abusers

Explore "abusers" with insightful episodes like "How an Abusers Thinks.", "When They Take the Abuser’s Side - Childhood Trauma Work", "03-05-2023 Office Shenanigans", "02-19-2023 Age Is Just A Number" and "S4E2 Gaslighting Has Got to Go." from podcasts like ""WHEN DATING HURTS", "Our Whole Childhood", "We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez", "We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez" and "Chat Tea Charles"" and more!

Episodes (16)

How an Abusers Thinks.

Content/Trigger Warnings:
Domestic abuse, domestic violence, and graphic violence.

The voice you hear on this WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast episode was created by artificial intelligence. It is not a real person's voice.

The words spoken are a composite of beliefs and concepts expressed by dating and domestic abusers found within articles and interviews. They have been collected over nearly two decades. They have been reassembled as complete ideas and thoughts.

This episode illustrates how abusers portray themselves as victims. There is not one "portrait" that fits all abusers, of course, but many never take ownership of their words or actions, and they justify their abusive and destructive behavior.

NOTE:
If you want to share your story of abuse on the
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enMarch 06, 2024

When They Take the Abuser’s Side - Childhood Trauma Work

If you’ve ever felt betrayed by family by having them side with abusive people over you - this episode is going to be helpful.

In this episode, I will be going over:

⦁Describing the problem.
⦁Giving Concrete specific examples of when abusive parents side with abusers
⦁How it affects us emotionally as well as discuss triggers
⦁How to process or work through it when it’s happening.

Join me for Episode 8 where we explore "When They Take the Abuser’s Side - Childhood Trauma Work"

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Our Whole Childhood

en-usSeptember 08, 2023

03-05-2023 Office Shenanigans

In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about disordered corporations, office bullies, cliques, backstabbers, screamers, and schemers and how you can either avoid working for a corporation like that altogether or have coping skills to deal with them.

We’ve all been there, and done that, dealing with a disordered corporation that has the office bully, cliques, screamers, and schemers. No one ever teaches us what to look out for when we go to interview for a job or why it is important to read not just employee reviews like glassdoor.com but customer reviews of any place you are interviewing for a job. How do you deal with a backstabbing, idea-stealing coworker? Or, even recognize that the coworker is even doing that?

More and more people are saying that HR does nothing but protect the corporation. That the corporations are only as healthy as the people at the top as doo-doo runs downhill. What are some things you can do to protect yourself should you have the misfortune of having a coworker or worse, boss who is a bully? These and many more questions will be answered in this week’s episode Office Shenanigans.

The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez

enMarch 15, 2023

02-19-2023 Age Is Just A Number

In this week’s episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses ageism in abuse, why they dump their partners for younger and younger models, and why they are so terrified of aging.

Have you ever wondered why disordered people delight in telling you that you CAN’T do the very thing you want to do? Have you ever wondered why age is such a big deal? Why abusers tend to discard their partners as they age and replace them with younger and younger partners? And what the heck is up with their fear of aging?

The first half of the show will discuss all of the above topics. In the second half of the show, Kris answers your questions about the above, and many more questions will be answered in this week’s episode.

The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez

enMarch 01, 2023

S4E2 Gaslighting Has Got to Go.

Charles Anthony interviews an a anonymous guest, who is a victim of a common scenario for many people that they are unaware of it at the time. How you donât realize your a victim. What are the signs that you are in a relationship, friendship, real life situation, and youâre being gaslighted?

enNovember 09, 2022

01-16-2022 Lies That Keep Us Stuck

In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses all of the different lies abusers tell their targets, that keep the target stuck either in living for the times the abuser is nice or living in hope. The full transcript can be found on our website.

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez

enJanuary 26, 2022

94. Overt Abuse

Episode 94.

Caligynephobia Chronicles

enOctober 16, 2021

Abusers Playing Victim

Black Unicarns - I like the /ar/ sound.

enSeptember 17, 2021

playing

victim

abusers

Episode 59. Targeted Individual

Episode 59.

Caligynephobia Chronicles

enSeptember 11, 2021

Man Crush Why? I hate you.

Every day I see my work it is a struggle. I hate y'all I really do.

Black Unicarns - I like the /ar/ sound.

enOctober 12, 2020

An Episode for Abusers

Joe and Rachel speak directly to abusers in this powerful episode that demonstrates the Gospel and a firm reminder of God's hatred of abuse. Most abusers fake repentance when it's convenient, but true repentance is still possible. Listen and hear the Gospel at work in abusive situations.

Control Freak Christianity

enMay 09, 2020

Episode 14: No More Heroes Part 2 (Moderated by Da'Shaun Harrison)

This is part two of the two part interview with Josh and Jared about their own politics and experiences. Josh and Jared discuss the churches they went into growing up and their thoughts on religion in general. They also share their opinions on the complex role of religion in political life, revolutionary movements, and a post revolutionary society.

Josh and Jared also answer a couple of listener questions, discussing approaches to dealing with anticommunist propaganda, talking a little bit about the relationship between anarchists and socialists and the immediate need for leftists of all types to continue to be increasingly prioritize praxis over post-revolutionary theoretical debates.

They answer a listener question about abusers within organizing spaces and some strategies for people to deal with those things at an organizational level or as a participants, depending on the dynamics within the setting.

Millennials Are Killing Capitalism

enApril 09, 2018

Give to God What Is God's

"Sure, Jesus said 'Give to Caesar what is Caesar's' but then he finishes the sentence. 'Give to Caesar what is Caesar's, but give to God what is God's.'"

Sermon by Mike Kinman at All Saints Church, Pasadena, on Sunday, October 22, 2017. Readings: Exodus 33:12-23 and Matthew 22:15-22.

For a text and video of the sermon, visit our website: https://allsaints-pas.org/the-golden-calf-the-gift-and-the-giver/.

You can also follow us on Twitter @ASCpas.

Donate to support the mission and ministries of All Saints at https://allsaints-pas.org/donate/donate-now/.

All Saints Church Pasadena Podcast

enOctober 22, 2017

Guest: Stephanie Sarkis, PhD discusses Gaslighting

My radio show on Thursday March 9, 2017 This week on Relationships 2.0 my guest is Stephanie Sarkis, PhD. She explains Gaslighting, a manipulation technique used by abusers, sociopaths and narcissists. About the show: Gaslighting: Know it, Identify It and Protect Yourself Gaslighting is a tactic in which a person or entity, in order to gain more power, makes a victim question their reality. It works much better than you may think. Anyone is susceptible to gaslighting, and it is a common technique of abusers, dictators, narcissists, and cult leaders. It is done slowly, so the victim doesn’t realize how much they’ve been brainwashed. For example, in the movie Gaslight (1944), a man manipulates his wife to the point where she thinks she is losing her mind. People who gaslight typically use the following techniques: 1. They tell blatant lies. You know it’s an outright lie. Yet they are telling you this lie with a straight face. Why are they so blatant? Because they’re setting up a precedent. Once they tell you a huge lie, you’re not sure if anything they say is true. Keeping you unsteady and off-kilter is the goal. 2. They deny they ever said something, even though you have proof. You know they said they would do something; you know you heard it. But they out and out deny it. It makes you start questioning your reality—maybe they never said that thing. And the more they do this, the more you question your reality and start accepting theirs. 3. They use what is near and dear to you as ammunition. They know how important your kids are to you, and they know how important your identity is to you. So those may be one of the first things they attack. If you have kids, they tell you that you should not have had those children. They will tell you’d be a worthy person if only you didn’t have a long list of negative traits. They attack the foundation of your being. 4. They wear you down over time. This is one of the insidious things about gaslighting—it is done gradually, over time. A lie here, a lie there, a snide comment every so often…and then it starts ramping up. Even the brightest, most self-aware people can be sucked into gaslighting—it is that effective. It’s the “frog in the frying pan” analogy: The heat is turned up slowly, so the frog never realizes what’s happening to it. 5. Their actions do not match their words. When dealing with a person or entity that gaslights, look at what they are doing rather than what they are saying. What they are saying means nothing; it is just talk. What they are doing is the issue. 6. They throw in positive reinforcement to confuse you. This person or entity that is cutting you down, telling you that you don’t have value, is now praising you for something you did. This adds an additional sense of uneasiness. You think, “Well maybe they aren’t so bad.” Yes, they are. This is a calculated attempt to keep you off-kilter—and again, to question your reality. Also look at what you were praised for; it is probably something that served the gaslighter. 7. They know confusion weakens people. Gaslighters know that people like having a sense of stability and normalcy. Their goal is to uproot this and make you constantly question everything. And humans’ natural tendency is to look to the person or entity that will help you feel more stable—and that happens to be the gaslighter. 8. They project. They are a drug user or a cheater, yet they are constantly accusing you of that. This is done so often that you start trying to defend yourself, and are distracted from the gaslighter’s own behavior. 9. They try to align people against you. Gaslighters are masters at manipulating and finding the people they know will stand by them no matter what—and they use these people against you. They will make comments such as, “This person knows that you’re not right,” or “This person knows you’re useless too.” Keep in mind it does not mean that these people actually said these things. A gaslighter is a constant liar. When the gaslighter uses this tactic it makes you feel like you don’t know who to trust or turn to—and that leads you right back to the gaslighter. And that’s exactly what they want: Isolation gives them more control. 10. They tell you or others that you are crazy. This is one of the most effective tools of the gaslighter, because it’s dismissive. The gaslighter knows if they question your sanity, people will not believe you when you tell them the gaslighter is abusive or out-of-control. It’s a master technique. 11. They tell you everyone else is a liar. By telling you that everyone else (your family, the media) is a liar, it again makes you question your reality. You’ve never known someone with the audacity to do this, so they must be telling the truth, right? No. It’s a manipulation technique. It makes people turn to the gaslighter for the “correct” information—which isn’t correct information at all. The more you are aware of these techniques, the quicker you can identify them and avoid falling into the gaslighter’s trap. Original Post on Psychology Today: Gaslighting: Know It and Identify It to Protect Yourself About the author: Dr. Stephanie Sarkis is a National Certified Counselor (NCC), Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC), and AMHCA Diplomate and Clinical Specialist in Child and Adolescent Counseling based in Tampa Bay, Florida, where she specializes in the treatment of ADD/ADHD. Dr. Sarkis conducts evaluations, testing, diagnosis, and counseling services. She also is a public speaker, consultant, coach, and is a facilitator in collaborative law.

Relationships 2.0 With Dr. Michelle Skeen

en-usMarch 09, 2017

SS 245: Abuse in Non-Monogamous and Kink Communities

Abuse isn't discussed the same way we discuss other issues in our communities. Otherwise well meaning people sometimes end up working to silence victims of abuse when they need community support the most. People in groups tend to respond poorly when someone or something threatens the group dynamic and often, victims take the brunt of that response. With forethought, preparation, and a commitment to support people who speak out, communities can work through and survive abuse.

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Life on the Swingset - The Swinging & Polyamory Podcast

enMarch 24, 2016

Surviving The BOY SCOUT LEADER

Welcome Renegade Nation,

Marla, Mark and Honi Gurl making fun of Richie's time in the Boy Scouts.

Listen to Richie Accomplisments with the Girl Scout Troop.

Have a Great Weekend

Renegade Talk Radio

en-usOctober 20, 2012