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EMOTIONS ARE GREAT SERVANTS, BUT POOR MASTERS.
So many men are hurting, and then hurting others.
People don’t want to hear that.
But men feel like they’re emotional prisoners.
They are committing suicide at much higher rates. They are the ones performing mass shootings. They are reacting in violence.
We have to allow men ways to process their past and to express their emotions in order to become the people they are meant to be.
It’s not important to “be a man,” it’s important to be human.
On today’s episode of The School of Greatness, I talk about the definition of masculinity with a man whose mission is to mentor boys: Jason Wilson.
Detroit’s Jason Wilson is a husband and father of two, and the founder and head instructor of the Cave of Adullam Transformational Training Academy, also known as CATTA. In 2015, he received the Campaign for Black Male Achievement Innovation Accelerator Award. In 2016, Wilson received the President's Volunteer Service Award in Washington D.C.
Wilson has also been a guest on The Dr. Oz Show where he discussed his Emotional Stability Training® approach. In 2016, Wilson was a presenter at the White House for the My Brother's Keeper Showcase presented by then-President Barack Obama.
What Jason is doing so needed in the world.
Like Frederick Douglass said, “It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.”
So get ready to learn how to heal past trauma, rule your emotions, and “man down” on Episode 745.
Some Questions I Ask:
When did you realize your life was full of trauma? (16:00)
What should a man do if he expresses a hurt side of himself and he gets ridiculed by his partner? (24:00)
How do you rule your emotions? (39:00)
What’s your biggest insecurity? (45:00)
What’s your biggest insecurity about being a father? (49:00)
What should define us as men? (57:00)
In This Episode You Will Learn:
Why men need to operate in the fullness of who they are (27:00)
The first steps to take to process past trauma (30:00)
How men can be better lovers to their partners (38:00)
About Jason’s training academy (42:00)
The best way women can support men in processing trauma (52:00)
Why it’s important for men to cry (55:00)

“MORE AND MORE PEOPLE ARE THINKING TOO MUCH AND FEELING ENOUGH.”
There is a certain art that I feel had been lost over the years in this country, and you may have noticed it too. It’s the art of seduction.
Let me make one thing clear, when I say seduction I don’t mean unwanted flirting. I don’t mean trying to manipulate someone. True seduction is a lore more than that.
Seduction is about selflessly making other people feel good about themselves. Their bodies, their personalities, and everything about them.
It’s also about being aware of your own body. Owning it, being proud of it, and listening to it.
In America we spend so much time on our phones, we’ve lost that seduction between each other. This is a topic that my guest today, Chen Lizra, is an expert on.
Chen Lizra had a wildly successful Ted Talk on the power of seduction. She’s also an award winning entrepreneur, best-selling author, and a professional dancer.
She learned all about the power of seduction while living in Cuba, where she was deeply inspired by the culture of body confidence there. She was able to see how people were able to really connect with each other, lift each other up, and make a true connection with their bodies.
As a result, she has developed a powerful method of teaching body-awareness called somatic intelligence.
I was fascinated during this conversation as she explained (and demonstrated) these principles and how they impact our relationships, our opportunities, and our self-confidence.
Learn all about the power of seduction in our everyday lives, on Episode 628.
Some Questions I Ask:
In your Ted Talk you mention children are taught in America to be more closed off, is that right? (5:20)
What career were you in before this? (9:10)
How long were you an animator for? (11:12)
When did your vision come together? (21:51)
How long were you in Cuba? (25:03)
What happens when we rediscover our natural sensuality? (26:48)
How do you use seduction without crossing people’s boundaries? (35:16)
How do we know if we’ve disconnected from our body? (45:04)
What’s the difference between sexuality and sensuality? (49:42)
How do we cultivate charm? (51:44)
How do we balance masculinity and femininity? (59:38)
Are you in a relationship now? (1:06:24)
In This Episode You Will Learn:
The common misconception about seduction (7:35)
What Chen decided to do after her awakening (10:24)
How she learned about seduction in Cuba (18:12)
What Cuba has in their culture that allowed her to free herself from trauma (22:41)
When and why we started to lose the connection with our bodies (25:16)
How having elegance calms nerves (30:12)
How men can connect more without crossing boundaries (41:47)
How we can learn to listen to our bodies (45:58)
How a man be more sensual to attract a female partner (50:47)
What Chen has to say to people that feel vulnerability and sensuality is weakness (56:18)
How her arm injury was a result of not opening up emotionally (1:07:42)
Plus much, much more

"A spiritual journey truly is unlearning fear and remembering love." - Gabby Bernstein
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