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Okay, let's hash out everything you need to do BEFORE you file for divorce, sounds like fun, huh?

 Listen, let us start by saying:  mental preparation is crucial and there is NO perfect time for divorce, and every case is different! 

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This episode helps you get your head straight if you’re thinking about divorce. 

You’re going to hear:

*The Importance of timing in divorce decisions

*Consideration of length of marriage for potential alimony or maintenance

*Permanent support after around 20 years of marriage

*Setting up for success in the next chapter of life after divorce

*Tools for Organizing Expenses and Communication During Divorce

*Impact of job loss or significant career advancement on divorce filing and financial implications

*Retirement and its impact on support and financial division in divorces later in life

*Discussion of prenups, children's ages, length of marriage, employment, and retirement for awareness and discussion with an attorney

*Confidential ways to consult a divorce lawyer, such as through advance consultation fees or using a separate credit card

*Emotional Support During the Divorce Process

*Encouragement to seek professional advice from a divorce attorney to address individual concerns

This episode is for you if you are ready to get your head on straight if you are considering or currently navigating the complexities of divorce and seeking expert advice, support, and camaraderie during this challenging time. 

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Andrea and Morgan answer the question that you’re probably wondering if you’re going through (or about to go through) a divorce: Will the kids be okay?! 

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We get real about the impact of divorce on children and invite: Meg, and sisters Eden & Larissa on the show.  They share their personal stories of coming from divorced households, navigating blended families, and the challenges of balancing different parenting styles.

This episode gives you insight if you’re contemplating divorce or worried about the effects on your kids.

Expect to hear:

*Tips on communicating with challenging co-parents and using "Our Family Wizard" for organized co-parenting, including expenses and messaging.

* The importance of prioritizing the well-being of the children involved and creating a supportive environment for them.

* The challenges and misconceptions of parenting during and after a divorce

** The impact on children and the importance of parental happiness for the well-being of children

***The answer you all want to hear: Will the kids be okay? Answer might suprise you. 

**and BONUS !!! What can you do to give your skin that glow you had before your life turned upside down!! (hint: it's Morgan's obsession)

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This episode is filled with real stories, hope, and honesty to help answer your question: are your kids going to be okay? 

You can do this. We've got you.

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We'll see ya next week. 

In this episode: Andrea, Morgan, and James Quigley dive into the world of divorce and family law, AND  contempt of court. Listen to get some strategies for dealing with violations of court orders, and the emotional toll of navigating divorce. 

 

* Examples of non-willful violations of court orders and the importance of making reasonable efforts to comply

 

* Situations where pursuing contempt charges for financial issues in divorce cases may be warranted, and the process of filing a petition for the court to consider contempt charges

 

* Assessing the teamwork of law firms, understanding lawyer agreements, and maintaining credibility with the court

 

* Communication strategies with challenging co-parents, using co-parenting apps, and documenting interactions.

 

* Acknowledgment of the emotional toll of divorce, abuse, and gaslighting, and the recommendation to seek mental health support.

 

* Stressing the importance of addressing emotional issues with support, as lawyers are not therapists.

 

This conversation is filled with real-life anecdotes, practical advice, and a touch of humor, all aimed at providing support and guidance for those going through a divorce. Join us as we tackle these complex issues and share resources, all while navigating the intricacies of divorce with honesty and levity.

To find James Quigley online, head to: https://www.beermannlaw.com/team/james-m-quigley/

and follow the guy on IG, it'll make his day. https://www.instagram.com/quigleyondivorce/

And remember:

If you're concerned about your children's safety during your co parent's parenting time becuase of alcohol, Soberlink is here to help. To learn more visit: http://www.soberlink.com/notsuck and get $50 off your device.

Our Family Wizard is here to my coparenting EASIER, how awesome is that??!! To get FREE access to an article that we co wrote with the Our Family Wizard team that gives action steps on how you can better communicate with you ex, go to: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

 

We have private communities, don't forget!! Join us. We're helpful and, like, way fun:

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In this episode, Andrea and Morgan give advice on creating parenting schedules and what you need to keep in mind to ensure the best interests of the children are at the forefront.

We dive into some of the most common custody issues:

*50/50 arrangment

*right of first refusal

*asking for more than 50% custody

*difference between custodial custody and parenting time

*best parenting time schedules for younger kids

*more creative parenting time schedules

 

And speaking of kids, Our Family Wizard is here to make coparenting easier! And trust us, you want Our Family Wizard as a tool in your divorce toolbox. Head to: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck to get access to a FREE article that we co-wrote with Our Family Wizard on how to best communicate with a challenging ex spouse!

 

And remember, our private community is here to support you. Join us at: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

And if you have not yet filed for divorce and would prefer to listen to our episodes privately, you can do so here: https://www.patreon.com/NotQuiteReadyForDivorce. Our entire library of episodes can be listened to discreetly for $4.99 a month. 

Follow us on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce

See you next week, friends!

In today’s episode, Andrea and Morgan discuss what happens AFTER you’ve been served with a petition for divorce…aka “dissolution of marriage”. 

 

So if you’ve wondered:

How do I choose the right 🤷🏻‍♀️divorce attorney?

How do I manage 🤦🏼‍♂️ divorce stress?

Who can help me understand 🙅🏻‍♀️ divorce documents?

Then this episode is for YOU. 

 

You deserve the right guidance and mindset is CRUCIAL.  

Divorce is a journey that can be navigated with resilience and grace, and we’re here to support you every step of the way. How Not to Suck at Divorce offers you practical advice, and a much-needed dose of humor.

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You gotta hear this episode. 

The end of Moncia's marriage involved betrayal, alcohol abuse, and porn addiction. What's fascinating about her experience is not what she went through, but how she CHOSE to heal.

When Monica and her now ex husband entered couples therapy, they also did individual therapy, and Monica join a support group. In that support group, she found perspective and reflection. With that, she was able to see that there was a role that SHE PLAYED in the breakdown of the marriage. Now, it's not to say that anything that Monica did or didn't do caused her husband to make his choices. Rather, Monica was able to see that some of her behavior came from a strong desire to control a situation, what wasn't helping anything. 

Once she was able to let go and accept her husband for who he was, everthing changed.

Yes, their divorce process began, but so did Monica's beautiful healing process.

Fast forward to the present day: Monica is sharing her dinner table with her exhusband, their children, AND her new boyfriend. You can see for yourself on her IG: https://www.instagram.com/monicaleighblog/

She now hosts her own podcast: Choosing to Heal with Monica Leigh

She also runs her own support community for other women looking to heal! Check it out!

https://monicaleighblog.com/community

 

This episode should give you hope and inspiration. Please visit our private communities for more.

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This episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce is sponspored by Better Help. Give online therapy a try at http://www.betterhelp.com/notsuck and get on your way to being your best self.

 

We want to help you survive the next few weeks. The holiday season is a stressful time, in the BEST of situations. But if you're also navigating a divorce or considering divorce, then you're managing and extra set of stress and unhappiness that's likely making the next few weeks a really tough time. 

Here's how we can help.  Here are 6 pro tips from Morgan and Andrea. You ready for them? Let's go!

1. Set some realistic expectations. Surprises make for more unhappiness.
2. Keep busy. 
3. Prep your family on how to handle themselves around you (tell Aunt Beatrice to not ask you questions)  and possibly your ex.
4. Watch the cheesy holiday movies, we're talking the REALLY cheesy ones, Hallmark channel style. Nothing bad happens in these movies and it makes for great background noise
5. Just say no to parties you don't want to attend. Nobody really cares. 
6. Move your body. It's so damn important. If it's really cold where you live, walk around the mall, or even around a Target. 

And please, join our private communites for extra support!

Here are the links:

http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

And if you need to listen to our episodes discreetly (for those of you who aren't ready to file for divorce and don't want this show popping up on your subscription list)

https://www.patreon.com/NotQuiteReadyForDivorce

FYI: it’s a private community that does have a small fee. $4.99 a month to get all of the episodes discreetly. Ideal for if you don’t want your spouse seeing that you’re listening to the show. 

We’re adding to this channel everyday- so soon there will videos there too. 

The charge shows up as “Patreon” which is just a platform for additional podcasts.

 

Also! Our Family Wizard is here to make coparenting EASIER. AND, you can get free information on coparenting and handling sticky situations!

Head here: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

Kate Anthony, host of The Divorce Survivial Guide, is chatting with us tonight to offer another tool to help you at the beginning of your divorce process.

The "D" Word, a new book out by Kate, will offer you a lot of insight and guidance as you decide, "should I stay or should I go?"

Should I stay married for my kids? Does this count as abuse? Why am I so unhappy? What does a healthy relationship even look like?

If the above quesitons sound familar to you...go grab a copy of Kate's book. 

https://www.amazon.com/Word-Making-Ultimate-Decision-Marriage/dp/0806542357

Our hope is that this conversation helps you feel like someone gets what you're going through. We know that the decision to divorce is not easy. We know that there there are a multitude of emotions that fly through your head and heart and that you likely feel an incredible amount of weight on your shoulders. 

Our advice? Talk about these thoughts and feelings. Get your butt in therapy. Start getting honest with yourself about what you want for your life and for your kids' lives. Take responsibility in the role that you play in not only your marraige but also in your life in general. 

A now, a word from our sponsors:

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Why is it that we don't allow ourselves to grieve the loss of a relationship??

It's time we change that. We are chatting with Rebecca Feinglos, founder of Grieve Leave, an organization that makes grieving death, divorce, job loss, etc more accessible and without the STIGMA. 

Rebecca has experience grief of several levels. Yes, she's been through a divorce. She's also lost both of her parents. Her mother died when she was young and her father recently died on the first day of the COVID-19 lockdown. She ended her marriage one year after her father died.

So what, actually, is grieving??

How do you grieve?

Do you have to grieve?

How do you know if you are grieving??

Can you grieve if you wanted the divorce?? (yes, of course)

In divorce, we often will grieve the loss of what could have been...the life that we thought we were going to have...

 

And what about our jobs and bosses understanding how to support you in your grief process??

And while we're on the topic, let's debunk the myth of the "5 Stages of Grief".  Look, friends, this phrase comes from a study that was performed in the 1970's and was centered around cancer paitents.  As it turns out, there are NOT "stages" of grief that you go through and then you magically "finish" the grief process. Sorry... grief is not linear. It's up and down, side to side, and is ongoing. Not everyday will be gutwrentching, but there's not "finish line". And for this reason, Grieve Leave exists.

Grieve Leave offers virtual support groups for people managing the grief process. There are many different types of groups and whole lot more insight, guidance and community available. Visit them at: https://www.grieveleave.com . 

You can also find them on social media at: http:www.instagram.com/grieveleave

And now, a word from our sponsors:

Soberlink offers alcohol montitoring in the most discreet way with the highest technology. Visit: http://www.soberlink.com/notsuck

Our Family Wizard is here to make coparenting EASIER (isn't that nice??) Visit http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck to get access to their newsletter.

 

Thanks for being here, friends. Remember, we are here to support you in any way we can.

If you are considering divorce and would like to be in our private community to listen to our episodes without downloading them to your device: join us here: http://www.patreon.com/notquitereadyfordivorce

And if you want to join our free Facebook community, head here: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

 

 

How do you prepare if your divorce case is heading to trial?

What are the steps that occur BEFORE your case heads to trial?

What's the the difference between a trial and a hearing?

What happens in pre trials/mini trials??

It's important that your attorney gives you realisitc expectations so that you know what a postive outcome would be, and what a "less than ideal" outcome would be. This way, you can be mentally and emotionally prepared.

And remember, whereas we don't recommend switching attorneys right before you head into trial, but you CAN hire an attorney for an hour of their time to review your case. Meaning, if you want a second set of eyes on the results of your pre trial hearing- you can and should do that! It's money well spent. And if you do this, go with a good attorney- spend a little extra and get the best of the best to review your case. It will be money well spent. 

3 Action Steps YOU can take to help you best prepare for trial:

1. Know the risk/reward
2. If you have a trial set- ask your attorney to prep with you (how to answer questions, etc)
3. Ask for a plan for a trial (know what to expect!)

And please excuse Andrea's cough...she's still recovering from Bronchitis. And send in your self care tips for both girls...they can use them!

And now, a word from our sponsors:

Soberlink offers peace of mind for coparents if there's a concern of alcohol use during parenting time. Visit: www.soberlink.com/notsuck

Our family wizard is here to make coparenting easier. Check them out to see if Our Family Wizard can help you. Visit: www.ourfamilywizard.com

We know that heading into trial is already a less than ideal situation. If your case is heading to trial and you want a second set of eyes on your case, reach out to get some names of attorneys to review your case. We're happy to help. 

Join our private community for more support.

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And if you're enjoying our show, we would SO APPRECIATE a 5 star rating and review! The ratings and reviews help us book the expert guests you deserve.

We love and appreciate every single one of you. Thank you for allowings us into your homes/cars/minds/hearts. You've got this and we've got you!

You've got questions and we've (err, Morgan) has answers!

We're covering supervised visits, attorneys not prioizing your case, nesting, mediation, and how to talk to your kids, and feeling like an a$$hole for wanting to leave an unhappy marriage but not neccassrily a "bad" marriage...

 

To recap one of the most common questions, which has to do with wanting a clear game plan from your attorney, follow these steps:

1) Ask your attorney for a face to face or at least a phone call to discuss the PLAN

2) At the end of the meeting, ask for a recap with next steps3) Ask for a realistic timeline and the areas where waiting for a court date/hearing back from opposing counsel could play a role into said timeline

4)Ask when you should follow up

 

So if you've wondered "am I terrible person for wanting a divorce?" or "how can I make sure my ex doesn't get unsupervised visits with my kids?" Or if you've googled, "How can I get my divorce attorney to care about my case?" or "Should I try nesting?" then you want to listen to this episode.

 

And remember this, whereas it's not criminal to be unhappy in your marriage, it IS criminal to REMAIN unhappy in your marriage. Look at your feelings. Look at your thoughts. Explore those.  Talk to your partner, go to therapy and WORK towards happiness, whether that's getting a divorce or not. 

 

And now, a word from our sponsors:

 

Soberlink is here to help coparents who are struggling with an alcohol dependence. It's a discreet device that can ensure that you are parenting safely. Vist:soberlink.com/notsuck

And Our Family Wizard is a revolutionary coparenting app that's dedicated to making coparenting easier, no matter how hard your ex SUCKS. Visit: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com

 

And join our private communites! http://www.patreon.com/hownottosuckatdivorce.com to listen to our episodes without it being downloaded to your device and http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity for support and laughs!

 

You've got this and we've got YOU.

 

It's our freaking 75th episode!!!

So let's talk about mortgages, baby!  

We've got Sam Sharp, celebrity mortgage broker, here to give you insider information on interest rates, credit scores..and everything you need to know regarding refinancing or getting a brand new mortgage.

So if you're wondering why interest are so damn high right now, this episode is for YOU!

How important is your credit score?? Well, no shocker that it's VERY important. Make sure you listen to this episode to learn what you can do to improve your score.

(and did you know that a credit score for a mortgage is different from a regular credit score??)

Listen to the experts, don't DIY this stuff!

All of our US listeners are welcome to reach out Sam, you can find him here:

http://www.samsharp.com

http://www.instagram.com/samsharp_guaranteedrate

Meanwhile, Andrea is OVER her fatass, her words!! But what's with our butts growing with age??? Jeez, like we don't have enough problems!!

And now, a word from our sponsor:

Our Family Wizard is here to help you STOP TEXTING YOUR EX. No more more fighting on the phone over money issues or parenting time problems!! Go check our Our Family Wizard!

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Well, here the F we go. 

The 5 biggest mistakes I (Andrea) made during my divorce.

Mistake #1: Marrying the wrong person. Ignoring ALL of the red flags. Ignoring my gut. HUGE mistake.

Mistake #2: Not having the right tools to think LOGICALLY, therefore functioning from a sheer emotional place

Mistake #3: Hiring the wrong attorney for my case

Mistake #4: Signing a parenting agreement without consulting a child therapist

Mistake #5: Not having realistic expectations

 

This is a big episode. As uncomfortable as it is to be this vulnerable, it's more important that everyone know the mistakes that are SO easy to make that can cost you money, time with your kids, and a lot of mental sanity.

One mistake that I DIDN'T make was recogizing that my mental health was suffering towards the end of the divorce and that the "juice wasn't with the squeeze" on several issues...walking away and being done CAN be right decision for many in the divorce process. However, you ALWAYS want to follow the guidance of your attorney.

Which is why ALL ROADS LEAD BACK TO HIRING THE RIGHT ATTORNEY FOR YOUR CASE!

 

Don't forget, the first person to DM us from this episode gets a homemade chocolate chip banana bread (Morgan's fav) shipped right to their door!! (US and Canada listeners only!...sorry to our 1 listener in Honduras, but we still love you)

Lean on us. We're here to get you through this mess. And so are our sponsors.

Need help with alcohol monitoring during parenting time? Soberlink has your back. 

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Join our private communites. If you need to listen to our episodes WITHOUT them being uploaded to your familes' icloud, join our Patreon community for private listening AND bonus episodes.

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We love you guys! See you next week. 

Hard fact: some coparents suck.

Hard truth: there IS something you can do about it. 

The coparenting app, Our Family Wizard, is a favorite tool for both parents and divorce professionals.

Why? Becuase it offers a PLETHORA of options to help you NOT SUCK at coparenting with someone who...sucks.

Now, you may be familiar with Our Family Wizard as a tool to have court monitored conversations with your high conflict coparent BUT DID YOU KNOW that:

1) Our Family Wizard is not JUST for high conflict coparents

2) There are a TON of additional features on Our Family Wizard (beyond the messaging) that will actually help you MORE than the court monitored messaging. (hint: the more you use these other features, the less you'll rely on the messaging feature!)

You NEED to listen to this episode if you're stuggling with coparenting. Trust. It WILL help you.

And also, if Our Family Wizard is good enough for celebrites to use (Angelina Jolie, Brad Pitt, Kelly Clarkson, Lala Kent, Jeff Lewis...just to name a few...) then it's good enough for YOU.

You're welcome.

Also, don't be the a$$hole who eats onion sandwiches on a train. Especially not around Morgan.

And send snacks for Andrea's son, Oliver...he's still hungry and hiding all of this food under his bed.

 

And now, a word from our sponsor:

Soberlink is here is assist families who are struggling with alcohol addicition that can be a danger during parenting time. To get help, please visit: http://www.soberlink.com/notsuck

 

And don't forget to join our private communites!

To listen to Bonus Episodes and listen to all of shows without a record of you downloading them, go to:

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And you're looking for a community, we've got a GREAT one for you to join!

http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

Coparents might not, but you don't have to suck at dealing with them.

You've got this...and we've got you.

-Andrea and Morgan

 

 

Not only did your marriage not work out, but now your divorce attorney isn't working out!! aaahhh!!

What now?!?

Well, on this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce we are going to talk you through how to switch divorce attorneys, so listen up!

If you're googling:

I hate my divorce attorney

How to not lose all of my money in my divorce?

Can you switch attorneys mid divorce?

How to switch divorce attorneys?

You want to listen to what we have to say!!

 

There's a checklist we are going to take you through to ensure that you know EXACTLY where you stand with your current counsel, what you SHOULD be getting from them, when to know if it's time to switch things up, and finally, HOW to do it!!

To get your hands on our "Before You Swtich Attorneys" PDF, head to our IG page and visit our bio line!

www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce

Meanwhile, Morgan is stil being tormented by people using speaker phone in public and Andrea is losing her mind over group text messages!!

 

And if you're stuggling with coparenting ON TOP of dealing with the headache of attorneys, take a second and visit Our Family Wizard. Our Family Wizard was created to help make coparenting easier- even in the most difficult cases.

http://www.ourfamilywizard.com

 

And remember, support is just a click away! Join our private groups below!

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It's the season FOUR premiere!!!  We are SO excited to bring you an AMAZING season of advice, divorce tips, and of course, a lot of LAUGHS.

AND...we have a brand new segment! Forget "OBSESSED", and welcome to "OVER IT", our time to share what's driving us NUTS...it's sure to bring you some much needed humor!  Starting with Morgan's strong aversion to people using their speaker phone setting in public places...meanwhile, Andrea says, "bring in ON!", (just make sure your friend of family member enunciates). 

Today's episode highlights the story of Jessica Frew's marriage, divorce, and her BEAUTIFUL life (and relationship with her ex), post divorce. If you don't yet know her, do yourself a favor and go follow her : www.instagram.com/heyjessicafrew . Jessica is the host of the popular, Husband in Law, podcast where she, her current husband, and her ex husband tell their story. We don't want to "spill the tea" here in the shownotes, so you're going to have to listen to this episode to hear all about Jessica's experience and how she so gracefully navigated the major changes in her life AND how she helps other women do the same. 

Check Jessica's coaching groups out here: http://www.theboldlogic.com

And, here are some shoutouts to our season 4 sponsors!!

If you or your ex spouse is struggling with alcohol and you have concerns about being sober during parenting time, please visit: http://www.soberlink.com/notsuck for $50 off a device

And please, if you are navigating a high conflict divorce and need a safe and effective way to communicate with your coparent, please visit http://www.ourfamilywizard.com

As always, take deep breaths. Move your body, and find a way to laugh EVERY SINGLE FREAKING DAY. 

You've got this, and we've got you. 

Join our FREE community : http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

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This episode is HUGE and a MUST LISTEN if you are in the process of picking an attorney. 

 

The joke is, why do so many spend more time debating on whether they're going to swipe right of left on someone on Tinder then they do picking their divorce attorney?!?!?

 

On this special RE AIR episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, we cover what you should be asking your prospective divorce attorney and what answers give you the GREEN light to move forward and what answers are a HUGE RED FLAG!!

 

To break it all down, we have Max Leinoff on the pod. Max is a family law attorney in Miami, Florida with Leinoff and Lemos, P.A. His firm was voted one of the Best Law Firms by U.S. News and World Report for 2021 and 2022.

Max answers:

• What three things you must hear from your divorce attorney
• What should you do if your divorce lawyer disagrees with you?
• The importance of expressing your goals honestly with your divorce lawyer
• Who will you be working for when you hire an attorney? Is it a bad sign if they have other associates helping you?
• What questions should you ask divorce lawyers before deciding who to hire? These may surprise you.
• What is a no fault state when it comes to divorce?
• How can you work with your divorce attorney to move things along swiftly and smoothly?

"When you're looking for an attorney, you don't want a yes man or a yes woman." - Max Leinoff

If you're in Florida, here is where you can find Max Leinoff:
Max@LLPA.com
www.llpa.com
(305) 661-1556 - office

Also, Max shouts out his lovely wife, Katy, who is an incredibly talented, professional artist who has worked with Vans and was recenly featured on the Ralph Lauren website. You can see Katy's work on instagram @katyilana. We checked her out and now we're obsessed with her, too!

 

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You have  a horrible feeling in the pit of your stomach, but where is it coming from?

Is it work? Friends? Kids? or is it your marriage??

DON'T BLAME YOURSELF!! Listen to this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce if you're feeling miserable or just unhappy in your daily life to learn where it could be possibly be coming from. 

Listener fave Dr. Randy Heller is back with us today to discuss one of the most common questions we get: Is it my marriage that's making me miserable?

Dr. Heller shares what people should do if they're feeling depressed, stressed and overwhelmed and an easy exercise to do to determine if it's the marriage that is the root of the problem.

We also talk about how to start to feel better, regardless of the decision we make in our marriage.

You can find Dr. Randy Heller here:

thefamilynetwk@aol.com

646-717-6718

mycollaborativeteam.com

 

No matter what you decide, you got this and we got you.

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You know her, you follow her, you love her, it's Gabrielle Stone joining us today on the season three finale of How Not Suck at Divorce. 

 

Gabielle has been THROUGH it when it comes to heartbreak and divorce. After discovering that her husband was having an affair with a 19 year old, she quickly filed for a divorce...but that's just where her story BEGINS.  Gabrielle has experienced a lot of LIFE over the last decade.  And guess what?  She's HAPPY. She crawled her way through and on a life changing trip to Europe, she discovered herself. 

 

It was really important to us to offer some light at the end of the tunnel for our Season Three Finale!

We really hope you enjoy this conversation with two time best selling author, and podcaster, Gabrielle Stone. 

 

To get your hands on her book, Eat, Pray #FML, head here:

Eat, Pray, #FML

To get your hands on her new journal, F*ck off, I'm Healing, head here:

F*ck off, I'm Healing

To listen to Gabielle's podcast, #FML Talk, head here:

FML Talk

 

We love you all and we want you all to know that there IS light at the end of the tunnel for you. 

You WILL get through this. This pain will NOT last forever. 

Stick with us, we'll get you through it. 

 

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There's a growing trend to share your life with someone and NOT get legally married...which sounds great, right?!?

No marriage = no divorce...so what could be bad??

Well, there's some things to consider...and on this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce we are chatting with Houston area attorney, Susan Myres, who's shedding light on the perils of playing house.

So, if you're considering NOT getting remarried because, well, divorce SUCKS, we totally get it, but please listen to this episode FIRST so you're well aware of the pros and cons. 

Things to consider: Tax benefits, medical rights, survior rights, pre marriage assets, just to name a few!!

There are many, many ways to live a happy and healthy life with your partner, just be aware of your rights!

Susan is availabe at https://www.thehoustondivorcefirm.com/our-team/susan-myres/

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