Let's Therapy

What is a narcissist and what behaviors define their interactions? In this Season 3 opener of Let's Therapy, Scott and Vanessa delve into what characterizes narcissistic personality disorder, including an inflated self-image, lack of empathy, and sense of entitlement. We explore the hallmark narcissist behaviors like gaslighting, love bombing, and the DARVO cycle of manipulation. 

Learn to spot the red flags of narcissism, like taking advantage of others for self gain, an inability to handle criticism without outbursts of rage, and a history of broken relationships. If you think you may be entangled with a narcissist in any relationship—spouse, co-parent, child or stepchild, or extended family—this podcast is for you! 

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In this last episode of 2023, Scott and Vanessa reflect on an amazing first year of the Let’s Therapy podcast and look ahead to the future. You’ll learn the backstory of Let's Therapy and how it intersects life, faith, and mental health. You’ll also hear the hosts' vision of removing stigma, promoting counseling, and bringing hope, and you can get a sneak peek of the new topics, stories, and guests in 2024. This uplifting finale will re-energize you for the journey ahead!

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When teen rebellion rocks your home, how do you stop it from affecting your marriage? Scott and Vanessa share battle-tested tips to keep your relationship strong even in the midst of teenager turmoil. On this episode, you'll learn how open communication, united consequences, and professional support can help you and your spouse present a united front. You'll also discover why self-care and connecting with God are critical when tensions run high, and how to gain a helpful perspective on appreciating your spouse.

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Blended families often face unique challenges, including learning how to communicate with each other. Miscommunication can lead to misunderstandings, resentment, and emotional strain. In this episode of Let’s Therapy, join Vanessa Martindale and guest Dan Ennaco as they discuss fostering a safe and open environment, different types of communication, and practical steps to prevent miscommunication.

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Join host  Vanessa Martindale along with special guest Dan Ennaco as they explore the transformative journey of resilience in blended families. They discuss the importance of resilience, and they offer biblical insights and practical strategies for building and demonstrating resilience in step-parent dynamics, sibling relationships, co-parenting issues, and more. 

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Transitions can bring a sense of excitement, anticipation, and possibility. They can also cause stress, uncertainty, and anxiety. In this episode, Vanessa teams up with team member Dan Ennaco to talk about how blended families can make the most of the transitions they face. Prayer, planning, and flexibility are essential elements in helping our families move  into a new season of life.

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Many of us grow up in a home where mental health issues are present, and that upbringing can affect our ability to form healthy attachments, autonomy, and boundaries as adults. In this episode of Let’s Therapy, Vanessa Martindale welcomes special guest Dan Ennaco, BKF’s videographer, to talk about how to work through those childhood experiences and develop healthy coping strategies moving forward. 

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Many blended families face attachment issues, or unhealthy styles of connection (or lack of connection) in relationships. These maladaptive attachment styles often stem from trauma in our past, including childhood. In this episode of Let’s Therapy, Scott and Vanessa Martindale outline four attachment styles and how those styles play out in marriage and other significant relationships. They also provide suggestions for healing and moving toward healthy attachment in our marriage and blended family.

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Trust can be a challenge for people who’ve been through a divorce. A former spouse may have been unfaithful, abusive, or left the marriage. Learning to trust again after a failed relationship can feel scary and unsettling. In this episode of Let’s Therapy, hosts Scott and Vanessa Martindale talk about sources of mistrust, the role fear plays in trust, and how to foster trust in a relationship and blended family.

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In this episode of Let’s Therapy, we dive into the unique journey of never-married people with no kids marrying someone with children. We explore the complexities a new stepparent can face, including building relationships with the new stepchildren, establishing healthy boundaries with the ex-spouse, and what a new stepparent might need from their spouse. We also share the questions and fears that both the parent and stepparent may face.

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When their parents get divorced, children can feel abandoned for a number of different reasons. In this episode, Scott and Vanessa Martindale discuss physical, emotional, and trauma abandonment resulting from separation, divorce, and remarriage. They talk about the signs children may exhibit when they are abandoned by a parent, as well as steps that parents can take in order to help children cope with feelings of abandonment.

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The term gaslighting is popular in today’s culture. It’s a tactic used to manipulate a person’s sense of self and reality. But what is God-lighting? That’s the topic of this episode of Let’s Therapy, counselors Scott and Vanessa Martindale provide an overview and examples of gaslighting and compare that to God-lighting. They also offer tools to tackle gaslighting and strive for God-lighting instead. 

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In this episode of Let’s Therapy, Scott and Vanessa Martindale discuss the facets of co-parenting with an ex-spouse with narcissistic personality disorder. They offer a clinical definition and symptoms of someone with narcissism, compared with someone who has some narcissistic tendencies. They suggest boundaries to create with the ex-spouse, along with steps to take to protect yourself and your children. They also talk about how to help your children deal with their narcissistic parent.

Resources mentioned on Podcast: 
Dr. Les Carter 
https://www.youtube.com/@SurvivingNarcissism

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This episode focuses on the trauma children experience when their parents divorce. Scott and Vanessa Martindale highlight the emotional upheaval that divorce causes for children and offer suggestions for alleviating some of the distress children experience. While parents cannot completely shield their children from the trauma of divorce, they can make sure their children receive the support and assistance they need to heal. 

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Season 2 premiere of Let’s Therapy, Scott and Vanessa Martindale talk about helping our children and stepchildren deal with mental health issues. They shine a spotlight on the stressors children and teens face and the unhealthy coping mechanisms they employ. This episode also provides parents with techniques to process emotions in a healthy way. 

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This podcast builds on Part 1 and Part 2 of Co-Parenting Versus Parallel Parenting. Scott and Vanessa discuss the process of navigating back and forth between co-parenting and parallel parenting in different stages of the child’s life. They also offer suggestions for how to avoid contention in the co-parenting relationship. 

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This episode is the second in a series on co-parenting vs. parallel parenting. Scott and Vanessa focus on parallel parenting, the reasons why ex-spouses may choose it over co-parenting, and situations in which parallel parenting can be extremely beneficial or supportive. They explain how parallel parenting can affect a child, and they offer a word of encouragement for parents in high-conflict situations.

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This episode is the first in a series on co-parenting vs. parallel parenting. Scott and Vanessa briefly define the two styles of parenting. They also discuss the benefits of co-parenting for the children, and they offer a few ideas for developing a better co-parenting relationship.

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In this episode, Scott and Vanessa talk about the power of self-talk and positive affirmation. They discuss the role that thoughts play in our beliefs and our actions. They also provide several examples of truths we can speak over ourselves to counter the enemy’s lies.

We pray this podcast blessed you today!
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This episode features Scott and Vanessa Martindale as they talk about how projection takes place in blended families. They define and offer examples of projection, and they share tips on how you can respond when someone tries to project their emotions onto you.

We pray this podcast blessed you today!
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