#collaboritvedivorce

Well, here the F we go. 

The 5 biggest mistakes I (Andrea) made during my divorce.

Mistake #1: Marrying the wrong person. Ignoring ALL of the red flags. Ignoring my gut. HUGE mistake.

Mistake #2: Not having the right tools to think LOGICALLY, therefore functioning from a sheer emotional place

Mistake #3: Hiring the wrong attorney for my case

Mistake #4: Signing a parenting agreement without consulting a child therapist

Mistake #5: Not having realistic expectations

 

This is a big episode. As uncomfortable as it is to be this vulnerable, it's more important that everyone know the mistakes that are SO easy to make that can cost you money, time with your kids, and a lot of mental sanity.

One mistake that I DIDN'T make was recogizing that my mental health was suffering towards the end of the divorce and that the "juice wasn't with the squeeze" on several issues...walking away and being done CAN be right decision for many in the divorce process. However, you ALWAYS want to follow the guidance of your attorney.

Which is why ALL ROADS LEAD BACK TO HIRING THE RIGHT ATTORNEY FOR YOUR CASE!

 

Don't forget, the first person to DM us from this episode gets a homemade chocolate chip banana bread (Morgan's fav) shipped right to their door!! (US and Canada listeners only!...sorry to our 1 listener in Honduras, but we still love you)

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Hard fact: some coparents suck.

Hard truth: there IS something you can do about it. 

The coparenting app, Our Family Wizard, is a favorite tool for both parents and divorce professionals.

Why? Becuase it offers a PLETHORA of options to help you NOT SUCK at coparenting with someone who...sucks.

Now, you may be familiar with Our Family Wizard as a tool to have court monitored conversations with your high conflict coparent BUT DID YOU KNOW that:

1) Our Family Wizard is not JUST for high conflict coparents

2) There are a TON of additional features on Our Family Wizard (beyond the messaging) that will actually help you MORE than the court monitored messaging. (hint: the more you use these other features, the less you'll rely on the messaging feature!)

You NEED to listen to this episode if you're stuggling with coparenting. Trust. It WILL help you.

And also, if Our Family Wizard is good enough for celebrites to use (Angelina Jolie, Brad Pitt, Kelly Clarkson, Lala Kent, Jeff Lewis...just to name a few...) then it's good enough for YOU.

You're welcome.

Also, don't be the a$$hole who eats onion sandwiches on a train. Especially not around Morgan.

And send snacks for Andrea's son, Oliver...he's still hungry and hiding all of this food under his bed.

 

And now, a word from our sponsor:

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Coparents might not, but you don't have to suck at dealing with them.

You've got this...and we've got you.

-Andrea and Morgan

 

 

Not only did your marriage not work out, but now your divorce attorney isn't working out!! aaahhh!!

What now?!?

Well, on this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce we are going to talk you through how to switch divorce attorneys, so listen up!

If you're googling:

I hate my divorce attorney

How to not lose all of my money in my divorce?

Can you switch attorneys mid divorce?

How to switch divorce attorneys?

You want to listen to what we have to say!!

 

There's a checklist we are going to take you through to ensure that you know EXACTLY where you stand with your current counsel, what you SHOULD be getting from them, when to know if it's time to switch things up, and finally, HOW to do it!!

To get your hands on our "Before You Swtich Attorneys" PDF, head to our IG page and visit our bio line!

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Meanwhile, Morgan is stil being tormented by people using speaker phone in public and Andrea is losing her mind over group text messages!!

 

And if you're stuggling with coparenting ON TOP of dealing with the headache of attorneys, take a second and visit Our Family Wizard. Our Family Wizard was created to help make coparenting easier- even in the most difficult cases.

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It's the season FOUR premiere!!!  We are SO excited to bring you an AMAZING season of advice, divorce tips, and of course, a lot of LAUGHS.

AND...we have a brand new segment! Forget "OBSESSED", and welcome to "OVER IT", our time to share what's driving us NUTS...it's sure to bring you some much needed humor!  Starting with Morgan's strong aversion to people using their speaker phone setting in public places...meanwhile, Andrea says, "bring in ON!", (just make sure your friend of family member enunciates). 

Today's episode highlights the story of Jessica Frew's marriage, divorce, and her BEAUTIFUL life (and relationship with her ex), post divorce. If you don't yet know her, do yourself a favor and go follow her : www.instagram.com/heyjessicafrew . Jessica is the host of the popular, Husband in Law, podcast where she, her current husband, and her ex husband tell their story. We don't want to "spill the tea" here in the shownotes, so you're going to have to listen to this episode to hear all about Jessica's experience and how she so gracefully navigated the major changes in her life AND how she helps other women do the same. 

Check Jessica's coaching groups out here: http://www.theboldlogic.com

And, here are some shoutouts to our season 4 sponsors!!

If you or your ex spouse is struggling with alcohol and you have concerns about being sober during parenting time, please visit: http://www.soberlink.com/notsuck for $50 off a device

And please, if you are navigating a high conflict divorce and need a safe and effective way to communicate with your coparent, please visit http://www.ourfamilywizard.com

As always, take deep breaths. Move your body, and find a way to laugh EVERY SINGLE FREAKING DAY. 

You've got this, and we've got you. 

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This episode is HUGE and a MUST LISTEN if you are in the process of picking an attorney. 

 

The joke is, why do so many spend more time debating on whether they're going to swipe right of left on someone on Tinder then they do picking their divorce attorney?!?!?

 

On this special RE AIR episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, we cover what you should be asking your prospective divorce attorney and what answers give you the GREEN light to move forward and what answers are a HUGE RED FLAG!!

 

To break it all down, we have Max Leinoff on the pod. Max is a family law attorney in Miami, Florida with Leinoff and Lemos, P.A. His firm was voted one of the Best Law Firms by U.S. News and World Report for 2021 and 2022.

Max answers:

• What three things you must hear from your divorce attorney
• What should you do if your divorce lawyer disagrees with you?
• The importance of expressing your goals honestly with your divorce lawyer
• Who will you be working for when you hire an attorney? Is it a bad sign if they have other associates helping you?
• What questions should you ask divorce lawyers before deciding who to hire? These may surprise you.
• What is a no fault state when it comes to divorce?
• How can you work with your divorce attorney to move things along swiftly and smoothly?

"When you're looking for an attorney, you don't want a yes man or a yes woman." - Max Leinoff

If you're in Florida, here is where you can find Max Leinoff:
Max@LLPA.com
www.llpa.com
(305) 661-1556 - office

Also, Max shouts out his lovely wife, Katy, who is an incredibly talented, professional artist who has worked with Vans and was recenly featured on the Ralph Lauren website. You can see Katy's work on instagram @katyilana. We checked her out and now we're obsessed with her, too!

 

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You know her, you follow her, you love her, it's Gabrielle Stone joining us today on the season three finale of How Not Suck at Divorce. 

 

Gabielle has been THROUGH it when it comes to heartbreak and divorce. After discovering that her husband was having an affair with a 19 year old, she quickly filed for a divorce...but that's just where her story BEGINS.  Gabrielle has experienced a lot of LIFE over the last decade.  And guess what?  She's HAPPY. She crawled her way through and on a life changing trip to Europe, she discovered herself. 

 

It was really important to us to offer some light at the end of the tunnel for our Season Three Finale!

We really hope you enjoy this conversation with two time best selling author, and podcaster, Gabrielle Stone. 

 

To get your hands on her book, Eat, Pray #FML, head here:

Eat, Pray, #FML

To get your hands on her new journal, F*ck off, I'm Healing, head here:

F*ck off, I'm Healing

To listen to Gabielle's podcast, #FML Talk, head here:

FML Talk

 

We love you all and we want you all to know that there IS light at the end of the tunnel for you. 

You WILL get through this. This pain will NOT last forever. 

Stick with us, we'll get you through it. 

 

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There's a growing trend to share your life with someone and NOT get legally married...which sounds great, right?!?

No marriage = no divorce...so what could be bad??

Well, there's some things to consider...and on this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce we are chatting with Houston area attorney, Susan Myres, who's shedding light on the perils of playing house.

So, if you're considering NOT getting remarried because, well, divorce SUCKS, we totally get it, but please listen to this episode FIRST so you're well aware of the pros and cons. 

Things to consider: Tax benefits, medical rights, survior rights, pre marriage assets, just to name a few!!

There are many, many ways to live a happy and healthy life with your partner, just be aware of your rights!

Susan is availabe at https://www.thehoustondivorcefirm.com/our-team/susan-myres/

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