Five days after the dog’s passing, we had a phone call. During the call, the dog helped us understand death and dying in new ways. As we talked about The Tibetan Terrier’s transition out of his body back to full consciousness, we wondered how much it had mattered to him that his people were present during the transition. I will share his answer from my notes during that call. I wrote it down verbatim. “This transition one does on one's own. But it is comforting to know the presence of those who carry pure love for one are present.”
    Next, I asked the dog, “So, did you transition from life to pure consciousness?”
    Before I could even get the full sentence out as a thought, the dog interrupted and corrected me. “We are always life. We are just no longer a-live.”
    Join me for episode #90 to understand more about death, dying, and your one and precious life. 

    Show notes available here:
    https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/99-a-tibetan-dog-on-death-dying

    #89 Help Your Vet Help Your Animal

    #89 Help Your Vet Help Your Animal

    I don't know about you, but every time one of my animals has to go to the vet. I want to make sure that the experience is a good one. And so, over the years, I have tried to help my animals by preparing them for vet visits, and as you can imagine, I do it by telling them what's about to come now. A recent story sent to me by one of my clients made me realize it is essential to prepare not just our animals but also the veterinarian and the vet techs to ensure the experience is pleasant and beneficial.
    Let's get into it in episode #89

    Show notes available here:
    https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/89-help-your-vet-help-your-animal

    #88 Friends Along The Way

    #88 Friends Along The Way

    A year ago today, my life changed.
    It was the morning after Christmas. Cup of coffee in hand, I looked out the window and saw our three horses standing by a big round bale in the field. I exhaled because that is what I do when I see everyone standing and content. 
    Something seemed weird, though. My light grey mare Shana had one of her hindlegs cocked, meaning she took all the weight off that leg, and from the knee down her leg was muddy brown. Had she stepped into mud, my brain wondered? It was 20 degrees Fahrenheit. The ground was frozen. There were no mud puddles. 
    I threw on a jacket and stepped into my boots. I had to take a closer look. 
    Join me as I learn about the friends we make along the way.
    Dedicated to my friend along the way. XO

    Show notes available here:
    https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/88-friends-along-the-way

    #87 The Manifestor By Your Side

    #87 The Manifestor By Your Side

    Your animal can help attract the right people to come into your life. Before we headed into the city, I sat down with Maisie, the Frenchie, and said, “OK, we’re heading out. Please help us meet the right people for our purpose and mission.” 
    As we headed up the elevator of the apartment building in Tribeca, I noticed a man on my right leaning against the elevator wall. He wore a great leather jacket. Suede, cut like a denim jacket. I looked at him and said, “Love that jacket.” 
    Turns out, the sued-cladded gentleman was the man I was meant to meet. Listen and learn how your animals can manifest for you.

    Show notes available here:
    https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/87-the-manifestor-by-your-side

    #86 Collaboration Matters

    #86 Collaboration Matters

    As a relationship coach for animals and their people, I am about improving or fine-tuning your relationship with your animal.

    If you have communication issues, I can help. 
    If you want to know what your animal thinks, I can help.
    If your animal is sick, lame, or despondent, I can help determine what is happening and provide a prescription or plan.  

    Now, the stakes are usually higher when the animal is a horse. Most horses live on borrowed time. You might wonder what that means … well, horses; unlike cats, dogs, birds, and turtles, horses are often a commodity. Horses get traded up or down. Horses are moneymakers or ribbon winners. Horses need to perform in a certain way to earn their keep. Not all, but many. Do you see how that raises the stakes? 
    Ok, it's time to push play on this episode to jump with me into the story. 

    Show notes available here:
    https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/collaboration-matters

    #85 Ask For What You Need

    #85 Ask For What You Need

    There is no need to wait another second to tell you another secret to communicating with animals successfully. Ask for what you need. It is so simple and effective … it airs on ridiculous that we don’t use it ALL THE TIME!  
    Ask for what you need!
    When you express what you need, the chances of getting what you need increase tremendously. By verbally asking for what you need, you set a clear intention that the animal can follow. Remember, just thinking it in your head is less clear than saying directly what you need. You have tons of competing thoughts in your mind, and your animal has a hard time deciphering and distinguishing them all. But if you say it out loud, the message is clear. 
    Join me as we explore what’s possible when we ask for what you need. 

    Show notes available here:
    https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/85-ask-for-what-you-need

    #84 Can Animals Manifest Their Destiny?

    #84 Can Animals Manifest Their Destiny?

    Tune in to this episode to see animal manifesters at work.
    This horse is a master manifester. He shifted the outcome once he knew what he could be destined for. In our phone call, the humans were able to provide him with the big picture and plan of what his life could look like. Animals don’t witness themselves; they don’t usually see the bird's eye view on their own. But when we explained it, he could see and feel himself in that life and step into it to make it happen. 

    Show notes available here:
    https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/can-animals-manifest-their-destiny

    #83 Mare Power!

    #83 Mare Power!

    Mares are incredibly smart, loyal, and good for you if you like a partner with ideas and suggestions. I remember someone referring to Shana, saying, “She is too smart for her own good.” To which I said, am I smart enough for her? A mare will always want to teach you something. And mares remind us every day how clever, loyal, and strong they are.
    A great mirror for us to look at. 🙂There is so much more about mare power in this podcast. You just have to listen!

    Show notes available here:
    https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/mare-power

    #82 In-Tune!

    #82 In-Tune!

    There is one behavioral pattern, a quirky one, that annoyed me about our dog Scout: staring up at my plate the moment I want to dive into dinner. 
    Then, the other night, Scout told me why he behaved that way. 
    You might think it is simply about begging. It isn’t. Listen in as Scout helps me get the most out of our relationship and gives you a tip on communicating successfully with your animals.  

    Show notes available here:
    https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/in-tune

    #81 Setting Puppy Up For Success

    #81 Setting Puppy Up For Success

    Teach your puppy what you want. So often, we try to teach our animals what we don't want. Don't jump on the sofa, don't jump up on people, don't surf the counter, don't bark. Don't, don't, don't …
    Don’t is not a word that translates into a picture. All your dog sees is dogs on sofas, dogs counter surfing, and dogs barking. 
    Instead, acknowledge the things your puppy does right and create a template of what you want. 
    Listen in! I share ways to set your pup, kitten, horse, or bird (and you) up for success!

    Show notes available here:
    https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/81-setting-puppy-up-for-success

    #80 Animals Want To Be Seen + Heard

    #80 Animals Want To Be Seen + Heard

    Author David Brooks, a journalist, talks about how he often leaves a party or some gathering to realize that nobody ever asked him a single question. He estimates that only 30 percent of the people in the world are good question-askers. 


    Many animals feel that way, too. They want to be asked questions so they can express themselves. Hence my tagline: animals just like us want to be seen and heard. In this episode, follow me as I ask one important question to help Slick, a rust-colored Mule, shift from confused and uncertain to becoming his sweet and personable self again. 

    Show notes available here:
    https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/animal-want-to-be-heard-and-seen

    #79 Leadership or Conscious Connection?

    #79 Leadership or Conscious Connection?

    When horse people talk about being the horse’s leader, I joke that a horse lives 22 hours without us, and in the two hours we see the horse, we expect it to hand over the power to us? Distracted pea brains like us? You have seen the visual I use to make the point: a person walking next to animals with a thought bubble above the head, mind full. 

    For a horse to accept us as a leader like another horse, we must get present enough to direct their feet consistently. 

    With humans, it's always a guessing game. Sometimes, we are in charge, for example, walking down the aisle and not letting the horse sniff the other horses in the barn. But the next moment, we wrestle the sliding door and leave the horse in charge of himself without direction.
    That's why human leadership is a gamble for the horse. When we lead or direct, we are a leader, but when we drop our attention and intention, we leave our horse leaderless. 

    What if we leave the word leadership behind and find a new way to describe an ideal relationship with our horse? Join me. This episode wrote itself and clarified our relationship with hoses and dogs. 

    Show notes available here:
    https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/leadership-or-conscious-connection

    #78 Spraying & Other Out Of The Box Issues

    #78 Spraying & Other Out Of The Box Issues

    Spraying, peeing, pooping out of the box? There is a reason for it.
    Any unexpected or undesired behavior from your animal is a cry for help. How do you prevent or change litterbox issues? 
    By having a chat. 
    I'll chat about it in this episode. 

    Show notes available here:
    https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/78-spraying-other-out-of-the-box-issues

    #77 Receiving Animal Healing

    #77 Receiving Animal Healing

    Do you know those moments when it feels like life is running you instead of you running your life? When that happens, our animals often step in ... literally ... to help us.  

    One night, Shana, my mare, took me aside. I was mucking the run-in shed, chop-chop-chop, when Shana stepped between me and the pitchfork. She brought her face close to my chest, lifted her head high, and then moved her head sideways from above the left shoulder over the crown to my right shoulder. She stepped back and took a breath. After another breath or two, she again brought her nose to my solar plexus area. I sensed she was working on my breath, opening the channels so I could breathe more deeply. 

    Show notes available here:
    https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/77-receiving-animal-healing