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    Minimalist Homeschooling

    The ultimate goal for a minimalist homeschooler is to achieve effective and impactful education for their children with fewer resources, less stress, and greater simplicity. A minimalist approach focuses on decluttering, prioritizing, and optimizing the learning experience. Achieve Maximum Learning Outcomes with Minimal Resources. Want your kid to become a more powerful communicator? The secrets to guiding them (yes, many times by role modeling) to speak and write so they will be understood, handle conflicts, and understand others? That is the question, and this podcast will give you the answer. Sponsored by the Story Weavers, we welcome you to Minimalist Homeschooling.
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    What do we do (as parents) to smother or stop a childs interest in a subject?

    What do we do (as parents) to smother or stop a childs interest in a subject?

    Podcast Summary:
    Explore how parents can inadvertently stifle their children's natural curiosity and learn effective ways to nurture their burgeoning interests, covering topics like active listening, avoiding over-structuring, and embracing organic learning.

    Keywords:
    Parenting, Active Listening, Child's Curiosity, Organic Learning, Interest Nurturing, Emotional Intelligence, Autonomy in Learning, Minimalist Homeschooling, Child Education, Lifelong Learning.

    SEO Episode Notes:

    In this insightful episode, we delve into the nuanced ways parents might unintentionally quell their children's curiosity and how to foster a more enriching learning environment. Here are the key points discussed:

    Active Listening and Enthusiasm Matching: Understand the importance of fully engaging when your child shares their interests, and how this simple act can significantly boost their confidence and curiosity.

    Avoiding Over-Structuring: Discover the pitfalls of turning a child's interest into a rigid lesson plan, and learn how to offer choices and encourage questions to promote autonomous learning.

    Overcoming "What's Next?" Syndrome: This segment focuses on the need to slow down and allow children to immerse themselves in their interests, rather than rushing them to the next activity.

    Managing Information Overload: Find out how to balance the amount of information provided to children, avoiding overwhelming them and instead nurturing their curiosity gradually.

    Steering Clear of Judgment: Learn the importance of avoiding critiques on a child's chosen interests and how to support their learning journey positively.

    Fostering Organic Learning: The episode wraps up with insights into creating a minimalist homeschooling environment that prioritizes depth and quality in learning, emphasizing the role of parents as facilitators rather than directors.

    For more insights and resources on nurturing your child's learning journey, visit The Story Weavers.

    Part 1: Unlocking the Secrets of "Study" and "Desire" in Learning

    Part 1: Unlocking the Secrets of "Study" and "Desire" in Learning
    • The podcast explores Leonardo da Vinci's assertion about the relationship between study and desire.
    • Leonardo's definition of "study" during the Renaissance was broad, encompassing observation, experimentation, and reflection beyond just rote learning.
    • In Leonardo's view, studying without genuine interest or curiosity leads to superficial learning that doesn't leave a lasting impact.
    • The word "desire" traces back to Latin "desiderare," suggesting a hopeful expectation or looking to the stars with longing.
    • Modern interpretations of "desire" have a more negative connotation, implying a sense of lack, while the original sentiment was more optimistic.
    • Reinterpreting Leonardo's quote with these definitions suggests that genuine, hopeful desire enriches the act of studying, making knowledge truly internalized and remembered.
    • While today's view of "desire" often relates to passion or emotional highs, the original sentiment emphasizes deeper engagement, trust in the process, and intrinsic motivation.
    • The satisfaction from studying comes not from fleeting pleasure but from deep understanding and discovery.

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    Will my child be adequately socialized?

    Will my child be adequately socialized?

    Sponsored by The Story Weavers - www.thestory-weavers.com 

    If you would like to read the blog post, go to https://www.thestory-weavers.com/pages/blog?p=dissecting-socializing-in-the-realm-of-education-an-analytical-dive

    Introduction

    • Definition and Importance of Socialization

    Deciphering the Complexities of Socialization

    • What Exactly Is "Socializing"?
    • What Specific Skills Does "Socializing" Include?
      • Learning Norms and Values
      • Emotional Growth
      • Conflict Resolution
      • Establishing Identity
      • Social Cues and Reading Body Language

    Historical Context of Socialization

    • How Humanity Socialized Before Mass Schooling
      • The Role of the Family Unit
      • Apprenticeships
      • Community and Tribe's Role
      • Influence of Religious Institutions
      • Work, Chores, and Child Contribution
      • Play and Peer Interaction
      • Role of Oral Traditions
      • Exposure Through Travel and Trade

    Traditional Schooling vs. Socialization Skills

    • What Skills Do Traditional Schools Focus On?
      • Communication Skills
      • Empathy
      • Conflict Resolution
      • Self-regulation
      • Cooperation and Collaboration
      • Critical Thinking
      • Cultural Awareness

    Conclusion

    • Analyzing Socialization in Context of Education Choices
    • The Opportunities Presented by Homeschooling

       

    My Kid Dislikes Reading... What Do I Do?

    My Kid Dislikes Reading... What Do I Do?

    Sponsored by The Story Weavers. The Minimalist Homeschooler Program www.thestory-weavers.com


    Episode Notes:

    • Understanding the Reason: Diagnosing the underlying causes of a child's resistance to reading.
      • Mechanics of reading
      • Mismatched interests
      • External distractions
    • Opening a Dialogue: Cultivating an open conversation to pinpoint reading aversions.
      • Perception vs. Reality
      • Diving deep with open-ended questions
      • Tailored reading experiences
    • Choosing the Right Books: Embracing various literary genres and identifying child-specific interests.
      • Avoiding classics imposition
      • Embracing modern genres
      • Observing child's excitement towards certain narratives
    • Setting the Example: Modeling reading behavior for children to emulate.
      • Parental engagement in reading
      • Open discussions on diverse reading content
      • Valuing reading as a household habit
    • Interactive Reading: Making reading a shared, experiential journey.
      • Role-playing and dissecting narratives
      • Engaging programs like The Story Weavers
      • Shared reading hobbies
    • Audiobooks and E-books: Leveraging digital storytelling mediums for tech-savvy kids.
      • Audiobook benefits
      • Balancing digital with active engagement
      • Overcoming traditional reading biases
    • Establishing a Reading Routine: Infusing daily rituals with reading habits.
      • Ensuring consistency over volume
      • Evaluating routines in alignment with a child's growth
      • Emphasizing engagement over time/pages
    • The Higher Purpose: Delving into the profound implications of literature.
      • Benefits of literature for personal growth
      • Importance of the process vs. benefits balance
      • Real-world examples of reading transformations 

    Is your child bored while writing?

    Is your child bored while writing?
    • The danger of being bored while writing.
    • Reasons for feeling bored: being dishonest with oneself, choosing the wrong topic, or approaching a topic inadequately.
    • How the mind perceives uninteresting tasks.
    • The consequences of writing without genuine interest or passion.
    • The essential state of mind for proper writing: seeking worth, beauty, and elegance.
    • The significance of choosing a topic that truly matters to the writer.
    • Formulating a topic as a compelling question.
    • The moral responsibility in selecting and writing about a topic.
    • Aligning with deeper levels of oneself to ensure genuine interest.
    • The evidence of interest as an indicator of topic importance.
    • Prioritizing ideas that truly grip and resonate with you.

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    Are You a Negotiator or Tyrant in Creating Routines for Your Homeschool?

    Are You a Negotiator or Tyrant in Creating Routines for Your Homeschool?

    visit the Story Weavers Blog for more information or transcription of this Blog: https://www.thestory-weavers.com/pages/blog?p=are-you-a-negotiator-or-tyrant-in-creating-routines-for-your-homeschool

    The Power of Routines: Humans are wired to seek predictability. Routines offer a sense of order amidst chaos, giving our brain assurance and balance.

    Crafting the Ideal Day: Instead of chaining ourselves to a to-do list, why not design a day filled with desired outcomes? Strike a balance between responsibilities and rewards. Use the method shared by The Story Weavers: designing a day as you wish it to be.

    Negotiating with Oneself: Creating a schedule should not be about tyranny, but negotiation. Like negotiating with a dear one, find the right balance of duties and delights, ensuring each day feels fulfilling.

    The Story Weavers Approach: Their minimalist homeschool curriculum champions this blend of structure and spontaneity, encouraging discovery amidst discipline.

    The Learning Curve: Aim for progress over perfection. Each day offers a chance to recalibrate and understand ourselves better, bringing us closer to our ideal homeschooling vision.

    Conclusion: As we shape our homeschooling rhythms, remember that it’s about crafting days we love. Know yourself as someone deserving of negotiation and care, for in that lies the joyous journey of homeschooling.

    Self-Doubt in Minimalist Homeschooling: When the Mind Belittles Your Endeavors

    Self-Doubt in Minimalist Homeschooling: When the Mind Belittles Your Endeavors

    The Quiet Whisper of Self-Doubt: Why Do We Minimize Ourselves?


     

    Our minds are ceaseless chatterboxes, a constant stream of thoughts, evaluations, and judgments. Among these multitudes, there's a voice, sometimes quiet, sometimes loud, that whispers, "You're not doing enough," or "Others do it better." But where does this voice of self-doubt originate? Is it merely a residue of our insecurities, or is it shaped by societal expectations and comparisons?


     

    In the context of minimalist homeschooling, this voice gains a peculiar prominence. The very essence of minimalism is to focus on what's essential, to discard the superfluous. Yet, the mind, in its habitual tendencies, often confuses 'minimal' with 'insufficient.' When we opt for a pared-down curriculum or a simpler teaching method, this voice may whisper, "Is this enough?"


     

    Isn't it more important to focus on the depth and richness of experiences rather than the quantity?


     


     

    • The Comparison Trap: Others’ Highlights vs. Our Behind-the-Scenes


     

    In this era of connectivity, we're bombarded with snapshots of other people's lives. Instagram stories, Facebook updates, Pinterest boards - they showcase the highlights, the successes. But what they seldom reveal are the struggles, the doubts, the moments of uncertainty.


     

    As minimalist homeschoolers, when we witness another parent's elaborate project or their child's exceptional achievement, it's easy to plunge into the murky waters of comparison. The voice says, "Look at them, and then look at you. Are you even on the right path?"


     

    Isn't it more important to acknowledge that everyone has their unique journey, replete with its challenges and triumphs, and that comparisons seldom paint the full picture?


     


     

    • Seeking External Validation: The Perpetual Quest for Affirmation


     

    Human beings, by nature, seek validation. A nod, an appreciative word, a pat on the back - these seemingly small gestures have the power to uplift. But what happens when this quest for external validation becomes a driving force? When the voice says, "If others don't recognize or praise, maybe it's not good enough"?


     

    In the realm of homeschooling, where the outcomes aren't always tangible and immediate, this quest can intensify. We may start measuring our worth based on others' opinions, overlooking our inner compass.


     

    Isn't it more important to find validation within, to recognize and appreciate our efforts and the unique value we bring to our homeschooling journey?

     


     

    The Practice of Self-Questioning: An Antidote to Self-Doubt


     

    1. At the crossroads of self-doubt, there's a powerful tool we often overlook: the practice of self-questioning. It's an act of introspection, of turning inwards, of dialoguing with oneself. Every time the mind belittles an effort or questions a choice, pause. Take a deep breath. If journaling resonates with you, grab your journal and write down the belittling thought verbatim.

       

    Now, challenge that thought with the counter question, "Isn't it more important..."

    Let the answers flow. They needn't be eloquent or profound; they just need to be honest.

    If you're more inclined to internal reflection, simply pose this counter question in your mind. Engaging in this practice consistently not only dispels the clouds of doubt but also fosters a deeper connection with oneself.

    Over time, you'll notice that these self-generated answers become your anchor, grounding you in moments of uncertainty and steering your homeschooling journey in a direction that feels authentic and fulfilling.


     


     

    Concluding, Yet Again Not Concluding


     


     

    The journey of minimalist homeschooling, like any worthwhile endeavor, is marked by peaks and valleys, moments of clarity and bouts of doubt. The voice of self-doubt, with its critical undertones, will occasionally make its presence felt. Yet, with conscious reflection, each doubt can be transformed into an opportunity, a chance to realign, to challenge societal norms and our internalized beliefs.


     

    At the crossroads of doubt, perhaps the question we should repeatedly ask ourselves is, "Isn't it more important to..." And in that pondering, we might find our own unique answers, guiding our path forward.

    Unlocking Autonomy in Homeschooling: Can 'Freedom Levels' Be the Game-Changer?

    Unlocking Autonomy in Homeschooling: Can 'Freedom Levels' Be the Game-Changer?

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    How Can "Freedom Levels" Revolutionize Your Homeschooling Experience?

    Striking the right balance between freedom and structure has always been a challenge for homeschooling parents. While the flexibility of homeschooling is its primary appeal, maintaining a structured learning environment is equally important. Too much structure, and children may feel stifled; too much freedom, and they might become aimless. 

    The question is: how do you ensure your child remains disciplined while relishing the freedom that homeschooling provides?

     

    So, we've heard about this idea of "Freedom Levels" in homeschooling. What's the essence of it?


     

    Well, imagine if homeschooling were gamified. Children earn their freedom, not through arbitrary means, but based on clear achievements. By accomplishing tasks or goals they set, they earn points. The accumulation of these points determines their freedom level in the subsequent week.



     

    Diving Deeper: What Are "Freedom Levels"?

    Imagine a system where your child has the ability to earn their freedom through their work. This isn’t about subjective judgments but tangible achievements. For instance, setting goals or completing tasks in a certain manner could earn them points. Rack up a specified number of points within a week, and voila! They level up to greater freedom in their studies for the subsequent week. Fail to do so, and they start from a foundational level, with set schedules and study environments.

    For instance, by setting particular academic goals or tasks (let's say task a.b.c), a child could earn x points upon completion (20 points, hypothetically). Gather 300 points within a week? They've just unlocked the highest freedom level.


     

    What this essentially translates to is the child having the autonomy to choose:


     

    What they work on.

    When they work on it.

    Where they work on it.

    However, this is within the confines of the previously agreed-upon goals for that week.

    But, life happens. Distractions occur. And in weeks where the child doesn't meet their target? They start at Freedom Level 1 with a predefined schedule and specific work environment (like a dedicated desk). This isn't punishment but rather a structured way to help them refocus.


     

    Breaking It Down: What Might Freedom Levels 1, 2, & 3 Look Like?

    Let's break it down:

    • Goal Setting: Your child decides they want to understand the basics of photosynthesis. They break down this task into sub-tasks: a) watch a documentary, b) read two articles, and c) write a short essay. Each sub-task, when completed to a set standard, earns them 20 points.

       
    • Accumulation: If they accumulate, say, 300 points from various tasks within a week, they elevate to the highest freedom level for the next week.

       
    • Freedom Level Achieved: At this top freedom level, they can choose what topic they wish to delve into next, decide when they'll study it, and even pick their favorite spot in the house to study from, all within the overarching goals set for the week.

       
    • Fallback: However, a week of distractions and missed tasks might see them drop to Freedom Level 1 the next week. Here, they have a set desk and a schedule outlined for them.


    The beauty lies in its clarity. The children aren't guessing; they know the exact steps to earn their agency over their day.


     

    Sample Freedom Levels Breakdown:

    • Freedom Level 1: You have a designated desk and a fixed schedule which you need to follow. Points required: 0-99.


     

    • Freedom Level 2: You can choose the sequence in which you tackle subjects, but the study location and daily schedule remain fixed. Points required: 100-199.


     

    • Freedom Level 3: You get to pick what you study, when you study, and your study spot. An absolute autonomy within the broader goals for the week. Points required: 200-300.


     

    But wouldn’t children just rush through tasks to get points? How does this ensure genuine learning?

    A valid concern. The system would only be as good as its design. The tasks and the associated points shouldn't just be about completion, but about understanding. The goals should challenge the child to think deeply and engage with the material. If they're just skimming through to earn points, the system's effectiveness is lost.


     

    Negotiating Freedom Levels With Your Child

    One might argue that merely implementing this isn't enough. It's essential for parents and children to co-create this system. This co-creation ensures the child is invested.


     

    Here are some guiding questions for this negotiation:


     

    • How many freedom levels do we want to have?
    • What tasks or achievements are required to reach each level?
    • How many points is each task worth? Is it based on effort, completion, or mastery?
    • What freedoms are associated with each level?
    • Are there any non-negotiables in terms of study topics or hours?
    • How can we ensure that this system promotes deep learning and not just task completion?
       

    In conclusion,

    Freedom Levels offers an innovative approach to blending motivation with accountability. It's not just about "gaming the system" but fostering a genuine love for learning, coupled with a sense of responsibility. Each family can tailor it to their unique needs, but the underlying principle remains – empowering children to take charge of their educational journey.

     

    Patterns-of-Tonalities Series 3: Freedom & Presence vs. having the “inside voice”

    Patterns-of-Tonalities Series 3: Freedom & Presence vs. having the “inside voice”

    Patterns-of-Tonalities Series 3: Freedom & Presence vs. having the “inside voice” 

    How do I teach my child to NOT follow other people's tonalities? 

     

    This is a controversial subject. It is up to parents to decide if their kids are ready for this exercise.

    In Freedom & Presence, you'll challenge the belief that you should always speak from the inside out and adjust to others. 

     

    "Master the techniques, master the skills, then let go and play from intuition." 

     

    If you want to have the deep, demanding voice that leaders have, then you need to practice being present and free more than anything technical. Talking louder is a good practice. When we push our boundaries. A speaker needs a default setting that will allow them to speak louder in order to develop a powerful voice. With confidence, say good dog, good, I love you, and see how talking louder makes you feel.

     

    Why do most people hold back their voices? People want to be normal and don't want to stand out or get attention. They want to fit in. You know there is a line and you need to stay within a certain range. People won't look funny. You won't get the looks. Be aware of the social cues to "keep it down," so you can choose whether you want to follow them consciously or not. Keep it down or not.

     

    When we teach our kids to have ONLY have an "inside voice," we are taking away something powerful and right from them. My personal belief is that kids need to know the rules, like at a dining table, and once they do, they need to be able to adjust to the circumstances: You will likely behave differently at a five-star restaurant and at a takeaway. Knowing both allows them to choose and adapt. The same is true for your voice: Speakers are aware that every time they speak, they are training their voice to be more captivating, persuasive, impactful, and interesting. There is inner freedom in them to speak confidently louder than normal and still be okay with it. Additionally, it is equally important for the development of their self-confidence and presence as a speaker, to be able to speak freely, loudly, and clearly. Leaders choose whether to adjust themselves to others or not. It is important that we allow our kids to experiment with both.

     

    Read a passage compassionately loud. Or when your doorbell rings. As you walk to the door, don't just walk through the door quietly, or in the car, be super loud and just say things. Open up. Talk to the dog: "I love you. Just the way you are." 

    Another place could be before you go on camera.  Make some louder than normal noises before you go on camera. That way your normal noise will be louder.

     

    Many speakers use this method to change their emotional state. If you bark and become intense, you will instantly feel different. If you add movement to it, you will experience different emotions. Introduce yourself loudly, or all of a sudden say "Hey... I love you."

    Although you don't have to, you could and wouldn't mind. This will strengthen your voice and mind. 

     

    So rather than just teaching our children the indoor voice, let´s teach them to be able to choose and choose wisely depending on context. Read out passages 20% louder, in between with a powerful strong voice call around your apartment loudly (Hey,.... (normal tone) I love you."

     

    To finish today, a study at Kent State concluded, “People unconsciously adapt to each other’s voice tones, a phenomenon called communication accommodation theory.” What that means is when two or more people meet and have a conversation, they unconsciously adapt each other’s voice tones. You want to practice with your child, to be able to be unaffected and maintain the vocal tonality you want. That’s what charismatic people do.

    Being able to choose and adapt. And being ok with it.

    And don´t forget, if you want to practice these tonalities, you can join the Communications Games, every Wednesday for free. Chek us out on www.thestory-weavers.com

    Patterns of Tonality 1: What's the most effective way to teach my child to adjust their tones?

    Patterns of Tonality 1: What's the most effective way to teach my child to adjust their tones?

    What's the most effective way to teach my child to adjust their tones? 

    Recognizing patterns is what our brains do best. Finding and practicing Patterns-of-Tonalities is the best way to teach by experience.  Use the Mirroring game to achieve this. Before you play the game, tell your child one reason why it's worthwhile to learn Patterns-of-Tonalities. Studies showing the benefits, building a rapport through commonalities or emotional contagion are factors that can trigger your child, depending on the trigger. 

    The ability to notice patterns of tonalities must be of value to us, so why should we care? In part, this is because mirroring tonalities creates rapport:

    By adapting your tone, volume, pace, and rhythm for each context and person, you subconsciously build trust. According to theory, people prefer to be with people who are like them or whom they´d like to be like. And dislike those who are different. 

    If you mention that this is not good for an argument, you prove your point: You prefer people who prefer an argument over people with different beliefs. 

    Observing others in a public space is an excellent way to see this phenomenon in action. As they become more in tune with their talking partner, they will become more alike. Their movements will mimic one another. They hold their arms the same way, or when one leans forward, the other mirrors it. We use the language they use. Perhaps you adjust your voice tone. 

    Imagine a fast talker meeting a slow talker. Both would be frustrated, one because the pace is too slow, the other because it is too fast. 

    Then, how does mirroring work with patterns of tonality? 

    Let's challenge our kids to recognize patterns in volume, tempo, and tone. Up until the point where the other person does not know it, they will just feel more connected to them. 

    Read, discuss and offer suggestions in each of these three areas (volume, tone or tempo).  Make a drawing of the pattern. 

    For instance. Speed. I will speak really fast (draw dots on the paper) and then really slowly. I will exaggerate at first, then move to small patterns. 

    Volume: Normal, then whisper, then normal, then loud. 

    Talk angry, happy, grateful, ask a question, give a command. Determine the tone for each. We'll cover several patterns next week. Today, start observing and drawing out the patterns.

    What if my child doesn't make decisions fast? 6 Step Formula

    What if my child doesn't make decisions fast? 6 Step Formula

    Ready to start making tough and small decisions with less stress?

    Today we will review two formulas you can use with your child when having difficulties making decisions: The 22nd rule and six step formula.


     

    And that's what we're going to do right now. But first, I want to express how much I respect you for your commitment, and of yourself and your kid to improving yourself as hard as it sometimes can be.

    So while I love reading, listening, and speaking to the giants of the industry, in business, homeschooling, and other areas, what I continuously wonder, is how to make them actionable to me and my child. And our decisions affect everything around us, especially in turmoil.

    Those who mastered the art of decision-making have the ability on making those decisions that others don't do, meaning the difference between failure and success. So, you know, so the difference between fulfillment and a persuasive sense of emptiness.

    So if you don't have a system for making these decisions, you often procrastinate and avoid making them or making rash decisions that lead to a host of other problems.

    The key is to have a proven system a proven process to use when tough decisions crop up. So are you ready to make those small and complicated decisions quickly and with less stress? Let's jump right in to the 20 seconds but before I do, remember to check out the story weavers, if you're interested to have monthly projects you can use this skill in.

    Okay, so let's start working our decision-making muscles. Because ultimately decisions are like muscles, if you don't use them, they become weak.

    Most of us have, honestly and flappy decision-making muscle...So some people have a hard time deciding what do they want for dinner.

    So how are we going to strengthen this muscle is by giving them a workout, the way to make better decisions is to make more of them.

    So set a timer. Give yourself 20 seconds max to decide,

    because champions make fast decisions

    You have 20 seconds to....

    The second level of this is just as important how fast you make decisions, focusing on the state on how you make those decisions, you know, know that no matter decision, you will figure it out. It's this confidence is this calmness, when you make the decision that makes the difference. S

    So if you would place a tablespoon of water in the palm of your hand, as long as your hand is relaxed, the water rests and sits there and you could control it. For example, pour it into a cup or move it around. But if you imagine the tension building up in your hand and your hand closes into fists, you lose the control as the water sports or leaks, you know from every Keith. So how you feel about your decision is like having water in your hand. Are you moving steadily along and is centered with confidence or are you teeth-gritting and discomfort.

    Use the 22second rule if you have small decisions like if you're sitting in a restaurant if you're deciding what to have for dinner, 20 seconds, go use this with your child as well as a rule.

    COMPLEX DECISIONS

    Now what about the complex, tough decisions when you know you have to decide what projects you do?

    So some of our kids inside our projects we have had this question of well, my kid can choose or it just goes with the first, you know, idea that the kid has and doesn't even you know, look at other options.

    So you lack the creativity you're on the other side you lack the actually getting into action mode and out of that brainstorming session brainstorming mode. What you do is you have four tough decisions you use these six steps, number One. And by the way, you might come to the result, even if you don't follow all of the six.

    So first you define the outcome, what are your results? Are you after? Why do you want to achieve it, you must be clear about your outcomes and the order of importance, so that you may be even can visualize it so that you have a specific field.

    When you go over this with your child, for example, with the project, what is the project about what is maybe a bigger vision that you were the kid has throughout the year, the theme that you could decide on first.


     

    Then you write down the choices.

    And remember, one option is no choice two options is a dilemma. Three options is actually when you have a choice. So which options do I have, and write down all of those options, including those that you dislike, or seem far-fetched?

    Or even maybe if you can't come up with any, then what you say is simply an option is to do nothing. So that's number two, first define the outcome, then write down the choices.

    Then assess possible consequences.

    So what are the ups and downs of each option? What do you gain? What do you cost? When you're clear about your goals and committed to your vision, then, you know, the direct consequences of those tough decisions are better than making no decision at all. So you'll be better after, you know, after you assess the rewards and the consequences of each of your options, and choose the best one more quickly. So you can for example, inside the project, well, how much time do we have to actually create the product? How much time would it take us? Is that realistic? Are we willing to put in that effort?

    Then, after you've done you, this is already a point where some options normally fall out, then you of course, evaluate your options after you now you've written them down.

    And by the way, why don't we write them down? Because Have you ever had it where you have loops in your head? That you continuously think about a question, you didn't make it, you didn't decide on something and then it comes back to you. And it just uses so much energy? The best thing is to write it down, look at it and then decide.

    So the next thing is you evaluate,

    you write down well, how important are those upsides and downturns? You're meeting those outcomes? What is the probability that you know the downsides will occur? And does it compare with the effort, the time the money that you put in? So with your child, evaluate all of the the possible consequences that you've written them?

    The fifth step is to mitigate the damage.

    How can I eliminate or reduce those downsides? The reasons these are tough decisions is usually because of what could happen if we make the wrong decision. And that's why you must review all the downsides. in more details. Brainstorm alternative ways to eliminate or reduce those downsides. Again, the more ideas you can come up with, no matter how far-fetched they may seem, the better prepared you'll be to face the potential consequences.

    And this part of the decision-making process is important because it allows you to be proactive about how to handle any fallout, and you can start to anticipate the future.

    And the last and final step, step number six, of course,

    is to decide now,

    after you written them, these six steps with your kid, no matter how stuck it is, decide now, because let's face it, in real life, we don't always have all of the resources all of the information we can't. Most of the times wait until we have those facts in order.

    Based on the most probable consequences, select the option that provides the greatest certainty that you will need your desired outcome or needs. This is your best option for right now. And because you've looked at some many other possibilities, you know that to be true. So this will help you beat procrastination when making tough decisions and avoid the deadliest decision of all inaction. So what would you decide? And if you would know the best option, which one would you choose?


     

    With these two formulas you have for each situation for small decisions, take the 22nd rule for big decisions, use the six-step formula and you will guide your kid to have the formula to make decisions no matter where they are.

    With that, see you next time guys, and if you're serious about it In a language arts program that goes beyond as you see with this, the normal grammar and spelling you know how it's always been done, then definitely check out thestory-weavers.com

    You'll see it in my bio, because spots are coming in soon, and people are already coming towards and asking us a lot of questions about when they can join. So make sure you reserve your spot in the story weavers.

    21:The Framework to Paraphrase, A tool you will use throught your life

    21:The Framework to Paraphrase, A tool you will use throught your life
    Focus on developing your paraphrasing skills this week. In the deep dive (download in the resource library of www.thestory-weavers.com), there are four stories with question prompts to practice using the tool. If you want your child, parent or friend to feel that you really listen to them, and they, in turn, listen to you, then paraphrasing this week will be useful in every situation. Improve one communication skill at a time.
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