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    Why Can't We Talk About It?

    Let's talk more about our emotions. It can be so hard to do, but it gets a lot easier when we open up to each other. Whether it's overwhelming anxiety in social situations, body image issues, or adjusting to major life changes, it helps to know that there are others who genuinely understand what you're going through. That's why we started this podcast: so you can feel seen, while you listen along.
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    Episodes (21)

    Episode 21: The Next Chapter

    Episode 21: The Next Chapter

    It’s not goodbye, it’s see you later! In this episode Jocelyn explains why she’s stepping away from content creation. We’ve loved working on this podcast together, and we’re so grateful to our listeners for their meaningful messages and feedback :) We’re excited to see what the next chapter holds! 

    Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

    Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

    Episode 20: A Conversation on Aging

    Episode 20: A Conversation on Aging

    In this episode Danny and Joce have an open conversation on aging. Has our perspective changed in our 30s? How do we feel about the decades ahead? What does society tell us about our worth (about women's worth, particularly) as we grow old? We discuss all these questions and more!

    Things mentioned:

    Book recommendation:
    Wrong Place Wrong Time by Gillian McAllister
    https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/59947696

    Restaurant mention:
    https://aloetterestaurant.com/

    Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

    Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

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    Episode 19: Burnout

    Episode 19: Burnout

    In this episode, Jocelyn shares her experiences with burnout at work. She talks about how she recognized the symptoms of feeling burnt out – and what helped her overcome it. She also shares the most helpful way to support someone in your life who is experiencing burnout. It’s not always easy to say the right thing! Tune in to learn more. 

    Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

    Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

    Episode 18: The Importance of Hobbies

    Episode 18: The Importance of Hobbies

    Is it a hobby…or is it a hustle? In this day and age it has become almost expected that we turn our passion projects into income streams, but in this episode Danny and Joce discuss why it’s important to have hobbies that prioritize joy over productivity. Tune in to hear more! 

    Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

    Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

    Episode 17: Toxic Masculinity

    Episode 17: Toxic Masculinity

    In this episode we delve into toxic masculinity – what it is, and how it’s affected both of us. Tune in to hear about why we think it’s important to kick harmful stereotypes around masculinity to the curb!

    Things mentioned:

    Danny’s book recommendation:

    https://www.amazon.ca/Does-Inside-Minds-Angry-Controlling/dp/0425191656

    Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

    Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

    Episode 16: Self-Worth and Being Enough

    Episode 16: Self-Worth and Being Enough

    In this episode Danny shares how he took steps in therapy to articulate his struggle with self-worth, and how a few childhood experiences impacted him. He also shares how looking at those situations from his family’s perspective have helped him understand what he went through, as he takes steps to unlearning certain perspectives on his path to feeling worthy. 

    Reco items:
    https://www.wonderbly.com/ca
    https://www.amazon.ca/Monopoly-E3113092-Deal-Card-Game/dp/B07F8JBWZR

    Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

    Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

    Episode 15: The Relationship Between Mental Health and Cleaning

    Episode 15: The Relationship Between Mental Health and Cleaning

    Do you feel better when your space is clean and tidy? If so, you’re not alone! In today’s episode we talk about the effects that tidying up and organizing can have on your mental health. Danny shares tips for how he handles household tasks, and Joce talks about her habit of decluttering on the daily. Tune in to hear more about the effects of cleaning on mental health. 

    Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

    Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

    Episode 14: New Year’s Resolutions

    Episode 14: New Year’s Resolutions

    In this episode, we share some of our thoughts on whether or not New Year’s resolutions are actually helpful. Do you stick to your goals? Danny and I share our outlooks, along with some helpful tips for setting - and keeping - those resolutions! So if you're feeling stuck in 2022, give this episode a listen! 

    Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

    Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

    Episode 13: BOUNDARIES!!!

    Episode 13: BOUNDARIES!!!

    In today's episode we're covering what we understand to be boundaries, how we know if they've been crossed, and how to be better at setting them! Contrary to how it might feel, setting boundaries is not rude - it’s a necessary skill that will improve your mental health, and help you take better care of yourself AND those around you. Tune in to hear more! 

    Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

    Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

    Episode 12: How To Make Friends As An Adult

    Episode 12: How To Make Friends As An Adult

    It’s hard making friends after we graduate from school! As we grow older, sometimes our original friend groups drift, or we move to a new place and have to start all over… If you’d like to make new friends, but don’t know where to start, then today’s episode is for you! 

    Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

    Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

    Episode 11: Emotional Labour and the Mental Load

    Episode 11: Emotional Labour and the Mental Load

    In today’s episode we talk about the importance of recognizing emotional labour in relationships, and what happens when someone’s unfairly carrying the mental load for their household. We also break down weaponized incompetence - if you’ve never heard that term, you’re going to want to tune in and hear Danny’s perspective :)

    Articles referenced:

    https://www.nytimes.com/article/emotional-labor.html

    https://www.theskimm.com/wellness/weaponized-incompetence

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2NOsE-VPpkE

    https://www.huffpost.com/entry/weaponized-incompetence-women_l_61e71983e4b0d8b665717814

    https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/

    Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

    Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

    Episode 10: People-Pleasing

    Episode 10: People-Pleasing

    Do you find yourself saying “yes” when you really want to say “no”, because otherwise you’ll feel guilty? Do you find yourself agreeing with others to avoid conflict? Do you feel the need to be liked by everyone around you? If you relate to any of these questions, then you might be a people-pleaser! In today’s episode, we break it all down and share our personal experiences with people-pleasing…and how to stop.

    Articles referenced:

    https://www.blackfemaletherapists.com/people-pleasing-vs-codependency/#:~:text=Codependency does usually involve aspects, further than just people-pleasing.

    https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/58690308-book-lovers

    https://brenebrown.com/hbo-max-presents-brene-brown-atlas-of-the-heart/

    Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

    Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

    Episode 9: Social and Work-Related Anxiety!!!

    Episode 9: Social and Work-Related Anxiety!!!

    Jocelyn’s anxiety manifests itself physically, which makes her feel embarrassed, which makes her feel even more anxious! This makes social and work-related situations extra challenging. In this episode we talk about how anxiety can come back, even if you’ve done lots of therapy to overcome it, and what helps in those triggering situations. 

    Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

    Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

    Episode 8: The Subtle Art of…Procrastination

    Episode 8: The Subtle Art of…Procrastination

    In this episode, Danny talks about why he procrastinates – the reason goes alllll the way back to his childhood (as most things on this podcast do!) ⁠Procrastination might seem like a weird subject for a mental health podcast, but there's a lot to uncover! ⁠ 

    Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

    Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

    Episode 7: Breaking Up (With A Friend) Is Hard To Do

    Episode 7: Breaking Up (With A Friend) Is Hard To Do

    Have you ever had to break up with a friend? Have you ever been broken up with? Was it harder for you than a romantic break up? In this episode we talk about it all, and swap stories of how some friendships in our lives have fallen apart – for better or for worse.

    Book recommendation: Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close by Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman

    Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

    Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

    Episode 6: Body Image

    Episode 6: Body Image

    In this episode we talk about body image struggles, and how our earliest memories shaped our relationships with our bodies. This one's for anyone who has struggled with their body image, who has felt like they'd "be happy if they changed XYZ" about their appearance, who always feel like they're being looked at but not seen. 

    Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

    Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

    Episode 5: Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN)

    Episode 5: Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN)

    Danny shares his take on Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) in this beautifully vulnerable episode. He talks to Jocelyn about how he recognized the effects of CEN in his life, and how working through it all has helped him understand some of his behaviours as an adult. 

    Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

    Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

    Episode 4: Being a Burden :(

    Episode 4: Being a Burden :(

    Do you feel like you’re a burden on your loved ones? Has it stopped you from forming meaningful connections? In today’s episode we talk about the negative impacts of feeling like a burden, and why that feeling happens in the first place. We also talk about ways to combat that feeling and how we can help each other. 

    Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

    Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

    Episode 3: Asian Representation In The Media – And How It Has Affected Our Upbringings

    Episode 3: Asian Representation In The Media – And How It Has Affected Our Upbringings

    In this episode, we discuss our own unique experiences growing up as Asian-Canadians and seeing (or not seeing) ourselves represented in the media we consumed. Jocelyn is mixed-race and was born in Toronto, and Danny is Taiwanese and immigrated to Canada when he was 6. We talk about what it was like to feel “othered” and the effects of tokenism.


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    Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

    Episode 2: Anxiety!!!

    Episode 2: Anxiety!!!

    What does anxiety feel like? When did you first notice you had anxiety? What is the difference between nervousness and anxiety? In today’s episode, Jocelyn and Danny discuss these questions, as well as what practices have helped alleviate these anxious feelings. Therapy is one solution, but there’s more!


    Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

    Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/