flirtation

Today we're diving deep into the nuances of initiation. We'll discuss sexual initiation, its dynamics, and why understanding our preferences is more crucial than we might think. If you've ever felt a little out of sync with your partner or just curious about how to create a bridge to sexual connection, this episode is for you. Let's get started!

Show Notes 

Intro:

• [00:00:00] Introduction and the importance of understanding sexual initiation preferences.

Desire Discrepancy:

• [00:00:15] The challenge of aligning desires in long-term relationships.
• [00:00:28] The evolving nature of sexual desires and the fluidity of sex.

Initiating Sex:

• [00:01:00] How people approach the initiation of intimacy.
• [00:01:19] Michelle introduces a conceptual exercise to understand intimacy better.

The 0 to 10 Scale of Sexual Initiation:

• [00:01:30] Visualization of sexual initiation, from no thought of sex to after-sex activities.
• [00:02:06] Different perspectives on what constitutes the beginning of sexual encounters.

Practical Exercise:

• [00:02:34] A guide on how couples can use the exercise to discuss their ideal sexual encounters.

Conclusion:

• [00:03:06] The importance of open communication about sexual experiences.
• [00:03:30] The goal: a shared, satisfying sexual experience.

Outro:

• [00:03:50] Closing thoughts, hope for listeners to have more fulfilling intimate relationships.

Resources & Links:

• Research on post-sex cuddling and relationship satisfaction:  https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24777441/
• Exercise adapted from Barry McCarthy's model - 5 Dimensions of Touch in the book Discovering Your Couple Sexual Style 

What might have been? A poet recalls flirtations and electric connections that could have led to a different life.

Selina Nwulu is a writer of Nigerian heritage who is based in London. Her poetry and essays have been widely featured in a variety of journals, short films, and anthologies, including the critically-acclaimed anthology New Daughters of Africa. Her first chapbook collection, The Secrets I Let Slip, was published in 2015 by Burning Eye Books and is a Poetry Book Society recommendation. She has toured her poetry extensively, both internationally and throughout the U.K. in a number of cultural institutions. She has also been featured in Vogue, ES Magazine, i-D, and Blavity, among others. Her work has been translated into Spanish, Greek, and Polish, and exhibited in Warsaw, New York, Dublin, and Glasgow. She was the Young Poet Laureate for London in 2015-16, and was shortlisted for the 2019 Brunel International African Poetry Prize. She was also a finalist for the 2021 U.K. Arts Award for Environmental Writing. A Little Resurrection is her debut full-length collection. 

Find the transcript for this show at onbeing.org.

We’re pleased to offer Selina Nwulu’s poem, and invite you to connect with Poetry Unbound throughout this season.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• How first date fashion can get in the way of making a connection with a man. 
• What you or your girlfriends may think is cool and sexy may be overwhelming for a man, especially at first. 
• What does a man think when he sees a woman that is overdressed? 
• When a woman is dressed like a movie character or Halloween costume, men don’t see the real “her”, but instead an image or facade. 
• How to embrace dressing with comfort and ease, but still look classic and classy. 
• Okay, but what if you have a strong sense of style and want to show it off? 
• Does how you dress really impact a man deciding to go on a second date with you? 
• It’s a sign of good self esteem to dress with taste and be understated. 
• Lisa and Benjamin’s Emotionally Naked 12 Week Course is all about authenticity and a step by step process of learning how to put your true self out there in every way, from your profile pictures to how you show up. 
• But wait, he’s putting in little to no effort in how HE shows up? That’s not fair! 
• A man wants a woman to be comfortable in her body. That’s a huge turn on.
• Benjamin shares the biggest turn ONs and OFFs when it comes to makeup, shoes, and showing some sexy skin. 

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Quotes:

• “If a man can’t get through that layer, he’s not going to call back for the second date because there is not that connection.” - Benjamin
• “It’s become more clear to me how important clothing and image is, and how that can completely draw someone in or turn someone completely off.” - Lisa 
• “Some women so badly want to make an impression that they hide behind the fashion and they’re afraid to show their real selves.” - Lisa 
• “We don’t necessarily want fireworks in the beginning, we want something to build from a  foundation of friendship, trust, and safety.” - Benjamin

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Today's episode focuses on a variety of situations based on some hilarious personal stories. How do you handle your partner talking to an old flame? How did Alex handle someone else sending his wife a drink from across the bar? This leads to a thorough breakdown of what Bryan has coined the "degrees of flirting." All of that plus Alex may or may not have flirted with another woman, Bryan's secret method of receiving discounts, and Markus expresses his love through Drake lyrics.

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ನಮ್ಮ ಈ ಸಂಚಿಕೆಯಲ್ಲಿ ಆಶ್ಡಿನ್ ಡಾಕ್ಟರ್ ಅವರು ಫ್ಲರ್ಟಿಂಗ್ ನ ಅರ್ಥ ಮತ್ತು ಇದರ ಬಗ್ಗೆ ಇರುವ ಕೆಲವು ತಪ್ಪುಗ್ರಹಿಕೆಗಳ ಬಗ್ಗೆ ತಿಳಿಸುತ್ತಾರೆ. ಹಾಗು, ಒಂಟಿ ವ್ಯಕ್ತಿಗಳಿಗೆ ಅಥವಾ ದಂಪತಿಗಳಿಗೆ ಫ್ಲರ್ಟಿಂಗ್ ಹೇಗೆ ಉಪಯುಕ್ತ ಎಂಬುದರ ವೈಜ್ಞಾನಿಕ ಕಾರಣಗಳನ್ನು ತಿಳಿಸುತ್ತಾರೆ. ಬನ್ನಿ ಕೇಳಿ!

Did you know that flirting had been outlawed in some cities?

In this episode of #TheHabitCoachKannada Podcast, your Habit Coach Ashdin Doctor talks about some misconceptions about flirting, what it means, and how it can be a good exercise for single people or couples.

This Kannada Adaptation is done by Spoorthi Thej

The Original English Episode is narrated by Ashdin Doctor: (https://bit.ly/3HCjB37)

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In this episode we will discuss Valentines Day- To celebrate or NOT to celebrate. Our stance on this. Questions for our audience: Is the romance/sex different for Valentines Day/ Expectations?  We also cover the Topic Suggestion: How to respond when someone flirts with your spouse? Physical altercations and why E can't go to jail. ;P

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