accepting failure

#007 Getting healthy usually requires a considerable amount of effort and a group of friends and professionals to support you. That said, you are ultimately responsible for your own healing. If you have a mental, physical, or emotional health issue no one can “fix” it for you.  For some, it’s tough to accept that ultimately no one is rescuing them from their health issues.  Personal responsibility is one of the most potent ways to reverse self-sabotage because it cannot coexist with a victim mentality.  This, and more, is explored in today's episode.

Invitation to mastery

Now that you're more aware of the ways that you self-sabotage, return to something you're trying to heal; a place where you’ve sabotaged yourself in the past.  As you face the challenges that go along with this new change, reflect on your new perspective in your journal by completing these stems. 

• I can now see that “failure” in this situation means…
• Healthy ways I can deal with disappointment include…
• Actions that serve as a demonstration of my personal responsibility are…
• I can be more accepting of setbacks by…
• When I see signs and symptoms that I may be engaging in self-sabotage, I will now choose to…

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#006 We live in a society that is driven by (and often only rewards) success.  Anything short of what is often outwardly defined as success is seen as failure.  “If you’re not first, you’re last”- Rickey Bobby.  This attitude never works when it comes to self-healing.  Most of this viewpoint comes from an unwillingness to accept failure and setback as a part of the growth and healing process. 

Your invitation to mastery

Understanding your reactions is the first step in changing your relationship failure. Use the following journal prompts to expand your awareness around failure.

• How do you deal with failure? 
• How do you react to disappointment and missed expectations?  What kind of strategies or behaviors do you use to comfort yourself in those situations?
• What do you say to yourself when you experience failure?
• What would it look and feel like to change your relationship with failure?

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#005 Why do we continue to apply the same flawed strategies that clearly do not improve our chances of getting us what we want?  We have so much to deal with in our lives.  The stress of work, commitments and obligations, and relationships is only part of the daily pressure affecting our ability to navigate challenging situations.  Add to that, past pain and emotional scarring. No wonder so many of us walk around at consistently high levels of overwhelm. In this overwhelming state, it is extremely difficult to change and heal.  The solution to this problem may surprise you.

Your invitation to mastery

Incorporating a new health behavior into your life can be stressful.  Having an increased awareness around the signals that your body is sending you can be helpful. Try following these steps to move into the relational side of your brain and to create new solutions to stubborn obstacles standing between you and your goals.

1. Naming feelings and body sensations
   • If feelings of loneliness, fear, or uncertainty come up, strive to locate and name the sensations and signals your body is sending.
2. Name thoughts without identifying with them
   • When self-limiting thoughts come up such as “I can’t do this” or “this is too hard”, name these feelings (such as “fear”) without allowing the thoughts to settle into the body and cause anxiety or stress.
3. Journal writing 
   • Reflect on your experiences throughout the day by writing about how naming your thoughts and feelings affect your stress levels and sense of your connection to self. 

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