death care

This week Dani has her very good friend Meg Fischer on the Podcast to share her valuable Projector perspective on planning ahead for all things end of life. In this episode we cover:

⁃ The Hospitality Industry, Cosmetology, and how TF that translates into Death Care
- Why you should always cover your co-worker's shift when you can
- Female representation & The Forensic effect
- Following your dreams (literally)
- Helping your loved ones handle the admin that comes after you go
- How to have uncomfortable conversations about Death
- The financial impact of losing a loved one and ways to budget
- Knowing and protecting your rights as a member of the LGBTQIA community
- Community Care and why it matters
- Why self education is so important and where to start

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Veteran Burial Benefits:
https://www.cem.va.gov/burial_benefits/index.asp

National Institute of Aging:
https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/providing-comfort-end-life

Death Project Manager:
https://www.deathprojectmanager.com/

End of Life Deck:
https://thedeathdeck.com/pages/eol-deck

The Federal Trade Commission Funeral Rule:
https://www.ftc.gov/news-events/topics/truth-advertising/funeral-rule

Remembering a Life:
https://www.rememberingalife.com/

Good Grief:
https://good-grief.org/resources/#tips

International End of Life Doula Association:
https://inelda.org/about-doulas/what-is-a-doula/

Cake:
https://www.joincake.com/welcome/

LGBTQ Resources for end of life:
https://www.lgbtagingcenter.org/resources/resources.cfm?s=7

Donate Life America:
https://donatelife.net/

Congressional Cemetery Book Club:
https://congressionalcemetery.org/tombs-and-tomes-book-club/

Keep in Touch with Meg:
Instagram: @MegTheEmbalmer @SanDiegoDeathConnection
Email: SanDiegoDeathConnection@Gmail.com

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It seems most people feel obligated to cringe or shut down when the thought of the inevitable surfaces. But the simple fact exists that we will all leave this life at some point. Ali talks with Valoria Walker and Lauren Lyster-Mensh who are trained as end-of-life doulas, people who shepherd the dying and their loved ones through the often difficult, emotional, complicated process. They serve as non-medical advocates and holistic supporters of the person passing. Valoria and Laura talk about their experiences, the death positivity movement, death cafes and how we can all start planning for and normalizing conversations about death.

If you have questions or guest suggestions, Ali would love to hear from you. Call or text her at (323) 364-6356. Or email go-ask-ali-podcast-at-gmail.com. (No dashes)

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Links of Interest:

Washington Post Article with Laura and Valoria

Death Doula Days at Historic Congressional Cemetery

Doula by Destiny (Valoria Walker)

Valoria in Oprah Daily

INELDA: International End-of-Life Doula Association

Death Doulas Used to Be Rare. The COVID-19 Pandemic Changed That (Time Magazine)

How the Death Positive Movement Is Coming to Life

Death Cafes Spread Rapidly Around the World (Healthnews)

Death Cafe on Facebook

10 Best Books on Death and Dying (according to UpJourney)

Credits:

Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins

Producer & Editor: Brooke Peterson-Bell

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In episode 6 of Death, Grief and Other Sh*t We Don't Discuss, Kyle McMahon discusses the writing of his Mom's eulogy, going to the viewing, the funeral and the burial and all that these things entail.

Then, Kyle talks with Todd Hara, Vice President of McCrery & Harra Funeral Homes and Crematory and best selling author of Last Rites: The Evolution of the American Funeral. They discuss the history of death rituals, how death rituals in America came to be, where the death industry is going and more. 


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Over the next year, 56 million people around the world will die. That’s 106.6 per minute, 1.8 people every second, every day. That’s a lot of deaths. And it’s someone’s job to pick those people up and take them where they need to go. But who picks you up when you die?

A few curiosities you’ll uncover in this episode:

• Why’s there such a high divorce rate among morticians?
• Why does the person who picks you up wear a suit and tie?
• How did the Civil War change funeral services?

Did You Know?

Want to hear a joke? This one’s from Jake: What do you call a mortician with a bad back? Unemployed. (With physical labor like that, if you don’t get those day-to-day movements right you can destroy your body.)

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Heidi Boucher, producer, writer, & director of the documentary In The Parlor: The Final Goodbye, illuminates the beauty of home funerals, how to help children understand death, and the most important thing we can do for those who have died.
Check out the movie In The Parlor here.
Go to laurascappaticci.com or contact me directly for a free worksheet on Befriending Death. 
PS- The sounds gets a little funky when Heidi shares a story of a spiritual encounter. Coincidence?? You tell me. 

SCI is the largest funeral care provider in the world, handling 1 in 9 American funerals. So why have you never heard of them? Learn the fascinating story of how Robert Waltrip turned a single funeral home into a global empire, the McDonald's of Death.

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First published in 1963 The American Way of Death by Jessica Mitford, later updated in 1998 after her death, challenged the funeral industry and its excess. What does it have to say about cemeteries?

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On this week's episode we chat with Amelia, a death doula! She describes how she got into death care, what not to say to a dying person, what most people's final moments look like and her thoughts on the afterlife. Amelia was such a beautiful light and we loved hearing what she had to say. We really believe that talking about death can make life so much sweeter! 

To find out more about Amelia and her journey follow her on Instagram @Amelia.deathdoula

How do we talk about stuff we don't talk about? We talk about it. Just don't avoid it.

Want to feel emboldened like John. Get over yourself and connect with someone else.

"It's always been in my nature to care for people so once I found out what a funeral director does, I dove in." Toni

Six Feet Under is an excellent/ spectacularly depressing HBO TV show that follows a family of funeral directors.

Toni started Trans Death Care after his first week of school for funeral directing. He saw a need and filled it. 

Funeral Boss Inc!

You can connect and follow Toni on his very active Instagram Page.

"It's not a box, it's more of a spectrum." Toni.

Toni's family minimized his transition saying things like.."you'll always be our little girl." They also insinuated that he was doing it for attention. 

Toni's courage is connected to his values. The key is caring more about the needs of others then our own fear.

The intelligent edge yoga podcast was produced by Kathryn Anne Flynn; author of Teach Kind, Clear Yoga: A Guide for Practitioners and Teachers. To learn more about Kathryn, practice online, or find retreats and training opportunities, visit kathrynanneflynn.com

Show Notes:

Erin Bidlake found relief from the symptoms of lyme disease through yoga, and now shares her passion for not just coping, but thriving, when you live with chronic pain. A death care community educator and death doula, Erin and I discuss what it means to be of service to those with life-limiting diagnoses. 

• Erin is leading the Experience Restorative Yoga and Teach Restorative Yoga modules for the intelligent edge yoga 300 hour yoga program in February in Ottawa (you can attend one or either!)
• Erin is a death doula and hospice volunteer
• We discuss the continuum of Yin to Restorative Yoga
• She shares about her journey through undiagnosed lyme disease and how living without a diagnosis upended her plans for life

Find out more about Erin at www.erinbidlake.com.

On this episode, we talked to Caleb Beaty, Founder & Owner of Perfect Farewells.  

Caleb is arguably the most interesting man alive. He grew up in a small farm town in Selma, Indiana. After High School, he joined the U.S. Navy and served aboard the USS Hopper (DDG 70) for three years completing one deployment in the Gulf. After honorably completing the 4-year contract he bought land in the mountains of Tennessee where he lives off-grid during the summer months building a self-sustainable log cabin with his shipmate from the Navy. In his free time (when he gets some), he enjoys traveling abroad, learning new skills, unplugging and getting closer to nature. Most of the time, however, Caleb is attending college full-time in San Diego while running Perfect Farewells, a veteran-owned global cremation ash scattering provider. 

"Perfect Farewells is aiming to change the way people look at funerals and memorial services by celebrating the life of a loved one in a completely positive nature."
-Founder Caleb Beaty

Caleb is a dedicated and passionate leader who is determined to bring light and color to a dark industry. His journey has taken him skydiving, rock climbing and deep sea fishing. We loved hearing his story and we're excited to share it with you! We loved hearing his story and we're excited to share it with you!

Visit their website: http://www.theperfectfarewell.com

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Check out Jeremy’s art: https://www.jeremysvision.com/

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