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It's understandable that we make lists to keep us organized and focused on what we want. But where does that kind of approach actually help and where is it actually inefficient? 

References in this episode
Episode 39: Finding Connection In Contrast  

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

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In this episode we'll walk you through a plan for how to ask for focus - which might actually make more sense in today's world where our attention can be splintered across devices, screens, thoughts and yes, people. 

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Learn how to successfully navigate online dating – and find your soulmate!

Podcast Description: In this podcast,  Britt and I sat down with our friends, Matt and Jess, to discuss online dating. Matt and Jess met each other two years ago on a dating app. Now, they're married and expecting their second child! Dating online is definitely a difficult and emotionally demanding endeavor – but it's not impossible! We cover a host of tips and strategies that will help you navigate dating online; so that eventually, you can find someone worth marrying. There's hope! 

Thanks for tuning in to Just Breathing! We hope you enjoyed this episode as much as we did. If you have thoughts to share, stories to tell, or topics you'd like us to explore in future episodes, we'd love to hear from you. Connect with us on social media @justbreathingpodcast or drop us an email at laudandlungs@gmail.com. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and leave a review if you liked what you heard. Until next time, keep breathing!

Let's discuss one dimension of "age" culture around the idea of what it means to "age yourself". Lakshmi dives into these common expressions that can feel more like we should hide our rage rather than use it as a point of connection; especially between Later Daters. And you'll hear a practical way to rewire whatever you think about your age as she offers new ways to talk about your past in way that is grounded in the present.  And wait until you hear about the concept of a "Vintage Story". 

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

After many conversations with Later Daters, Lakshmi heard something to the effect of "I just can't get hurt or risk having my heartbroken as I date." We get it. So let's take a look at this common concern and talk about it before, instead of after, it happens. 

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Between the introduction of Tinder and the 2020 pandemic we have a decade of swiping behind us. Tinder made its mark because it brought an influx of singles (20 somethings) into a dating pool that nobody ever thought they'd find themselves in. Now that same demographic but a different generation is rejecting it. What can we learn about how to better accept what dating apps have to offer by taking a closer look at why Gen Z seems to be rejecting them? Lakshmi brings her thoughts to the headlines. 

More on the decline in dating app usage:
https://www.newsweek.com/dating-apps-decline-tinder-bumble-match-1842834

Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com

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Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Not to knock the tradition of asking "What are you grateful for?" at Thanksgiving but with all we now know about the importance of questions there's got to be something better. 

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Shorter video where we discuss this same topic: https://youtu.be/jwxWkv9y8tc

Thanks for tuning in to Just Breathing! We hope you enjoyed this episode as much as we did. If you have thoughts to share, stories to tell, or topics you'd like us to explore in future episodes, we'd love to hear from you. Connect with us on social media @justbreathingpodcast or drop us an email at laudandlungs@gmail.com. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and leave a review if you liked what you heard. Until next time, keep breathing!

Ever think: I need to come up with better date ideas? 

Before you begin googling "novel date ideas" first consider the role of space and how to make the circumstances around you work for you. 

In this short 9 minute episode Lakshmi discusses how environment might affect your ability to get to know people and how you can make this work for you. 

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

This simple but important insight lives at the center of The Later Dater Today: It's Become Easy To Meet But Harder To Connect. Later Dater Today Host, Lakshmi walks you through the difference between meeting and connecting and how simply understand this difference can make all the difference. 

Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com

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And artist/new friend referenced in the episode? Right here: 
https://www.gabrielleguthrie.com

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

What Happens Later Trailer, Starring Meg Ryan & David Duchovny 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zceSigCGWSQ

The Afterlife Set-up: Two 80-somethings reconnect in the pandemic after being set-up by a spirit from the beyond. Hear the incredible story here:
https://www.pairedbythepeople.com/featuredepisodes/project-three-x6djm-dz7lj

Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. 

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Why you should listen to this episode:  Being so focused on "liking" someone might actually be getting in the way of connecting with them. 

Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. 

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Why you should listen to this episode:  Stigmas can be ways that we label and categorize people and ourselves in the modern dating world. But what are stigmas really and how can they be something that might even bring you closer to people you meet? 

Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. 

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Why you should listen to this episode:  As a Later Dater tapping into memories of crushes can offer clues to who you were and what you found attractive before a dating culture driven by dating apps. 

Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. 

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Why you should listen to this episode:  Being a great Later Dater means way more than building a good profile. We've become a culture so obsessed with marketing ourselves that we sometimes forget what it means to actually be good at dating. 

Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. 

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Why you should listen to this episode:  The idea of meeting people outside of the apps is being asked more and more while it feels like there are fewer and fewer options for it. But as Later Daters you might actually have the skill and experience to be less reliant on the apps. 

Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. 

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Why you should listen to this episode:  It's worth taking the time to think about exactly what you mean by "being open" when it comes to dating.Otherwise, "being open" can turn into concessions you're willing to make rather than possibilities you're willing to invite.

Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. 

Book a free Discovery Call: www.thelaterdatertoday.com/discovery-call

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Why you should listen to this episode:  Length of time doesn't always equal strength and depth. Go ahead and have a little laugh, but this is an important thing to remember as a Later Dater so that you don't project to far into the future. 

Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. Book a free Discovery Call: www.thelaterdatertoday.com/discovery-call

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Why you should listen to this episode:  A tendency among Later Daters is to let numbers get in the way of moving forward. Numbers seem like facts and simple true statements until we kick them around a bit. Whether its age, height, weight or years, it's worth building a solid relationship with the numbers in your life. 

Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. Book a free Discovery Call: www.thelaterdatertoday.com/discovery-call

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Why you should listen to this episode:  A common thought and block among Later Daters is "Will I repeat the past?"  And while this seems like a smart high level strategy, it can actually keep you in confusion, swirl and wrap you in a nice cloak of judgmental energy. 

Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. Book a free Discovery Call: www.thelaterdatertoday.com/discovery-call

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!