Relationship School Podcast

Jayson coaches the couple, Anya and Bodhi. The last time this couple appeared on the podcast was in episode #364 when they were in the midst of deciding whether to stay together or break up. Since their last appearance, they have grown into a strong and stable couple. In this episode, they discuss the turning point in their relationship that led to them staying together. They also work through current tensions in their relationship related to conflicting schedules and navigating a small living space. You won’t want to miss this insightful conversation.

Timestamps:

• 5:17 - Anya & Bodhi's turning point
• 13:23 - Individual growth
• 20:00 - Getting to the root of relationship tension
• 33:34 - Feeling trapped by a lack of connectedness
• 39:05 - Spontaneity vs. responsibility
• 43:00 - Different schedules
• 47:00 - Helping your partner feel less judged
• 1:00:30 - Being true to yourself vs. being considerate
• 1:08:59 - Action step

Links:

• Coaching a Couple Through Staying Together or Breaking Up – Jayson Gaddis – 364
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Jayson is joined by his son Lucian for a conversation about the unique challenges of being a teenager in high school. What are the challenges of being from a relationally focused family? What kinds of stereotypes do teens face? Why do so many parents over-parent their kids? You won’t want to miss this candid father-son conversation.

Timestamps:

• 3:52 - Boys in high school
• 5:28 - Social media apps
• 6:19 - Waldorf vs. public high school
• 9:21 - The relational family experiance
• 16:41 - Challenges high school kids face
• 20:25 - Over-parenting
• 23:41 - How to get teenagers involved

Links:

• Apply to Relationship Coach Training
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Is it possible to truly love someone while you’re still infatuated with them? In this episode, Jayson and Ellen talk about the trap of falling in love and why it’s important to learn to live with the reality of who your partner actually is instead of projecting your fantasies onto them. How can you make your partner your priority every day? What should your relationship boundaries be? It’s time to take a deep dive into the world of love after infatuation.

Timestamps:

• 2:16 - Infatuation vs. love
• 6:16 - Reality vs. fantasy
• 20:00 - Accepting people for who they are
• 24:48 - Know your relationship boundaries
• 28:16 - Love after infatuation
• 31:52 - Our impact on others

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Jayson talks about dealing with division in the world, digital minimalism and getting unstuck in your relationship. Can solving division in the home help make the world a better place? How do you know when you’re stuck as a couple? What should you do if you’re stuck? Would you like to be the next guest on The Relationship School Podcast? Listen in to find out more!

Timestamps:

• 4:01 - Couples, how do you know when you're stuck?
• 11:47 - Dealing with division
• 19:25 - Action steps

Links:

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Jason coaches two women live on the podcast. How should you deal with the experience of a long-term partner ghosting you? What should you do when you feel self-doubt and loneliness? How can you find meaning in the end of a long-term relationship? You won’t want to miss the chance to sit in on this powerful coaching session with Jayson, Katie and Camille.

Timestamps:

• 4:09 - Katie's story
• 8:27 - Being there for yourself
• 16:26 - Katie's personal growth journey
• 26:17 - Camille's story
• 29:56 - Dealing with a partner who ghosted
• 37:46 - Finding meaning in the end of a relationship
• 46:51 - Finding your anchor

Links:

• Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero
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Helping children learn to be financially responsible is one of the most important jobs that parents have. James Ure joins Jayson to talk about how a family economy can help you give your child the best chance to achieve success and independence when they leave home. Should you pay your child for chores? How much of an allowance should you give your child? What is the difference between bribery and empowerment? How can you teach your child the importance of saving, investing, and giving to charity? You won’t want to miss this insightful conversation.

Timestamps:

• 8:31 - What is a family economy?
• 13:55 - Creating incentives for kids
• 25:55 - Tracking a family economy without an app
• 37:41 - Using money and screentime as motivators
• 41:54 - Bribing vs. empowering
• 45:37 - Implementing a family economy
• 53:31 - The Greenlight app
• 57:46 - Big purchases
• 1:01:09 - Where to find James
• 1:02:34 - James' advice for high school students
• 1:03:40 - Action steps

Links:

• Apply to Relationship Coach Training
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Jayson and Ellen team up to talk about working with men in coaching and therapy. How can you tell when a man is ready to grow? How does couples' work help men? What are the advantages of attending a men’s group? Are men more comfortable with male or female therapists? If you’re a man or you have men in your life, you won’t want to miss this insightful conversation.

Timestamps:

• 6:16 - Ways that men get stuck
• 10:52 - Working through men's defensiveness
• 13:56 - Recognizing men's issues
• 17:27 - How male clients project
• 21:10 - Are men more comfortable with male or female therapists
• 24:48 - Men's groups
• 29:44 - How couples work helps men
• 31:35 - How to get men to change
• 34:09 - Making sure a man is ready to grow
• 36:34 - Action steps

Links:

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Bruce was one of THE pivotal factors in helping me marry my wife before she slammed the door shut on me. Hear that story in this episode and why it’s so common for couples to struggle. Bruce offers a powerful frame for relationship and intimacy and makes the distinction between the developmental work we need to do, and the possibility that we are “already free” in relationship. Check it.

Timestamps:

• 4:29 - Jayson's history with Bruce
• 7:22 - Dealing with contradictions in relationships
• 15:11 - The value of separateness
• 23:04 - The practice of personal responsibility
• 27:26 - Bruce shares about his marriage
• 32:37 - How Bruce became a therapist
• 38:42 - What is a successful relationship?
• 43:19 - The impact of parenting on Bruce
• 47:13 - Sexual intimacy in a long-term relationship
• 55:43 - Personal responsibility
• 1:01:19 - Bruce's book, Already Free

Links:

• Bruce Tift's Website
• 10 Agreements of an Indestructible Marriage
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What’s wrong with wanting a healthy relationship? Jayson and Ellen are here to break it down. "Healthy" is a poorly defined concept, which can create nebulous expectations that are impossible to live up to. If you’ve written yourself off because you believe you’re incapable of having healthy relationships, it’s time to level up and start focusing on how you can foster growth-oriented relationships going forward. Tune in to learn how you can set realistic expectations and define the relationship experience that you want. It’s time to plan for reality and aspire for greatness.

Timestamps:

• 4:57 - Defining what “healthy” means
• 7:09 - Deciding on the relationship experience you want
• 8:41 - Creating realistic expectations
• 11:14 - Plan for reality, aspire for greatness
• 15:00 - Don’t write yourself off
• 16:49 - Growth oriented relationships
• 19:17 - Action steps

Links:

• U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850
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Ellen joins Jayson to discuss menopause and its impact on relationships. What is menopause? Do women in non-western cultures experience menopause differently than women in western cultures? What happens to women’s hormones during menopause? What about hormone replacement therapy? Tune in to hear Jayson and Ellen share their personal experiences surrounding menopause and learn how you can nurture your relationships through the menopausal journey.

Timestamps:

• 3:34 - What is menopause?
• 7:02 - How does menopause impact relationships?
• 13:53 - How does culture impact the experience of menopause?
• 16:50 - Why are resources for menopause scarce?
• 19:01 - What happens to women’s hormones during menopause?
• 21:54 - Jayson’s perspective
• 30:40 - Keeping your partner in mind
• 37:24 - Resource recommendation
• 41:51 - HRT

Links:

• Enroll in Relationship Mastery
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Jayson and Ellen share valuable insights about nurturing antifragile confidence in sensitive children and offer practical tips for creating a supportive environment that encourages resilience and emotional well-being. Gain a deeper understanding of what defines a sensitive child. Discover practical strategies and compassionate approaches for navigating moments when your sensitive child is hesitant or resistant, and learn how to find the balance between challenging your child and respecting their emotions.

Whether you're a parent, caregiver, or simply interested in understanding the dynamics of parenting sensitive children, this episode offers a wealth of wisdom. Tune in for a discussion that will empower you to embrace and celebrate the uniqueness of your sensitive child while fostering a foundation of strength and confidence.

Timestamps:

• 5:54 - What is a sensitive kid like?
• 9:29 - Overprotective parenting
• 14:20 - Are you asking too much of your child?
• 19:40 - Helping your child build antifragile confidence
• 23:09 - Validating your child's feelings
• 32:07 - Action steps

Links:

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In this episode, Jayson is joined by best-selling author and functional medicine practice success coach Sachin Patel. Do you or your partner struggle with snoring? Is it a constant challenge for you to get enough sleep? Sachin offers some basic steps that you can take to begin turning your health around. These range from simple changes you can make today, such as adjusting ambient home lighting, to incorporating effective breathing techniques. If you’re interested in taking control of your health, you won’t want to miss this fascinating conversation.

Timestamps:

• 6:23 - Who is Sachin Patel?
• 8:11 - Sachin's wellness journey
• 17:44 - Why don't people do what's good for them?
• 28:16 - Why is nose breathing so important?
• 33:20 - Snoring
• 43:07 - Basic steps to change your health
• 48:42 - Advice for young people
• 52:59 - Action step

Links:

• Connect with Sachin Patel
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Everyone wants to be in a securely attached relationship, but what does secure attachment really look like? In this episode, Jayson and Ellen talk about secure attachment and address some common misconceptions. How can you know the difference between infatuation and secure attachment? How long does it take to develop secure attachment in a romantic relationship? How do securely attached relationships differ between different couples? Tune in to learn how you can create and maintain long-lasting and meaningful partnerships.

Timestamps:

• 2:00 - Secure attachment vs. infatuation
• 5:21 - How long does it take to know if you’re securely attached?
• 8:59 - Working through the challenge stage
• 11:26 - Misconceptions about secure attachment
• 20:25 - Make sure you both want the same type of relationship
• 23:02 - Action steps

Links:

• Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50"
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Jerry Colonna joins Jayson to discuss leadership and the longing to belong. How can parents help get their kids to adulthood? Why is it important for leaders to do the inner work? How can self-awareness help you access your empathy? How can you be more effective as a coach and a leader? Whether you’re a parent, a coach or a leader in some other capacity, there’s plenty to learn from Jerry’s story and his insights.

Timestamps:

• 8:19 - Why is it important for a leader to do the inner work?
• 12:11 - Accessing empathy through self-awareness
• 15:52 - How parents can help kids get to adulthood
• 19:23 - Being effective as a coach
• 27:54 - Where's the power?
• 30:27 - Depression in middle-aged men
• 33:09 - The seductive nature of doing
• 36:43 - Belonging
• 40:09 - The family dynamic
• 42:21 - Feeling alone in a crowd
• 45:16 - Nurturing true belonging
• 52:20 - How many corporations are doing the work?
• 57:16 - Taking a relational position as a leader
• 59:28 - How important are partners?
• 1:01:00 - Psychoanalysis
• 1:06:50 - Leaders need therapy too
• 1:13:27 - Jerry's advice for highschool kids
• 1:15:47 - Action step

Links:

• Jerry Colonna - Reunion (reboot.io)
• FREE Webinar: How To Resolve Conflict & Create Powerful Relationships
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Jayson explores the seven revealing signs of spiritual narcissism and the journey to authentic transformation. Join Jayson for insights into recognizing these behaviors in spiritual narcissists, from lingo mastery to their struggle with attachment work. Learn how to distinguish genuine growth and see when a spiritual seeker becomes an empowered, empathetic individual.

Timestamps:

• 3:57 - Seven signs of the spiritual narcissist
• 4:42 - Talking the talk without walking the walk
• 5:54 - Unsuccessful long-term relationships
• 6:37 - Recreating the family of origin
• 7:25 - A lack of empathy
• 8:05 - Fear of attachment
• 9:19 - Refusing to do the work
• 10:47 - How do you know if they’re changing?

Links:

• 7 Signs of the Spiritual Narcissist and How to Know if They are Truly Healing
• 2 Types Of Narcissism & How To Avoid Them - Dr. Stan Tatkin
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If you’re in the personal development space, chances are you’ve heard the term 'doing the work' thrown around often, but what does it really mean? Is there a right way to do the work? How can you gauge whether your personal development work is really having an impact? Jayson and Ellen share their insights about what it means to 'do the work' and touch on topics from intimate relationships and family to psychedelics and yoga along the way.

Timestamps:

• 5:14 - What does "doing the work" look like?
• 8:17 - The litmus test for personal growth
• 10:15 - Why intimate partnership is so important for personal development
• 16:25 - Holding more complexity
• 21:12 - Doing the work should have results 
• 23:45 - The role of relational context

Links:

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Jayson sits down with author, philosopher and CEO, Brian Johnson, to talk about how you can reach your heroic potential. Brian shares Seven Objectives that you can implement today to supercharge your personal growth journey. Learn how to forge antifragile confidence, optimize your big three and dominate the fundamentals. If you want to master yourself and activate your superpower, this episode is a must listen.

Timestamps:

• 4:35 - Who is Brian Johnson?
• 12:04 - Seven objectives
• 13:55 - Antifragile confidence
• 23:23 - Sidestepping lizards vs slaying dragons
• 27:03 - Dominating the fundamentals
• 32:00 - The victim inside
• 35:20 - Knowing the ultimate game
• 44:11 - Optimizing your big three
• 48:52 - Tips for learning and reflection
• 52:45 - Ambition
• 58:52 - Brian's advice for young people
• 1:04:57 - Action step

Links:

• https://www.heroic.us/
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Do you feel like you need to pick yourself back up? Jayson has a few words of encouragement for you today. All of us have an inner warrior that has gotten us through life’s trials until this point and Jayson offers two great tips for how to connect with that warrior part inside ourselves. He also shares a hack that can help you when life feels like it’s too hard. Tune in to learn how embracing hardship and getting out of your victimhood can help you meet life’s challenges.

Timestamps:

• 3:20 - Warriorship
• 9:05 - How do you meet challenges?
• 11:18 - Embrace hardship
• 15:31 - Your life is yours to deal with

Links:

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Lisa Dion joins Jayson to talk boundaries. Boundaries are one of the most important tools in intimate relationships. How much you struggle to say no can say a lot about how much you value yourself. You must have boundaries if you want to go the distance in a relationship.

Timestamps:

• The huge breakthrough insight about boundaries that Lisa shared with Jayson [6:38]
• The four things our brain is always scanning for to determine if there is a threat or challenge [8:34]
• What is Lisa’s definition of a boundary? [14:30]
• Jayson and Lisa demonstrate how to set a boundary [17:43]
• The big fear we all carry in ourselves [23:15]
• The weakness many of us have when receiving a boundary request [23:12]
• What are the most common feedback signs our body gives us? [27:00]
• The three types of boundaries [32:06]
• Jayson issues a boundary challenge [45:08]

Links:

• http://lisa-dion.com
• http://synergeticplaytherapy.com
• Enroll in Relationship Mastery
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Jayson and Ellen talk entrepreneurship. What inspired Jayson to create The Relationship School? What is it like to be in a relationship with an entrepreneur? What drives entrepreneurs? Can you be addicted to stress? Are you afraid that you’ll lose your motivation if you do the inner work and deal with your issues? Listen to discover how both your relationships and your business can benefit when you stop letting stress and inadequacy drive you.

Timestamps:

• 2:59 - What is an entrepreneur?
• 4:48 - Why do people want to coach entrepreneurs?
• 8:05 - How do entrepreneurs fuel their work?
• 19:49 - What does it look like to run a business in an integrated way?
• 24:11 - Can you get addicted to stress?
• 29:48 - Applying a growth mindset to every area in your life
• 31:24 - Advice for partners of entrepreneurs
• 36:09 - How being preoccupied causes issues in the family system
• 41:48 - Being proactive

Links:

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