body safety

In Episode 6 of Season 2, Dr. Carole Keim walks us through what to expect from three year olds. This can be a difficult age because children experience a lot of emotional growth and often become oppositional. Dr. Keim offers guidance on what to expect and how to handle it.

Three year olds have a lot of big feelings and drama, they often ask “why” a lot, they do the opposite of what is asked to test boundaries. They are trying to see exactly where the boundaries lie and that they’ll still be loved if they push limits. They have more refined motor skills, are more independent, and their speech has become more coherent. Dr. Keim advises on everything from behavior to nutrition and how best to handle certain patience-testing behaviors.

In this episode:

• Social development
• Motor skills
• Behavior
• Parenting
• Nutrition
• Potty training
• Safety
• 3 year checkup

Social development 02:04

• Imaginative play, often elaborate
• Can put on a shirt, coat, or jacket by themselves
• Plays with others and can share 
• Able to follow a multi-step command (when they want to!)
• 3-word sentences 
• Speech 75% intelligible to strangers
  • When they speak, repeat back with correct grammar and pronunciation
• Tells you a story from a book or TV; make up great stories 
• Can compare things with words like bigger/smaller 
• Understands simple prepositions like on/under
• Asks “why” repeatedly 
• Many children start preschool around age 2-3
  • Types of preschools - Montessori, Waldorf, Reggio Emilia
  • Preschool vs daycare 

Motor skills 05:51

• Eats independently
• Typically potty trained for urine - can enter bathroom and pee by themselves 
• Pedal a tricycle
• Climb on and off chairs, couches
• Jump forward
• Draw a circle
• Draws a person as a face with arms or legs 
• Can cut with scissors

Behavior 08:31

• Test boundaries
• Lots of defiance
• Praise/notice good behavior 
• Offer two reasonable choices as often as possible 
• Teach them what is ok to do when they are angry 

Parenting 12:17

• Maintain routines and limits - meals, bedtime
• Encourage fantasy play 
• Play games that require taking turns 
• Teach your child about empathy (but don’t expect them to fully grasp it yet)
• Rhyme together
• Let your child pretend to read books to you 
• Limit TV to 1 hour of high quality programming that you watch together
• Avoid TV during meal times and in bedrooms
• Be aware of your own screen use around child

Nutrition 16:51

• Pattern: eat 1 meal, skip 1 meal, pick at 1 meal
• Often picky at this age; try to offer a variety and avoid falling into the trap of beige foods and sweets.  Have healthy snacks ready to go for them - cut up fruit/veggies, healthy dips like hummus / soy sauce
• Water is the best thing they can drink and can/should be the only thing they drink; limit milk to 24oz per day and juice to 4oz per day 

Potty training 17:42

• Daytime dryness comes 6-12 mos before nighttime
• Encourage frequent sitting to avoid constipation; can become a vicious cycle when they have a painful BM
• Dress them in clothing that is easy for them to remove 

Safety 18:35

• Car seat - can be forward facing
• Use helmet for anything with wheels
• Remove firearms from home
• Supervise around dogs, cars and start teaching them about safety 
• Touch supervision near water - pools, toilet, bathtubs 
• Move furniture away from windows
• Use door locks and window locks 

3-year checkup 20:22

• No vaccines other than flu/covid until age 4
• Ok to allow child to answer questions, but expect that they will give wrong answers 
• They typically feel comfortable during the physical exam; time to start talking about safety around adults / private parts  
• Ask your doctor if you have any specific questions about preschool, behavior, tantrums, nutrition, vitamins, potty training, constipation, and sleep routines 
• Regular dental visits 1-2x per year 

This guide aims to help you with your “threenager”, guiding you through the three years old development stages. For additional tips and advice on babies and toddlers, follow Dr. Carole Keim on her TikTok and YouTube channels. Her book, “The Baby Manual”, covers the first year of baby life and is the subject of Season One of this podcast. Remember it is always okay to call your doctor or emergency services if you have concerns about your child’s health.   

Resources discussed in this episode:

• The Baby Manual - Available on Amazon

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Today, Justine and Jenny chat about body safety. What it is, why it's important and how parents can start to have these essential conversations with their children.

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Note: we may use gender binary terms in these early episodes, recorded two years ago. In more recent episodes we will use more inclusive language. 

Kids hire pornography for a variety of jobs to help them grow up, and the surprising thing is it makes sense. Creed and Crishelle talk with Kristen Jenson, author of Good Pictures Bad Pictures and founder of Protect Young minds, about this unusual way of understanding kids. She did a study with 10 young people who had a history of porn use. They found 4 categories of jobs that kids hired porn to do:

1. Knowledge about sex
2. Escaping from stressful emotions
3. Normalizing sexual abuse
4. Rebelling in a safe way

In this episode: 

• Kids need to learn how to be adults and they’re trying to make progress and grow up. 
• Talk with kids earlier than you think and teach them to manage their emotions. 

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• Twitter: @protectYM

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Today’s episode features consent educator, sexual literacy advocate, speaker, founder of Consent Parenting, host of the About Consent Podcast and change agent, Rosalia Rivera. Rosalia works with parents who are survivors of sexual abuse to help them learn and teach proper abuse prevention and consent to their children.

“I'm a mom of 3 little lovely consent-empowered humans between the ages of 4 and 8. It wasn't always like this. They didn't know about consent, boundaries or body safety. They were little chicks and I was the hen that hid them under my wings.⁠ I'm proud of how far they've come and how much more confident I am in their ability to speak up for themselves.⁠”  Rosalia Rivera.

WHAT WE DISCUSS:

Akilah and Rosalia chat about the implications that a lack of bodily autonomy can lead to, as well as the importance of strong foundations in children in terms of mental and body boundaries. Rosalia speaks to the immense value of acknowledging children’s rights to speak up in situations that could make them feel uncomfortable or unsafe, and giving children the tools to speak up about their needs and experiences.

Rosalia also talks about consent culture vs rape culture and how childism indoctrinates children into a notion of following authority without questioning said authority, and how that sets them up for being more easily victimized.

They conclude by noting that effective communication and partnership are what facilitate emergent structure, deep listening, and the capacity to develop and offer tools in support and education around consent culture. The intention is to make sure more adults know how to identify potential predators and help children set boundaries that can lead them into healthy, respecting relationships with others.

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Karina Calver talks about understanding, identifying and responding to sexual harassment and sexual abuse. She emphasises the importance of educating children about consent and body safety so that they can understand boundaries as they grow up. Karina is involved in the #metoo movement in Hong Kong and the group have held a number of seminars for women and for people of all genders. Talking helps overcome denial and allows us to acknowledge the truth. Karina is helping people to be the best versions of themselves. She gives us tips for dealing with sexual harassment and discusses ways of reporting it. Karina feels that there is a shift and changes are happening in the community in relation to the #metoo issue. She is helping to open the conversations about all of these difficult topics and is a leader in this field in Hong Kong. Karina has already shared her own #metoo story on Hong Kong Confidential; Episode 7: Just a Girl.

A listener note: If you feel you need support, please visit your local GP, a counsellor or contact the Samaritans in Hong Kong on 28960000. If you live in another country, please contact your local Lifeline or Crisis Centre in your area.

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Rebecca Hopkins talks to us about her training in the Brene Brown’s Daring Way approach and her role as a coach. She shares her knowledge about shame and guilt and how we overcome these experiences by knowing our own triggers and sharing with someone who has earned the right to hear our story. Many of us are walking through the world carrying stories that make us feel unlovable. We discuss worthiness and authenticity and the need to create space to listen to others and empathise with them by just being there. There are so many topics discussed in this fascinating chat including empathy, grief, compassion and letting go of judgment. Rebecca is also an advocate for body safety and she shares amazing tips for parents to encourage body safety and body awareness in their children and how important this is in preventing sexual abuse. Rebecca shares her own personal grief story around infertility and gives us strategies for managing grief using Brene Brown’s Rising Strong method. She also discusses her battle with anorexia and bulimia as a young woman and explores the need for self compassion to overcome her struggles with body image and eating disorders. We discuss body love and we both share our struggles with this concept. From this in-depth and moving discussion we focus on how coaching can be a really powerful tool to create change. This is an intense, moving and courageous discussion where Rebecca shares her wisdom and personal experiences with us and I believe that many people will benefit from this amazing podcast.  Rebecca reminds us that “you have to go through the heart of what is painful to find a deep and unshakable peace.”

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We all want to empower our children to be safe. Jayneen Sanders has written several books to help parents help their children be self-aware and safe. The mum, teacher, and author opens up about how she came to write the books, and simple ways we can talk to children about often very complex and uncomfortable topics.

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