Mama Needs More

In this short episode, I talk about how you can kick the bad mama blues to the curb and start recognizing that you’re a fantastic mother! I acknowledge the difficulty of being a mom and the feelings of sadness, guilt, and shame that come along with it.

Motherhood is not always rainbows and unicorns, and it's normal to feel like a bad mom on tough days. Many women struggle with feeling like they have lost their identity when they become a mom, as they have to take on a title they've never experienced before. I hope this show reminds you that being a mother is hard work, and it is okay to feel overwhelmed. This does not make you a bad mom – it makes you a great mom for caring.

Headphones are recommended if little ones are around.

Key Topics 

• Exploring the challenges of motherhood and how moms take on a heavyweight title (02:07) 
• How to overcome guilt and feel confident in your parenting (05:29) 
• Understanding the difference between guilt and shame (08:47) 
• Heal past mistakes with children (13:15)
  
  

Episode Links & Contact Info
You can connect with me on my website www.kylievangelder.com or on Instagram. 

Please share this show with other mamas who need more! 

When you lose it on someone, you give up the very essence of who you are because you give up your ability to show self-control. In this episode, I talk about what it means to lose your sh*t and how you can rein it in. I discuss why you lose it in some situations and not in others. This is when I refer to how each person has their own individual triggers, as we’ve all been raised differently and see the world through our personalized lens.

I offer details on the steps you can take in order to take back control of your behavior and learn from your reactive patterns. I highlight how you can shift your beliefs by healing the things that cause you to lose it in the first place.  By doing this, you can also change your patterns to respond in a healthier way.

Key Topics 

• Responding as a conscious choice rather than a thoughtless reaction (04:12) 
• Exploring the impact of reacting in the heat of the moment (07:22) 
• How to heal after losing It (09:16) 
• The role of your subconscious mind in everyday behaviors and decision-making (14:38) 
• Reprogramming behaviors and reining in your emotional outbursts (19:07) 

Episode Links & Contact info
The book I mentioned in today's show is called Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy.

If you want to connect with me, check out my website www.kylievangelder.com or find me on Instagram. Please remember to share this show with other mamas who need more! 

Today I talk about the natural emotion of fear. In this episode, I break down the three different types of fear – rational, primal and irrational fear. Then I dive into the specifics of irrational fear, as this one makes no sense to our brain and is usually the prime suspect that keeps you from getting more out of your life.

Irrational fear is usually based on memories of past experiences, false beliefs, and intrusive thoughts and can be improved by exposure. I discuss how fear is not something to run from, but something to learn from and use as a source of power… your power!

Headphones are recommended if little ones are around.

Key Topics 

• Understanding our fear response & the ability to shift our response to it (02:04) 
• Irrational fear and why it makes no sense to our brain (05:08) 
• What irrational fear can teach you about yourself (08:59) 
• Overcoming fear by taking steps towards living life to the fullest (11:41) 
• Exploring the relationship between fear and excitement (13:23) 

Episode Links & Contact info
You can connect with me on my website www.kylievangelder.com or on Instagram. 

Please share this show with other mamas who need more! 

This episode is all about the inner critic and its current control over your thoughts. I start off by explaining what the inner critic is, why we have it and the difference between a healthy inner critic and an unhealthy one. I talk about the impact of having an aggressive inner critic, specifically the impact on how you perceive yourself and how your kids may see you and themselves. I continue by explaining that the negative voice may be preventing you from getting more out of life, as it chips away at your self-confidence and your ability to reach and stick to your goals.

My main focus is to give you strategies to become aware of your inner critic and how to shift the negative thoughts in order to gain more confidence and do more of the things you love.

Headphones are recommended if little ones are around.

Key Topics 

• Understanding the impact of the inner critic on self-confidence, goal achievement and your kids (02:43) 
• In many cases, the inner critic can keep us small in order to protect us by keeping us from being embarrassed, hurt or shamed. (05:27) 
• How your inner critic was formed – based on your childhood experiences, caretakers, teachers, and the media – and why we have one in the first place – for survival. (07:41) 
• The difference between a healthy inner critic and an unhealthy one and why we still need the inner critic today. (10:11) 
• Strategies to overcome negative self-talk. (11:23) 
• Questions to ask yourself when your inner critic reprimands you and the importance of becoming friends with your inner critic. (14:53) 
• The benefit of writing things down and showing yourself some compassion. (18:31) 

Episode Links & Contact Info
You can connect with me on my website www.kylievangelder.com or on Instagram. 

Please share this show with other mamas who need more! 

In this episode, I talk about the feeling of being stuck, the tools to discover why you’re stuck and how to move forward. I dive into the details of how being stuck is something you’ve developed over time, which means you can also get unstuck.

As moms, there’s a tendency to put everyone else first and to people please, which may leave you stuck with little time to discover who you’re truly meant to be. This is why I also discuss the impact of social pressure, and lack of support when it comes to feeling stuck and what you can do about it. I highlight the relationship between being stuck and procrastination, as well as the need to reflect inward to discover what you want from your life.

Ultimately, I emphasize the importance of doing what makes you happy.

Headphones are recommended if your little ones are around.

Key Topics  

• What it means to be stuck, how it feels and knowing that it’s ok if you have no clue what you want to do with your life. The first step is to acknowledge that you’re stuck.  (5:16) 
• The expectations from society that might be keeping you stuck as a woman and mom and reasons why you might feel stuck.  (7:30) 
• How to figure out why you’re stuck by getting to know your inner guidance, being aware of your inner critic, and writing down why you think you’re stuck. 
• The trick is slow down and get to know who you are. (10:42 ) 
• Five Tips to Help You Get Unstuck (17:34) 
• How to take the (baby step) leap, get out of your comfort zone and start living the life you deserve! (26:07 ) 

Episode Links & Contact Info
You can connect with me on my website www.kylievangelder.com or on Instagram.  

Please share this show with other mamas who need more!

Welcome to Mama Needs More the podcast dedicated to helping moms get more from life outside of motherhood!

In this very first episode, I share an introduction about my background, including how I became a mother of two wild little miracles and a certified Life Coach with a Master's in Psychology. I dive into the struggles I had with infertility and how this propelled me forward on my journey to the world of personal development. I explain how I overcame my excuses – such as not having enough time to start this podcast and build my business.

I hope that by sharing my story, other mothers will be inspired to share their own stories and learn from each other. My belief is that together we can become more than just moms. We can become who we’re truly meant to be – ourselves.

Headphones are recommended if your little ones are around.

Key Topics 

• Introduction to the show and exploring my journey of getting here. (02:27) 
• Early recurring miscarriages, and the impact they had on my parenting style and personal growth. (06:02) 
• How life-changing experiences can bring you to amazing places (13:34) 
• Transitioning from corporate life to becoming a Life Coach (16:23) 
• From blaming others to finding passion and purpose (18:45) 
• You're never too old to make a change! (20:35) 

Episode Links & Contact Info
You can connect with me on my website www.kylievangelder.com or on Instagram.  

Please share this show with other mamas who need more!