The Divorce Support Podcast

The Power Within: Unleashing Your Mindset Superhero

This is one of THE most important concepts that we teach. When people really get it and integrate it into their lives they are never the same. They walk among the wise. They see themselves and others differently. They are responsive and not reactive. Acceptance of themsleves and others is a part of their daily lives. There is peace within. 

I kid you not. 

I know because I lived my life like Henry David Thoroeau said, "Living a life of quiet desperation". Now, I can "be". I see Victim Consciousness everywhere (see the last episode). And I have an alternative.

This is what I share in this episode. 

I hope you like it. I have literally spent the last 5 years integrating it into my life. When people go through our 10-week classes they see how this works and begin to also incorporate it into their lives. This is why we see such massive results. It's just one of the magical things we do in our courses. 

Love ya! Talk to you soon! (When you take the self test and book a call with me) :)

Kevin

This episode is from a video that was created for a presentation. You can see the visuals at our Rebuilders site at https://go2.rebuilders.net/drama-triangle-part-1

In this episode Kevin explores Relationship Dynamics, the Karpman Triangle (the Drama Triangle) and how this leads to Victim Consciousness. Understanding what it is often allows people to see how their underlying beliefs have created a lifetime of dissatisfaction. 

People in our classes often begin to see over the 10-weeks how this plays out in their relationships, their lives, and how important it is to learn the alternative consciousness. 

It also reveals WHY their Ex is behaving they way they are. THEY are in Victim Consciousness too!

In this episode, we shift gears a little - we hear from Kathy a person that tried a lot of different things to recover from her divorce. She shares some things that worked and some things that didn't. Since then she has become a certified Facilitator for the Fisher Rebuilding Seminar™ in Cincinnati Ohio. 

In this episode Kevin talks specifically about the "The Release" - the point in time in which someone is able to "Let Go". It happens for people in different ways based on different actions they take. It is a powerful transition and for many people the goal. 

After "The Release" your second life begins. Rebuilders.net

In this episode, you get an inside peek of a class in which Nick is coaching some people in a special class we did on Rumination. 

Nick is helping people to understand regret. 

This episode is in part based on a live class that Kevin delivered talking about anger. A number of topics are covered:

• 2 kinds of "models" for anger.
• The 5 ways we express anger
• Anger of the past and of the present
• Why we are angry
• How to express it

In the intro and outro we emphasize that people take the self test. But why? Because for so many people they are lost and unsure how to move forward. It gives you a way to objectively measure how well you are adjusting to divorce. 

It measures 6 key areas of adjustment to divorce and in this episode I talk about how each of these 6 measurements can be used to know where you are in the process. 

PLUS, you can take it as many times as you want - for free, no strings attached. 

Use it as a way to measure your progress. 

Here's the link:

https://web.rebuilders.net/divorce-adjustment-assessment/

Are you feeling overwhelmed, stuck and ashamed when dealing with divorce?  You're not alone! Join me as I dive into the secret to freeing yourself from divorce shame. Learn how to recognize and address the underlying causes of your suffering to experience true freedom and start healing your heart. This podcast is filled with actionable tips that will help you move forward on your journey of self-discovery and liberation. Don't miss out!

This episode is from a presentation that was put together to help people understand why some people recover faster than others. Everyone is different and people have different needs. But we also see that people typically have a "go to" about what they need. Often this is what they know, it is their preferred strategy for feeling better. And sometimes the thinking that got them to where they are isn't the thing that will help them recover. In fact, it may be something very different. 

In this episode Kevin discusses the 3 main components of a quick recovery. He also explains why some traditional programs don't work for people and what to do instead.

This is a long episode and it isn't just Kevin talking.  You get to hear from more than 20 people talking about the components of their recovery and what worked for them. 

For more information visit Rebuilders.net

Also, you can take the free self test at: https://rebuilders.net/divorce-adjustment-assessment/

Divorce is hard. So many problems, so intensely. No wonder it is overwhelming and people feel lost. 

So what can you do about it? Learn some ideas on how to reframe the problem of having so many problems. 

Find out more at:

https://go2.rebuilders.net/ws-info

Music is so powerful. In divorce it can be helpful AND hurtful. 

Here is the Spotify Playlist: https://spoti.fi/3zEas8c

Here is the Amazon Music Playlist: https://amzn.to/3DCC7Yf

And here is the link for the free training: https://bit.ly/3t2L0VT

https://web.rebuilders.net/divorce-adjustment-assessment/?utm_source=podcast2Dealing with the effects of divorce is so hard. Sometimes it seems overwhelming. People are often unsure where to start or what to do. It's understandable. There are few times in life that are more traumatic. It can feel like you are trying to ride a unicycle and juggle at the same time. 

But this is what people learn to do in the process we teach. When you start to see that it is possible everything gets easier.

In this episode I talk about how to do this...

How to Let Go with less suffering and faster using an analogy from yoga.

https://web.rebuilders.net/divorce-adjustment-assessment/?utm_source=podcast2In this episode I compare and contrast grieving a friend's death and the grief of my divorce. They are similar but different. Each carries its weight and difficulties. 

We just want to be happy, but it isn't that easy. Especially during divorce. Unfortunately, many people pursue the wrong things in the wrong order and end up feeling worse. In this episode we discuss the method that actually works. 

Here's a link to the presentation download:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ltfDkzQodbLF9xfKEE4ZI9rYcmd1nLmo/view?usp=sharing

We make decisions about our who we are when we are young. They affect the rest of our life. Those ideas we create about ourselves become our reality. It shapes what we think, our relationships, our jobs, our behaviors.  

Understanding these core beliefs about ourselves gives us access to understanding how we can change our future, and our daily situation - very, very quickly. This is part 1 of a 2 part series.

To get part 2 go to https://www.facebook.com/groups/rebuildersintl

Boundaries get crossed all the time in relationships. They are particularly difficult during divorce and after. Sometimes people have very little control over what our Ex (or Soon To Be Ex) says or does. 

In this episode we discuss some key ideas to understand how to set, keep and understand them better. 

Boundaries are discussed in more detail in our courses and individual coaching - available at Rebuilders.net