Tell Me About Your Kids

When you find yourself nagging, what do you look for, and what are next steps? After unforeseen circumstances that literally took Rachel away from her then 8-year-old daughter, not to mention the effects of Covid over the last two years, Rachel needs to take those steps to reconnect with her “feisty” strong-willed 10 y.o. We discover that an allowance will help as well as setting appropriate boundaries, so Rachel no longer depends on her daughter responding the way she expects her to. 

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Bonnie and Adam riff a bit introducing the coming season which will start with the Sept. 8th episode. They share how completely different their respective summers were—one with a baby and one with an angry camper.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

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All parents are stressed and most kids are too. How do you help your kids navigate their stress. And how do you navigate yours? It helps to be aware of the mindset in which you perceive stress. Then change your mindset and change your experience. 

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

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Wish you had that blow-up to do over again? Well, actually you do. All you need to repair a regrettable situation is your willingness to admit making a mistake (even if your child made a worse one) and taking some time to think about what you would have done instead had you had your thinking brain online. Bonnie goes over the Do-Over with dialogue to help you understand how easy the process is. Your child will appreciate it and likely make amends as well.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

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When your button has been pushed, nothing can rescue you in the heat of the moment. You feel out of control and say and do things you wish you hadn’t. In this Tip episode Bonnie explains what it is that happens to you in that moment and how to put 6 easy steps into practice to change your reactions—and be the parent you always hope to be.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

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Your child always wants to do the right thing and please you. So, how come he does the opposite and makes you see red? When he screams obscenities, throws a block at you or his sister, or hits in anger, that means there is an obstacle in his way of doing it right. Your job is to figure out what the obstacle is. When you can see this, it will change your perspective of your child and his behavior. In this Tip, Bonnie walks you through the first and most important principle of Connective Parenting.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

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Do you struggle when your parenting partner—or family members—respond/react to your children in ways that drive you nuts? Do you wish you could change how your partner talks or yells at your kids (even when you do the same) and worry your children are being traumatized? When it comes down to it, most of us want the other parent to do what we do. Listen in to Bonnie and Adam as they discuss this almost universal issue. Discover that being on the same page is not necessarily the best thing for your kids. But being in the same book is.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Laura gets her buttons pushed by her three children when they behave in ways she would never have dared. When her children resist or even complain, she feels disrespected and unappreciated. Then anger and threats rise to the surface and her childhood beliefs take over her parenting. Laura has already learned a lot and changed a good deal of her parenting, but she keeps getting stuck when she believes the voices in her head that developed long ago. Listen in and learn what she can do to quell those voices.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

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Jackie has teenage sons, one of who is home from college and who seems to have shut her out and disconnected from the family. Several episodes throughout his life may have led to his distrust in an otherwise very connected family. As Jackie says, she wants to have a voice in his life. Join us while we unravel possible reasons for the disconnect, rebuild trust, offer ways to let go of active parenting, and reestablish connection with her son.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

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If your child is highly emotional or sensitive, aggressive, a picky eater, reactive to loud noises, very physical, has a hard time sleeping, etc. an occupational therapist can prescribe an individualized “sensory diet”. From infancy thru high school, your child is giving you behavioral cues. Occupational therapy can be a wonderful adjunct to help you find “attunement” and with those cues to help your child. Join Bonnie and Chelsey Harrington as they discuss how occupational therapy can provide the help you didn’t know you needed.

Chelsey Harrington is a pediatric occupational therapy assistant. She is a holistic family health coach. 

You can reach her here:

Instagram @chelseyharringtoncoaching

Email: chelseyverser@yahoo.com

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

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I am pleased and honored to have my two adult children on the show talking about life growing up in a connected family, what it’s like for each of them as both parents and partners, and their hopes and fears going forward in this unpredictable world. Hang in till the end to hear some powerful social media advice from a high school teenager.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

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You don’t hear me! is the emotional cry underneath the explosions and irrational pleadings of 8 ½ yr. old Jude. His parents have come a long way in being patient, but they get stuck and threaten punishment when he refuses to do what he has to do. They fear he will push others away with his demands, will always have to be right, and will have no friends. Renee and Gary have recorded episodes of Jude’s raging that are included. When we discuss how to respond to the need under his screaming, Renee and Gary fear they will have to give in to what he wants. Learn how to be as considerate of your child’s wishes, no matter how irrational, as you hope him to be of you and others.

To learn more about Integrity Kids, check out https://bonnieharris.com/9-signs-your-defiant-kid-is-actually-an-integrity-child/ on Bonnie's website

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

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Jean has a difficult parenting job given her three children’s special needs. As much as she prepared herself during her pregnancies to be the best for them, life threw curve balls. Having three high needs children which means she is a high needs parent with no off switch. Being addicted to doing more and better leaves Jean always with unfinished business. Listen in to hear how getting back to basics can be just what her children need most.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

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Parents who use punishment methods attempting to control children’s behavior find themselves fighting within themselves to do the right thing. When one has been brought up on the reward and punishment system, it requires a major mindset shift to take focus off behavior and put it on emotional connection. Julie must travel through the stage of feeling like a neglectful parent to see the benefits of her children first and foremost feeling good about themselves to then behave better. Listen in while she connects the dots and comes out with the perspective she needs to truly help her children feel good enough from the start.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

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How many more children will it take? Bonnie and Adam tackle the horrific and latest school shooting resulting in the loss of many, many children and teachers. How can we better value our children as a culture, from the dilemma of gun control to the pain and fear all of you parents are experiencing right now? The ripple effects of this issue take us around the bend and back again.  

https://www.everytown.org/
to learn more about how you can help stop gun violence.

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With three children five and under, Yanina finds mornings harried, loud, and frustrating. From fielding sibling fights, to getting breakfast in them, shoes on their feet and everyone out the door, Yanina is short on understanding and time. But consideration for what they want doesn’t take extra time, it takes a different mindset. Listen in to hear some tips Bonnie shares for making mornings a bit easier. With small children, mornings will not be smooth and calm, but Yanina’s shifted attention becomes an investment in the day when smooth, calm mornings are more the rule than the exception.

 See also Episode #60 – The Two Hour Nagging Train Out the Door

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

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Anna has been trying to get her 7 year old to accept her safety and screentime limits she believes are absolutely appropriate and understood. So when Maddie continually ignores them, Anna sees a defiant child who is not listening—a button-pusher. Bonnie helps Anna see that the reason a limit is not followed is not because her daughter is belligerent or dismissive. It’s because the limits are not logical to Maddie, her Integrity child. If time and time again a limit is disregarded, it’s time to question the limit not the child.

Articles:

9 Signs Your Defiant Kid is Actually an Integrity Child - https://bonnieharris.com/9-signs-your-defiant-kid-is-actually-an-integrity-child/

6 Warning Signs You Need to Empower Your Harmony Child - https://bonnieharris.com/6-warning-signs-you-need-to-empower-your-harmony-child/

 
Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

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Bonnie and Adam discuss what makes a bully and a bully’s target. Temperament does not but certain combinations of temperament together under an autocratic parenting style means that bullies are made at home. It’s all about power and insecurity. Listen in to hear Bonnie’s take on the remedy we need to resolve bullying—as well as raising kids with connective parenting.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

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Jade and Richard are concerned about their 16 yo daughter who is convinced that she can let go of her grades in certain subjects because she’s decided on an art-focused career, she doesn’t need to worry about her grades in courses she will never use. And she might not even need to go to college at all. When her parents try to convince her otherwise, Beatrice digs in her heels. Listen in to hear her arguments and learn what Beatrice really does need from her parents.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: bh@bonnieharris.com

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

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