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    Past Chaos

    April and Roy, stars of TLC's "You, Me & My Ex" and the hosts of Past Chaos, take you on a journey through marriage, divorce, coparenting and so much more! Listen as this ex-wife and ex-husband discuss the trials, tribulations, and triumphs they encountered while they built a positive relationship and productive communication after divorce. These two exes can be like oil and vinegar, but at the end of the day they share a very strong bond - parenthood. Together they want to build a community of blended families that focus on putting the children’s needs above their own. Parenting presents its own challenges, add in filming a reality television show – you have yourself a whole new set of issues. Unfortunately, divorce happens, but it does not have to place lasting and damaging effects on children. Past Chaos was created in hopes of shedding light on positive co-parenting and advocating for better communication for the parents of children in broken homes. April and Roy hope you will join them on this adventure of proving that blended is better! Past Chaos is a weekly podcast that is available wherever you prefer to listen. Please subscribe.
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    Episodes (177)

    Can You Take A Break In Marriage

    Can You Take A Break In Marriage

    In this episode, April and Loren discuss setting boundaries in your romantic relationships.  Can you be in a marriage and take a break?  Is it ok to "be on a break"?  Hear how the women feel about setting their own rules when it comes to relationships.
    Find out why Loren blocked her boyfriend on social media?  Also, did the women survive the first week of school?  

    Don't forget, you can now stream all episodes of "You, Me & My Ex" on discoveryplus!

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    Are You On a Journey To Find Yourself

    Are You On a Journey To Find Yourself

    In this episode, April and Loren recount their cross-country adventures.
    the women decided to take a journey to find themselves and do a little self-reflection.  Did their friendship survive nine days of travel? 
    Find out how Loren made April face her fears and the extreme measures she took to do so.  Also, April experienced a lot of "firsts".  Listen to find out her favorites.
    The women tell listeners their biggest takeaway from their journey and how it affected their future plans.

    Don't forget to watch the season finale of, "You, Me & My Ex" Sunday at 10pm EST on TLC!

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    How Important Are Your Friendships

    How Important Are Your Friendships

    In this episode, April and Loren discuss friendships and how important they are.  The women talk about past relationships with friends and how they have changed them for future friendships.
    Has being on a reality television show changed their outlook on friendships?  
    April has a question for Loren about feeling left out with other moms.  Loren admits to telling a fib to her boyfriend.
    Don't forget to tune in to our new show, "You, Me & My Ex" on TLC at 10 pm EST.

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    Are You Living Someone Else's Dream

    Are You Living Someone Else's Dream

    In this episode, April and Loren discuss living someone else's happily ever after.
    Following a day spent reminiscing with Loren, April realizes that she may be having doubts about her future.  Will Loren be able to tell April, "I told you so"?
    Does Loren feel like she should have stayed married to John?  What is her boyfriend doing the is causing her to feel disrespected?  

    Don't forget to tune in to our new show, "You, Me & My Ex" Sundays at 10 pm EST on TLC!

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    Does Your Spouse Annoy You

    Does Your Spouse Annoy You

    In this episode, April and Loren discuss annoying spouses.  More specifically, the women divulge their significant other's most annoying traits.  
    They balance out the roast fest by admitting their most annoying qualities.
    The women also debate a sticky situation as a listener needs advice.

    Don't forget to tune in every Sunday at 10pm EST on TLC to their new show, "You, Me & My Ex"!

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    Did Your Ex Get Your Best Years

    Did Your Ex Get Your Best Years

    In this episode, April and Loren discuss who got the best years of their lives.  Do you think one of your exes took your best years?  Or are your best years yet to come?
    Loren discusses a parenting moment, and the women decide how to tackle a teachable moment with one of their sons.
    April has an epiphany and decides to make a big change in her life.  How will this affect the family dynamic?
    Don't forget to tune in to the newest episode of You, Me & My Ex Sundays on TLC at 10pm EST.

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    Is Your Sex Life Healthy

    Is Your Sex Life Healthy

    In this episode, April and Loren discuss intimacy.  Let's talk about sex, baby!  The women wonder if their sex is broken or just as normal as the next person.  Does size matter?  How often should you have sex?  Does your partner compare you to his or her ex?  Find out the answers to these questions and more in this episode.
    Don't forget to tune in to their new show, "You, Me, & My Ex" on TLC every Sunday at 10PM EST.

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    Does The Truth Hurt

    Does The Truth Hurt

    In this episode, April and Loren discuss how the truth can hurt once we hear it.  The women talk about decisions they have made in their lives and relationships that come back to haunt them later in life.
    They also reveal how it feels to hear the men in their lives divulge feelings on national television that they have never revealed to them in person.
    April and Loren discuss what they hope the future of their relationship looks like.

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    The Reality of Relationships

    The Reality of Relationships

    In this episode, April and Loren discuss expectations in relationships versus the reality of them.  The women also divulge what it is really like watching their lives unfold on a reality television show.
    April admits how the 90/10 rule of relationships has affected her outlook on her marriages to Roy and John.
    Loren tells us how difficult it has been to see the portrayal of her ex on television.  

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    Can Moms Be Sexy

    Can Moms Be Sexy

    In this episode, April and Loren discuss the mom "dress code".  They debate the age-old question of, "Can moms be sexy?"
    April recalls the triggers of her past that cause her to have issues when it comes to being body shamed. 
    Loren talks about her feelings of needing approval and validation to dress the way she wants.
    Is it ok for women to feel sexy after becoming a mother?  Listen to this episode to hear what the women think.

    Also, don't forget to tune in Sundays at 10pm EST on TLC to watch the latest episode of "You, Me & My Ex"!

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    Is It Hard Being With Someone's Ex

    Is It Hard Being With Someone's Ex

    In this episode, April and Loren discuss the difficulties of being married to someone else's ex.  The women divulge the most difficult aspects of their relationships with the same man.
    April talks about how hard it was to accept the end of her first marriage and how horrible she was to Jerry's new wife.
    Loren tells us the struggles she had in the beginning of John and April's relationship and how she still works to combat them.
    Don't forget to tune in to our NEW show, "You, Me & My Ex" on TLC - airing Sundays at 10pm EST!

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    Should You Travel With Your Ex

    Should You Travel With Your Ex

    In this episode, April and Loren discuss traveling with their exes.  The women give details of the recent trip they took as a BIG blended family.
    April recounts her travels with her first husband, Jerry.  She also talks about traveling with Roy and how she feels about it.
    Loren admits that she prefers to not travel with John, due to the lack of communication between them.

    Don't forget to check out the premiere of their NEW show on TLC, "You, Me & My Ex" on Sunday, June 20th at 10pm EST!

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    What Are CoParenting Triggers

    What Are CoParenting Triggers

    In this episode, April and Loren talk about their top three triggers that set them off during their bitter custody battle.  Loren discusses an interesting parenting moment with one of the boys.  April reveals a big move in her career, and how she will be taking time to focus on being a mom and working closely with Loren to build their business.
    Don't forget, their new show, "You, Me & My Ex" will premier on TLC on June, 20th at 10PM EST.

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    Blended Families That Closely CoParent

    Blended Families That Closely CoParent

    In this episode, April and Loren announce the BIG secret they have been keeping!  Their blended family will be featured on a reality television serious titled, "You, Me & My Ex" that will premier on TLC June 20th at 10PM EST!
    The women have special guests Ben and Nikki, authors of "Our Happy Divorce".  Ben and Nikki got a divorce, but decided to take the high road and develop a positive coparenting relationship for their son.  The former couple added to their family with Ben's new wife, including two more daughters, and Nikki's new husband.  Much like our family, they live in the same neighborhood and all get along.  
    Click the links below to find out more about Ben, Nikki, and their big, blended family.
    https://www.facebook.com/ourhappydivorce
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    Can Your Attitude Affect Your CoParenting Relationship

    Can Your Attitude Affect Your CoParenting Relationship

    In this episode, April and Loren talk about how changing your attitude can help create a better coparenting relationship with your ex.  
    Loren tells us how she was a bitter baby momma and what made her decide to take a different approach.  April recalls how she learned valuable lessons from her first coparenting relationship with Jerry and that she decided not to bring those negative actions into her new coparenting dynamic.
    The women also answer a very intimate question sent in by a follower.

    A big THANK YOU to Podcorn for sponsoring this episode.  To learn more about them, visit their website at www.podcorn.com

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    What Are Relationship Red Flags

    What Are Relationship Red Flags

    In this episode, April and Loren talk about relationship red flags.  The women discuss some of the red flags they have personally dealt with in past relationships, as well as ones you should generally look out for prior to dating someone. 
    The women also discuss the great advice their moms gave them growing up and why we often choose to learn lessons the hard way.
    April discovers the reason Loren and John's marriage did not work out.  Loren recounts a great teachable moment she recently had with her boys.

    A huge THANK YOU to Podcorn for sponsoring this episode.  To find out more about them, visit their website at www.podcorn.com

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    Does Divorce Traumatize Children?

    Does Divorce Traumatize Children?

    In this episode, April and Loren discuss divorce and the damage it does.  More importantly, they argue the point of staying in an unhealthy marriage and the lasting harm it can have of your children.
    The women discuss growing up and witnessing abuse in their homes.  They confess their feelings about their parents' divorces and how it was a blessing in disguise.  April goes into detail about the abuse in her first marriage and how she refused to allow the cycle to repeat itself.

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    How to Handle High-Conflict Exes

    How to Handle High-Conflict Exes

    In this episode, April and Loren celebrate their 100th Podcast!  They are joined by special guest, John.  He talks about how far this blended family has come and how his relationship with Loren has changed over the years.  
    In honor of 100 episodes, the women answer questions sent in from their followers.  Among many topics, they discuss step-parent communication, high-conflict relationships, and vindictive exes.  

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    How To Walk Away From What Does Not Serve You

    How To Walk Away From What Does Not Serve You

    In this episode, April and Loren discuss leaving things that no longer serve you and how the universe moves us when we are unsure of what we should do.  The women also open up about how they learned to accept change, say no, and find peace.  
    April confesses about something she has not been honest about for years.  She finally opens up and make a huge confession.  
    Loren tells us something that happened in her life recently that really rocked her world.

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    Finding Clarity In The Midst Of A Chaotic Custody Battle

    Finding Clarity In The Midst Of A Chaotic Custody Battle

    In this episode, April and Loren discuss the continuation and culmination of their divorces and child custody battle.  
    April remembers the call from Loren that lead to the beginning of their friendship.  She goes into detail about her feelings and how things could have gone very wrong if she would have allowed the volatile nature of their past to continue.  
    Loren recalls the moment she made the decision to reach out to April and her fear of how things could have gone.

    A huge THANK YOU to Usual Wines for sponsoring this episode.   To find out more about them, visit their website at www.usualwines.com

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