The Divorce Course Podcast

During your divorce effective communication is key.  But what happens when you get sent big long ranting letters that take negotiations in circles instead of to settlement. In this episode you will gain valuable guidance on managing legal correspondence with your ex-partner or their representation. Learn the art of decoding divorce legal letters with their seven-step approach.

🛤️ Navigating the Rocky Terrain:

Discover the significance of detaching emotional reactions from effective communication in legal proceedings. Our experts share insights on maintaining composure and focus amidst the challenges of divorce.

🌪️ The Back Blocks of Legal Gaslighting:

Delve into the world of legal gaslighting and understand the tactics involved. Uncover the subtle manipulations often present in legal correspondence and learn how to identify and respond to them strategically.

💪 Coping Mechanisms and Tactical Responses:

Explore coping mechanisms that empower you to respond strategically to frequent and voluminous legal correspondences. Gain insights into maintaining control over the narrative and protecting your interests.

☕ Sit Back, Relax, and Decode:

Pour yourself a cuppa, sit back, and relax as our experts guide you through the intricacies of divorce legal letters. Find solace in understanding the process and arming yourself with knowledge to face the challenges ahead.

For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

Decoding Legal Letters: A Methodical Approach

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Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family courts views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it is not liable for the outcome of your case.

Useful Resources:

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

In this empowering episode, a legal negotiation expert shares valuable insights on navigating the challenging terrain of divorcing a narcissist. With a focus on strategy, leverage, anticipation, and personal empowerment, Laura & Lyn provide a roadmap for you to not only survive but thrive in the face of a narcissistic ex-spouse.

For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

For more support go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

🔍 Key Takeaways:

• Strategy is Key: Learn the importance of having a well-thought-out game plan when divorcing a narcissist. Discover how strategic thinking can be a game-changer in negotiations and legal proceedings.

• Understanding Leverage: Uncover the power of leverage in dealing with a narcissistic ex. Explore how to identify and use your strengths to achieve better outcomes while protecting your interests.

• Anticipation as a Superpower: Delve into the art of anticipating a narcissist's behaviour. Understand how walking on eggshells during the relationship can transform into a superpower, allowing you to stay two steps ahead.

• Focus on "You": Explore the significance of personal empowerment and mindset in the divorce process. Learn how focusing on yourself can keep you on the offensive, setting the stage for a positive outcome.

• SLAY Framework: Introduce the SLAY framework (Strategy, Leverage, Anticipate, and You) as a practical guide for negotiating with narcissists. Discover how these principles can be applied in real-life situations.

• Self-Care Matters: Emphasise the importance of self-care amidst the chaos of divorce. Learn simple yet effective ways to prioritise your well-being during challenging times.

• Keeping the High Road: Understand the power of taking the high road during divorce proceedings. Discover how maintaining your integrity and dignity can be a powerful tool in the long run.

• Your Comeuppance: Discuss the idea that the narcissist's comeuppance is not your responsibility. Learn to focus on your desired outcomes and personal growth rather than seeking revenge.

🌟 Why You Should Listen:

If you're navigating a divorce with a narcissistic ex-spouse or want to be prepared for any potential challenges in the future, this episode provides practical strategies, expert advice, and a supportive mindset. Tune in to empower yourself and gain insights that can make a significant difference in your divorce journey.

🔗 Connect with the Experts:

• Connect with Mia at Grey Rock Consulting

• For more information, follow the experts on Instagram: @GreyRockConsulting

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family courts views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it is not liable for the outcome of your case.

Useful Resources:

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

The Narcissist's Chess Board: Understanding THE DIVORCE “SLAY” Strategy

You don’t want to miss out on the answer to these questions

• What are the key elements of the SLAY framework?

• How does having a strategy help in divorce negotiations?

• Why is leverage crucial in dealing with a narcissist in divorce?

• Can you provide examples of leverage in different situations?

• Why is anticipating the narcissist's behaviour important?

• How can individuals leverage their knowledge of the narcissist's tendencies?

• How does anticipation play into the strategic planning process?

• Why is focusing on yourself essential in dealing with a narcissist?

• What are some practical ways to practise self-care during divorce?

• Why is it crucial to maintain integrity and take the high road during divorce?

• How does engaging in negative behaviours affect the overall outcome of your divorce?

• Why is it important for individuals not to focus on delivering the narcissist's comeuppance?

• How can one find satisfaction and closure without seeking revenge?

Living beyond the age of fifty and deciding to end a long-term marriage comes with its unique set of challenges and Laura and Lyn are here to help navigate those waters. With a blend of legal insights and personal anecdotes, this podcast serves as a beacon of support for those entering the uncharted waters of grey divorces

In this episode, the essential topics of asset division, spousal maintenance, gender roles, and future planning are explored. Gain some valuable insights into anticipating the involvement of adult children, the complexity of gifting during divorce, and tips on maintaining financial security through this challenging life transition.  

From empowering older women to stand up for their rights to discussing the nuanced considerations of future needs and ill health in property settlements, this episode provides a comprehensive guide to those facing grey divorces. 

For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

For more support go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family courts views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it is not liable for the outcome of your case.

Useful Resources:

Protecting Property and Pre-Nups Episode

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Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

You don’t want to miss out on the answer to these questions

1. What are some common challenges faced by individuals going through a grey divorce?

2. How does property division work in the context of grey divorces?

3. Are there specific considerations for pensions and spousal maintenance in grey divorces?

4. How can individuals protect their property in new relationships after a grey divorce?

5. What role do traditional roles play in creating problems in grey divorces?

6. How can reverting to traditional roles trigger separations in grey divorces?

7. Do older individuals in grey divorces often find themselves in traditional roles, and how does it impact their relationships?

8. What risks are associated with handing over finances to a new partner in a grey divorce?

9. How can older women in grey divorces overcome the inclination to follow traditional roles and fight for their rights?

10. What advice is given to older individuals with a traditional mindset to ensure they get their fair share in divorce negotiations?

11. How are future needs considered in property division for grey divorces, and what makes it different from younger couples?

12. How does ill health affect property division in grey divorces, especially when one party is significantly sick?

13. Can adult children become involved in property settlement disputes during grey divorces, and what impact does it have on the process?

14. Is it possible to give gifts to children during the property settlement process, and what are the legal considerations?

15. How can individuals make the separation process less painful and more efficient in grey divorces?

16. Why is it important not to delay bringing a property settlement application in court for older couples?

17. What unique pressures are faced by older individuals in grey divorces, and how can they navigate these challenges?

18. How can individuals rebuild their social circles and find support during and after grey divorces?

19. What suggestions are given for leading a fulfilling life after a grey divorce?

20. How can older individuals go about finding love again after a grey divorce?

Are you facing intimidation or bullying in your divorce proceedings? In this empowering episode, Laura asks her experienced family lawyer mother to share crucial insights and actionable education to help you stand up against bullying tactics at every stage of the legal process.

Key Topics:

• Dealing with legal threats: Learn effective strategies for responding to threats and intimidation.

• Documenting incidents: Discover the importance of documenting bullying incidents and threats for legal purposes.

• Responding to untrue statements: Get valuable tips on crafting effective responses to false statements and accusations.

• Role of lawyers: Understand the role of lawyers in dealing with bullying tactics and how they can support you through the process.

• Bullying at court: Gain insights into handling intimidation during court proceedings, including interactions with opposing parties and legal representatives.

• Post-court pressures: Understand how to navigate and respond to post-court pressures and tactics.

Empower Yourself with Actionable Steps:

• Learn how to strengthen your position by documenting incidents effectively.

• Gain insights into crafting responses to counter untrue statements.

• Understand the crucial role of lawyers in navigating divorce proceedings.

• Equip yourself with strategies to stand up against bullying tactics.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINTor go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au 

Helpful Questions Covered:

• How do you deal with bullies in a divorce situation?

• What happens when you give in to a bully's demands in the early stages?

• Can you appease a bully, especially in family law situations?

• How do bullies use imaginary or inflated threats during divorce?

• What are the consequences when bullies involve children in the process?

• How can a person respond to bullying tactics involving children?

• What role does documenting incidents of bullying play in court later on?

• Can writing a letter addressing bullying behavior stop such tactics?

• How do threats of going to court impact individuals trying to avoid it?

• What steps can someone take before court if faced with threats?

• Why is it important to consult with a family lawyer before making decisions?

Additional Episode Highlights:

The episode covers topics such as dealing with threats, handling bullying at court, and addressing post-court pressures. Listeners will gain valuable tips on documenting incidents, responding to untrue statements, and understanding the role of lawyers in the process. Whether facing threats from an ex-partner, dealing with a cheer squad in court, or handling pressure after proceedings, this episode equips individuals with actionable steps to navigate the challenging terrain of divorce while standing up against bullying.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family courts views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it is not liable for the outcome of your case.

For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

Useful Resources:

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

These questions cover various aspects of bullying in divorce, including different stages of the legal process and strategies for dealing with bullying behavior.

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Ready to demystify mediation and get the lowdown on five myths that might be messing with your understanding and potentially your chance to settle and stay out of court? Join us on this episode as we unravel the complexities of mediation, offering you insights that will boost your confidence and make you see things in a whole new light. Forget what you've heard, and let's kick off the myth-busting right here on "The Divorce Course Podcast."

Whether it's on your radar or just a possibility down the road, this episode is your ticket to understanding what mediation is all about. Tune in to "The Divorce Course Podcast" and let's flip the script on those mediation myths!

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family courts views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it is not liable for the outcome of your case.

For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

Useful Resources:

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Episodes mentioned:

https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasttwentytwo (Convincing the unconvincible in divorce negotiations for family law)

https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetythree (Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours.)

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

The Real Deal With Mediation: Dispelling 5 Common Misconceptions

Don't miss out on the answers to these helpful questions:

• What are common misconceptions about mediation that can hinder the process?

• How does emotional readiness play a crucial role in successful mediation?

• What factors should be considered before agreeing to mediation shortly after separation?

• Is there a relationship between child custody arrangements and property settlements in mediation?

• How can one handle outrageous statements made during divorce mediation?

• Why is it essential to focus on the big picture rather than finer details in mediation?

• What role does guilt play in influencing mediation outcomes?

• How can one protect themselves from being pressured into signing agreements during mediation?

• Is verbal agreement binding in court if not documented after mediation?

• Can mediation with a narcissist be successful, and what strategies can help

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Are you struggling with the complexities of a potential upcoming custody battle, or fearing the potential impact on your parental rights if you leave your partner? If so, this episode is perfect for you. If you’ve just broken up with your ex you may not yet be thinking about these 6 things, but you should. This episode serves as a reminder that during custody battles, past actions may be scrutinised like a "movie star" under a spotlight, and every detail could potentially be used in court. Learn some invaluable strategies to navigate the “unfit mother or bad father false narrative”, especially when dealing with a high-conflict or manipulative ex-partner. 

From the importance of positive affidavits to meticulous documentation, this podcast episode provides general education for you on presenting a child-focused approach and safeguarding your position as a parent in your child’s life. This episode serves as a helpful resource for those anticipating a custody battle or looking to reinforce their parental rights, offering practical insights to help you face the challenges head-on. 

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family courts views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it is not liable for the outcome of your case.

 For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

 Useful Resources:

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Safeguarding Against Unfair Accusations in Custody Battles

Don't miss out on the answers to these helpful questions:

• How do you counter false allegation of being a bad parent

• Do kids' playdates and best friends ever get mentioned in court orders?

• How can parents handle the struggles during custody battles?

• How important is it to maintain your child’s routine during custody disputes?

• Can accusations about neglecting a child's health impact custody cases?

• What about medication? Can that be a contentious issue in court?

• How does the court view non-compliance with medical advice and diagnosis?

• Can the court restrict visitation if a parent denies a child's diagnosis and medication?

• How does the court view contravention of children's orders?

• What role does legal compliance play in a custody case?

• How does a judge perceive a parent who consistently violated court orders?

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

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Are you facing a divorce, property settlement and custody battle with a narcissist? In this enlightening episode, we are joined by a Master High Conflict Negotiation Coach Mia Madafferi, Founder of Grey Rock Consulting to unravel the complexities of divorcing a narcissist while maintaining your sanity and control.

Explore the transformative power of mindset in the face of legal abuse and coercive control. Gain insights into anticipating narcissistic behaviour, protecting yourself during court proceedings, and effectively navigating mediation. 

Discover the crucial role of self-awareness in breaking free from negative relationship patterns post-divorce and maintaining personal well-being.

This episode sheds light on common abuse patterns exhibited by narcissists, offering practical strategies and expert advice to empower listeners throughout their divorce journey. With a powerful mantra—"They are more afraid of you than you are of them"—this conversation serves as a valuable guide for anyone grappling with the challenges of narcissistic relationships and divorce.

Tune in to learn how to slay negotiation challenges, shift your mindset, and emerge stronger on the path to reclaiming control over your life and a better outcome in your divorce proceedings. 

Disclaimer: This podcast provides general education and insights. Each individual's situation is unique, and listeners are encouraged to seek legal advice tailored to their specific circumstances. The content herein should not be relied upon as legal advice.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

Useful Resources:

Contact Mia —> https://www.greyrockconsulting.com.au/contact-us

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Questions not to miss...

1. How does mindset play a crucial role when dealing with a narcissist during divorce?

2. What are some common challenges faced by individuals divorcing narcissists or those with narcissistic traits?

3. How can a person shift their mindset to empower themselves during and after divorce from a narcissist?

4. What role does radical acceptance play in changing one's mindset when divorcing a narcissist?

5. Have you observed differences in the mediation process between individuals who have shifted their focus and those still stuck in old patterns?

6. What strategies can be employed to gradually extract oneself from the psychological control of a narcissist?

7. How does the concept of "baby steps" contribute to the process of changing mindset and establishing boundaries?

8. In what ways do narcissists escalate their behavior when they sense a loss of control, especially during divorce proceedings?

9. How can individuals protect their energy and mental well-being when they are required to interact with a narcissistic ex during divorce-related tasks?

10. What practical steps can be taken to minimize the impact of negative communication, such as setting up email rules and avoiding unnecessary text messages?

11. In the context of legal abuse, how can individuals protect themselves and maintain their power during divorce proceedings?

12. How does the legal system and court processes contribute to the challenges of dealing with a narcissist in divorce?

13. How can individuals anticipate and prepare for the tactics of a narcissist in legal proceedings?

14. Can you share insights on dealing with word salad communication, such as long and confusing messages or letters?

15. What advice do you have for handling legal abuse by a narcissist and remaining empowered during court proceedings?

16. How can individuals cope with the emotional challenges of facing legal abuse and ongoing coercive control?

17. What are some common patterns of abuse exhibited by narcissists, and how can individuals become aware of these patterns?

18. How can individuals protect themselves from falling into the same negative patterns when entering new relationships after leaving a narcissistic one?

19. In the fast-paced family court environment, what advice do you have for individuals to take the time they need and make informed decisions?

20. How can single parents, especially those who have left a narcissistic relationship, manage the overwhelming demands of parenting and legal processes simultaneously?

21. What valuable lessons have you learned from your experience in helping individuals navigate divorce and separation from narcissistic partners?

22. Can you share some final words of wisdom or key takeaways for listeners dealing with narcissists in divorce?

Wondering how your property pool will be divided in your divorce and what future considerations impact your share? 

Tune in to this enlightening episode where a distinguished family law specialist, backed by 35+ years of expertise in law, explains what the Family Law Act's Section 75 means in relation to property settlement percentages adjustments.

Gain invaluable insights into the crucial factors that can sway your property split percentage. This episode is your overview look for those going through the process at the intricate landscape of property settlement. The Family Law Act 1975 - Section 75 is the cornerstone of this discussion, unravelling the complexities and helping to provide clarity on the considerations that shape your financial future post-divorce.

Perfect for anyone navigating the nuances of property division in their divorce or defacto separation, this episode and additional podcast episodes are your go-to guide that can go hand in hand with your own lawyer to comprehend property settlement. Listen now to embark on the journey of informed decisions and financial empowerment!

Disclaimer: This podcast provides general education and insights. Each individual's situation is unique, and listeners are encouraged to seek legal advice tailored to their specific circumstances. The content herein should not be relied upon as legal advice.

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Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

Useful Resources:

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

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1. What are the future needs that should be considered in determining the percentage of the property split in divorce?

2. How does age and state of health play a role in determining future needs and affecting the property pool percentage?

3. Does the court consider mental health issues, such as post-traumatic stress disorder, in relation to future needs?

4. What factors contribute to the disparity of income, earning capacity, property, and financial resources between parties?

5. How does having the care of a child impact the property division in divorce?

6. Is there a financial advantage to having 50/50 care of the children, and does it affect the property pool?

7. How does the court adjust the property pool based on each party's commitments and expenses for self-support or child support?

8. What responsibility does each party have to support another person, particularly an adult child with a disability?

9. How does the court consider a party's eligibility for a pension or benefit in the property division?

10. Who determines what constitutes a "reasonable standard of living," and how does it influence property pool adjustments in divorce?

11. Is it common for financial agreements to overlook spousal maintenance?

12. How does the court adjust property division based on various factors, such as child custody, income, and health?

13. What considerations are made when tweaking percentages in property division based on future needs?

14. In practical terms, how realistic is it to consider all these factors in property settlement?

15. How does the court handle cases where both parties are of the same age, same health, with equal custody and property split?

16. Is there ever a dismissal of factors in property division, and what conditions lead to such dismissals?

17. How do parties defend themselves against fabricated claims to secure a larger property pool percentage?

18. Is it worth going to trial for minor percentage adjustments in the property division, considering the associated costs?

19. How often do people agree on adjustments without going to court, especially when the differences are minimal?

20. When dealing with child custody and property division simultaneously, how does uncertainty about future custody arrangements affect the process?

21. In cases where custody is undecided, do people prioritize settling property matters first?

22. How do lawyers balance property settlement and children's matters, considering the emotional involvement in child-related issues?

23. Is there a noticeable difference in stress levels between property settlement and children's matters for family lawyers?

24. How do you handle cases where one party may be making up information to secure a larger property percentage?

25. What role does detailed proof play in defending against fabricated claims during property settlement?

26. Considering the potential financial impact, how do lawyers advise clients on settling versus going to court for minor adjustments?

27. How does the financial value of the overall property pool impact the decision-making process in property division?

28. How do adjustments in property percentages translate into real dollars, and do people fully grasp the financial implications?

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
  

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

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Are you finding yourself staring at the ceiling, gripped by divorce-related stress and anxiety, unable to fall asleep at 2 am? Is your mediation or family court event looming, and your lawyer has said to make sure you get a good sleep? Ever wondered how lack of sleep amplifies the toll on your decision-making abilities during these challenging times? If these questions resonate, then this episode is for you.

Join us as we navigate the intricate connection between sleep and divorce stress with the brilliant Shea Morrison, a seasoned sleep coach. Uncover practical strategies, bedtime rituals, and the profound influence of light on your sleep patterns, tailored to alleviate the specific stresses of divorce.

Listen in for a podcast that not only addresses the challenges of divorce-related sleep amidst heightened stress and anxiety but sets you on a path to tranquil nights, empowering you to make sound decisions for your brighter future. 🎧💤

Sign up here for our next free online webinar.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog.

https://www.sheamorrison.com/

https://www.thegoodnightco.com.au/

Don't miss out on:

Unlocking Better Sleep Amidst Divorce: Learn how navigating sleep challenges during divorce can impact your overall well-being and strategies to overcome them.

The Divorce Sleep Struggle: What are the three crucial areas where sleep struggles emerge during divorce, and how can you address them?

Nightly Routine Hacks: Discover simple yet powerful steps to enhance your bedtime routine and ease into a restful night's sleep during this challenging life transition.

Relaxation Techniques for Better Sleep: Explore effective techniques to relax before bedtime, helping you achieve the quality sleep you need during divorce.

The Light-Sleep Connection: Understand the profound influence of light, especially blue light, on your sleep patterns and why managing it is crucial during divorce.

Melatonin's Role in Sleep Amid Divorce: Delve into the science behind melatonin and its significance in managing your sleep-wake cycle during the divorce process.

Morning Sunlight Rituals: Uncover the benefits of getting natural sunlight in the morning, a powerful tool for boosting your mood and promoting better sleep during divorce.

Evening Light and Sleep Quality: Learn how evening light exposure impacts the release of melatonin and discover strategies to improve your ability to feel sleepy when needed.

Creating a Sleep Haven: Explore practical tips for crafting a sleep-friendly environment that supports your well-being, especially in the midst of a divorce.

Navigating Nighttime Anxiety: Gain valuable advice on handling stress-triggered wake-ups and discover the importance of feeling safe in managing sleep disruptions during separation or divorce.

Useful Resources:

• Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

  CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

  Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

  Click here for our free mediation checklist

  Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

Emergency Contacts:

• • WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

  • LEGAL AID

  • Lifeline 13 11 14

  • Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

  • Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

  • Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

  • Relationships Australia 

  • Police on 000

  • DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

  • DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

  • National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Embarking on the journey of property settlement amid divorce or separation might seem overwhelming, but fret not – our latest podcast episode is your friendly guide through the process. Gain a comprehensive overview, enriched with expert insights and practical tips, to navigate this challenging terrain.

Uncover the key elements of a successful property settlement and delve into the wisdom of Lyn, our seasoned expert, as she navigates high-conflict scenarios and sheds light on handling manipulative ex-spouses.

This episode not only imparts invaluable education but also empowers you, setting the stage for a potentially better outcome. Understanding the challenges ahead makes facing and preparing for them much more manageable. Tune in now to anticipate, navigate, and transform your journey into a smoother, less painful experience.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

What happens in property settlement during divorce?

Don't miss out on the answers to these helpful questions:

• How is property undone during a divorce or de facto separation?

• Are you about to go through a property settlement and unsure what to expect?

• What are the stages and steps involved in a property settlement?

• Is your property situation complicated with multiple assets like houses, businesses, trusts, or shares?

• Do you walk away with only what you brought into the relationship during a property settlement?

• Is the distribution of assets always a 50/50 split?

• How are contributions considered in property settlement, both financial and non-financial?

• What are the initial steps one should take when going through a property settlement?

• How do you value assets like a house, cars, and superannuation during this process?

• Can property settlement be achieved without going to court?

• What happens in a mediation session, and how successful is it in resolving disputes?

• How are consent orders obtained, and what's the difference between consent orders and financial agreements?

• If an agreement is not followed, how is it enforced, and can financial agreements be enforced differently than consent orders?

• How can individuals negotiate effectively during property settlement, and what factors can be negotiated besides percentages?

• How are future needs taken into account during property settlement?

• What advice do you have for individuals going through a property settlement, and are there common misconceptions they should be aware of?

• How many mediations do people typically go through before finding a resolution?

• How do you prevent yourself from getting too entrenched in your position during mediation?

• What role does commercial reality play in property settlement negotiations?

• In the context of property settlement, what does "smaller the property pool, the smaller the 10%" mean?

• What's the significance of the episode titled "The Court Conveyor Belt Revisited"?

• How has the duration of court proceedings for property settlement changed in recent years?

• What are the upfront costs and documents involved in initiating court proceedings for property settlement?

• How do families cope with the limbo of waiting for a court decision during property settlement?

• Can you distribute funds from the sale of a house even before a court outcome is reached?

• How do you handle interim financial needs, such as getting a bond for a rental property, during the property settlement process?

• What are the key components typically included in consent orders for property settlement?

• Why is it crucial to consult with a lawyer before signing any agreements related to property settlement?

• What is the difference between consent orders and just "orders" in the context of court decisions?

• How often do people appeal court decisions in property settlement cases?

• What is the process of appealing a court decision, and does it involve another trial?

• How does the court handle default orders when one party doesn't show up?

• How does a manipulative and controlling ex-spouse impact the property settlement journey?

• In a high-conflict property settlement, what strategies can be employed to navigate the situation?

• What is the significance of evidence and documentation when dealing with manipulative and controlling ex-spouses?

• How can you navigate negotiations with a high-conflict personality, and what alternatives to negotiation might be considered?

Episodes mentioned:

Debunking Divorce Myths and Your Essential First Steps

https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastonehundredone 

Untangling the Value: How to Navigate Valuations in Divorce & De Facto Separation property Settlements

https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetysix 

The court conveyer belt: for family law, divorce, property settlement and children matters

https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasttwentyfour 

I really really want to keep the house: general legal tips on how to achieve this goal whilst going through property settlement, divorce and de facto separation.

https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetyfive 

Useful Resources:

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

If you are facing your first Christmas whilst going through your divorce, this episode is for you. A lighter bonus episode that explores 8 issues that people face when it’s Christmas and how to consider navigating it with your co parent or ex.

* Can you access your lawyer over Christmas?

• What happens with Family Court over Christmas?

• Why you need to learn to say “Christmas is when you say it is.”

• How to deal with Christmas alone or without the kids.

• Navigating Christmas traditions with two households

• How to deal with your ex's family at Christmas

• Christmas handovers

• Presents and CoParenting

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Useful Resources:

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

If you are still in a world of coercive control even after separation or you’ve left a coercive controlling relationship and you are still having difficulty with your ex then this episode is for you. Join us as we shed light on 12 signs that coercive control is still happening even after separation from your ex. Learn about the emotional trenches often dug by abusers post-separation and learn some strategies and gain some knowledge on how to navigate this rough terrain whilst going through the legal process of property settlement and children’s custody battles. Learn how coercive control is often only discussed as a thing that occurs whilst living in a relationship with someone, but it can very much continue afterwards in a different but similar way.

We look at accusations of parental alienation, ways you can continue to be controlled and ways to protect yourself from the continuing abuse but also to act smart when it comes to the family law system. With a strapping blend of empathy and practical legal education, Laura and Lyn guide listeners on this liberating quest towards regaining control, breaking free from the abuser's influence and forging a path towards a life abundant with autonomy and peace.

Part 2 

Trigger Warning: this episode discusses Coercive Control if you are triggered please call 1800 Respect or Life Line on 13 11 14

Remember, it's important to seek legal advice from a qualified lawyer for your specific situation. While this podcast provides general information pertaining to Australian law, it does not replace personalised legal counsel.

Don’t miss out on hearing the answers to the following questions

• What does the court think about it if someone tells their child negative things about the other parent?

• How do you prove parental alienation, and what happens if the court doesn't like the evidence?

• What are the outcomes if the court determines that a person is not child-focused?

• How does the court handle cases where parental alienation is used as a tactic in a coercive control situation?

• Are there ways to protect oneself from accusations of parental alienation?

• What signs of coercive control relate to health and body issues after separation?

• What protections are in place for individuals concerned about the privacy of their mental health records during legal proceedings?

• How can someone overcome the guilt and psychological impact of self-care, especially in the context of accusations from the ex-partner?

• Do jealous accusations continue into the legal post-separation phase, and how do they manifest?

• How can someone deal with the ongoing interference and accusations related to their dating life post-separation?

• Have you left a coercive, controlling relationship but found that it followed you?

• What are the Twelve Signs of Coercive Control after separation?

• How does coercive control of money continue after separation?

• What are the ways in which direct control over money can be exerted after separation?

• How does manipulating child support payments contribute to coercive control after separation?

• Is nondisclosure and hiding of money recognized by the family court?

• What are the penalties for non-disclosure or non-compliance with court-ordered steps in financial matters?

• How does delaying disclosure serve an abuser in coercive control situations?

• What are the potential consequences for someone hiding assets during a divorce or separation?

• How can laypeople address issues of nondisclosure and hiding of assets in court?

• Should individuals proceed with mediation if the other party hasn't completed proper disclosure?

• How do traditional gender roles contribute to coercive control after separation?

• How can the court address the issue of unequal responsibility in co-parenting arrangements?

• What steps can be taken to avoid being held accountable for administrative tasks post-separation?

• How can one handle requests for detailed reports and updates from the other parent after separation?

• What are the potential consequences of turning kids against one parent in a coercive control situation?

• How can a parent protect their children from negative influence during a separation?

• What actions can be taken to counter attempts to turn kids against one parent in a divorce or separation?

• What happens if someone accuses you of parental alienation

• Is parental alienation a real thing?

• Examples of how the family court can view dating online  

Sources Mentioned 

Psychology Today 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/invisible-chains/202311/7-tips-to-un-gaslight-yourself-after-domestic-abuse

Useful Resources:

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

If you are still in a world of coercive control even after separation or you’ve left a coercive controlling relationship and you are still having difficulty with your ex then this episode is for you. Join us as we shed light on 12 signs that coercive control is still happening even after separation from your ex. Learn about the emotional trenches often dug by abusers post-separation and learn some strategies and gain some knowledge on how to navigate this rough terrain whilst going through the legal process of property settlement and children’s custody battles. Learn how coercive control is often only discussed as a thing that occurs whilst living in a relationship with someone, but it can very much continue afterwards in a different but similar way. Learn about Post Separation abuse and legal abuse and what can be done about it.

We look at the critical role played by your own self-compassion, how to construct solid emotional boundaries and deal with intense emotions surging from the urgent demands of your ex. This episode also touches on seeking professional help, challenging your own thought patterns, and ultimately understanding the existence of covert forms of control. With a strapping blend of empathy and practical legal education, Laura and Lyn guide listeners on this liberating quest towards regaining control, breaking free from the abuser's influence and forging a path towards a life abundant with autonomy and peace. Part 1

Trigger Warning: this episode discusses Coercive Control if you are triggered please call 1800 Respect or Life Line on 13 11 14

Remember, it's important to seek legal advice from a qualified lawyer for your specific situation. While this podcast provides general information pertaining to Australian law, it does not replace personalised legal counsel.

Don’t miss out on hearing the answers to the following questions

• How can you work on overcoming gaslighting?

• What are some steps to take and write down in order to remind yourself of your true thoughts and reality?

• How can you speak positively to yourself and change negative thoughts?

• How can you get connected and find people who will believe and support you?

• What evidence should you gather to counter claims made against you?

• How can you gather evidence of being a good mother and counter false labels?

• How should you handle communication with the other party's lawyer if they try to gaslight or divert attention from the main issues?

• What should you do if the other party fails to answer your letter or question?

• Strategies to combat gaslighting and doubt your reality.

• What is the importance of documenting and gathering evidence.

• What is the significance of speaking positively and being compassionate to yourself.

• What is the value of finding a supportive network and seeking legal advice.

Sources Mentioned 

Psychology Today 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/invisible-chains/202311/7-tips-to-un-gaslight-yourself-after-domestic-abuse

Useful Resources:

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

Episodes Mentioned in this episode 

Separated under one roof: the do’s and don’ts in divorce

The importance of record keeping during divorce & separation: the what, why, when and how to help yourself in mediation, family court or even just in negotiation

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Wondering what happens to your superannuation when you get divorced or separated? Is it simply yours to keep, or is it considered part of the property pool to be divided and shared? These are important questions that many people have, and this podcast episode has the answers you need.

During a divorce or separation, it's easy to focus on the physical assets like houses, cars, and furniture. Don’t let your superannuation or theirs be overlooked. Fear not, this episode is here to guide you through the basics of the family court process and help educate you  on your property settlement.

You might also be thinking about fairness when it comes to your ex's superannuation. Should you leave it untouched? Well, this episode will provide clarity on that too. It explores how superannuation can be divided and shared, taking into consideration factors like individual contributions, the duration of the relationship, and projected financial needs.

Remember, it's important to seek legal advice from a qualified lawyer for your specific situation. While this podcast provides general information pertaining to Australian law, it does not replace personalised legal counsel.

Don't let your superannuation go forgotten. Tune into this informative episode and gain a better understanding of the divorce process and how it impacts your super.

What about Superannuation in your divorce or de facto separation?

Don’t miss out on hearing the answers to the following questions

• Have you ever said "I'm not going to touch your super"?

• Do you want to know how to keep your super during a divorce?

• Is superannuation a big argument factor during divorce?

• Are super and property the two big ticket items in divorce settlements?

• Do you want to keep your super instead of the house?

• How is super dealt with in divorce and what should you know?

• What are the questions you should ask about superannuation during a divorce?

• What if your ex won’t disclose their superannuation

• Ways to find out about their superannuation.

Don't wait any longer - tune in to this episode to gain valuable insights for navigating your divorce or de facto separation.

Useful Resources:

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

Episodes Mentioned in this episode 

Separated under one roof: the do’s and don’ts in divorce

I really really want to keep the house: general legal tips on how to achieve this goal whilst going through property settlement, divorce and de facto separation.

Debunking Divorce Myths and Your Essential First Steps

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Do you know your separation date? Do you know why it is important for divorce or de facto separation ? Do you know how to document it? Are you going through a difficult divorce and finding yourselves separated under one roof? Do you feel stuck and unsure of what steps to take next? Look no further! In this podcast episode, Laura and her Mother, a Family Law Specialist provide education and practical tips on navigating the challenges of living with your ex during a divorce and 5 tips and ways to document your separation date. 

Learn about the importance of seeking legal advice, documenting the separation, and establishing an independent life whilst still being stuck in the same home. Whether you're contemplating the decision to leave or considering reconciling, this episode delves into the complexities and implications of separating under one roof and separation dates. Don't miss out on valuable insights and guidance - listen to this episode to gain clarity and take the next steps towards your new life.

Please always see a lawyer and get independent legal advice before acting on anything. This podcast provides australian general education only and cannot be applied to everyone’s individual situations, so always go see a lawyer.

Episode Highlights:

• Practical tips for living arrangements while separated under one roof

• Establishing an independent life and documenting the separation

• Recognizing the implications of separating under one roof in property and child custody cases

• Separation dates and why they are important

• Importance of seeking legal counsel in your individual circumstances

Don't wait any longer - tune in to this episode to gain valuable insights for navigating your divorce or de facto separation.

Beyond the Split: Understanding Separation Dates and Cohabitation with your Ex

Don’t miss out on the following questions

• How do I handle the situation of being separated under one roof?

• How can I set up an independent life after a breakup while still living under one roof?

• What are the steps I should take with my lawyer?

• How can I determine what assets I can afford to keep?

• What are the financial implications of property division when it comes to separation date?

• How do I properly document my interactions and communications?

• What are some sneaky tricks to be aware of during the divorce process?

• Why is a divorce, separation date or de facto separation date important?

• What are the top five ways to establish a separation date?

• How to deal with living under one roof after separation?

• What are some practical tips for separated under one roof arrangements?

• Is nesting a solution co parenting with your ex?

• How can I set up a new independent life after separation if living under one roof still?

• If you sleep with your ex after separation does that count as getting back together?

• What happens if you have a brief reunion but then break up again? 

Useful Resources:

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

Episodes Mentioned in this episode 

Separated under one roof: the do’s and don’ts in divorce

I really really want to keep the house: general legal tips on how to achieve this goal whilst going through property settlement, divorce and de facto separation.

Debunking Divorce Myths and Your Essential First Steps

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Are you feeling drained and defeated the aftermath of a failed mediation or family dispute resolution? Listen to this episode to gain essential insights to guide you through the challenges that follow a family law mediation gone wrong.

Key Takeaways:

        Demolishing Arguments: CIA-Level Investigation

• Discover the importance of scrutinising your ex-partner's arguments post-mediation. Lynette reveals her method of creating a list of objections and systematically demolishing them with solid evidence.

• Offer Tactics: Leveraging Section 117C

• Delve into the world of post-mediation offers. Learn about crafting a compelling offer under Section 117C with your lawyer and strategically using it to your advantage.

• Ratcheting Towards Resolution: A Step-by-Step Approach

• Learn about the ratchet approach—locking in agreements on smaller issues before progressing, ensuring tangible progress and minimising the risk of endless circling.

• Children and Property Negotiations: Juggling Two at Once

• Gain insights into whether it's practical to address children and property matters simultaneously in mediation, considering the nuances of each case.

Empower Yourself:

• Bolster Your Case with Evidence: Lynette emphasises the importance of gathering evidence to support your claims, offering examples of creative ways to prove your position.

• Stay Resilient Against Narcissistic Tactics: Strategies for dealing with narcissistic ex-partners who thrive on dragging out the process.

• Decode the Nights' Dilemma: let us shed light on the unspoken cues lawyers often use and offers a candid perspective on what judges may think.

Please remember that this podcast offers general education and is not a substitute for legal advice. Always seek independent legal counsel, as each situation is unique.

Don’t miss out on hearing the answers to the following questions

1. What if they won't sign anything during mediation?

2. Is it advisable to bring up concerns about the mediation process if it's not working?

3. Can a mediator help narrow down the issues that need to be decided in court?

4. Should children's and property matters be dealt with in the same mediation session?

5. How does a mediator handle cases where both parents want equal time with the children?

6. Is it common for people to focus on children first in mediation, and is it related to financial considerations?

7. How do judges view claims of spending time with children, especially when it's seemingly motivated by financial considerations?

8. Is there a way to address the issue when someone appears to be using children for financial gain in court?

9. How can you prevent a situation where an agreement reached in mediation is later changed by one party?

10. What steps can be taken to stop a change of mind after reaching a settlement in mediation?

11. How can you deal with the emotional aspect of a failed mediation, especially if you feel like you've failed?

12. What should you do if you feel pressured or bullied during mediation?

13. How can you handle an avoidant person in mediation, and what steps can be taken afterward?

14. Is it common for people to feel like a failure after a failed mediation, and how can they overcome that feeling?

15. What is the significance of the 117C reference in the context of mediation?

16. How do you handle a failed mediation with an amicable person?

17. How do you deal with high-conflict personalities in mediation?

18. Is it worth it to give in to certain demands from a high-conflict person to reach an agreement?

19. How does the emotional aspect differ in children's mediation compared to property mediation?

20. Are there specific challenges or considerations in children's mediation that people should be aware of?

21. How do people's mindsets change when it comes to negotiating child custody arrangements in mediation?

22. Is there a change in mindset with the presumption of equal shared care, and how is the law evolving in this regard?

23. What are the potential consequences if a mediation process goes awry?

24. In the aftermath of a failed mediation, how can individuals cope with the investment of time, money, and emotion without achieving a resolution?

25. What is the process of creating and dismantling a list of arguments following a mediation that didn't succeed?

26. What defines a calderbank offer under Section 117C, and what strategic advantages does it provide?

27. What risks does the opposing party face if they reject an offer made under Section 117C?

28. Following an unsuccessful mediation, what methods can be employed to gather evidence to strengthen one's case?

29. Could you provide an example of successfully obtaining proof to counter an argument raised during mediation?

30. What steps can be taken if the other party refuses to sign the agreement at the conclusion of a seemingly successful negotiation?

31. In what ways can gathered evidence be instrumental in supporting one's case and undermining the claims of the opposing party?

32. How is the ratchet approach applied in mediation, and what role does it play in reaching resolutions?

33. Can you explain the importance of locking in agreements on smaller issues before progressing towards more significant matters in mediation?

34. Is it possible to address children and property matters simultaneously in mediation, and what challenges may arise?

35. What factors typically come into play when negotiating arrangements related to both children and property?

36. How should individuals navigate dealings with narcissistic ex-partners, especially if they initially seemed agreeable but later retract their consent?

37. What are some unspoken cues often utilised by lawyers during discussions on children's nights and custody arrangements?

38. From a judicial perspective, how are discussions about the number of nights a child spends with each parent perceived?

39. How can individuals empower themselves and strengthen their case with evidence in the aftermath of a mediation?

40. What strategies can be employed to maintain resilience in the face of tactics employed by narcissistic ex-partners?

41. How does the distribution of nights a child spends with each parent impact the factors outlined in Section 75 of family law?

Useful Resources:

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

Episodes Mentioned in this episode 

Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours

Convincing the unconvincible in divorce negotiations for family law

Costs, Family Court and Calderbank Offers

The court conveyer belt: for family law, divorce, property settlement and children matters 

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Are You a Victim of One-Sided Marital Contributions? Did you find yourself doing all the work in your household, from taking care of the kids to being the primary breadwinner and paying all the bills? Have you shouldered the household burdens while your ex-partner seemingly did nothing? Have you ever felt manipulated or coercively controlled into doing it all? What happens then when you want to separate? How can you present this in court and protect yourself from false assumptions?  

As the modern landscape of marital/de facto roles changes, sometimes it can be one person who makes both all the financial contributions and the non financial. This episode deals with what to consider if this is happening to you.

We delve into the world of gold diggers in divorce, equipping you with the knowledge to protect your financial interests and regain control of your life. Discover helpful legal insights and strategies you need.Learn about strategies to use to ensure your true contributions are recognized and how to safeguard your assets when dealing with a financially uncooperative ex. 

Get ready to address child support, manage high-conflict relationships, and handle manipulative and avoidant ex-partners. Join us in this comprehensive exploration of gold diggers in divorce, empowering you with expert guidance to secure your future.

Please remember that this podcast offers general education for Australia and is not a substitute for legal advice. Always seek independent legal counsel, as each situation is unique.

Gold Diggers in Divorce: Strategies to protect your assets from a non contributing ex.

Don’t miss out on hearing the answers to the following questions

• What happens when someone in a marriage refuses to work?

• What can you do if your ex is sitting at home and not contributing while you work hard?

• How do you protect your financial interests in a divorce when you've been the primary earner?

• What if your spouse demands spousal support after contributing very little?

• How can you deal with an ex-partner who's financially manipulative?

• What are the key factors considered in property settlements during divorce?

• How do you establish your contributions to the marriage when your ex is claiming otherwise?

• What is the court's approach to spousal support when one partner has contributed less?

• Can selling investment properties be a solution to financial disputes during divorce?

• What about child support when one partner isn't contributing to childcare?

• How do you approach child support when one partner is not contributing to childcare?

• What if your ex suddenly wants 50/50 custody when they weren't involved before?

• How do you counteract a manipulative ex's claim of increased involvement with the children?

• What do you say to those who are being used by their ex-partners and portrayed as the bad guy?

• How can you address the situation when your ex is manipulative and controlling?

• What should you do if you are dealing with an avoidant partner who refuses to leave?

• How can you deal with a high-conflict ex-partner who turns any conversation into a fight?

• What are some strategies for dealing with an amicable ex-partner in property settlements?

• How can you prove your contributions and handle spousal maintenance claims?

• How can you plan for a smoother divorce and financial security?
  

Useful Resources:

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Struggling with custody arrangements with unique work situations like FIFO (flyin fly out), military, or night roster work? We've got you covered with valuable insights and practical tips that can help you reclaim stability and sanity in your family life. Gain control of your custody challenges with essential legal education and strategies.

Learn about some of the key factors to consider when crafting custody arrangements, such as your child's developmental needs and best interests. Learn how to handle different personality types, including manipulative, controlling, high-conflict, and avoidant ex-partners, and create parenting plans that address various scenarios and work schedules.

Unlock the power of open communication, and seek legal advice when necessary, while considering the characteristics to look for in a lawyer specialised in these unique custody situations. Balance their career aspirations with your new life plans, ensuring the children’s needs are met.

With the right approach, even in complex work situations, you can find stability and prioritise your child's well-being. 

Whether you're currently facing custody challenges or know someone who is, this episode provides invaluable insights that can make a significant difference in navigating this complex journey. 

Please remember that this podcast offers general education and is not a substitute for legal advice. Always seek independent legal counsel, as each situation is unique.

​​Parenting Plan Solutions for Military Defence Force, FIFO, and Night Roster Challenges

Don't miss out on the answers to these essential questions:

• How do you create a parenting plan or consent orders for coparenting when one parent is on a roster or works in a job with irregular hours?

• Is it fair to allow a parent who works in a job with irregular hours to have the children whenever they are available?

• How do you handle situations where one parent refuses to share their work roster or schedule?

• What happens when a parent working in FIFO or military deployment wants 50/50 custody with the children after separation?

• How can the contributions of a stay-at-home parent be recognized in a divorce, especially if the other parent was the primary income earner?

• What if the rostered parent decides to change their work situation or reduce their income to spend more time with the children?

• How does the court determine which parent is the primary caregiver when one parent has irregular work hours?

• What role do family reports and child experts play in assessing the needs of the children during and after divorce?

• How can you create a stable parenting plan that accommodates the best interests of the children in situations involving rostered or irregular work hours?

• How do family report writers and court child experts play a role in helping children meet their developmental needs in custody arrangements?

• What's the importance of considering children's developmental stages in custody arrangements?

• How can parents create a custody arrangement that allows children to spend time with both parents according to their needs and developmental stages?

• How can parents avoid making custody arrangements solely about extra parenting time or rewards?

• How should parents deal with situations where children seem to prefer one parent at certain developmental stages?

• What are some common challenges faced by parents with FIFO (Fly-In-Fly-Out) work arrangements in custody matters?

• How can parents address issues like last-minute requests for child visits and roster changes in custody arrangements?

• Can you explain more about creating a detailed parenting plan to address different scenarios in custody arrangements?

• What advice would you give to parents who have an avoidant ex-partner when trying to establish a custody arrangement?

• How can parents effectively communicate and work together to create stable custody arrangements, especially if one party tends to be manipulative or controlling?

• Are there any specific qualities or skills to look for when seeking a lawyer to help with military or FIFO custody arrangements?

• Can you provide more details on what to bring when consulting with a lawyer regarding custody arrangements?

• How can parents balance the career aspirations of one parent in military or FIFO work with the personal and career goals of the other parent in custody arrangements?

• Can you offer some advice for parents who might feel overwhelmed by the complexity of custody arrangements, particularly in military or FIFO situations?

• What steps can parents take to assert their own needs and lives while also considering their children's best interests in custody arrangements?

Useful Resources:

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Feeling lost and overwhelmed in the divorce or de facto separation process? In this episode, we've got you covered with nine invaluable tips that you can put into action today. Gain the clarity and breathing space you need to confront your divorce head-on with essential family law legal tips and crucial mental health strategies.

Learn how to set achievable goals, decode intimidating legal letters, select the perfect lawyer, and prioritise your mental well-being. Discover the power of taking control of your situation, making well-informed choices, and finding moments of self-care amid the chaos. 

Whether you're facing a divorce or know someone who is, this episode is a must-listen for insights that can make a significant difference during this life-changing journey.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Legal and Emotional Wellness in Divorce: 9 Expert Tips to Guide You

Don't miss out on the answers to these questions:

• How to stop feeling overwhelmed during divorce?

• Why is reading legal letters so stressful in divorce?

• What are red herrings in divorce paperwork and negotiations?

• Ways to recognize and avoid red herrings during divorce.

• Managing financial stress and legal matters during a divorce.

• Finding the right lawyer for your divorce – Does personality matter?

• Is an aggressive lawyer worth the cost in a divorce?

• Importance of self-care in reducing stress during a divorce.

• Proactive steps for better mental health during divorce.

• Why are health check-ups crucial during a divorce?

• How to set achievable goals during a divorce?

• What strategies can help make reading legal letters less intimidating?

• Why is choosing the right lawyer essential for a smooth divorce process?

• How to create a divorce plan A and plan B for better decision-making?

• What does it mean to get your 'head out of the sand' during divorce?

• Why is finding a lawyer who shares your ethics important?

• How can one maintain composure and a level head during a divorce battle?

• Why prioritise mental health when going through a divorce?

• Importance of weekly self-care routines during divorce.

Tune in now to transform your daunting divorce journey into a manageable one!

Episodes mentioned:

• "Do I really need to respond to that?! When co-parenting communication becomes tricky during divorce proceedings."

Useful Resources:

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.