Truly Unruly with Marcus & Jessica Trufant

In this episode, Marcus and Jessica receive an email from a man who believes his wife has lost all respect for him after 16 years of marriage. They discuss the issues of imbalance in the relationship, lack of intimacy, and the potential impact on the man's self-esteem. 

Marcus and Jessica address a complaint from a listener regarding a comment made about single moms in a previous episode. The listener believes that the comment reinforces negative stereotypes about single moms being desperate. They discuss the dating experiences of single moms and the challenges they face in finding partners willing to accept their children.

00:01:22 Single moms face dating challenges.

00:11:05 Preference for dating single mothers.

00:12:43 Dating single moms requires maturity.

00:20:22 Dating someone with kids is preferred

Marcus and Jessica receive an email from a wife who is worried about her marriage. They have been together for 11 years and have two small kids. Both work full-time and receive no help from family. The wife is exhausted and doesn't feel like actively working on the marriage. Meanwhile, the husband wants more intimacy and feels unappreciated. The wife feels forced and is less attracted to him. She wonders if she should force herself and if their marriage can be saved.


00:01:47 Intimacy issues in long-term marriages.
00:09:04 Marriage requires effort and communication.
00:11:10 Possible postpartum mental health issues.
00:19:17 Relationship struggles can lead to unhappiness.
00:22:17 Dating single moms can be challenging.
00:31:43 Age gaps in relationships have consequences.
00:33:01 Relationships require mutual effort.

Marcus and Jessica share their thoughts on a listener's email about a relationship issue. The listener, a black man, is facing a dilemma as his fiancée, who is not black, wants to set a wedding date. He's hesitant because he had always imagined marrying a black woman.



00:02:10 Love is not defined by race.

00:08:48 Interracial dating requires understanding and patience.

00:12:03 Racial preferences in relationships matter.

00:19:08 Consider honesty in relationships.

00:24:19 Importance of cultural understanding.

In this episode, Marcus and Jessica discuss an email from a husband who is struggling with his wife venting to her family about every disagreement. It’s made his relationship with her family awkward, and he wants advice on how to handle the situation.


00:03:18 Lack of respect breeds negativity.
00:09:14 Lack of communication breeds insecurity.
00:17:51 Lack of communication breeds mistrust.
00:19:57 Accountability in relationships is crucial.
00:27:31 Communication and therapy are important.
00:29:34 Importance of hearing both sides.
00:35:30 Toxic relationships are unhealthy.

The podcast hosts question whether beauty standards have gotten out of hand and discuss how men have played a role in perpetuating them. They also talk about their own experiences with body image and the pressure to conform to societal expectations. They explore the origins of these standards, which they attribute to men's objectification of women and the media's portrayal of unrealistic body ideals. The hosts also lament the harsh judgment women often face from other women and offer insights into how men can support their partners in feeling comfortable in their own skin.

Since Jessica is out this week, we brought on special guest Nate Jackson, a comedian, and actor to have some guy talk and the ladies in our life (and in our past.) Nate, Marcus, and Kel answer questions from women that were submitted anonymously on social media. These are the questions that every lady has but is too afraid to ask the guys in their life. Well, these guys are answering that kind of question - unfiltered and raw. 

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What would you do if you got married, moved into a house your husband owns...and, he charges you rent? That's the predicament that one listener is in right now. She wrote into the podcast to get relationship advice from the Trufants to help navigate this sticky situation. Here is her question, "I’ve been married to my husband for a little over a year. We decided before we got married that I would move into his house and rent my place.  What’s bothering me is since we’ve been living together he charges me rent. So half of his mortgage. I also contribute to other bills and groceries which is totally fine. My friends and family think it’s strange that he would charge me for rent and I’m his wife. Also, my name isn’t on the mortgage.  Am I overthinking or are my feelings valid?"

Parenthood is hard. Marriage is hard. Sometimes both feel overwhelming. And, oftentimes, one person carries more of the load. How much is too much?  How little is too little? 

A listener wrote into the show looking for marriage advice. The listener says that her husband works all day and then immediately comes home and plays video games. The wife, on the other hand, handles all the cooking, cleaning, child care, and domestic tasks on top of working as a nurse. She is at a loss and doesn't know what to do next. 

Is there such a thing as "weaponizing sex?" In this episode, the Trufants discuss another question submitted by a loyal listener. The listener's wife allegedly withholds sex when she doesn't get what she wants, claims the listener. We have a few serious questions about this topic - Is it ever OK to withhold sex? What would happen if the husband withholds sex? Is withholding sex a form of emotional abuse? Listen up as the Trufants discuss this topic and offer their best relationship advice. 

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In today's episode, we're answering another listener's question about marriage and relationship advice. A listener DM'd us about her very attractive husband who gets a lot of attention from both men and women. This attention makes her feel insecure. She feels annoyed, frustrated, and insecure when people approach her husband even though he always politely declines their advances and tells them he has a wife. The listener's confidence is affected, and she sometimes wishes she was with someone who didn't attract as much attention. The listener is asking for advice on how to get over these negative feelings.

Listen up as the Trufants weigh in on this question and offer the best advice. 

We have another juicy question from a listen on today's podcast. A listener wrote in because he is feeling insecure in his relationship because his fiancé rambled about how attractive she thinks the next-door neighbor is. She later tried to backtrack and say that she's not really attracted to him and that she only thinks about her husband. Things get even more complicated when her fiancé notices that she follows the neighbor on Instagram. He is wondering if he should approach her, or if he's being paranoid. Listen up as the Trufants discuss this situation and help the listener move forward.

In this episode, The Trufants get into the topic of sexual frequency in marriage - is there such thing as TOO much sex in a relationship?

The hosts discuss the now-viral clip of Larsa Pippin saying that she and Scottie Pippin has sex FOUR times every night of their 20+ year marriage. The episode also provides practical advice and tips for couples to create a healthy and fulfilling sex life in their marriage.

We got another juicy question from a listener who needs advice about their former spicy career and how to go about dating. The listener wrote, "I'm falling in love with my boyfriend of 6 months, but I haven't told him I used to work in the sex/adult industry as a spicy accountant aka escort. I'm terrified that this will ruin a good thing. He's also my coworker. I want to be honest with him and don't want to hurt him. Should I tell him? and if so, how?"

In this episode, Jessica finally got some alone time with her son while Marcus took the girls on a father/daughter date. Kash wasn't feelin' it! Later, the Trufants respond to a listener question from a woman who is thinking of leaving her toxic husband who is emotionally controlling and negative. The woman wonders if she should leave or take another approach before making such a permanent decision for herself and her child.

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A listener is stuck at a crossroads. Her Husband has put on weight and she's losing attraction. She says she even offered help to start his weight loss journey. But turns her down and continues his unhealthy lifestyle. Besides aesthetics, she’s concerned about his health. 

What would you do if you were this guy? You listen to a podcast your so-called fiance was on only to hear her admit to only dating NBA players and high-income men...until she met you. She also talked about your sexual "issues" and insinuated that you don't have a big "member." While she didn't say your name, she described you as the "good-looking nerdy" guy. Would you stay with her or break off the engagement?

Divorce brings up the question of last names - some women change their last names while others keep their ex-husband's surname. Ok, cool. But, what would you do if your new wife wanted to keep her ex-husband's last name and not take your last name? Would you feel disrespected or is it no big deal? In this episode, we're talking about when (and if) it's ok to keep your ex-husband's last name. 

Is it ok to date before a divorce is final? Does public perception matter? Also, when is it ok to introduce your new relationship to your kids? All that and more on this episode of Truly Unruly.

Obviously, no one likes getting rejected - whether it be for a romantic relationship, a job interview and or any other form of rejection. Does one sex handle rejection "better" or "worse"? In this episode, the Trufants discuss the different ways that they handle rejection while Kel backs up their claims with the research.