Life is Life

Matthew Sun joins Chase and Brian and shares his background as well as his fathers immigration journey from China to the United States. He discusses growing up in the Bay Area and the challenges he faced as a minority and a kid without direction. Matthew's story highlights the importance of family, perseverance, and finding one's path in life, his decision to join the Army and the structure and opportunities it provided during his career. The transition from military life to that of a civilian and how that shaped and prepared his journey into real estate Matthew's love for his children and his commitment to being a good father and role model are evident throughout the conversation. In this conversation, Matthew Sun discusses the challenges and joys of being a single dad. He emphasizes the importance of making time for oneself and taking care of one's physical and mental health. Matthew's ultimate goal is to be the best father he can be and to ensure that his children are happy and successful.

Takeaways

The military provides opportunities for personal growth and self-discovery, allowing individuals to find their strengths and passions.
Overcoming challenges and pushing oneself beyond comfort zones is a common experience in the military.
Transitioning from military to civilian life requires careful planning and consideration, with a focus on personal goals and family priorities.
Believing in oneself, maintaining a strong work ethic, and prioritizing family are key principles for success in both military and civilian life. Make time for yourself and prioritize self-care as a single dad.
Taking care of your physical health can lead to increased energy and happiness, allowing you to be a better parent.
Support other single dads and advocate for fathers' rights.
Balancing time with children and personal interests can be challenging, but it's important to find a healthy balance.

In this episode, Chase and Phil discuss their Valentine's Day traditions and the stress that can come with the holiday. They also talk about the changing dynamics of Valentine's Day without Keri and how the kids celebrate it differently at different ages. The conversation then shifts to a new dating app that requires a minimum credit score to join, and the importance of discussing finances in relationships. They also share their thoughts on watching dating shows and the entertainment value they provide. The episode concludes with well wishes for Valentine's Day.

Takeaways

Valentine's Day traditions can vary from family to family or person to person, and it's important to find what works for you.
Discussing finances in relationships is crucial, as credit scores can impact future plans such as buying a home.
Dating apps that require a minimum credit score may appeal to financially-minded individuals, but it's important to consider other factors in a relationship.
Watching dating shows can be entertaining, but it's important to remember that they are often scripted and not representative of real-life relationships.
Valentine's Day is a time to celebrate love and show appreciation for your loved ones.

Chase and Burner sit down with Paul McClintock who shares his journey from humble beginnings outside of St. Louis to finding his passion in Southern California. Paul reflects on his early life and education, growing up in Missouri and studying finance at the University of Missouri. They discuss his experiences in the medical device sales industry, including relocating to Southern California and the challenges and rewards of the job. He also discusses his transition to leadership positions and the fulfillment he finds in patient care even when not being the doctor himself. He emphasizes the importance of setting goals and putting in full effort to achieve the best possible outcomes. Paul discusses the challenges of transitioning from a peer to a boss and the importance of putting others first as a leader. He shares his experiences of leading teams and the lessons he learned along the way. Paul also talks about the significance of gratitude and how it helps him overcome dark days. He reflects on the support of his wife, Nicky, and the impact she and his boys have had on his life.  He discusses his inspiration for starting his new podcast My Badass Friends and the value he sees in long-form interviews. Finally, Paul discusses his decision to leave his corporate role and focus on the next phase of his life.

Takeaways

Long-form interviews provide a platform to tell the stories of individuals who may not have mainstream recognition.
Sales is a crucial skill that drives success in everything we do, and it is important to recognize its value.
College can provide valuable experiences and networks, but it is not the sole determinant of success.
Overcoming fears and taking risks can lead to personal and professional growth.
Leadership positions can offer new challenges and opportunities for fulfillment. Setting the mind for the day and putting in full effort is crucial for achieving the best possible outcomes.
Transitioning from a peer to a boss can be challenging, but approaching the role with a selfless mindset and asking how you can help others can make a significant difference.
Leadership is about stepping out of the spotlight and giving credit to your team members. Being inspired by their success and wanting them to get all the glory is a key aspect of effective leadership.
Gratitude and perspective gained from life-changing experiences can help overcome dark days and provide a sense of purpose and inspiration.
Having a supportive partner who shares your values and supports your career decisions can make a significant impact on personal and professional success.

In this episode, the boys discuss the importance of perspective and how not sweating the small stuff in life is so difficult when things that life presents piles up. They share personal stories and experiences that highlight the challenges of maintaining perspective and thinking, "Is this something I should really be consumed with"? They emphasize the need to focus on the present moment and take life day by day. might even be a metaphor of the sport of golf and how it relates to life, highlighting the importance of moving forward and knowing that we are never going to have every shot in our bag.

Takeaways

Maintaining perspective is crucial in navigating life's challenges.
Focusing on the present moment and not worrying about the future can help reduce stress and anxiety.
Learning from tragedy and difficult experiences can lead to personal growth and a better understanding of what truly matters.
Reaching out for support and seeking perspective from others can provide valuable insights and help in overcoming challenges.

Chapters

00:00 Reunion and Recap
01:11 The Grind of Everyday Life
03:10 Perspective and Putting Things in Perspective
06:41 Learning from Tragedy and Gaining Perspective
08:00 Balancing Perspective and Addressing Small Issues
09:23 The Importance of Perspective and Not Sweating the Small Stuff
11:24 Learning and Growing from Life's Challenges
12:22 The Fine Line Between Remembering and Moving Forward
13:26 The Challenge of Maintaining Perspective
17:22 Living in the Present Moment
19:17 Taking Life Day by Day and Focusing on the Present
21:05 The Challenges of Having the Whole Game Going Perfectly
25:37 Finding Perspective in Life's Challenges
28:23 Moving Forward and Overcoming Guilt
30:38 The Metaphor of Golf and Life
34:30 Re-tea and Moving Forward
36:15 The Importance of Reaching Out and Seeking Support

Rae shares her inspirational journey from growing up in the West Indies to joining the US Navy and transitioning to civilian life. She discusses her career in financial services and her passion for helping others as well as emphasizes the importance of giving back to the community and shares her vision for a better tomorrow in the communities she serves. The conversation covers topics related to raising her children as a single mother to to her belief in hard work and experiencing other cultures and learning from them.

Takeaways

• Rae's journey from the West Indies to the US Navy and civilian life is an inspiration.
• Transitioning from the military to civilian life can be challenging, but with determination and adaptability, it is possible to succeed.
• Rae's passion for financial services and helping others led her to start her own business and give back to the community.
• Treating people well and making a positive impact on their lives is the key to leaving a lasting legacy. Children grow up quickly and take on new responsibilities.
• her love of different cultures.
• Financial Coach Rae provides financial coaching services.
• Rae Russell at https://www.fc4u1stopshop.com/

In today's episode, Chase and Phil discuss the holiday season and the stress and challenges that come with it. They talk about keeping traditions alive, navigating different family traditions, and adjusting to changes in family dynamics. They also share coping strategies for dealing with holiday stress and dysfunctional family gatherings. The hosts reflect on their own holiday traditions and share a humorous story about a dysfunctional family sundae. Happy Holidays and Happy New Year!

Takeaways

• The holiday season can be stressful and challenging, especially when it comes to navigating different family traditions and adjusting to changes in family dynamics.
• Coping strategies for dealing with holiday stress include reaching out to family and friends for support, creating new traditions, and finding ways to prioritize self-care.
• Scheduling conflicts can arise during the holiday season, but it's important to communicate and find a balance between different social commitments.
• Personal holiday traditions can vary greatly, and it's important to find what works best for you and your family.
• Humor can be a helpful tool for coping with dysfunctional family gatherings and diffusing tension.

In this conversation, Mark Sweeney shares his experiences and insights from his time in the big leagues. He discusses his opening weekend in the majors, the nervousness and reality of playing at that level, and the impact of family support. Mark also talks about the perseverance required to stay in the big leagues, the importance of being a good teammate, and the lessons he teaches his son. He shares the lessons he learned from his stepdaughters and the challenges of being a utility player. Finally, Mark discusses the impact of loss and the importance of perseverance in life.

Takeaways

• Playing in the big leagues comes with a mix of nervousness and excitement, and the reality of the experience can be overwhelming.
• Family support is crucial in the journey and having loved ones present during important moments can make a significant impact.
• Perseverance is key to staying in the big leagues, especially for utility players who face unique challenges.
• Being a good teammate and building relationships with fellow players is essential for success and enjoyment in the game.
• Lessons learned from personal experiences can be passed down to the next generation, shaping their mindset and approach to sports and life.
• Loss and adversity can be powerful motivators and opportunities for growth and resilience.

Summary

In this conversation, Chase, Phil, and Megan Broderick discuss the complex nature of grief and the importance of creating a safe space for individuals to express their feelings. They explore the different types of grief and the stages of grief, emphasizing that everyone's grief journey is unique. Megan shares insights on supporting children and families dealing with grief, highlighting the need for validation and open communication. They also discuss the role of self-care and vulnerability in parenting and the importance of making repairs in relationships. The conversation concludes with a focus on finding hope and resilience in the face of tragedy. This conversation explores the impact of loss on personal growth and resilience. The speakers discuss the importance of communication, honesty, and challenging preconceived notions about grief. They also emphasize the power of choice and agency in generating good in the world. The conversation touches on the pressure to make a big impact and the need for comfort and support when going through tragedy. The speakers highlight the significance of talking about and remembering loved ones, as well as the role of mindset in flipping the narrative. They conclude by emphasizing the importance of being there for others and allowing vulnerability.

Takeaways

• Loss can have a profound impact on personal growth and resilience.
• Clear communication and honesty are essential in relationships and dealing with grief.
• Challenging preconceived notions about grief and embracing all emotions can lead to a healthier mindset.
• Choosing agency and generating good in the world can be a powerful response to loss.
• Comforting those going through tragedy involves talking about and remembering loved ones.
• Mindset plays a crucial role in how we respond to loss and adversity.
• Being there for others and allowing vulnerability is important in supporting one another through grief.

This time of year is one for celebration, great food, family, friends and presents but it can be a very painful time for those who have lost loved ones they can't share this time with like they once had. Thanksgiving has just past and we wanted to discuss how much life has brought us to be thankful for even when we lose someone close to us. Rest in Peace Karen O'Hara, you will be missed!

In todays episode Burner and the boys get a treat as soccer legend and head coach of the University of San Diego Men's Soccer team sits down to discuss everything from the roll club sports plays in today's youth landscape to the growing popularity of the professional game in the U.S.

Quinn (Quinnie) is a Northern Irish-American soccer coach and player. He spent most of his professional career in in the U.S. where he played in the North American Soccer League and Major Indoor Soccer League with the San Diego Sockers. He has coached everything from the club and high school level to Major League Soccer. He covers it all!

To those close to Chase or anyone within earshot, it was no secret his wife, Keri, was his world. He is not shy to yell it from a rooftop. In part two of this difficult conversation, Chase reflects on the journey of losing his wife, Keri, and navigating life without her. He discusses the pain and sadness that still lingers, but also emphasizes the importance of moving forward and facing adversity. Chase shares how he and his children are coping with the loss and the support they have received from their community. He also talks about the challenges of being a single parent and the decisions he has had to make. Despite the difficulties, Chase remains hopeful and focused on raising his children and living a fulfilling life. The conversation explores the impact of personal stories and the importance of learning from others. It also highlights the supportive work environment and the need to appreciate life and cherish loved ones.

Takeaways

Life goes on even in the face of tragedy and loss.
Support from friends, family, and community is crucial during difficult times.
Parenting as a single parent comes with unique challenges and responsibilities.
Embracing what you can't control and focusing on what you can is key to moving forward. Personal stories have a powerful impact and can inspire others.
Valentine's Day episode was highly listened to, indicating the interest in the financial component of relationships.
A supportive work environment can make a significant difference during challenging times.
Learning from others and being good human beings can help us rise to the occasion.
Appreciate life, don't take it for granted, and live in the moment.
Cherish loved ones and make the most of the time we have with them.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Reflection on Keri's Passing
03:05 Life Goes On and Dealing with Adversity
10:13 Facing the Reality of Being Alone
18:52 Parenting as a Single Parent
28:48 Support from the Community
35:26 Moving Forward and Setting Goals
47:45 Embracing What You Can't Control
48:35 Conclusion and Acknowledgment of Chase's Journey
48:54 The Impact of Personal Stories
49:09 Valentine's Day Episode
50:19 Supportive Work Environment
51:05 Learning from Others
52:05 Appreciating Life
52:52 Cherishing Loved Ones

In 2021 Chase's wife Keri was diagnosed with with a life altering illness that would change the course of theirs and their kids lives. This conversation delves into the journey of Peckham's as they navigate her battle with cancer. The chapters cover various aspects of their experience, from seeking the best specialists to facing the reality of the disease and living day to day. They also discuss the discovery of genetic testing and the impact it has on their children's future. The conversation explores Keri's decline and visible illness, as well as the perspective of Brian, a close friend. It concludes with the final moments and the process of finding closure and moving forward.

Takeaways

Seeking the best specialists is crucial when facing a serious illness.
Coming to terms with the reality of a disease can be a difficult and emotional process.
Living day to day and finding joy in the present moment is important when dealing with a chronic illness.
Genetic testing can provide valuable information about potential health risks for family members.
The decline of a loved one's health can be challenging to witness and accept.
Support from friends and community is essential during difficult times.
Transitioning to hospice care can provide comfort and support for both the patient and their loved ones.
Saying goodbye and finding closure is a deeply personal and emotional process.
Processing the loss of a loved one takes time and support.
Moving forward after loss involves finding strength and creating a new normal.

Chapters

00:00 Seeking the Best Specialists
45:01 Facing the Reality of the Disease
46:09 Living Day to Day
47:34 Discovering Brackens and Genetic Testing
49:14 Carrie's Decline and Visible Illness
49:59 Carrie's Illness from Brian's Perspective
50:57 Realizing the Severity of the Situation
52:25 Finding Peace in the Final Months
56:09 Transitioning to Hospice Care
59:07 Saying Goodbye and Finding Closure
01:01:41 The Final Moments
01:04:13 Processing the Loss
01:07:34 Moving Forward

This week the boys sit down with a legend in sports talk radio and longtime L.A. Galaxy broadcaster, Joe Tutino. Joe discusses the peaks and valleys of sports talk radio, the beginning with Jim Rome and the Mighty 690 and speaking with legends, such as Ted Williams, Reggie Jackson and San Diego's own Tony Gwynn. He is candid and open about his health and his weight loss journey and his love of soccer. A truly inspirational man who has lived a long and winding road of life. 

Welcome to Life is Life. This episode we reintroduce Chase and Felipe and welcome Brian Blackburn into the fold! This is the beginning of an amazing year ahead where we talk about the trials and successes in business life, personal life, fatherhood, marriage, death and so much more, after all Life is Life!!!!

Can you believe we are in the middle of December??? Crazy! What a year 2022 has been for us. Personal tragedy, success stories, inflation, crypto, road trips and the flu making a huge comeback after taking a back seat to Covid-19 for a bit.

In this final episode of 2022 we discuss all of those and look back to our favorite moments as well as answer some of the most common questions we were asked. Happy Holidays and Happy New Year all!

The Holiday's are a season of joy, religion, love, Santa, reindeer, movies, food, travel, family, traditions and of course presents. With all of these things comes spending and depending on your situation a lot of spending. In this episode the boys discuss the pitfalls and joys the holiday season can bring, especially our spending.

The American dream, being a homeowner! Owning a home is an accomplishment that almost all of us aspire too. But... Sometimes I miss the days of calling my landlord when things break and things do break! One of the most difficult breaks is when you see water dripping from an area of the house that it shouldn't. Where is it coming from? Oh, if it only were that easy!

This week the crew discusses Chase's Thanksgiving weekend of playing cat and mouse with the dripping water that was coming from his kitchen ceiling and the steps he took to find said leak (with a professional) and deal with homeowners insurance. 

This week we honor those who support our Boost For Our Heroes program. This program would not be possible without those that come out to the annual Boost For Our Heroes Golf Classic here in sunny San Diego! 

Boost for our Heroes is a financial assistance and education program that benefits military members, veterans and their families. This program provides a variety of workshops, outreach efforts, and one-on-one consultations to help men and women experiencing a financial hardship become financially stable. Because of these obstacles, the Boost for our Heroes program also provides a quarterly award of $3,000 to a military member or military family. Each quarter, an impartial panel selects one recipient based on financial hardship and subsequently works with the recipient to develop an integrated financial plan. The funds for this program come directly from this event.

Netflix changed the game of how we watch television. So much so that, many of us first tried out Netflix to see if we could avoid having to drive to Blockbuster. After all, gas prices where were closing in on $2/gallon and who could afford that extra driving?  Now we spend longer scrolling to just find something to watch. But Netflix, known for giving people something to watch while they chill, is saying sharing is caring no more when it comes to passwords.

In this episode we share how we think the password crackdown might change peoples finances. Are more people adding Netflix to their budgets or will the competition continue to take subscriptions from the company that took down Blockbuster and the video stores? Will you pay more to add a friend? We also answer what streaming service we would cancel last. 

So stop using info@sdflc.org and Password: Philloveskittens! to watch Netflix and register for your free 30 day trial instead. Just don't forget to add it to your budget or cancel in the next month.     

There are many products in the market that are used to incentivize us, to make purchases whether we have the funds to do so or not. Credit cards are the big brother. The little plastic card that allows us to purchase a product and pay it off over time if so choose. Of course the card charges us interest if we don't pay it all off when the invoice comes in. I the old days there was lay away. You could have a product put on hold for you to purchase on another date when you had the funds saved up. Well there is a new trend starting to become a player in the industry. Buy Now, Pay later apps are almost universal now which allows you to make a purchase, and then pay it off over four easy installments interest free. Sounds great! But we are starting to see more and more of these debts go delinquent and the CFPB is taking notice.

Today the crew discusses the good, the bad and the ugly regarding Buy Now, Pay Later and it may surprise you where they stand