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Podcast: The confusion around Separation Anxiety.

When your child doesn't want to separate from from you at school drop off (as an example), is this due to it being their preference, a fear or a phobia? We talk about Separation Anxiety, but do we really now what we are talking about? Or are we all confused? I'm afraid that this is an area where Pop Psychology has taken most of us off track. It is so common to misunderstand 'Separation Anxiety'. We all really need to get the facts laid out for us so we can help our children. Hopefully this is achieved through this podcast. 

Hope you enjoy, and this clears up the confusion.

This episode explores the profound impact parents have on shaping their children's understanding and practice of love throughout their lives.

In the segment, DJ explores the importance of teaching children about love and its various dimensions. Tune in as DJ talks about building a foundation of love within the family, introducing the concept of different types of love, and teaching appropriate ways to express love in various situations. Listen in as she emphasizes actions and emotions associated with love, encouraging parents to engage in early conversations with their children about feelings and relationships. And stay tuned as she addresses extending the circle of love to friends, teachers, and even strangers, promoting kindness and compassion.

TIMESTAMPS
• [2:47] DJ discusses teaching children about love, starting with building a foundation of love in your own family.
• [7:54] DJ suggests starting conversations with children about love and relationships by asking them what they like about someone and how they show love.
• [12:30] DJ emphasizes the importance of being patient and mindful of the words we use when communicating with children, as it can shape their language and behavior.
• [27:06] DJ shares the importance of educating children about healthy relationships and boundaries, and encourages parents to listen to their kids and offer help when needed.

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Maria Aarts is in Australia for the first time in 6 years and joins us for part two of a two part series to discuss the Marte Meo Approach. In part two, Maria outlines the scope of Marte Meo in a variety of settings, her love of cooking, life with 13 siblings and an introduction to Italia Parletta and how Marte Meo is a way of life. 

A special thank you to Licensed Marte Meo Supervisor Italia Parletta for organising the interview. For those interested in Marte Meo training in Adelaide, please contact Italia at italia.parletta@gmail.com 

Some resources were discussed in the episode and have been listed below:

Marte Meo International 

https://www.martemeo.com/en/

Inaugural Words Matter Conference 

https://www.ucl.ac.uk/psychoanalysis/events/2024/apr/words-matter-impact-and-prevention-childhood-verbal-abuse

Ayres' Sensory Integration Approach

https://www.cl-asi.org

Please like, subscribe and if you have 30 seconds add a comment. If you have any questions you'd like answered, please send a question to the integration station at podcast@otfcgroup.au or at https://otfcgroup.com.au/podcast/ 

Maria Aarts is in Australia for the first time in 6 years and joins us for a two part series to discuss the Marte Meo Approach. In part one, Maria discusses the approach, how it came to be and what her training offers others. 

A special thank you to Licensed Marte Meo Supervisor Italia Parletta for organising the interview. For those interested in Marte Meo training in Adelaide, please contact Italia at italia.parletta@gmail.com 

Some resources were discussed in the episode and have been listed below:

Marte Meo International 

https://www.martemeo.com/en/

Inaugural Words Matter Conference 

https://www.ucl.ac.uk/psychoanalysis/events/2024/apr/words-matter-impact-and-prevention-childhood-verbal-abuse

Ayres' Sensory Integration Approach

https://www.cl-asi.org

Please like, subscribe and if you have 30 seconds add a comment. If you have any questions you'd like answered, please send a question to the integration station at podcast@otfcgroup.au or at https://otfcgroup.com.au/podcast/ 

Podcast: Doing school differently - for kids that haven't thrived in mainstream schooling. Special Guest Libby Rosentreter

Libby is an advocate for neurodiversity and alternative educational settings. She is the principle of Samaritan College in Toowoomba, SE QLD, Australia. Libby is one of those people that quietens all the noise, and gets to know what the inner working are of each child that she is working with. She doesn't think the children need to be a square peg that should fit into a square hole. Instead, she works to understand the child, and then she works to change the environment so that the child feels safe and can begin to show their potential. 

My heart and my head sang when I met Libby. We need millions more like her in the world to make the world an intelligent and compassionate place, where difference is embraced and celebrated. 

There is a very good reason that her school, Good Samaritan has a very long waiting list. 

Come and enjoy Libby's insights and her story. Thankyou Libby for being so generous with your time. We all really appreciate it. 

In this episode, we will be discussing the difficult topic of when one of our children strays off the path. As a parent, it can be heartbreaking to see your child making "wrong" choices. Marci will offer you a different perspective that will create peace and empower you to show up in faith, trust and confidence. 

Many mothers are operating from fear, sadness, and guilt. You will learn you have a choice to choose faith, trust, and confidence. 

While the focus of this episode is on mothers, the lessons shared can be applied to other relationships as well. We will explore the unnecessary guilt and suffering that often accompanies the feeling that our child has strayed from the path. We will discuss how to acknowledge what's happening for you while keeping yourself in clean pain instead of dirty pain. We will also address the idea of not knowing what's best for our child and how to love and accept them while still staying true to your beliefs. 

Ultimately, we will explore the idea of viewing our child's journey like a documentary and how we can support them through their experiences. If you are struggling with a child who has strayed from the path, this episode is for you.

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In this episode, we focus on how moms can help their children learn to manage their emotions. We'll cover four key strategies that moms can use to teach their children how to identify and allow their emotions, as well as how to manage them in a healthy way.

We'll also talk about the challenges that moms may face in staying calm themselves, and why it's so important to parent from a "clean" emotional space. We'll discuss why it's okay for boys to show their emotions, despite what society may tell them, and how moms can help their sons embrace their feelings and express them in a healthy way.

Join us for an insightful conversation about nurturing emotional intelligence in our children and helping them become more resilient and emotionally mature.

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The SQUISH series was written with a lot of love and creativity to bring advanced psychological skills to children. There are 4 books in the series, each with the gorgeous (often gently confronting) illustrations from the talented Emma Moorman. Kristen and I talk through the 4 titles, 'You are Gold', 'My Thoughts are Trash or Treasure', 'Grit Superhero', and 'I am an Outsider'. We want our kids to have these skills... we need our kids to have these skills. Jump on board and hear about what Squish can do for your kids.

Find out more about the Squish Series at kirstenhunterauthor.com
All of the 4 titles, the Combination Book and the Colouring Book are available at all online stores.

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The world has shifted. It has changed. So how do you are a parent of black or brown child pivot to be responsive to the times we live in now?

...parents fear being viewed as inconsistent or worst undermining our own authority by changing our minds. The paradox of that is that there is no better expression of authority to making a change due to changing circumstances or the realization that you didn't do enough due diligence before making a decision.
-Heather Frazier, Pivot Parenting Podcast

Episode 40 explores the need for black and brown parents to revise the parenting strategies we've leaned on for centuries. Our conservatism that served us so well in the 20th century have helped us keep our children safe in a world hellbent on their demise. However, those strategies do NOT help us raise adults who will have the skills they need to navigate life in a global community. We  have to recognize the world our children will 'adult' in is starkly different from the one we are currently 'adulting' in. So how can we continue to use the exact same tools and mindset in our parenting that was used to move us into adulthood? The truth is we undermine our authority with our children when we are restrictive and unmoving. The choke hold placed on kids is what threatens your relationship with your children. When you do more due diligence, when you open yourself up to the possibility that what has always been is not what will always be, you build and solidify the bridge between you and your child.

Rules to Pivoting in Parenting:
1. Pay attention to your child. Remind yourself that who they were at 7 will not be who they are at 12 or 14. Pay attention to the changes they are making in their values and ideas.
2. Get to know the people your child surrounds themselves with both in person and virtually. Most kids in the 21st century who virtual friendships that are completely different from the friends they are around in person.
3. Realize that your child's virtual life is just as vibrant and important to them as their 'real' life. Group chats, direct messaging, gaming squads, are communities that your child is engaged in. They may have a different persona that they take on in each community they navigate.
4. Evaluate if the culture of the spaces you allow your child in aligns with your values and culture or are in alignment with who your child is evolving in to.
5. Remember you can do this!

Other resources to check out:
https://danahirtparenting.com/new-blog/2018/2/9/how-to-pivot-when-changing-parenting-rules
https://www.blackgirlspivot.com/
https://heatherfrazier.com/podcast/

Mairi Spiers shares her journey of being adopted as a baby, the compassion she has for her birth mother & the gratitude she has for her life & family in Scotland.

Book 'From Everything to Nothing & Back' by Mairi Speirs 
https://www.bookdepository.com/From-Everything-to-Nothing-and-Back/9781916454101

Dr. Rhonda Nelson from Starbright Children's Development Centre is a passionate and committed director who has been serving the needs of developmentally challenged children and their families for many years now. We discuss how to recognize whether your infant or toddler may be facing challenges, and where to seek help. There is a wide array of resources available to such children and their families in the Okanagan, and Starbright is a major part of that effort. 

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