Past Chaos

In this episode, April and Loren continue the saga of the early stages of their relationship.  April opens up about the dark place she was in during the end of her relationship to Roy.  Loren also details how she was feeling on the other side of the fence, having some of the same emotions.
The women discuss the loneliness and heartache they felt at such a dark time in their lives.  They also talk about the beginning of unpredicted relationships that brought them a shred of hope for the future.  
April and Loren answer a question they get asked repeatedly, in hopes of finally setting the record straight.

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In this episode, April and Loren continue the saga of their love story.  They discuss how they met for the first time and their feelings on first impressions of each other.
The women recount the emotional struggles they were dealing with while both of their marriages were ending.
April talks about the start of her friendship with John, while Loren relives what it was like dealing with that on her side of the fence.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the most sensitive, yet craved topic listeners always inquire about...the love child.
The women go into uncomfortable detail on the bombshell dropped in the first year of marriage for Loren and John, and how this still affects their entire family.
April discusses her recent spike in irritability, which leads the women down the road of medication for anxiety, stress, and medication.
Can your marriage recover after cheating results in a child?  Listen to what the ladies have to say about it in this episode!

In this episode, April and Loren discuss their second marriages.  Loren goes into detail about the shame she felt in the beginning of her relationship to John.  April talks about the similarities between her marriage to Roy and the marriage of Prince Harry and Megan.
The women discuss the courage it takes to admit your own faults that contribute to the demise of a relationship.

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In this episode of Co-Parenting Past Chaos, April and Loren discuss their first marriages. They talk about how those relationships and divorces set the tone for their future relationships. They also discuss the impact that marrying young had on their self-worth.   

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In this episode of Co-parenting Past Chaos, April and Loren go back and dissect the very first blog they ever wrote.  The women dive into more details about the events from their past and how that has shaped them as mothers and allowed them to build such a strong co-parenting bond.  
April tells us how she keeps John walking the line.  Loren divulges how she is in too deep in an argument with her boyfriend and why it's too late to back down now.
Listen as the women give their advice on the importance of building a strong bond with each other as friends, moms, and co-parents, in order to raise their children to have the amazing lives they deserve.

In this episode of Co-parenting Past Chaos, the women discuss the difficulties of coparenting in two separate homes.  
Loren gives us an insight into just how petty she is willing to be when pushed to the limit, and April reveals whether or not she supports Loren's reaction to the situation.
The women also talk about how hard it is to deal with transitions and the struggles they have with their children's behavior.  April and Loren gives us their tips on how they are able to successfully co-parent with several parents while living in different homes.

In this episode, April and Loren discuss WHY they became friends and what makes their relationship work.  They have been getting a lot of questions about their friendship lately, so they decided to explain their situation in detail.
The women also give their take on the new Britney Spears documentary and how it relates to their high-conflict custody battle.  Loren tells us why she went through John's phone, and April makes a confession about her first marriage and her secret internet searches.

In this episode, April and Loren discuss how misery loves company in divorce and co-parenting.  The women dissect their divorces and how miserable they attempted to make their exes throughout the process.
April and Loren also go into the miserable aspects of their bitter custody battle and give examples of how they let their misery dictate their actions.
Listen as the ladies give tips on how to combat the misery you go through during these difficult times and learn to choose happiness instead.

In this episode, April and Loren discuss how having different parenting styles have affected the blending of their families.  They remember their bitter custody battle and the aftermath it had with their children and the relationships between them.  
The women divulge which one of them has gone rogue in their parenting dynamic and discuss ways to reel that person back in.
April and Loren also talk about the type of mothers they are and how it affects their relationships with their significant others.

In this episode, April and Loren discuss moms that cuss.  The ladies talk about their past co-parenting experience with their attorneys advising them to be "perfect" in front of the children.  When April let a naughty word slip, John's head spun.
They also talk about growing up and what types of language was appropriate in their homes.
April and Loren also dive into the here and now.  How do they handle swear words in each household?  Does saying bad words make you a bad mom?  Listen to what the ladies have to say about this and so much more!

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the ways they have sabotaged their relationships.  Are we our own worst enemies?  Find out how we answer that question.  
Listen as we discuss how the trauma from our past relationships affected the beginning of our co-parenting relationship.  Also, we talk about how our past issues have molded us, as well as created walls that have made it very difficult to truly. find happiness in our current relationships.  We also discuss how we have been able to break the barriers from our past trauma in order to live in the now.

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the possibility of having it all.  As women, wives, and moms - can you really have it all, or does it come with a price?  First, the women define what it means to have it all.  Then, they discuss how to prioritize the things you want and how that fits in with your lifestyle.  Listen as they rationalize what having it all means to them.  Find out if they think it is truly possible to have it all.

In this episode, April and Loren discuss reasons why bio mom dislike stepmoms.  They remember a time, not so long ago, when they disliked each other so much they could not stand being in the same room as one another.  
The women consider the different ways they reacted to circumstances during their custody battle and how they relate to how other bio moms feel about stepmoms.  They also talk about how you should react when the biome does not like you.

In this episode, April and Loren take it back to the beginning.  They discuss what led to them creating the relationship they have today.  The women give a recap on what it took to develop the co-parenting dynamic they currently have.  April and Loren also talk about how they all ended up living in the same neighborhood.  Times were difficult in the beginning; they were not as blissful as they are today.  The women open up about why they decided to be so raw and vulnerable in telling their story.

In this episode, April and Loren teach you ways to fight with your spouse.
Well, maybe not so much how to fight - but how to disagree in a healthier way.  

The women discuss their marriages and the ways they argued in each of them.  They discuss all the unhealthy aspects of the disagreements they faced during their previous marriages, as well as how they have managed not to bring those into their current relationships.

April and Loren talk about ways to argue in a more productive manner, in hopes of not making the same mistakes they have made previously.

In this episode, April and Loren discuss finding your sanity during this pandemic. They talk about how hard it has been to find an outlet and a release while working, owning a business, being wives, and taking care of all the children during this chaos.

Joining them to shed some clarity on the chaos is Josephine Atluri.  Josephine is an expert in meditation and in overcoming adversity to find joy.  Through her unique journey on her path to become a mom of five, Josephine weathered many ups and downs with IVF, international adoption and surrogacy.
You can find out more about Josephine, visit her website at www.jatluri.com
She is also the host of the Responding To Life Podcast, which you can listen to on your favorite listening platform.
Also, check out her Instagram at www.instagram.com/josephineratluri/

In this episode, April and Loren discuss why moms shame themselves into feeling like they aren't a good enough mom.  They also talk about how they tend to allow one of their children in particular, to set the standard for how they parent in their households.

The women share an incident from recently where they felt like horrible moms and what led up to them threatening to sell one of their kids to the circus.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss finding your thanks and discovering your clarity through the chaos of a coparenting relationship.

The women remember their bitter custody battle and how they could have changed their mindset early on to prohibit so much animosity. 
They offer three steps that you can follow in order to find clarity through the chaos.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss how their views on bonus parent involvement has evolved since they began coparenting.  Loren explains how her opinions have changed the most.  In the beginning, she believed that April should not have such a leading role in the parenting decisions.  Now that their relationship has grown, and they have become best friends, Loren admits that she is absolutely on board with April's involvement.
April admits that she has also learned things from Loren that has helped in her motherhood and step-motherhood journeys.