The Divorce Course Podcast

The last thing anyone really wants in their divorce is the thought of going to court. The cost, the worry and the work involved is enough to put anyone off. So in this episode we are going to guide you through the ways you can stay out of court for your propery settlement, or childrens arrangements and custody issues. Explore possible ways you can get your negotiations and agreements sorted without taking a step into a court room or leaving it all up to a judge. 

If you are feeling overwhelmed by even thinking about starting the process this is a good start for you. If you are headed to court and want to stop it, this episode is also for you. If you just want to know what your options are before you take that next step this episode is for you. 

It's time to take control of your new future. It's time to educate, empower and equip yourself so you are in the driving seat of your divorce process. 

How to avoid going to family court: property, children's matters during your divorce

Questions you wont want to miss out on

1. What are the options for avoiding court when it comes to property settlement?
2. What are the two primary methods for property settlement without going to court?
3. How do financial agreements work for property settlement?
4. What is the significance of consent orders in property settlement?
5. What is arbitration and its role in property matters?
6. How can parents avoid going to court for parenting arrangements?
7. What is a parenting plan, and how does it differ from consent orders?
8. Can informal parenting agreements work effectively without legal documentation?
9. How can you avoid going to court when dealing with the divorce process?
10. What's the difference between a divorce application and other family law matters?
11. When is it advisable to lock in a parenting plan or consent orders?
12. Are there cases where financial motivations impact parenting arrangements?
13. How do you enforce parenting arrangements when outlined in a consent order?
14. What is an overview of the divorce process for de facto couples?
15. What's the difference between a parenting plan and consent orders in terms of enforceability?
16. How do you draft consent orders that the court recognizes?
17. What is the role of mediation in avoiding court for parenting arrangements?
18. Can you avoid going to court for divorce if you don't have children?
19. What is the significance of the 12-month separation requirement for divorce in Australia?
20. How long does it typically take to get your official divorce documents after the court hearing?
21. Can you avoid going to court if you have a parenting plan and are happy with the arrangements?
22. Why might someone want to shorten the time it takes for their divorce to become final?
23. What are the legal grounds for divorce in Australia?
24. Is there official paperwork for de facto couples who want to separate?

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If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Learn about the new updates to the course based on the changes happening in the FCFCOA Family Court of Australia. We dive deep into a game-changing resource for anyone facing the challenges of divorce. We introduce you to the "DIY Divorce Blueprint," a comprehensive course designed to empower, educate, and equip you with the legal know-how and tools needed to navigate your divorce journey confidently.

Discover the course's unique features, real success stories, and the benefits of taking control of your divorce process. From creating property orders to settling parenting agreements and attending mediation, this course provides a roadmap to a better life post-divorce.

Join us as we explore the course modules, insights from current members, and the incredible value it offers. Don't miss the opportunity to take control of your divorce journey with the "DIY Divorce Blueprint."

Enrol now and empower yourself to navigate divorce confidently while saving money and your sanity.

BONUS EPISODE: NEW UPDATES IN THE FAMILY COURT FOR THE DIVORCE PROCESS AND NEW UPDATES IN OUR DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

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Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Are you currently navigating a challenging divorce situation, dealing with an ex-partner who seems like a special case? Worried it might be game over before you’ve even had a chance to get what is fair? Well in this episode we will walk you through 9 scenarios that are commonly worried about during divorce.  

• Asset Concealment and Non-Disclosure: What to do when your ex is hiding assets.

• High-Conflict Exes: Strategies for managing highly contentious situations.

• Claims of Total Ownership: How to handle an ex who insists they're entitled to everything.

• Short De Facto Relationships: Navigating divorces in shorter-term relationships.

• Complex Trusts and Business Entities: Deciphering the complexities when assets are tangled in trusts and businesses.

• Honey Traps and Coercive Control: Escaping manipulative, controlling situations.

• Narcissistic Exes: Strategies for dealing with classic narcissistic behaviour in divorce proceedings.

• Ex’s that you are worried will outsmart you in the end

• Wealthy and Powerful Exes: Understanding your rights when your ex holds the financial power.

Listen to this episode to alleviate some of that worry as you get educated on the power of the family court and the power within yourself. 

Uncover the secrets, tips, and strategies for each of these scenarios. We promise you'll leave feeling a lot better about your situation. Discover what steps to take next. Hit that play button and empower yourself to thrive amidst the challenges of divorce.

Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

1. What do you do if your ex's family has money, and you can't afford a lawyer?

2. What are dollar-for-dollar orders in the context of legal fees?

3. How can you deal with a situation where your ex is financially controlling you?

4. What happens if your ex has put all assets into trusts and legal entities?

5. Is a short de facto relationship entitled to a property settlement?

6. What should you do if your ex insists that you're not entitled to anything?

7. How do you handle a high-conflict or narcissistic ex in legal proceedings?

8. What are some common reasons people give for avoiding divorce proceedings?

9. What happens when one party wants to move on with their life, but the other party is dragging their feet?

10. How can you handle situations where one party is trying to delay or stall the divorce process?

11. Is it a good idea to use delay tactics in divorce proceedings?

12. How can you protect yourself from financial harm when going through a divorce?

13. What can you do if you're concerned about your ex-spouse selling or transferring assets during the divorce?

14. How do you navigate divorce when one party is emotionally volatile and prone to arguments?

15. What should you do if your ex-spouse is refusing to cooperate with the divorce process?

16. Are there consequences for arguing during divorce proceedings?

17. How can you ensure that your divorce proceedings have an adjudicator and move forward efficiently?

18. What if your ex-spouse is hiding assets, being sneaky, or telling lies during the divorce?

19. Can you find out if someone is hiding assets without them disclosing it?

20. How do you deal with someone who is sneaky and manipulative during divorce proceedings?

21. What if they won't cooperate or disclose financial information?

22. How can you address the issue if your ex is a narcissist?

23. Is it a bad idea to get lawyers involved if you're afraid of negative consequences?

24. What if one party claims that you're not entitled to anything or that it was only a short de facto relationship?

 Balancing the Unbalanced: Navigating Divorce When the Scales Seem Tilted

Podcast Mentioned in this Episode

Financial Fairness During Divorce: A How to Guide for Spousal Maintenance & Child Support

DIVORCE ON A BUDGET: How to negotiate, mediate and go to court on a shoestring

DIY Divorce Disclosure and Discovery, for property settlement & child support

The Narcissist Playbook in Divorce

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different.

We're pulling back the curtain on the financial costs of divorce or de facto separation, helping you understand the complexities that often baffle many. Whilst it might be a topic no one wants to hear about, it could very well be the one topic you’d wish you were across when you get your legal bill at the end of your divorce proceedings.

Join us as we demystify the fearsome realm of legal fees. We will address your common fears associated with hiring a lawyer, offering insights into trust accounts and the importance of transparency. Ever heard of drafting charges, reading fees, or the staggering costs of court proceedings? We break that all down for you also.

By the end of this episode, you'll be equipped with 6 simple hacks that will help you keep your legal costs down. Arm yourself with knowledge, making confident decisions as you navigate this pivotal moment in your life.

Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Divorce Budgeting 101: Understanding Legal Fees & Six Simple Saving Strategies

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

1. What factors contribute to the varying costs associated with legal services in family law?

2. How can you proactively inquire about the fees during your initial consultation with a lawyer?

3. Can you elaborate on the concept of trust accounts and their significance in legal transactions?

4. In what ways can you effectively dispute legal fees that seem unreasonable or unexpected?

5. What are the practical steps for you to manage legal costs, especially concerning documentation and administrative expenses?

6. When faced with unexpected charges, how can you address discrepancies in your legal bills?

7. What strategies can you employ to question specific charges and gain a clear understanding of your legal fees?

8. How can you dispute fees if you believe you are being overcharged, ensuring a fair resolution?

9. Amidst legal complexities, how can you navigate the intricacies of legal fees, especially when scale costs are involved?

10. How can you assess the value of legal services based on hourly rates and scale costs, ensuring transparency and fairness?

11. How can you leverage online resources to compare scale costs and the charges quoted by your legal representatives?

12. In transitioning to a paperless office, what benefits can you expect in terms of reduced costs, especially related to photocopying expenses?

13. What strategies can you implement to minimise photocopying costs, ensuring efficient use of resources during legal proceedings?

Resource Mentioned in this episode 

FCFCOA Website Costs Information

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Have you got concerns about starting or current property settlement in your divorce? Are you concerned about the cost of consulting a lawyer? Worried that pursuing property settlement might disrupt your peace? Anxious about your ex having a savvy legal team? Concerned about how others might perceive you during this process?

We discuss all these apprehensions and more, offering practical tips and guidance to help you navigate property settlement with confidence. Our goal is to ensure you get a fair outcome without the stress of these worries looming over you or you just giving up on it altogether.

Tune in to gain valuable knowledge and empower yourself during this challenging time. Don't let these concerns hold you back from achieving a just property settlement. Listen now to find the solutions you need to address your worries and secure what's rightfully yours.

In this episode, we delve into the top seven worries people commonly have about divorce property settlement. Join us as we explore these concerns and provide valuable insights on how to address them.

Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Your Top 7 Property Settlement Concerns During Divorce: How to Address Them

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• "What do you say to people who claim that their ex is too smart or has hired an expensive lawyer, making the fight for a fair settlement too difficult?"

• "How do you address concerns that the ex-spouse is manipulative, sneaky, or dishonest, making the divorce process not worth the effort?"

• "What advice do you have for individuals who think it's not worth pursuing consent orders for property when they believe they have very little to divide?"

• "How can you assure someone who wants to prioritize peace for the sake of the children that pursuing a property settlement won't lead to unnecessary conflict?"

• "What should someone consider when they're afraid of the potential cost of divorce and would rather spend that money elsewhere?"

• "How do you respond to individuals who have seen others go through amicable divorces and feel embarrassed or ashamed to confront a more challenging situation?"

• "Can you provide guidance on handling a divorce situation when you feel overwhelmed by the comparisons with other people's experiences?"

• "What steps can someone take to protect their legal rights in a divorce, especially when dealing with a manipulative or controlling ex-spouse?"

• "How important is privacy when going through a divorce, and how can one balance personal privacy with seeking support and advice?"

• "Are there specific strategies for maintaining effective communication with an ex-spouse during a divorce, even if it's expected to be high-conflict?"

• "What considerations should someone keep in mind when deciding whether or not to pursue a divorce?"

• "How can individuals ensure they make informed decisions and navigate the divorce process effectively?"

• "Can you explain the importance of seeking professional guidance and support when going through a divorce?"

• "What are the potential risks of comparing one's divorce situation to others, and how can one avoid feeling pressured to conform to someone else's experience?"

• What do you say to someone who feels overwhelmed and ashamed because they believe their ex is smarter or more cunning in the divorce process?"

• "How can you encourage individuals to seek legal help when they fear that their ex-spouse will make the divorce difficult?"

• "What advice would you give to someone who thinks their case isn't worth pursuing because they believe there are minimal assets to divide?"

• "How important is it to maintain one's privacy during a divorce, especially when dealing with a manipulative or controlling ex-spouse?"

• "Can you explain why it's essential for people not to be embarrassed or ashamed if their divorce experience isn't as amicable as others?"

• "What steps can someone take to regain a sense of control and power when they've been guilted or shamed into giving up in their divorce?"

• "How can individuals ensure they make informed decisions and navigate the divorce process effectively, even when they're feeling overwhelmed?"

• "What's the significance of taking action in a divorce rather than procrastinating and avoiding it?"

• "Can you elaborate on why comparing one's divorce situation to others can be misleading and unhelpful?"

• "What are some strategies for maintaining peace and effective communication with an ex-spouse during a potentially high-conflict divorce?"

• "How do you address the concern that it's not worth pursuing a divorce due to a busy life, especially when dealing with kids and work responsibilities?"

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Are you on the verge of selecting a family lawyer for your divorce, property settlement, or child custody concerns? Worried about the looming spectre of a colossal legal bill? Tune in as we unravel the answers to the most frequently asked questions about the art of choosing and collaborating with a divorce attorney or family lawyer.

Discover under-the-radar, yet incredibly effective, strategies for engaging with a lawyer that can potentially save you thousands in legal fees. Unlock the secrets of what to inquire when seeking the perfect lawyer and delve into the myriad of approaches you can adopt with your legal counsel, tailored precisely to suit your unique needs and circumstances. 

Empower yourself with a deep understanding of how lawyers operate and what to anticipate. Step into that legal office or pick up that phone with unwavering confidence. This episode might just be the game-changer you need to make informed decisions early on, securing a brighter outcome for your divorce, your finances, and your legal expenses.

Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Three ways to choose and use your family lawyer (that you probably haven’t heard of.) 

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• How do you choose a lawyer for your divorce or separation?

• What are the different ways to use a lawyer in divorce proceedings?

• What is the "first class approach" to using a lawyer in divorce, and what are its drawbacks?

• How can being educated about family law and the legal process help you in your divorce journey?

• What are some common misconceptions people have about lawyers and divorce?

• How can taking a step-in, step-out approach with your lawyer benefit you in divorce proceedings?

• What role does mediation play in divorce, and why is it important to be aware of this process?

• How can understanding the stages and steps of divorce proceedings reduce stress and uncertainty?

• What are the potential pitfalls of not sharing important information with your lawyer during divorce?

• How can being proactive and informed about your divorce process lead to a smoother and less stressful experience?

• How can you use a lawyer in a divorce case without spending a fortune?

• What are the different ways to involve a lawyer in your divorce process?

• How can having a lawyer for a "legal look" benefit you in a divorce case?

• What is the significance of understanding the legal process in a divorce case?

• Why is it important to have a lawyer review any documents before you sign them in a divorce?

• How can understanding the Family Law Act help you navigate your divorce more effectively?

• What is Section 102 NA of the Family Law Act, and how can it help victims of domestic violence in divorce cases?

• Why is it crucial to be smart about using lawyers in divorce, especially in terms of costs

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

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Episodes Mentioned in this episode- Link to listen below

Can’t afford a lawyer? Seven top tips to follow for children’s or property settlement in the family law court

Choosing a Family Lawyer & the Red Flags not to ignore

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Are you facing the challenges of dividing up the property in your divorce and are stuck in a deadlock? Join us as we answer key questions and provide practical tips for handling deadlocks in divorce property settlements. Whether you're handling your divorce independently or with legal representation, these insights will empower you to drive the process forward effectively.

We delve into the pressing topic of handling deadlocks in divorce negotiations, offering valuable guidance to help you navigate these complex situations.

Discover practical strategies for dealing with non disclosure,  asset valuation and stonewalling tactics sometimes used by other parties. We explore options for breaking through these deadlocks, ensuring a fair distribution of assets.

Learn how to manage your emotions during this process and understand the emotional value of items in play. We'll also share techniques for fostering an equitable mindset in asset division. Gain a better understanding of how to approach divorce negotiations with a business-like attitude.

While we can't replace personalised legal advice (which you should always get from your own legal representative before taking any actions in your case,) we aim to equip you with the knowledge and confidence to tackle asset division challenges head-on.

Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Deadlocks in Divorce: Strategies for Non-Disclosure, Valuation Fights, and Stonewalling

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• What are some practical tips for dealing with deadlock situations in divorce?

• How can you stop the 'What ifs?' from running in your head?

• What can you do if your ex doesn’t do disclosure?

• What happens if your ex won’t let you see their bank statements etc.

• How do you turn your anxiety about asset division into a 'So what?' attitude?

• What if you've given a deadline for asset valuation, and it passes without a response?

• How can you ensure you follow through with your stated actions if the other party doesn't cooperate?

• What strategies can you employ to deal with deadlocks in divorce negotiations?

• What can you do if you're handling the divorce process on your own without legal representation?

• How can you make sure you're effectively driving the divorce process forward?

• Is it essential to treat divorce negotiations like a business transaction?

• How can we value items like cars, jewellery, and other assets?

• Valuation can be expensive. What if someone can't afford it?

• How do you un-deadlock a situation when you can't even afford to pay for valuation?

• How do you determine if you're being difficult about a certain item due to past emotions?

• What is the emotional value of an item, and how does that play into the decision-making process?

• How can you ensure equitable distribution of assets?

• What strategies can be used to divide assets fairly?

• Are there alternative methods for estimating the value of items?

• How can online resources like Facebook Marketplace or Redbook help in estimating values?

• How important is attitude adjustment in resolving valuation disputes?

• What steps can individuals take to adjust their attitude towards asset division?

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

Episodes Mentioned in this episode- Link to listen below

Delay Tactics in Divorce: How to counter then & How it can affect your Property, Children's & Domestic Violence Matters 

DIY Divorce Disclosure and Discovery, for property settlement & child support

Untangling the Value: How to Navigate Valuations in Divorce & De Facto Separation property Settlements 

How to divorce a statue: 7 tips to divorce an avoidant ex even if they stonewall you or disappear. 

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Are you navigating post-divorce parenting arrangements, or the complexities of family court custody issues in Australia? Learn from this insightful episode from a seasoned family law accredited specialist expert with over 35 years in family law. Where you’ll explore the critical topic: "Best Interests of the Children." Whilst we don't claim to be child psychologists, we will shed light on what this concept means in the eyes of the Family Court, providing valuable educational guidance for a concerned parent just like you.

 Discover how the family court evaluates factors like relationships with both parents, the views of children (considering age and maturity), financial and emotional contributions post-separation, and practical changes in routines. 

Are you navigating post-divorce parenting arrangements, or the complexities of family court custody issues? 

In this episode we will address "What will happen to my children? How does the court decide? What's truly best for them?" While we can't replace personalised legal advice, we offer clarity and educational confidence in understanding your children's potential paths during divorce or separation in the eyes of the Family Court in Australia.

Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Decoding the Family Court's Perspective on 'Best Interests of the Children' in Custody Cases.

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

1. What are the primary considerations when determining the best interests of the children in family court?

2. How does the court balance the child's right to have a meaningful relationship with both parents and the need to protect them from harm?

3. What role do family report writers play in child custody matters, and how do their recommendations influence court decisions?

4. At what age can a child's views be considered by the court, and how does the court assess their maturity in expressing those views?

5. What impact does a history of domestic violence have on child custody decisions?

6. How does the court evaluate each parent's involvement in decision-making and spending time with the child?

7. What happens if one parent hasn't paid child support since separation, and how does this affect custody decisions?

8. How does the court consider the practical effects and potential disruptions on children when making custody arrangements?

9. How does a child's individual needs and vulnerabilities, such as neurodiversity or disabilities, influence custody decisions?

10. What are some common mistakes parents make when initially separating and how does it affect their custody cases?

11. Is nesting (where parents alternate living in the family home) a practical solution for maintaining stability during separation, and what are the potential challenges?

12. What happens if you need to leave the family home during separation, and how does it affect your rights concerning property? 

13. What factors determine the practical difficulty of a child spending time with both parents, especially in cases of fly-in, fly-out work arrangements?

14. How do distance and work commitments of parents affect custody arrangements?

15. Should parents worry that if one ex makes significantly more money than the other, the children might be ordered to live with them? 

16. What are the primary considerations that the Family Court takes into account when determining the best interests of the children in custody arrangements?

17. What does it mean for a parent to provide for the children's intellectual, emotional, and social needs?

18. How does a parent's mental health or diagnosed mental health issues factor into custody decisions?

19. What role does the maturity, sex, lifestyle, and background of each parent play in custody arrangements?

20. How does the court ensure that a child's cultural heritage is supported after a separation?

21. How does the court assess a parent's attitude towards their responsibilities of parenthood?

22. How does family violence, both between parents and towards children, impact custody decisions?

23. What role do domestic violence orders play in custody cases?

24. How does the court aim to avoid ongoing litigation and its impact on children?

How does the court consider children's ages and development stages in custody decisions?

25. What is meant by "equal shared parental responsibility," and how does it relate to custody arrangements?

26. What changes are expected in family law regarding the presumption of equal shared parental responsibility?

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

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Episodes Mentioned in this episode- Link to listen below

FAMILY REPORTS https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastseven

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Discover how every word and action can impact your case, and learn strategic approaches to navigate manipulation from an ex-partner. From securing sentimental items to making legally sound decisions, we equip you with some essential tools to navigate your divorce journey effectively.

Delve into the often overlooked but vitally important legal dimensions of divorce or de facto separation. Whether you're amidst the process or foresee it on the horizon, our expert insights are a compass through the emotional and legal storm.

Tune in now to gain expert guidance from a family law specialist on safeguarding your interests and ensuring a smoother ride through the family court  to your new future. Your journey through divorce doesn't have to be tumultuous – let's navigate it together.

Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• What legal considerations should people keep in mind while going through a divorce?

• How can being reactive during a divorce be detrimental, and what's a better approach?

• What should you do with valuable and sentimental items during a divorce?

• Why should promises made during the emotional turmoil of a breakup be approached cautiously?

• How can social media and electronic communication impact a divorce case legally?

• What strategies can help prevent actions being used against you in a court of law?

• How does the court view possessions and belongings in a divorce, and why does it matter?

• Why is it important to create a clear plan for children and pets during a divorce?

• What happens if you make promises during a divorce that aren't legally binding?

• How can you safeguard your belongings and pets during a divorce?

• What could be the consequences of reacting strongly during a breakup?

• Why is it important to consider the legal aspect of divorce, even amid emotional turmoil?

• What are some practical steps to ensure a smoother transition during a divorce?

• What does "start as you mean to go on" mean in the context of handling child custody arrangements?

• How does the court view the history of parenting responsibilities after separation when making custody decisions?

• Why is it crucial to establish a strong presence in your children's lives early on after separation?

• What is the significance of maintaining the status quo in a legal context, especially regarding children?

• How has the law changed in terms of shared parental responsibility and equal time arrangements?

• What steps can you take to ensure that you're financially prepared for the challenges of divorce and separation?

• Why is it important not to rely on your ex-spouse for financial support during the divorce process?

• How can you safeguard your financial interests while navigating property settlement negotiations?

• What precautions should you take when communicating with an avoidant ex-partner during divorce?

• How can written communication be misinterpreted or manipulated in high-conflict divorce cases?

• Why is it essential to be careful with your words and actions when dealing with a manipulative and controlling ex-spouse during divorce?

• How can seemingly innocuous actions, like accepting help with childcare, be used against you in a high-conflict divorce situation?

• What role do school/ day care pick-up registries and other school records play in divorce court cases?

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Episodes Mentioned in this episode- Link to listen below

Taking control of your finances & red flags of financial abuse with guest Pedro Marin

The Narcissist Playbook in Divorce

Consent Orders: it’s not rocket science. Explore the what, when, why, how of property and parenting consent orders after divorce so you know what’s what.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Are you facing the challenges of co-parenting after a divorce or separation? The idea of parenting coordinators might sound appealing, promising to ease communication and decision-making between you and your ex. But, before you sign up, it's essential to understand the potential pitfalls.

Join us in this podcast episode as we delve into the concept of parenting coordinators and explore the concerns surrounding them. From issues of control and decision-making to the impact on children's upbringing, we dissect this increasingly discussed topic. We'll also offer alternative strategies for resolving co-parenting conflicts and emphasise the importance of active parental involvement.

Whether you're navigating the complexities of co-parenting or just curious about the potential downsides of parenting coordinators, this episode offers valuable insights and advice. Remember, knowledge is your best tool for making informed decisions.

Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• What is a parenting coordinator?

• What are the risks of a parenting coordinator with a narcissistic/ manipulative and controlling ex

• Are parenting coordinators a good idea for co-parenting?

• Can parenting coordinators make decisions about child-raising?

• Can parenting coordinators help in high-conflict situations?

• How do parenting coordinators impact the financial aspect?

• Are there risks of bias with parenting coordinators?

• How does the involvement of parenting coordinators affect children?

• Why is the concept of parenting coordinators seen as a potential issue?

• What concerns are raised about parenting coordinators?

• What caution is advised regarding parenting coordinators?

• How is the idea of parenting coordinators viewed?

• What analogy is used to explain the perspective on parenting coordinators?

• What is considered crucial in the business of co parenting after a separation?

• What potential effects could parenting coordinators have on children?

• How is the idea of parents learning to manage co-parenting challenges perceived?

• How is co-parenting compared to a business partnership?

• What concerns are expressed about the lack of regulation in the field of parenting coordinators?

• What alternative options are proposed for resolving co-parenting conflicts?

• What could be the consequences if parents rely solely on parenting coordinators?

• What advice is given to parents considering parenting coordinators?

• What is the purpose of the pop parenting courses?

• What should people going through post separation abuse watch out for when parenting coordinators are recommended?
  

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If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

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Are you grappling with how lump sums, like inheritances, personal injury payouts, and redundancy payments, are treated during your divorce, de facto separation property settlement in Australia? 

Have you received an inheritance from a beloved family member and don’t know if it might have to be shared with your ex-spouse? Not to worry, because in this episode, we're exploring the many different possibilities and outcomes when it comes to lump sums of money in property settlements.

We're here to address your concerns, draw insights from real-life cases, and provide general guidance even if you're not going to family court.

It's a lot to unravel, we know, but understanding how the courts perceive these situations and what rulings have been made in the pasts can help you effectively navigate these issues during your mediation or settlement discussions with your ex-spouse. 

Listen now to gain valuable strategies for protecting your financial interests during property settlements involving lump sums. Learn how different scenarios impact the division of assets and ensure you're making informed decisions.

 So, whether you're facing an impending separation, in the midst of a divorce, or simply curious about how lump sums fit into property settlements, tune in and empower yourself with valuable knowledge. Your freedom & financial future awaits – let's tackle these challenges together! 

Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Who keeps the Inheritance, Injury Payouts & Redundancies in Divorce?

Your General Guide to Lump Sums in Property Settlement.

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• How do you deal with lump sums in property settlement?

• Is it really fair if you get an inheritance from a passed-on parent or family member and then half of it ends up having to go to your ex in a property settlement?

• What about personal injury claims? How are they treated in property settlements?

• What happens if someone hasn't claimed their personal injury settlement yet, but they can?

• How are redundancy payments handled during property settlements?

• Can redundancy payments and other lump sums be counted as property if they're just sitting in a bank?

• How does the court consider redundancy payments and other windfalls used to improve the family home?

• What are the strategies for protecting your financial interests in property settlements involving lump sums?

• How can different scenarios impact the division of assets?

• How can individuals ensure they are making informed decisions regarding lump sums during divorce proceedings?

• Are redundancy payments, long service leave, and bonuses all included in the same category, or are bonuses different?

• How does the court treat long service leave, especially if it's used for purposes like going on a holiday or buying a house?

• What about bonuses? How are they treated in property settlements?

• What happens if someone uses their long service leave to buy a house or goes straight into another job?

• How are bonuses considered, especially if they are based on performance or company performance?

• If an ex-spouse receives a bonus before property settlement, does that bonus become part of the property pool?

• How does the court handle personal injury claims or inheritances received before marriage or before entering a de facto relationship?

• Can you prevent certain assets, like inheritance, from being divided during property settlement through specific wording in a will?

• Is there a way to ensure fairness when an ex-partner is trying to avoid touching certain assets like inheritance, personal injury claims, etc.?

• Can the knowledge and information discussed in this session be used during mediation or negotiations with legal letters?

• What are some common attitudes people have towards not touching specific assets during property settlement, and how does that impact the overall outcome?

• Is it possible for someone to "technically not touch" an asset like inheritance, but still have it affect the property pool distribution?

• How can one disclose assets like potential personal injury claims or inheritances during the property settlement process?

• Is it possible to set up wills to prevent specific assets from being divided during property settlement?

• What factors contribute to a fair property settlement according to the Family Law Act?

• How can someone deal with the emotional side of property settlement, especially when it involves assets like inheritance or personal injury claims?

• Why is honesty important during property settlement negotiations?

• How can mediation or involving a court help in reaching a property settlement agreement when negotiations reach an impasse?

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Episodes Mentioned in this episode- Link to listen below

Untangling your finances: your property settlement for divorce or separation explained.

Your Future Needs and how it affects your divorce and property settlement Part 3: Sorting your property settlement in divorce

Sorting your property settlement in divorce: Part 2 Non financial & financial contributions during and after marriage.

Sorting your property settlement in divorce: Financial Contributions before cohabitation and how it affects your property statement

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Are you getting divorced or separating but are facing the stark reality that you will have no money to live on? 

Does your ex hold all the assets and cash? Are you worried about whether you can leave them at all for financial reasons alone? Or are you relying on them to pay for everything til property settlement is sorted and you are worried that this could stop at any moment because you’ve found yourself in a financially controlling situation? Don’t worry we’ve got you. 

In this episode listen to a family lawyer explore and explain what spousal maintenance is and how it can help someone who is transitioning from a married or defacto couple to a new single life. 

Learn about the process you might have to take to get yourself financially stable during the divorce process and after. 

Find some comfort in the fact that many people follow this process and it isn’t as hard as it sounds. Look at the links below to find the forms discussed in this episode and also make sure you listen to the other two episodes mentioned about what to do if you can’t afford a lawyer and a deeper dive into how to know if you are eligible for spousal maintenance. 

Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• What is spousal maintenance?

• Can de facto separated couples apply for spousal maintenance?

• When can you get spousal maintenance?

• Can you get spousal maintenance if you're separated under one roof?

• Is spousal maintenance a forever thing or just temporary?

• Can you have an agreement outside of the court for spousal maintenance?

• What does the court consider when making an agreement for spousal maintenance?

• How long does the spousal maintenance process usually take?

• How do you apply for spousal maintenance?

• Can you apply for spousal maintenance while still married?

• What happens if you get remarried or enter a new de facto relationship while receiving spousal maintenance?

• What are the potential consequences of not seeking legal advice?

• Could you provide a detailed explanation of the financial statement and initiating application?

• In cases where spousal maintenance is not urgent, is it still advisable to pursue mediation and negotiation?

• Where can one find a free mediator to assist with the spousal maintenance process?

• Can you outline a plan of action for addressing the financial statement and initiating application?

• Is there a possibility that receiving Centrelink or child support payments may affect the amount of spousal maintenance granted?

• How does one navigate the intimidating prospect of taking the matter to court if necessary?

• What is the preferred method for filing court documents, and is it possible to do so in person?

• In your experience, how often do spousal maintenance cases proceed to trial?

• Considering the financial struggles faced by both parties, how does one balance the need for support and a fair property settlement?

• How can individuals overcome their reluctance to address financial matters and secure a more favorable divorce outcome?

• For those unable to afford legal representation, where can they seek assistance for completing required documentation?

• What crucial steps should individuals take to manage their finances effectively during divorce proceedings, especially when facing financial hardships?

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Forms mentioned in this episode

Financial Statement Kit (do it yourself kit) | Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia

Initiating Application Form DIY Kit FORM 1A

Genuine Steps Certificate

Where to file your documents

Preparing an affidavit Info Sheet

Service Information

Episodes Mentioned in this episode- Link to listen below

Spousal Maintenance Are you Eligible?

Can't Afford A Lawyer Episode

Financial Fairness During Divorce: A How to Guide for Spousal Maintenance & Child Support

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Are you tackling the pressing concern of keeping your cherished home amidst divorce or defacto negotiations for property settlement?  In this episode discover eight innovative ideas that might just help you secure that house you love. From delay agreements and deferred property settlements to strategic superannuation splits, we explore creative approaches to safeguard your dream home that you or your lawyer might not have thought of. 

When it comes to figuring out who gets what in the divorce there isn’t a cookie cutter approach. So in this episode we try to help those struggling with this to think outside the box.

But remember, each situation is unique, so it's essential to consult with a lawyer to assess what works best for you. So don't wait any longer, dive into this episode, and uncover the possibilities that lie ahead for your future and your home.

Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

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Episodes Mentioned in this episode- Link to listen below

I really really want to keep the house

Delay Tactics in Divorce

Creative Ways to Keep your House in Divorce: out of the box thinking for your property settlement.

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• What is a delay agreement when it comes to keeping the house?

• How can you negotiate with your ex to buy them out in the future?

• Are there any risks involved in delaying property settlement?

• What if the house's value goes up and you need to borrow more to buy out your ex?

• How can you safeguard yourself if you plan to delay reaching a property settlement?

• What are the potential risks of not putting the agreement in writing?

• How can you use superannuation as an asset to buy the house?

• Is it possible to split your super with your ex-spouse to reduce the amount needed to buy the house?

• How can exploring your budget help you afford the house?

• What options can you consider to cut expenses and manage child support payments?

• How can you use family members to help you keep the house?

• Is it possible to stay in the house until your children finish school or reach a certain age?
  

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

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If you are trying to get your ex to come to an agreement with property or parenting arrangements so you can move on with your life this episode is for you (if you have a lawyer or not.) 

We explore seven tips to approach your divorce negotiations with an iron fist, but in a velvet glove. We talk through the strategies you can put in place today to help your property settlement or custody arrangements not drag on. 

There is an art to negotiating, but an extra special art to negotiating with someone who you’ve shared a large part of your life with. Listen to the episode today and make sure you are on the right path. 

Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

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Episodes Mentioned in this episode- Link to listen below

Cost and Calderbank Offers

Separated Under One Roof

Master Your Divorce Negotiations: The Iron Fist Within the Velvet Glove

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• How to get your mindset right to negotiate with someone you’ve shared your whole life with. 

• Is it problematic to avoid negotiations and delay facing the realities of divorce?

• What factors can change during divorce proceedings, such as values, job loss, and time limits?

• How can a friend's support and assistance in booking a lawyer make a significant difference?

• What should be the approach when dealing with high-conflict negotiations during divorce?

• Why is it important to selectively respond to irrelevant and petty issues during negotiations?

• How can giving in strategically and knowing your desired outcome benefit negotiations?

• What is the significance of the individual's role in negotiations, rather than solely relying on the lawyer?

• Why is it important to make sure your lawyer doesn’t inflame the situation.

• How can the concept of an "iron fist in a velvet glove" be applied to divorce negotiations?

• What strategies can help expedite the divorce negotiation process?

• What is the importance of generating options during divorce negotiations?

• Why is it important to be cautious about having an overly aggressive lawyer during divorce negotiations?

• What should be the primary focus of lawyers during divorce proceedings?

• Why is sending a reasonable letter from a lawyer considered more effective than a sarcastic one?
  

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

If you haven’t heard the word mediation yet you will soon. If you are going through a divorce or de facto separation it is most likely your first step before court. Luckily it can also be your last step and as it can help you avoid family court altogether. The success of your mediation will come down to a few things, timing and mindset being two important ones. 

Listen to this episode to learn about the basics of divorce or de facto separation mediation for property settlement or children’s matters. Learn how it works and listen to an experienced family law specialist who is also a qualified mediator. Find out the best things you can do to ensure it is a success. For even more episodes on different topics based around family law mediation scroll below and click on the links under “episodes mentioned”.

Say goodbye to being scared and overwhelmed, listen to this episode today so you know what the process could be and you can finally find an end to your divorce mess.

Please note this is general education only and not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

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EPISODES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE ABOUT MEDIATION

Mediation with a Narcissist

Disclosure the what why when how

Pre-Action Procedures

What happens after mediation

When Amicable Goes Wrong: Amicable in Wolfs Clothing

WHAT IS MEDIATION AND AM I READY FOR IT?

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• "Are there any other names for mediation?"

• "Can mediation occur even if you aren't in the family court system at all?"

• "How likely is it for anybody going through a de facto separation or a divorce to face mediation?"

• "Why is it called mediation?"

• Does timing matter for mediation?

• "Can you say no to mediation if it's outside of the court?"

• "What's the repercussions of saying no to mediation?"

• "Do you have to sit in the room with them during mediation?"

• "Can you have another mediation session if needed?"

• "What are the problems with having multiple mediation sessions?"

• "Is there a family relationships centre?"

• How much does it cost to do a mediation?

• What types of mediation can you have?

• "Is there anything an amicable separation needs to do differently?"

• "Why thinking about your ex’s needs can help you in the mediation"

• "What about avoidance and mediation?"

• "How many times does a mediator usually try to get your ex to come along?"

• "How do you make offers in mediation so your ex will accept it?"

• "What needs to be done in mediation?"

• "What about manipulative and controlling people in mediation?"

• "Can you really mediate with a narcissist?"

• "What about high conflict and mediation? How does it work?"

• "What can be done to ease your anxiety during mediation?"

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general education only not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

If you've recently separated from your partner or are contemplating divorce or leaving, you may have a barrage of questions swirling in your mind. We're here to address those concerns head-on and provide clarity on some common misconceptions. 

Throughout the episode, we debunk prevalent divorce myths that may cloud your judgement and hinder your decision-making process. 

We aim to empower you with accurate information and provide easy, actionable steps to take during the initial stages of your divorce journey. 

Whether you're just starting to contemplate separation or have already taken the first steps, this episode will equip you with the knowledge and insights necessary to make informed decisions and set yourself up for a smoother divorce process. Tune in to "The Divorce Course Podcast" and gain valuable insights that will help you navigate the complexities of divorce with confidence.

Please note this is general education only not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

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Debunking Divorce Myths and Essential First Steps

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• What are the most commonly asked questions about divorce or de facto separation?

• How can I navigate the process of separating while still living under the same roof?

• What are the different types of splits in a divorce or separation?

• Does it matter if my ex cheated on me when it comes to legal matters?

• How does the Family Court in Australia view infidelity in custody cases?

• If I move out of the house, do I lose my rights to the property?

• What options do I have if I can't afford to move out and pay rent?

• Can I stay separated but still live under the same roof?

• What should I do if I can't afford to pay the mortgage and rent simultaneously?

• How does the court expect mortgage payments to be handled when one person moves out?

• Can a divorce be settled without going to court?

• What are the risks of not formalising a property settlement through the court?

• Can someone come back later and request a property settlement after an informal agreement?

• How long does a person have to bring an application for property settlement after separation?

• Is it possible to get a divorce without involving lawyers or going to court?

• Why is it important to consult with a lawyer even if you don't want to go to court?

• Can seeing a lawyer automatically lead to going to court?

• How can a lawyer help in finalising the divorce or separation process?

• What are the options for obtaining a consent order without involving a lawyer?

• Is it advisable to consult with a lawyer to ensure the process is legally sound?

• Should they apply for child support straight away, even if they're living in the same house?

• Can you apply for child support if you have 50/50 custody of the kids?

• How should short-term arrangements for the children be made during separation?

• What should you do with your belongings and furniture when leaving the house?

• How can you protect your precious items and ensure you can get them later?

• Is it a good idea to document the contents of the house before leaving?

• Should you take your passports and birth certificates when leaving?

• Is there a checklist available for things to consider before leaving?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different.

Are you going through a divorce and are worried about your ex spending/hiding all the money before the property settlement is sorted? In this episode we look into various scenarios of how your ex may be spending big to deplete the property pool and what can be done about it.

Learn about the concept of "wastage" in the family law world and how the family court can view it. Discover what the family court has done in the past if wastage has been determined. If you are worried, this episode will give you some practical tips on how you can protect yourself or calm yourself. Listen now to and be proactive in your divorce or de facto separation. Don't let your property pool become a property puddle before financial settlement occurs. We also touch on disclosure and a previous full court ruling on someone who wasn't playing fair.

Please note this is general education only not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. This podcast is based in Australian Law. 

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Cases mentioned in this episode

http://www8.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FamCA/1981/70.html

http://classic.austlii.edu.au/au/cases/cth/FamCA/1981/70.html?query=

Help! My ex is spending all the money and I'm worried there won't be enough left for me at property settlement.Safeguarding your property pool during the divorce

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• Is wastage a common behaviour among exes going through a midlife crisis?

• What are some common examples of wastage during a midlife crisis?

• What are the rules around wastage in family court?

• How does wastage affect the division of property in divorce cases?

• What actions can be taken to stop wastage during the divorce process?

• Is wastage considered a negative contribution to the asset pool?

• Is there any legislation regarding wastage in the Family Law Act?

• How can wastage be proven in court?

• Is spending on luxury vacations considered wastage?

• Can running down a business be considered wastage?

• How can the value of assets be determined before and after wastage?

• What can be done if there aren't enough assets left to compensate for the wastage?

• How important is it to know the property pool from the beginning of the divorce process?

• Is mediation a good time to be asking?

• Is it too late to ask certain questions at mediation?

• When should you ask important questions before mediation?

• What should you do when you notice certain behaviour from your ex?

• Is it better to stop waste or try to get it added back later?

• How can you prevent your ex from wasting assets?

• How can you handle non-disclosure issues in court?

• What can you do if your ex refuses to disclose financial information?

• Is it a bad idea to retaliate and waste assets in response to your ex's behaviour?

• What can happen if you engage in dishonest or dodgy behaviour during the process?

• How long has the Family Law Act been in effect?

• Are there any new surprises in family law cases?

• How can you conduct searches and gather information about assets?

• Should you take action even if you have an amicable relationship with your ex?

• What should you be looking out for if you have a manipulative or controlling ex?

• What should you be looking out for if your ex is a narcissist?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

• Is wastage a common behaviour among exes going through a midlife crisis?

• What are some common examples of wastage during a midlife crisis?

• What are the rules around wastage in family court?

• How does wastage affect the division of property in divorce cases?

• What actions can be taken to stop wastage during the divorce process?

• Is wastage considered a negative contribution to the asset pool?

• Is there any legislation regarding wastage in the Family Law Act?

• How can wastage be proven in court?

• Is spending on luxury vacations considered wastage?

• Can running down a business be considered wastage?

• How can the value of assets be determined before and after wastage?

• What can be done if there aren't enough assets left to compensate for the wastage?

• How important is it to know the property pool from the beginning of the divorce process?

• Is mediation a good time to be asking?

• Is it too late to ask certain questions at mediation?

• When should you ask important questions before mediation?

• What should you do when you notice certain behaviour from your ex?

• Is it better to stop waste or try to get it added back later?

• How can you prevent your ex from wasting assets?

• How can you handle non-disclosure issues in court?

• What can you do if your ex refuses to disclose financial information?

• Is it a bad idea to retaliate and waste assets in response to your ex's behaviour?

• What can happen if you engage in dishonest or dodgy behaviour during the process?

• How long has the Family Law Act been in effect?

• Are there any new surprises in family law cases?

• How can you conduct searches and gather information about assets?

• Should you take action even if you have an amicable relationship with your ex?

• What should you be looking out for if you have a manipulative or controlling ex?

• What should you be looking out for if your ex is a narcissist?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Are you going through a divorce or de facto separation and are considering hiring a lawyer or are already working with one? Listen to this podcast episode designed to help you. 

Explore the top ten things you should consider doing to make communication more effective and to help make the process easier for your lawyer (which in turn can save you money) 

These practical easy to implement tips will empower you, strengthen your client-lawyer relationship, and improve your chances of a favourable outcome. Tune in now for valuable insights.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

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Top Ten Practical Tips to Delight Your Divorce Lawyer and Slash Legal Expenses

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1. Why does it matter to tell the truth when dealing with a lawyer?

2. How does telling the truth help the lawyer and the client?

3. Do lawyers terminate the relationship with clients who tell lies?

4. What are the benefits of being truthful in a case?

5. Do lawyers get in trouble if their client tells lies in court?

6. Why should emails be preferred over phone calls when communicating with a lawyer?

7. How does having a separate email address for legal matters help in communication?

8. What can happen if important emails are missed in a general email account?

9. How can CC and reference numbers help in tracking communication with a lawyer?

10. Why is it important to use specific subject lines in emails?

11. How does using specific subject lines and reference numbers help lawyers in filing and organisation?

12. How were communication and filing done in the past compared to the present?

13. What are the advantages of using emails over phone calls for communication?

14. Why is it important to respond quickly in phone calls and emails to save costs?

15. What should be done when the other party sends a letter to be reviewed?

16. How can writing responses in a word document and sending it to the lawyer be helpful?

17. Why do some people fail to answer all the questions in email responses?

18. What is the preferred method of responding to letters from the other party?

19. Reasons why taking a chronology or a timeline to a lawyer is helpful for your lawyer?

20. What information should be included in the chronology or timeline?

21. Why is being on time important when meeting with a lawyer?

22. Is it difficult for lawyers to be punctual?

23. Why is it important not to bring USB sticks to the lawyer and instead provide documents via email or other means?

24. What are the risks associated with using USB sticks to provide documents?

25. Should documents be printed out or emailed before meeting with a lawyer?

26. Why is it important to give your lawyer permission to text you?

27. Can you provide tips for dealing with a manipulative or controlling ex during the legal process?

28. What actions can be taken to handle a manipulative or controlling ex through the lawyer?

29. Are there any additional tips for dealing with a high-conflict ex during the legal process?

30. How can one navigate the legal process if their ex is avoidant?

31. How can communication be made less threatening for an avoidant ex?

32. What steps can be taken to alleviate anxiety associated with receiving communication from the lawyer during an amicable divorce?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Discover the hidden tactics abusers use to maintain economic control over their former partners after separation in Part 2 of our "Post-Separation Economic Power and Control" episode. Learn about  the components of the post-separation economic power and control wheel that sheds light on these often overlooked aspects of abuse and find out what you can do about it. 

By exploring real-life examples, we will unveil the manipulative behaviours that can occur with the banking system, emptying joint accounts and leaving victims burdened with debt, and other tactics abusers employ to maintain power over their victims' financial stability.

But fear not! This episode isn't just about exposing these tactics—it also arms you with practical advice and strategies to protect yourself. By listening to this episode, you'll gain invaluable knowledge to navigate the challenging terrain of post-separation abuse and empower yourself with the tools to overcome these obstacles.

If you're ready to take charge of your financial future and break free from the cycle of abuse, don't miss out on this episode. Tune in now and equip yourself with the insights you need to reclaim your economic power and control. It is important to always seek independent legal advice

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Please note that this episode contains depictions of domestic violence that some people may find disturbing. If you are experiencing Domestic Violence please call 1800 Respect or if you are in danger please call 000.

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DOCUMENT WE DISCUSS IN THIS EPISODE

Post Separation Abuse Wheel Developed  by Jenn Glinskii, University of Glasgow (2021)

Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic

Dirty Money Deeds

Coercive Control After Separation

Post Separation Abuse Episode

Bombarded with Legal Letters?

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 * What are some examples of abuse in the banking system?

• How can individuals protect themselves from financial abuse in a separation?

• Is it advisable for someone experiencing post-separation abuse to change banks?

• Why is it recommended for individuals to take some money for themselves during a separation?

• How does financial control contribute to the cycle of abuse?

• What are the consequences of being financially dependent on an abusive ex-partner?

• How can withholding money and assets affect the process of property settlement?

• How do abusers manipulate financial resources to maintain control over their victims?

• How does the court system play a role in enabling post-separation economic abuse?

• What actions can individuals take to break free from financial abuse and regain control over their finances?

• What role does legal advice play in dealing with post-separation economic power and control?

• How can observing abusive behaviours objectively help individuals cope with post-separation abuse?

• Are there any consequences or legal actions for coercive control and financial abuse?

• What strategy can someone overwhelmed by the paperwork and proceedings of a divorce case adopt to make it more manageable?

• How important is it to document instances of post-separation abuse early on in the process, even if they may not seem significant at the time?

• What are some examples of coercion and threats that can be used by one party during a divorce?

• How can someone protect themselves from financial control and manipulation, such as threats to stop paying child support or living expenses if they seek legal assistance?

• Are there any emergency arrangements or support options available for individuals facing immediate financial difficulties during a divorce?

• What is the likelihood of a parent losing custody of their children during a divorce, especially if they have been a good enough parent and haven't been violent towards the children?

• Can you share an example or story that demonstrates how the court prioritises the best interests of the children and understands the challenges faced by parents?

• How can stalking and harassment be addressed in cases of post-separation abuse, and what role can evidence, such as photos or videos, play in documenting such behaviour?

• What practical measures can someone take to protect themselves and their children when facing intimidation, harassment, and joint property damage from their ex-partner?

• How does coercive control manifest itself in post-separation abuse, and why is it often done through subtle, minor actions?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different.

If you are experiencing Post Separation abuse please listen to this episode. In light of recent events around the world, explore the crushing issue of post-separation abuse, with insights from our family law accredited specialist who offers valuable expertise and tips on what you can do about it if it is happening to you. 

Go beyond the surface to reveal the hidden aspects of abuse that often occurs after your relationship ends, especially in terms of economic power and control. Listen to the episode educate yourself and be prepared and proactive to deal with the tactics employed by abusers, such as manipulating institutions, concealing assets, and intentionally becoming unemployed, all aimed at maintaining economic control over their former partners. 

We also shed light on how abusers exploit court processes, burdening their ex-partners with excessive legal fees and withholding vital documents and what you can do about it, if this is happening to you. Tune in to gain valuable knowledge and empower yourself in navigating your divorce or de facto separation. This is Part 1 of a 2 part special to offer support and guidance to those going through post separation abuse. Trigger warning: This content contains information about domestic violence and post separation abuse.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

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DOCUMENT WE DISCUSS IN THIS EPISODE

Post Separation Abuse Wheel Developed  by Jenn Glinskii, University of Glasgow (2021)

Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic

Dirty Money Deeds

Coercive Control After Separation

Post Separation Abuse Episode

Bombarded with Legal Letters?

The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it (Part 1)

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• How does abusing the court system affect individuals?

• What impact can constant filing and negative accusations have on a person's self-perception?

• How can abusive words and false allegations affect someone's core being?

• What strategies can individuals employ to protect their mental health during court battles?

• Why is it important to recognize that the words spoken by an ex-partner may not be true?

• How does post-separation abuse involve using children?

• What are some examples of using children as a means of economic abuse?

• How can post-separation abuse affect a person's capacity to parent effectively?

• What can individuals do to mitigate the negative impact on children during post-separation abuse?

• How does the court process contribute to the comeuppance for abusers?

• What role does mental strength play in surviving post-separation abuse?

• How can individuals seek support and help when dealing with abuse?

• What are some common tactics used by abusers to manipulate and control their ex-partners?

• How does economic abuse impact individuals' financial stability?

• What steps can individuals take to live within their means and manage their finances during abuse?

• How can showing love and spending quality time with children counteract the effects of abuse?

• What are some long-term consequences of post-separation abuse on children?

• How does the abusive behavior of one parent impact the children's perception of the other parent?

• What are the challenges faced by individuals even after the court process is over?

• How can individuals support their children who may experience the same abusive patterns in their own relationships?

• What has been the progress of the new law on coercive control in Australia?

• What hiccups or challenges have occurred in the process of passing the new law?

• Who are the key individuals or groups involved in the decision-making process?

• What actions can be taken to address the concerns and influence the decision-makers?

• How does the presumption of equal shared care in family law impact cases of abuse?

• Why is it important to seek help from helplines or the police if triggered or in a dangerous situation?

• What are some examples of economic power and control in post-separation abuse?

• How do abusers manipulate institutions and use loopholes in legislation to protect their assets?

• What are some tactics abusers use to avoid paying spousal support or child support?

• How do abusers manipulate court processes to continue the abuse?

• Is the court system in Australia taking measures to address post-separation abuse?

• How can someone protect their mental health in the face of constant court battles and false accusations?

• What steps can individuals take to strengthen their core understanding of themselves and protect their inner self?

• Why is it important to seek support from a psychologist during the process of dealing with post-separation abuse?

• How can individuals avoid buying into the false narratives and manipulation tactics of their abusers?

• What hiccups have there been in the passage of the new laws on the presumption of 50/50 shared care?

• Why didn't the Liberal Party vote for the new law?

• What is the presumption of equal shared care and why is it considered damaging to children?

• Who is Anthony Albanese and what is his stance on this issue?

• What are some examples of economic control and how does it affect mothers?

• Why do people shame mothers for wanting child support and how can that be debunked?

• How can women challenge inaccurate child support calculations?

• What is the review process and how can it be used to address child support issues?

• What options are available if the review process doesn't resolve the problem?

• What is the role of the Administrative Appeals Tribunal in child support cases?

• How can women deal with coercive control tactics related to child support?

• What are the consequences of withholding personal documents and blocking access to joint accounts?

• How does economic abuse extend to harassment and intimidation in the banking place?

• How can women navigate the child support court system?

• How can women cope with the bombardment of legal letters and communications?

• What are some strategies to maintain hope and continue fighting for change?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000 Australia

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different.