body-shaming

Wow! One Bad Mother reveals the secret to getting your body back! Step 1: Build a time machine! Body Trust Provider Meg Bradbury joins Biz to talk the nefariousness of diet culture and the kindness of body positivity. Plus, Biz is up late.

Learn more about Meg Bradbury's work by visiting their website, www.lamplight.space. Follow Meg on Instagram @lamplight.space.

Meg's Reading List:

Reclaiming Body Trust: A Path to Healing and Liberation by Hilary Kinavey and Dana Sturtevant

What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat by Aubrey Gordon

How to Raise an Intuitive Eater: Raising the Next Generation with Food and Body Confidence by Sumner Brooks and Amee Severson
Fat Talk: Parenting in the Age of Diet Culture by Virginia Sole-Smith
A Kids Book About Body Image by Rebecca Alexander

The Body is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self Love by Sonya Renee Taylor

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Show Music

Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (www.incompetech.com)

Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions

Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens

Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions

Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Mental Health Resources:

Therapy for Black Girls – Therapyforblackgirls.com

Dr. Jessica Clemmens – https://www.askdrjess.com

BLH Foundation – borislhensonfoundation.org

The Postpartum Support International Warmline - 1-800-944-4773 (1-800-944-4PPD)

The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) Helpline - 1-800-662-4357 (1-800-662-HELP)

Suicide Prevention Hotline: Call or chat. They are here to help anyone in crisis. Dial 988 for https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org and there is a chat option on the website.

Crisis Text Line: Text from anywhere in the USA (also Canada and the UK) to text with a trained counselor. A real human being.

USA text 741741

Canada text 686868

UK text 85258

Website: https://www.crisistextline.org

National Sexual Assault: Call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.

https://www.rainn.org

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 

https://www.thehotline.org/help/

Our advocates are available 24/7 at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) in more than 200 languages. All calls are free and confidential.

They suggest that if you are a victim and cannot seek help, ask a friend or family member to call for you.

Teletherapy Search: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling

Indie producer, film festival programmer, and fellow Maximum Fun movie podcaster Drea Clark called dibs on Muriel Heslop before the first episode of Feeling Seen ever aired. The movie has been a favorite since its 1994 release, and while Drea doesn't relate to every aspect of Toni Collette's iconic "terrible" wannabe bride, Muriel's journey to self-acceptance and growth spoke to Drea, both then and now.

Then, Jordan has one quick thing about another story of the power of friendship...M3GAN.

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With Jordan Crucchiola and Drea Clark

Are you an accidental fat-shamer?

On July 1, Pinterest released a press release banning weight-loss testimonials, products and before-and-after pictures.  Pinterest isn't the only company to move in that direction; online, the debate rages: If you're selling nutrition and fitness coaching, are you body shaming? Or helping people get what they want?

It's a complex subject, so Two-Brain Radio host Mike Warkentin brought in an expert, psychotherapist Bonnie Skinner.

In this episode, she explains how triggers — like before-and-after pictures — work, the difference between self-worth and weight, and how gym owners can use language to clarify exactly what they're selling.

Links:

Drink O2
Level Method
Gym Owners United

Timeline:

2:17 – What’s the problem with before-and-after pictures?

4:19 – What happens beneath the surface when someone looks at your ad.

6:33 – “Nobody can make you feel anything.”

9:25 – Self-efficacy and self-improvement. 

10:59 – The messages we’re sending our brains.

13:19 – How to connect with people without triggering shame.

16:57 – How to advertise weight loss.

20:53 – Responding to backlash. 

23:26 – How to use before-and-after pictures responsibly.

26:16 – What are you actually selling?

31:54 – All about reframing. 

We live in a world where being a single mother is often times looked down upon. Whereas our male counterparts would be praised and deemed as heroic because of playing their respective roles. We have to go through our day to day lives constantly having to prove ourselves because of the different stereotypes that are attached to being a single mother. This week I want to talk of the harsh reality that I experienced once I became a mother as well as motivate us in how we as parents can overcome these labels and learn how to look forward to the better days ahead coming ahead of us. 

This week, Tre’Vell and Jarrett examine how body image impacts us as a society and on a personal level.

What does it mean to be "fit?"  

We'll take a look back at the history of fatness throughout the ages and how it has changed over the years. 

We're joined by body-positive "fit-fluencers" Kevin Carnell and Jessica Jade Rihal who talk to us about  reclaiming the term "fat," what body positivity looks like in their personal lives and how body-shaming and fat erasure cause damage both inside and out.  

Episode Notes:

Click here to demand justice for Ahmaud Arbery who was senselessly gunned down this year and to support his family. 

DIS/Honorable Mentions 

This week, Jarrett starts things off with an honorable mention to friend of the show Donovan Ramsey - whose new book "When Crack is King," hits bookstores soon. He's also serving up an honorable mention to former MTV VJ Kurt Loder who turns 75 this week and to the one and only Tyra Banks who continues to give it to us every ball with her hilarious (and often problematic) vintage America's Next Top Model content that is currently making the rounds on Twitter.

Jarrett would also like to give an honorable mention to all of you who reached out this past week and to all of you who expressed you've been going through some things these past few weeks. We feel you. 

Tre'Vell would like to extend a peach and an honorable mention to the hardest working woman in reality television— Real Housewives of Atlanta cast member Kandi Burruss. Check out Kandi and the other RHOA castmates this Sunday on Bravo for their first-ever virtual reunion episode. There's sure to be some digital wig-shifting and tons of shade thrown!

Also, shout out to the freelancers out there making it do what it do despite our current pandemic. We see you!

And lastly, shout out to all of the 2020 Pulitzer Prize winners this week, especially the ancestor Ida B. Wells for winning a posthumous honor.  

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