The Charley Law Podcast

Making change doesn’t have to be sudden, abrupt or even reactive – instead it can be slow as we evolve through the passage of time.

Esteban beautifully articulates how the influences of his bohemian parents helped him navigate the ups and downs of life.

What makes this episode so special is witnessing someone that has learned, from such a young age, to embrace the likes of mindfulness, gratitude, meditation, the importance of being present and prioritising one’s happiness, as a lifestyle and attitude, as opposed to a more prescribed practice.

By being so open about how he thinks, his mindset, and approach to his new brand and life chapter – Esteban gives a special insight into how to seize new opportunity with grace and authenticity. So many great takeaways here. Thank you Esteban.



Resources:

Esteban Cortázar
Instagram

Time Stamps:
02:05 - Intro
08:48 - Family and growing up
19:46 - Brand and the industry
36:44 - Downside of freedom
45:09 - Deeper sense of self
50:24 - Turning 40
57:38 - Starting again

The man behind the infamous Fyre Festival Billy McFarland is back!

I wanted to know what has gone down behind closed doors. Has he really changed?

Can we really trust him? What are his plans now?

Billy really opens up about life in prison, what it took for him to really start make change, and the importance of letting go.

Unexpectedly, this intimate conversation provided a lot of insight into how to re-build after a major life crisis.

Billy speaks about how he is looking to bounce back, rebuild trust, follow his passion and re-pay $26million.

Contact us:        info@thecharleylawpodcast.com
For more information about Phoenix Mind visit:        https://www.charleylaw.com/

Resources:

Billy McFarland
Instagram
Threads
Fyre Festival 2

Shantaram - Gregory David Roberts

Time Stamps:

01:05 - Intro
04:11 - Months before reality hit
10:30 - Going to jail
21:12 - Reflecting on Fyre Festival 
26:22 - Phoenix Mind
28:12 - Plan for after prison
38:30 - The aftermath
49:06 - Fyre Festival 2

Life Coach Poppy Cross, “cross” examines Charley about how he actually changed his ways of being avoidant, idealistic, and afraid of commitment to being able to find true love, happiness and a healthy relationship.


Poppy Cross:
Instagram
Twitter
poppycross.co.uk/

Resources:
Attached - Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
Getting the Love you Want - Harville and Hendrix

“Come back once you’ve climbed Mount Everest and rowed the Atlantic!”

Our first ever guest Oliver Browne returns to the pod with his Hollywood coach Paul Lubicz to tell us about how they’re combining the magic of being in the mountains with coaching, to create the ultimate personal development experience.

Paul and Oliver provide so much first-hand experience and practical wisdom around transformation and how these experiences can really help empower people to better themselves and help find answers they might be searching for. Enjoy!

Resources:

Oliver Browne
Instagram

Paul Lubicz
Paul@thewellbeingmanager.com
http://www.thewellbeingmanager.com
Instagram

True Summit Adventures
Oliver@truesummitadventures.com
http://www.truesummitadventures.com
Instagram
15% off 2023 and Q1/2 2024 trips with discount code: charleylaw15

Kinesiology
Ayurvedic Medicine
Qigong
Tuina Massage

https://optimal-healthgroup.com/
Our Clinics are in London W8 and near Winchester, Hampshire SO21 3QX 

T: 0330 2236553

Homeopathy           
Dr Jan de Winter         


Time Stamps:

00:00 - Intro
06:00 - Lisa's story
10:50 - Naturopathic medicine
23:00 - Types of Treatment
36:00 - Emotional Stress
41:00 - Does it Work?
53:30 - Interest in Naturopathy 
58:50 - What's next?

A refreshing, no BS, back to basics, chat about health and fitness with PT and gym owner Adam Lubbock. 

His motto: “I’d rather rub you up the wrong way with truth, than butter you up with bullshit,” feels like a saving grace amongst the barrage of dubious quick fixes and cute marketing ploys. 

This is a fun and fast episode where we cover:

The real reason we can’t lay off the booze. 

The real reason we’re not in the gym enough or eating the right stuff enough.

And why Adam’s autistic brother Ali is really his secret superpower.


Resources:

Adam
Instagram
ADVHQ
Music for Autism

David Goggins
Jocko Willink

Sabrina is a leading human potential coach and in this truly 360 coaching conversation she reveals the real reason why there has never been so much demand for coaching.

In this episode we cover:

- How Sabrina became one of the countries top coaches in less than four years.

- Why does anyone actually need a coach?

- How to find a top coach and what to look out for.

- The benefits of business coaching.

- Becoming a coach.

- Finding your purpose.


Sabrina Percy
Instagram
LinkedIn
Centien

Resources:
Dr Tara Swart
Carl Rogers
Kurt Lewin 

The Life Coaching Directory
Association for Coaching
International Coaching Federation
European Mentoring and Coaching Council

Neuroscience
Coaching
Humanistic Psychology
Maslow’s hierarchy of Needs 
Gestalt Chair Therapy

James A King - Accelerating Excellence

In this episode my wife Nicole interviews me and I open up about my own story about making change. Why I really started the podcast? What happened?

How I lost everything (including my mojo) and how I eventually rediscovered Charley 2.0 - light, happy, confident and clear.


Resources:

Summit Series
Tony Robbins
Landmark

Ben and I get into all things habits on this “Time Out” episode. From all my research on habits there are six big ideas that I have found to be most important when trying to form new habits. Here they are:

1. Understanding the habit loop
2. The science of willpower
3. It’s all about the process
4. Identity matters
5. Change your environment, change your life
6. A clear and definite purpose

Podcast:        https://linktr.ee/charleylaw
Contact us:        info@thecharleylawpodcast.com 


Resources:
Atomic Habits - James Clear:         https://tinyurl.com/4ss5wdyx
The Power of Habit - Charles Duhigg:         https://tinyurl.com/mwcxzccc 
Find Your Why? - Simon Sinek:         https://tinyurl.com/4vk8bhdn
Willpower - Roy Baumeister:         https://tinyurl.com/zern7tj9
The Magic of Thinking Big - David Schwartz:         https://tinyurl.com/yc7abnm3
Tools for Titans - Tim Ferris:         https://tinyurl.com/2z9ywjc4

Desmond Tutu:        https://vi.wikipedia.org/wiki/Desmond_Tutu


Time Stamps:
00:00 - Intro
03:00 - What's going to work for you
06:55 - Accumulating habits
15:14 - Meta habits
16:09 - The science of willpower
19:10 - Understanding the habit loop
23:00 - It’s all about the process
26:59 - Identity matters
30:00 - Change your environment, change your life
33:04 - A clear and definite purpose
40:12 - Habit stacking
43:22 - Recent habits
48:50 - Brining your habit cues with you

Brilliantly brave, brilliantly British, Lady Violet Manners reveals how through a process of self-awareness, she managed to shake off her crippling anxiety and shift towards a clearer, calmer and more content version of herself. By tapping into her subconscious and developing a better understanding of her essence, Violet explains how she has become less reactive and more deliberate in life, how she has been able to reclaim her power, and how these small, subtle, internal shifts can have such a meaningful effect on one’s day to day life experience.

 On trend and on topic, Violets curiosity for more answers and more growth have led to a treasure chest of useful thought leaders, podcasts, books and courses to help anyone on their own quest to live a better life!

Resources:
Lady Violet Manners
https://www.lvmcreative.com
Instagram

The Meadows
Pia Mellody
EMDR Therapy
Psychotherapy (talk therapy)
The Hoffman Institute

Saturn Returns: Your Cosmic Coming of Age - Caggie Dunlop 
Solve for Happy: Engineer Your Path to Joy- Mo Gawdat
Science and Spiritual Practices -  Rupert Sheldrake
The Dance Cure - Dr Peter Lovatt
The Holistic Psychologist - Dr Nicole LePera

Diary of a CEO with Dr Amen
Slo Mo: A Podcast with Mo Gawdat
Eckhart Tolle: Essential Teachings
Happy Place - Fearne Cotton
To Be Magnetic - Lacy Phillips

Roxie Nafousi
Deepak Chopra
Zach Bush
Melissa Wood-Tepperberg
Sam.Moooves
Bear Grylls

Time Stamps:
00:00 - Intro
03:12 - Catalyst for change
06:34 - Misalignment 
11:43 - Permission to heal
19:00 - Why inner child work
24:56 - Expectations and unlearning 
31:31 - Setting up for success
37:04 - The 'New Violet'
42:27 - Advise to others
50:00 - The power of dance
52:07 - Has the work helped? 
56:15 - Importance of heritage
1:03:49 - Clarity and alignment

England/Saracens rugby star Ben Earl and his head of psychological performance at Saracens, Calum Clark, sit down with me to talk about how their work together over the years has been a gamechanger for Ben’s performance on the pitch as well as his approach to life off the pitch.

This is a rare insight and privilege to witness both player and coach explain how the likes of psychology, self-development, self-awareness and mindset are being used in elite sport to enhance individual player and team performance.

The lessons, tips, tricks and insights from this conversation are priceless and very much transferable to everyday life. Hearing first hand precisely how Calum was able to develop Ben into the player he is today and his wider approach to the elite culture at Saracens is a telling endorsement for why self-development work can be so valuable.

Resources:

Calum Clark
Instagram
Aichill Medical 
Innate
Innate IG

Ben Earl
Instagram

Saracens
The Chimp Paradox - Steve Peters

Eddie Jones
Steve Borthwick
Dennis Rodman
Johnny Wilkinson
Bill Russell
Rick Charlesworth

Time Stamps:

00:00 - Intro 
3:24 - Calum and psychology 
8:36 - Ben's backstory
11:43 - Influence off the pitch
13:46 - When did the mentoring start?
16:23 - Nuts and bolts of the sessions
22:03 - How much were you guiding Ben?
28:48 - Getting dropped from England
29:56 - Guiding emotion
32:20 - Working with stubbornness  
34:19 - Dealing with selection
38:10 - Individual and the team
42:10 - Psychology within the clubs
49:17  - Communicating criticism
1:00:49 - How to improve
1:04:15 - Individual plan structure
1:07:06 - Positive psychology
1:17:02 - Welcoming the challenge
1:21:20 - Beginning to unlock your potential
1:26:07 - What's next for Ben
1:30:24 - Emotional intelligence 

This is a 360 degree energizing conversation, covering an array of subjects from British Special Forces selection, a hostage rescue, the sudden death of Joe’s father, pushing his body to the extremes, feeling empty, searching for answers, navigating different civilian careers, finding happiness and founding his unique military inspired coaching platform called Halen Strength. Joe is the epitome of a modern day man wanting to better himself and strive towards a life of purpose and meaning. He’s full of real life experiences and wisdom to live a better life.

Resources:
Harley Street
David Goggins
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff - Richard Carlson

Joseph Bates:
Instagram
Halen Strength

Time Stamps:
00:00 - Intro 
1:40 - Joseph Bates 
2:48 - Fathers illness
4:01 - Fathers death
5:58 - Becoming a soldier 
7:53 - Training 
10:22 - SF training 
16:00 - Hostage rescue 
17:37 - Leaving the forces
21:38 - Losing his spark 
22:52 - Mental health 
26:24 - Moving overseas
29:00 - Moving towards mental health. 
35:52 - Male suicide 
38:48 - Halen Strength
49:50 - Who needs Halen? 
52:12 - Macro changes 
55:10 - Micro changes
1:01:01 - Who are Halen pros 
1:03:07 - Impact of fathers death 
1:07:04 - Impact on family 
1:08:50 - What comes next? 
1:12:07 - How to be involved with Halen 
1:15:13 - Tips and tricks

Published author and Nutritionist Jennifer Medhurst AKA “The Imperfect Nutritionist” tells us about her journey from corporate life and chronic fatigue, to becoming a vibrant authority on nutrition and healthy eating.  Jen talks us through her new book: 7 Principles of Healthy Eating, so if you’re looking for an easy, fun, one-stop-shop guide to sustainable gut health, diet, and healthy eating habits, or just need some clear evidence based advice, then this is the episode for you!

Resources:
Optimum Health Clinic - Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
Helmsley and Helmsley
Nick Hopper - Photography

Jennifer Medhurst:
Instagram
Tiktok
Newsletter on Substack

Book:
The Imperfect Nutritionist: 7 Principles of Healthy Eating - Amazon.com
The Imperfect Nutritionist: 7 Principles of Healthy Eating - Waterstones.co.uk

We discuss ‘Life Coaching’, what’s real, what’s not and how making change needs to be a truly holistic approach.

Resources:

Tony Robbins
Sabrina Percy Coaching
Steven Bartlett
Jocko Podcast

A lively conversation with self-proclaimed no BS approach life coach to the elite.
We discuss how therapy and coaching are different. How to know which you might need.
What people use coaching for, the different types of coaching, dating tips for men, and much more.

Resources:

Tony Robbins
Landmark
Jim Rohn
GQ Magazine: Meet the countries 'highest paid personal coach'
The Secret - Rhonda Byrne
The Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle
Principles - Ray Dalio
How to get Rich (Without Getting Lucky) - Naval Ravikant
Tweetstorm of Naval Ravikant - Soumya Ranjan
The Almanack of Naval Ravikant - Eric Jorgenson, Tim Ferris
The Way of the Superior Man - David Deida
Ego is the Enemy - Ryan Holiday

Michael Serwa:
michaelserwa.com
From Good to Amazing 

When I interview guests I really try to make it all about them and their story about change. These ‘Time Out’ episodes are an opportunity for me to share my own opinions and insights. All Ben’s questions are time stamped in the show notes below. Enjoy!

Time stamps:

Why have a hypnotherapist as a guest? [03:04]

Is it possible to influence our subconscious?  [05:43]

Have you used ‘anchoring’ techniques? [11:43]

How can we understand our true self and identity better? [16:09]

Why did you think you needed to see a therapist? [23:14]

How does therapy help you make positive changes in your life? [25:05]

How do you know if you’re getting the wrong advice from a therapist? [26:23]

Has your opinion on therapy changed after having listened to the last 3 guests? [29:55]

What similarities did Oli and Clare have in dealing with grief? [32:16]

How do we overcome our lowest points? [33:35] 

What are your thoughts on parenting? [35:10]

Do you have any experience of Eckhart Tolle’s work? [36:55] 

Do self help books actually help? [44:44] 

Resources:

Eckhart Tolle
Tony Robbins
James's Place
Allán Laville
Olivia Donoso
Esmond Baring
Oliver Browne

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Psychoanalysis
Hypnotherapy
Gestalt Therapy
Schema Therapy
Psychodynamic Therapy

Former Social Editor for Tatler magazine and co-founder of James’ Place charity, Clare shares the devastating story of losing her eldest son James to suicide, what could have been done differently and how her suicide prevention charity is now helping thousands of men across the UK. Clare also shares valuable insight into how she was able to move forward and eventually find happiness, meaning and purpose again. This is an exceptionally moving interview.

Resources:

James's Place

Clare Milford Haven:
The Magic Sandcastle

Man's Search for Meaning - Viktor Frankl
Grace Disguised - Jerry Sittser

Eckhart Tolle

Quotes:
Rabbi Baal Shem Tov wrote:
“Let me fall, if I must. The person I will become will catch me.”

Associate professor of Clinical Psychology and Dean of Diversity and Inclusion at Reading University – Allan gets personal about how he overcame his own struggles; coming out, perfectionism, and depression. We get a full breakdown of the often confusing world of therapy, and Allan walks us through how anyone can get started. This episode is packed with grace, honesty and a load of useful resources.

Resources:

University of Reading
British Association of Behavioral and Cognitive Psychotherapies (BABCP)
Health and Care Professionals Council
NHS Services
Mind

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Compassion Focused Therapy
Psychoanalysis
Hypnotherapy
Schema Therapy
Transactional Therapy

The Magic - Rhonda Byrne
Overcoming Perfectionism - Roz Shafran, Sarah Egan, Tracey Wade

Fight Club - Chuck Palahniuk
Queer Eye - Netflix
Never Enough - (Greatest Showman) - Loren Allred
Proud - Heather Small

Allán Laville

Olivia is a fashion model and qualified Hypnotherapist & NLP practitioner. This conversation is jam packed with insight into how different forms of therapy have helped Olivia solve real life challenges; from the death of her father at 12 years old, to public speaking, to growing up in London and dealing with everyday issues we can all relate to.

Find out how dedication to self-development really has helped Olivia become a much better version of herself. Check out the rich list of useful resources below.

Resources:

The Power of Now  - Eckhart Tolle
The Bridge  - Donna Lancaster
21 Days of Inspiration  - Deepak Chopra
The Alchemist  - Paulo Coelho
Atomic Habits  - James Clear
Untethered Soul  - Michael Singer

Lisa Butcher - Holistic Therapist
The Quest Institute  - Trevor Silvester
Tony Robbins
BrainTap  - Patrick Porter
Harley Therapy -Booking Platform For Counselling
21 days of Abundance  - Deepak Chopra
Bruce Lipton - Epigeneticist and Author of The Biology of Belief

Hypnotherapy
EMDR  (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing)
EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques)


Olivia Donoso
Instagram
oliviadonoso.co.uk

Producer Ben Spring, questions Charley about the uncanny similarities between the first three guests and they dive deeper into the real mission behind the podcast.